opinions on dating/sleeping with a gu...
just sayin

Ozark, MO

#67 Mar 8, 2013
Something to think about wrote:
A 20 year difference ? Think about it this way rather then on a sexual level . If you were to fall in love with someone 20 years older then you and you marry for example,(IF) u marry and last there is a huge chance you will be changing depends 20 years earlier then the average person in a relationship , while your still feeling sexual by the time your 45 he will be 65 and most likely dealing with a flat tired so to speak , and that handsome face and hair you once enjoyed becomes wrinkled and bald while in most cases, your girl friends are still sporting pretty good looking men. Rather then thinking about the the here and now , consider the facts . I am a female and I love my sex . I wouldn't want to have to deal with reminding my man to take his Viagra so we can make sure to have sex. I like it on demand , if he goes threw the faze you won't have that and after a while it will get old to you and you will most likely go back to someone younger and with a better performance level . Just trying to help .
In a perfect world your scenario would be right on. But none of us knows what tomorrow holds for us and no one is guaranteed to out live their man or even make it to middle age, let alone a senior citizen. You could go through menopause early, have a hysterectomy or need to take medications that diminishes your sex drive while your man has no need for Viagra. You could get cancer, have a heart attack, or be stricken with any number of illnesses or injuries and it could be your man changing YOUR Depends. As far as appearances go, the same could be said about females. How many men complain about their wife's weight gain, slouchy appearance, laziness etc.? And let's be honest... do you really think you have to remind a man to take his Viagra. If you truly love someone and expect the same in return these are just things you accept and deal with if/when they occur.
wondering

United States

#68 Mar 8, 2013
just sayin wrote:
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In a perfect world your scenario would be right on. But none of us knows what tomorrow holds for us and no one is guaranteed to out live their man or even make it to middle age, let alone a senior citizen. You could go through menopause early, have a hysterectomy or need to take medications that diminishes your sex drive while your man has no need for Viagra. You could get cancer, have a heart attack, or be stricken with any number of illnesses or injuries and it could be your man changing YOUR Depends. As far as appearances go, the same could be said about females. How many men complain about their wife's weight gain, slouchy appearance, laziness etc.? And let's be honest... do you really think you have to remind a man to take his Viagra. If you truly love someone and expect the same in return these are just things you accept and deal with if/when they occur.
That's exactly my opinion. You gotta live day to day. You can never plan like that for the future cus you never know what is gonna happen.
Toots

Mountain View, MO

#69 Mar 9, 2013
wondering wrote:
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That's exactly my opinion. You gotta live day to day. You can never plan like that for the future cus you never know what is gonna happen.
If you broke up a marriage I hope you both rot in Hell.
wondering

United States

#70 Mar 9, 2013
Where did you get the idea that I broke up a marriage? This guy is single. There's no breaking up of anything. Get your facts right.
wow

Ozark, MO

#71 Mar 9, 2013
wondering wrote:
I'm 30 and he's 50
no problem at all. your and his decision and no one else's business
FYI

United States

#72 Mar 9, 2013
I think 'somehing to think about' is a selfish bitch - an emotional gold-digger.

I have met someone online that is beautiful, articulate, and warm spirited. She tells me that younger men are ignorant, unreliable - financially and emotionally, and selfish - materialistically and sexually.

She says her friends have asked about our ages. She says that the more she learns about me, hears my views of life and the world, the more handsome and attractive I become. She believes her frinds will soon be jealous.

BTW, she is in her late 20's and 24 years my junior. She wonders if she will be able to 'keep up' but she's gonna try. Wish her luck, she's gonna need it. ; )

Maybe in, say...2 years or 25 years one among you might say,'I told you so,' but by then we will both have had a better life than many, if not most, so what will it matter. We only live once.

And to 'something to think about', I believe it is quite telling concerning the quality of a lady that would be willing to care for a man that adored and respected her compared to a woman, apparently, like yourself, who would seek greener pastures at the first onset of 'reality.'

You, Madam, are a good example of what is NOT true love, but shallow, uncaring selfishness - just 'something to think about.'

Good DAY!:D


wondering

United States

#73 Mar 9, 2013
FYI wrote:
I think 'somehing to think about' is a selfish bitch - an emotional gold-digger.
I have met someone online that is beautiful, articulate, and warm spirited. She tells me that younger men are ignorant, unreliable - financially and emotionally, and selfish - materialistically and sexually.
She says her friends have asked about our ages. She says that the more she learns about me, hears my views of life and the world, the more handsome and attractive I become. She believes her frinds will soon be jealous.
BTW, she is in her late 20's and 24 years my junior. She wonders if she will be able to 'keep up' but she's gonna try. Wish her luck, she's gonna need it. ; )
Maybe in, say...2 years or 25 years one among you might say,'I told you so,' but by then we will both have had a better life than many, if not most, so what will it matter. We only live once.
And to 'something to think about', I believe it is quite telling concerning the quality of a lady that would be willing to care for a man that adored and respected her compared to a woman, apparently, like yourself, who would seek greener pastures at the first onset of 'reality.'
You, Madam, are a good example of what is NOT true love, but shallow, uncaring selfishness - just 'something to think about.'
Good DAY!:D
AMEN!!!! Couldn't have said it better myself.
Heather Russell

Spokane, MO

#74 Mar 12, 2013
I love old men with old ballz. My husband is older then me and I only keep him around to pay the bills and to raise me and my kids. I get all the sex I want from elswhere young and old. I used to get it from his son R.I.P but cant anymore.There is nothing wrong with age differance.
FYI

Guthrie, OK

#75 Mar 13, 2013
To the person who posted previous to this one - portraying yourself as someone else:

You are a vile and revolting excuse for a human being. If I knew who you were, man or woman, the odds of you having your teeth knocked out for being such a bottom-dwelling lowlife are better than 2 to 1.

