Alan W. Foster doesn't care about chi...

Alan W. Foster doesn't care about children being abused.

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Lioness

Carroll, OH

#1 Jun 26, 2012
I've been going through a horrible situation because of the lawyer (Alan W. Foster in West Union) I hired for my divorce/custody against my two-year old son's father and wanted to share my story so people know the kind of thing this lawyer and judge is doing/allowing. I'm not giving my name because I don't want my son to have to endure anymore pain than he already has because of Foster. I hired Foster for my divorce and custody case against my extremely abusive ex-husband. Alan misled me, outright lied to my mother and I, and did as little as possible and even helped my ex-husband more than he did me, his client. I wanted supervised visitation, but my lawyer acted like I couldn't get it until he hurt my child. He lied to me about that and lied to me about something he put in my order about claiming my son on taxes. He put the father is to claim him every year on his taxes as long as he's current on child support. When he said this, my mother and I were both shocked because we knew it didn't sound right. We asked if it was a new law and he said yes. The lawyer I spoke to today said it was false! He refused to give me my attorney fee back and won't do anything to make what he did right. I wrote the newspaper so far and I want to put out there how lazy and just outright wrong Foster is! Maybe others in similar situations will see my story and not be fooled by this money-grubbing lazy lawyer. Like most people money is tight for us and I have to come up with and pay another lawyer $750 to go do what my previous lawyer should have done so that my son will be safe from his abusive father.

I went to Alan W. Foster in September of last year and hired him to represent me in my divorce. I explained to him that my main concern was my son's safety because of how abusive his father was to me. I told him there are many police reports (I'm guessing there has to be 5-10 at the LEAST), and that I also have photos of the physical abuse against me in front of our child. He was also charged by the prosecuting attorney. Foster also wanted me to pay for all of the police reports when I didn't have the money. I told him that my ex (my son's father) has also been diagnosed with three different personality disorders; bipolar, intermittent explosive disorder (which is a disorder that causes extreme anger to the point of violence and lack of control), and post-traumatic stress disorder. I expressed to Foster several times that I wanted to try for supervised visitation because of his father's violent nature and mental issues. Foster would always give me a smug look, shrug his shoulders, sometimes not even replying like what I was saying didn't matter. I doubt he treats people that have money like this. He told me that I wouldn't be able to get supervised visitation until he hurt our child which I'm now finding out is NOT true (CPS told me this is not true as did another lawyer). I would call Foster many times with questions and he never called back once through the whole process or after the divorce. His father was having mental issues and admitted to me and my father that he ran his car off the road trying to kill himself just 3 weeks ago, and that he was having hallucinations. He also does not have a driver's license because of not paying a state fee after getting a DWI in Texas. He called last week wanting to get his visitation (which is every other weekend, but he hadn't used his visitation since the final hearing of the divorce). I did not want him to go because I was worried due to the mental issues he was having. I called Alan Foster's office and explained the situation to one of the ladies that works in his office. She told me that he would call me back and I told her I've tried to contact him before and he would never return my calls. She assured me she'd let him know to contact me.

****my story will continue below in comments because of the character limit...
Lioness

Carroll, OH

#2 Jun 26, 2012
I didn't get a call so I thought I would be in contempt of court if I didn't allow my son to go with his father for the weekend. He dropped our son off Sunday night. When he got home, my boyfriend took off his pull-up and my son grabbed my boyfriend's head and pushed it down to his private area which alarmed me, but the bruises were not visible enough for us to notice them. His father was sexually molested for 6 months when he was 3 years old and there's research that shows most sexual offenders were also sexually abused as children. Monday morning when he woke he had very deep bruises from the top of his legs, his genitals and up to the bottom of his stomach. The whole area of his inner legs, around his private area was purple and swollen. He told me it hurts, but I couldn't get him to tell me what made it hurt. I immediately called his father and asked what happened and he said he did not know. I took pictures with my digital camera and then took him to the ER. They said that it would not be bruised and swollen that far up if my son was jumping up and down on anything. The only place he went with his father while he was in his care was to a park and his father told me that he didn't get hurt there. The ER contacted Child Protective Services who visited me this morning. I explained to them the situation, how Alan Foster handled my case and the representative from CPS was shocked at how Foster handled this case. He took down Foster's name as well so I hope he gets investigated. He told me that him having an abusive past and with those disorders should have been enough to get supervised visitation for my son and his father. Foster refused to even try. I agreed to every other weekend visitation because Alan Foster had me under the impression there was nothing I could do until he actually hurt him. We've all seen instances of child abuse where it only took one time. As I see it, Foster did nothing to try to help me make sure my two year old son was protected. I thought that was why laws are in place, to protect the innocent. I trusted and believed Foster because he is also a Judge. I never would have thought then that my own lawyer would intentionally lie to me. He acted so smug to me, I'm guessing because I don't have a lot of money. He took my money and did as little as possible and it seems like he helped out my ex-husband more than he did me, his client. My ex-husband didn't even have legal counsel, he is unemployed. He also put into the court order for my ex-husband to claim our son on his taxes every year. I knew this wasn't right and my mom and I both asked him if this was a new law or something and he said yes. I spoke with another lawyer today and he said this is false! I spoke to Alan about why he handled my case this way/why he lied to me and he was cocky yet again and acted like he did nothing wrong. He also refuses to give me my attorney fee back or amend my order to fix what he shouldn't have put in. My original temporary order even expressed that one of my reasons for divorce was extreme cruelty. I went to court at the end of December for those temporary orders and for temporary support. For some reason the orders never went through. I called Alan's office several times and the clerk told me that something happened causing the orders to be held up in court and would talk to Alan so he could get them pushed through. I called many times afterward, but was never contacted nor did I get an explanation as to why the orders weren't processed. I even stopped into the office, which he is never at and asked the clerk why they weren't processed. Again, she said she would have Foster contact me and he never did. I just gave up and had to wait to get support ordered at my final hearing which was at the beginning of May.
Lioness

