whats up with mothers who dump their kids off on everyone ?

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hum

Sparta, MO

#1 Aug 29, 2011
What is the world coming to when some mothers dump there kids off on people all the time and always focus on themselves and yet try to make themselves look good to others ? They wont keep the house clean , cook or doing anything useful for the sake of their kids , why have them ?
not good

Ozark, MO

#2 Aug 30, 2011
I am a grandmother and I know how you feel but yet I am greatful every time I get to see my grandbabies I know when I have them they are safe , fed and kepted up . I just dont know hun why some moms dont want to step upto to plate and be the mother their child needs . Their life is over and should be all about their kids but doing things for themselves seems to be more important t then spending true time with their kids .
all the same

United States

#3 Aug 30, 2011
There are 'fathers' who do the same thing, and a lot worse!
Mrs johnson

Ava, MO

#4 Aug 31, 2011
I have taken care of children for many years and have 5 of my own. I have always found the mothers and father's who don't step up and provide for their kids are the very ones the kids worship!
So sad the kids just take whatever the crapy parents have to give them and think it's gold. Even when it's only a day now and then that the parent will see them. The poor kids treasure every second. When the real parent (birth parent or not)is the one who makes sure they go to school have clean clothes a warm bed something healthy to eat and always their to show them love. I even see this in adult children who's parents weren't much of one. The adult child still tries to get their parents love, and would fight for them at the drop of a hat. I hurt for children and adult children who have been done this way. All they can do is be the awesome parent they never had and teach their children right from wrong . Theses children are the ones who truly know family is forever.
young mother

United States

#5 Aug 31, 2011
I agree. I do remember seeing a topic on here a while back. It was basically about bashing parents for leaving their kids at daycare when they needed to be home taking care of them 24/7.
I do feel bad about children who hardly ever see their parents because they are out partying or doing whatever that doesn't benefit them or teir kids.
But daycare has it's use. The only time I don't see my daughter through the day is when I am at school and working. Now adays most parents have to work to support their family. I appaud parents who do whatever they can to do that. And I understand parents who need a break sometimes. I get a babysitter maybe once a month IF that so I can go out, but not days at a time or anything like that.
I applaud parents who work their butts off to do whatever they can so they can provide for their children.
Michael

Ozark, MO

#6 Aug 31, 2011
I dont give a damn about my parents,my father wanted an abortion and for some reason my mother wouldn't go through with it,yet today she wishes she had because he believes her life would be alot better with her new husband and my half siblings.Basically telling me that she knows now that my father was right and that she wasn't ready for the responsibility.Oh well,life sucks right? Get over it right? Who gives a shit right? Well,I've been away from my parents for 10 years now,its better that way, My mother was a single parent who always dumped me off on my grandparents so she could go out,get drunk and fuck around,now today she tries to act as she's all innocent,goes to faith assembly and tries to cover it all up.Well,fuck you mom.
whats up with mothers who

Branson, MO

#7 Aug 31, 2011
Boy.... Mrs. Johnson, you really touched on something there.

And as far as the Fathers.....they weren't made to be Mothers. They don't have the equipment, the intuition,etc.
what about

Ozark, MO

#8 Sep 1, 2011
what about so called mothers who think its ok to
cheat on their man and having a child of the age that know whats going on and know dad is at work and mom being the w hore that she is continues to meet guys time after time and having so called friends
to back her up ?
Mrs johnson

West Plains, MO

#9 Sep 1, 2011
whats up with mothers who wrote:
Boy.... Mrs. Johnson, you really touched on something there.
And as far as the Fathers.....they weren't made to be Mothers. They don't have the equipment, the intuition,etc.
Did I say something you felt was off color? Or wrong? I didn't mean to step on any toes just my point of view from the years I've been put on the earth.( I say what we know or have lived)
Soul Survivor

Jacksonville, FL

#10 May 27, 2012
I raised my son alone,and I always put him first.
I brought him here and that's my responsibility and reward as his mother. He's 23 now, with a college degree and a great job.
I see the same young mother out alot, and I often wonder where her two children are and why she doesnt feel guilty. Out on weeknights at 930 in a
bar with people old enough to be her parents. Maybe if you have kids young, you feel like you owe it to yourself to be able to have the life you
missed? I still dont understand though. Im sure her kids are saying"Where's Mommy?"
on_phone

Evening Shade, AR

#11 May 27, 2012
Michael wrote:
I dont give a damn about my parents,my father wanted an abortion and for some reason my mother wouldn't go through with it,yet today she wishes she had because he believes her life would be alot better with her new husband and my half siblings.Basically telling me that she knows now that my father was right and that she wasn't ready for the responsibility.Oh well,life sucks right? Get over it right? Who gives a shit right? Well,I've been away from my parents for 10 years now,its better that way, My mother was a single parent who always dumped me off on my grandparents so she could go out,get drunk and fuck around,now today she tries to act as she's all innocent,goes to faith assembly and tries to cover it all up.Well,fuck you mom.
HEY , ARE YOU LISTING ?