How cowardly and nauseating of you - obviously the the scourge of your family name.
May the evil spirits of you spineless soul devour you rapidly much to the benefit of mankind - you maggot..

IMO

Ozark, MO

#76 Mar 19, 2013
Wondering,I think you are on here cuz you are a drama queen. I have no idea how old you are, and dont care.Pick your own generation, cuz there is no comparison in any of them. He has values you dont, and if he does, he will end up teaching them to you. I am a female and dont care to tell it. You are a selfish child to even have the thought in your head, and he is a dirty old man or will be to even entertain the thought in his to have a younger one of that difference in age. Its all about true colors. Ask yourself why he is single at that age? Ask yourself why he chooses such a young girl? Many questions to ask yourself and be truly honest about it.And anyone else that entertains it, is looking for a father figure, not a mate, and if they did and it worked, and that old man dies off, or woman for tha matter, where does that leave them 30 years down the road? Old(er) and wondering how they got old.Stupid, just plain down right stupid. I guess im one that has a few values and morals, and I think it is wrong, and so will someone else that comes home to their roots. Im married, 53, husband is 2 years older. If something happens to either one of us, I made a good choice in life. Life is made of choices, make the right one and you wont live with regrets! It obviously bothes you or you wouldnt even make a thread about it, so that tells me..MAYBE you have a few standards!
wondering

United States

#77 Mar 19, 2013
IMO, thank you. I'm definitely not a drama queen. If that were the case I would be asking the opinions of people who know both of us instead of doing it anonymously on here. I only asked on here cus no one knows who I am. Anyway. Thank you for being honest. You've given me some great things to think about. I do have standards which is why I haven't agreed to be his "secret lover " as he now refers to it.
Just me

United States

#78 Mar 19, 2013
Hmm is this guy black?
wondering

United States

#79 Mar 20, 2013
Just me wrote:
Hmm is this guy black?
No. Why would that matter?
Just me

United States

#80 Mar 20, 2013
It doesn't. I just know a black guy that uses the term secret lover and he's no good. Was just gonna give u a heads up
just sayin

Forsyth, MO

#81 Mar 20, 2013
Anyone of any age, male or female, who asks you to be their "secret lover" is not worth your time or the drama it will inevitably bring.

It seems to me that you didn't really start this thread because you were concerned about an age difference. I think in the back of your mind you have worries about this guy's character.
FYI

Oklahoma City, OK

#82 Mar 20, 2013
I agree that age is not a factor here, but no one should EVER be subjected to being a 'secret' lover. How degrading!
THAT is the words of a manipulator who wants the best of both worlds.!
40ish gal

United States

#83 Mar 20, 2013
Wondering, I am on the ouside looking in here. All I see is this gigantic crimson Red flag waving over you. "Secret" is just that, only for Him to know about. Maybe thats why you being so much younger turns him on. Don't play that game. Just because he is older doesn't mean he's wiser. Beat him at his own game, Lady up, and save yourself some heartache. Just looking out for a fellow female. Take care!!
wth

United States

#84 Mar 21, 2013
40ish gal wrote:
Wondering, I am on the ouside looking in here. All I see is this gigantic crimson Red flag waving over you. "Secret" is just that, only for Him to know about. Maybe thats why you being so much younger turns him on. Don't play that game. Just because he is older doesn't mean he's wiser. Beat him at his own game, Lady up, and save yourself some heartache. Just looking out for a fellow female. Take care!!
you turned good love into ,twisted bs ,that dont even pertain to the subject. Love does happen ! Not for you. Take care . ;)
FYI

United States

#85 Mar 25, 2013
The term 'secret' is the hole that sank the ship, in my opinion. NO MAN would ever subject one he loves to being a 'secret.' He would PROUDLY display this lady on his arm and PROUDLY dispaly his adoration for her.

The news of his use of the term 'secret ' has revealed to me, in my opinion, his manipulative and bastardly ways, which I believe would be revealed should you proceed with this relationship, which you would eventually leave feeling dirty and used....but it's your life to choose to sleep with filth if you desire to know what it's like to sleep in slop.
shamed

United States

#86 Mar 25, 2013
FYI wrote:
The term 'secret' is the hole that sank the ship, in my opinion. NO MAN would ever subject one he loves to being a 'secret.' He would PROUDLY display this lady on his arm and PROUDLY dispaly his adoration for her.
The news of his use of the term 'secret ' has revealed to me, in my opinion, his manipulative and bastardly ways, which I believe would be revealed should you proceed with this relationship, which you would eventually leave feeling dirty and used....but it's your life to choose to sleep with filth if you desire to know what it's like to sleep in slop.
you overthink a sinple love. Which dosent exsist. Anymore. Sleeping in slop, had to be bad. You twisted up this relationship to. Wonder how many more before you mature.. Im impressed that a forum helped you to make up your mind. Lol i bet hes proud of you and your alias post.

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