Carroll, OH

#3 Jun 26, 2012
One weekend when my ex-husband was in jail because of domestic violence against me I had talked to a family friend, who I won't name, asking him to talk to Foster on behalf of my ex-husband. I was stupid then.. when you've been in an abusive relationship for so long it breaks you down so much emotionally and I felt like that's all I had in life, it brainwashes you. I had my family friend (who was also a friend of Foster) speak to Foster and tell him he was a good guy because Foster was the one who was going to do his arraignment on Monday. Foster even mentioned at the arrangement of my ex that someone had spoke to him about him so he should thank that person. I'm thinking now that he remembered his name and was trying to help him, not knowing that I was the one that had our mutual friend speak to him about my ex. I'm extremely upset and feel like my son had to endure this abuse because Alan Foster led me under the impression that there was nothing I could do to protect him. I broke down crying in all of our appointments (which he taped) because I was so upset that the court doesn't protect defenseless young children and Foster would act like he didn't care. He'd just shrug those shoulders with that shitty smug smile he has on his face all of the time.

I feel betrayed, misled, and I believe Foster should be held accountable for his actions in my case. The lawyer I spoke with today suggested I file a grievance against Foster to the Bar Association which I plan on doing. It baffles me that someone you pay to help you, represent you with their knowledge of the law would lean in the favor of the other person (who happens to be an abusive basketcase).

Foster's law office's anual gross income is $500,000 - 1 million. He took MY money and screwed me over and put my son in danger instead of helping me! Please, if you believe Foster should have at least TRIED to help protect my son by getting supervised visitation and not lying to me, share my story. I want all of Adams County to know!

Thank you to those who took the time to read this... I know it's a lot to read.
wow

Powell, OH

#4 Jun 26, 2012
im so sorry i was in tears reading this our county lawyers,cops,probation department only wants ur money i smell law suit
geez

Ray, OH

#5 Jun 26, 2012
I was also brought to tears! He should NOT even get supervised visitation to your son! If his father is sexually abusing him, then, just by seeing him...is gonna cause your son even more pain! Wow, Foster is a real b*****d! Take it as far as you have to. Foster should be in jail! And some wonder why people have to take the law into their own hands! Sometimes it's the only way to keep your child safe! Just like the father that caught the man raping his 5 year old daughter. The father killed him!! I don't blame him! I would have done the same thing! If it were up to the law...the man would have went to jail for a couple of months/years and then, got out and done it to more children! Thank God that this wonderful father got rid of him. Look at all the children he has saved from that sick monster! Hopefully, you get real help so you won't have to do what this father did. Is CPS doing anything to keep your son away from him? I hope so! But remember, their the ones that took MaKaylee Chambers from a loving home and placed her back with her abusive father and then, he killed her! And they knew he abused her...she was even hospitalized from her father's abuse....and CPS didn't care! So, don't trust them either! I pray you find help and the father is never allowed around your son!
Upset

Roundhead, OH

#7 Jun 27, 2012
I believe Alan Foster is for Men only. My ex husband had Alan Foster. He was mentally abusive to me not our son. They raked me over the coals.
I really feel for you.