It wont do you any good to carry around the anger that you have .
I'm not advocating forgiveness or just forgetting what you've been through .
I'm just saying let most of it go !
It will make you a better/happier person in the long run .
on_phone

Evening Shade, AR

#12 May 27, 2012
whats up with mothers who wrote:
Boy.... Mrs. Johnson, you really touched on something there.
And as far as the Fathers.....they weren't made to be Mothers. They don't have the equipment, the intuition,etc.
I have to disagree with you there squirt .
Many fathers make great substitute moms .
Its because of being able to parent with unconditional love !
I bet Mrs Johnson knows what that is .
single dad

United States

#13 May 27, 2012
Okay dads are not subs for mom they are just as important as the mom. They also have as much right with the child or children as a mom. Btw I have full cust. of my daughter not because the mom was unfit but because I was the better parent. Dads or moms both are parents no one needs more time if both are fit. I only get more because the mom wanted to move away.
on_phone

Evening Shade, AR

#14 May 27, 2012
single dad wrote:
Okay dads are not subs for mom they are just as important as the mom. They also have as much right with the child or children as a mom. Btw I have full cust. of my daughter not because the mom was unfit but because I was the better parent. Dads or moms both are parents no one needs more time if both are fit. I only get more because the mom wanted to move away.
Don't cut yourself short , a dad is just as important as a mom if not more .

Usually more !

Dads just have to learn to be more sensitive to their children's needs .

Be patient Be kind Be loving & listen !

And don't even consider dating someone that doesn't love your kids !
single dad

United States

#15 May 27, 2012
on_phone wrote:
<quoted text>
Don't cut yourself short , a dad is just as important as a mom if not more .
Usually more !
Dads just have to learn to be more sensitive to their children's needs .
Be patient Be kind Be loving & listen !
And don't even consider dating someone that doesn't love your kids !
No not at all I'm a great dad and have a woman that my daughter has choosen to call mom. I only make choices with my kids in mind. Just wanted to say that dads are just as good at raising kids as moms. More dads need to step up and be a man and a father imo.
on_phone

Evening Shade, AR

#16 May 27, 2012
single dad wrote:
<quoted text>
No not at all I'm a great dad and have a woman that my daughter has choosen to call mom. I only make choices with my kids in mind. Just wanted to say that dads are just as good at raising kids as moms. More dads need to step up and be a man and a father imo.
Good for you & your family !
And you're correct "imo" !
mvoso

United States

#17 Jun 2, 2012
I feel so strongly about this topic. I myself was a young mother. When I found out I was pregnant I was so scared. I had no clue how hard raising a child was, because although I was technically an adult (19), I was still childish. I ran around all the time, spent my paychecks on whatever "junk" I was wanting, and did what I wanted when I wanted. However that being said the moment I found out I was pregnant, everything changed for me. I only bought baby stuff with my paychecks, and I stayed home and saved my money. When my son was born (even before) my life became all about him. Was it easy? No, but I did it for him. I was around other young moms and it was hard. They didn't see things as I did. They always had an answer for everything. If I asked if they felt bad for going to the bar all the time, they'd reply that their kid would be sleeping anyway, so they weren't missing anytime with them. I not sure what it is with most (not all) young moms. Its like something doesn't click in their mind, that tells them "this is my kid, my responsibility" I'm not sure how to make them see the light that it does in fact effect their child. Its very frustrating to be a young mother that truly is a mother, that is judged based on others bad decisions.
another single dad

United States

#18 Jun 2, 2012
i think saying only moms have a nurturing instint is bull. Ive have full custady of my daughter since before she was one. her mother rarely sees her. Ive done everything a mom has to do from potty training to getting her ready for kindergarden. A parents instint is same if youre a mom or dad i dont think ones automaticly better then the other.
Donna Jo

United States

#19 Jun 2, 2012
How about mothers who choose men over their kids?
bullseye

United States

#20 Jun 2, 2012
Donna Jo wrote:
How about mothers who choose men over their kids?
Amen!! Happening more and more everyday. Poor child sits and waits for a mother that doesn't bother to come pick them up much less call to say she's not. So child runs to the real parent to cry in her arms. And question why doesn't mom love me more than him enough to come get me. But by goodness never imply that parent is the only mom the child has or all hell will break loose!

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