It was over 10 years ago. They had my 12 year old son brainwashed that I was psycotic, whore .... My ex husbands mom even went so far as to put on my sons school records that I was deceased!!!! But yet had my name listed on the not allowed to pick up lists, school wouldnt talk to me. They were allowed to get away with all of this. I am so sorry for what your going through. My son is now 24 years old and he now sees his mommy wasnt what they said she was. I dont blame him, he was young and influential. Plus his grandparents had a lot of money.
Too selfish and cruel

Delaware, OH

#8 Jun 27, 2012
This story broke my heart. I cried and cried, I am so sorry for what you and your sweet innocent son have had to endure. I wish I had the funds to help you get a lawyer, because I would in a second. I will pray for you and your son.
wow

Buchtel, OH

#9 Jun 27, 2012
i agree im still in shock from reading this lastnight im sooo sorry for the family prayers are sent.
tsn

Cincinnati, OH

#10 Jun 27, 2012
There have been many issues with the county and procedures of our officials actions. Lawyers being dis-barred and such. My recommendation is not the bar assoc. as they really wont act without proof, I would contact the Ohio Supreme Court they have a division who handle cases where a client feels they have been wrongly done or money taken without work being done.
Lioness

Carroll, OH

#11 Jun 27, 2012
Thank you for the information, I'm trying to do everything I can. I don't even understand how this man is a judge for our county. If he'd let someone go easy just because a friend did a favor for someone and put in a good word.. that isn't justice. Even though I was the one that had my friend put in a good word when my ex-husband was in jail Foster shouldn't have tried to help him. Your friends shouldn't influence your JOB which is to make people account for their actions. I was shocked that my ex-husband said he even told him IN the courtroom that someone put in a "good word" for him. Foster and I's mutual friend never even met my ex!
Lioness

Carroll, OH

#12 Jun 27, 2012
I've contacted two news stations and I have friends helping me with the money to go ahead and hire this new lawyer. Foster disgusts me so much. He takes peoples money and does as little as possible just to get them out of his way so he can go play golf with his rich buddies that think they can do whatever they want. You can't take that money with you to hell!!!
tsn

Cincinnati, OH

#13 Jun 28, 2012
News stations will not be able to do much but put word out you were dis-satisfied with the way they handled your case. I would hold off on paying another lawyer more money I dont feel there is much they can do. Client security at ohio supreme court can answer those questions you have.Remember only things you can prove should you say , even if you know about things you must be able to prove what you say,be careful or it will flip and someone will come after you for slander or such,proof is a must and dont voice your personal feeling towards them especially not on the world wide web. goodluck
Lioness

Carroll, OH

#14 Jun 28, 2012
The new lawyer is going to refile my child custody and get supervised visitation.. like Alan was supposed to do the first time but was too lazy. He said we can also get the tax thing changed.

I'm pretty sure if Alan gets investigated he'll have to hand over the tapes from our appointments. I'm pretty sure that's why they record the sessions.
Lioness

Carroll, OH

#15 Jun 28, 2012
I'm doing everything I can to get Foster investigated. What I'm saying is the facts, not slander. You must not know too much about the law if you think me hiring a new lawyer wouldn't do much. You can go back and change orders when there are new circumstances (and I'm sure my son being abused is circumstance enough, other than Foster misleading/lying to me).
judge

Fenton, MI

#16 Jul 1, 2012
i dont understand first off if he shoved your boyfriends head toward his private area that just proves you shouldnt be watching porn if front of him because why would any body wont to put there head down there on a 2 year old there is NOTHING THERE to get a hold of
judge

Fenton, MI

#17 Jul 1, 2012
next i dont understand the sexual abuse thing if a 2 year old was sexually abused his butt would be ripped till he needed stitches not bruises
judge

Fenton, MI

#18 Jul 1, 2012
next thig you keep talking aboutwho will be claiming him on taxes and how you dont have any money well if you dont have any money then you must not have a job if you dont have a job then what are you going to claim and if the father pays child support and pays for child insurance then the father should claim him every year not your new husband
judge

Fenton, MI

#19 Jul 1, 2012
and the last thing if your new husband to be wont give you money to fight for your child with then you dont need him either
salliemae

Troy, OH

#20 Jul 1, 2012
judge wrote:
i dont understand first off if he shoved your boyfriends head toward his private area that just proves you shouldnt be watching porn if front of him because why would any body wont to put there head down there on a 2 year old there is NOTHING THERE to get a hold of
You r an idiot..this father needs put in jail and never let out. A 2 yr. would not pull down the mans head toward his privates if this had not been done to him, he does not have the cognitive ability to do this he has nothing to draw from. I think something needs to be done to anyone that would uphold such actions no matter what position they hold or who they r.
salliemae

Troy, OH

#21 Jul 1, 2012
judge wrote:
i dont understand first off if he shoved your boyfriends head toward his private area that just proves you shouldnt be watching porn if front of him because why would any body wont to put there head down there on a 2 year old there is NOTHING THERE to get a hold of
This is a stupid remark..did u ever hear of the word "pervert".sound to me something terrible happened to the child.

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