What is with all the parents enabling...

What is with all the parents enabling their kids to be f*ck ups

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Duhhhhhhhhhh

Canada

#1 Jan 28, 2013
Let's drive our 31 old son to work, because he got drunk and drove too many times. Let's give him a nice house while we are at it. Then he can have all his druggy friends come by and smoke it up and have every loose marbled, bimbo holed up in the place. Let's bail him out of jail every time he gets too high or drunk and acts up, tears up sh*t or beats up his mom or girlfreind. [email protected] You kind of "parents" are the absolute worse. You should go stand in a corner for 7 days and give each other a beating with a razor strap!
Annie

Branson, MO

#2 Jan 31, 2013
Duhhhhhhhhhh wrote:
Let's drive our 31 old son to work, because he got drunk and drove too many times. Let's give him a nice house while we are at it. Then he can have all his druggy friends come by and smoke it up and have every loose marbled, bimbo holed up in the place. Let's bail him out of jail every time he gets too high or drunk and acts up, tears up sh*t or beats up his mom or girlfreind. [email protected] You kind of "parents" are the absolute worse. You should go stand in a corner for 7 days and give each other a beating with a razor strap!
That is exactly what they are doing too, is enabling them and to me that it the worst thing you can do to a kid. At 31 I'd say they are long past being kids anyway. That was like with Obamacare and they said they will cover kids to the age of 21. Excuse me but a 21 year old is not a kid anymore either. My mom and dad always taught us that we need to be responsible for ourselves cause once we become of age at 18 nobody else is going to look after us. We taught our kids the same, you either get a job or go to school to better yourself and while doing that you can live at home free of room and board. Once you finish school and get a job then you start paying room and board. What we did with that money they gave us was put it in a bank account for them without their knowledge, and when they were ready to look for a place of their own they had their first months rent plus the cleaning deposit. And since they did not know we were saving that money for them they were still getting the important lesson of being responsible adults. With the car insurances even as teens we made them pay the difference in the policy cost with them added on to it. We helped them get their first cars, that way they did not have to pay interest on the loan cause it was a loan from us and they but they had to make the monthly payment. If they were to fall back more than two months, the car is ours. They weren't new cars either, they started off with used ones, then later when they got permanent jobs that paid better, and went out on their own they bought their own first new cars through a loan company. Once our kids left home, they never came back to sponge off mom and dad either cause we taught them to survive on their own. If we die, we know our kids can survive in this world. I know many kids older than ours that wouldn't, to me that is sad and as I said earlier, the worst thing you can do to your children.
Morph

Canada

#3 Feb 3, 2013
I had a brother who was a ne'er do well. My mother made excuses, paid fines, tried to cover up the fact he was a raging drunk. All she did was wear herself down and prevented him from getting the help he needed much sooner by intervening all the time. She wouldn't call the cops when he was tearing up her house because she thought it would come out in the papers and people would judge us and that he might lose his job, there was always an excuse and yes it would be slightly embarrassing but most families have at least one in the family somewhere. After she died, he got into trouble and finally had to face his demon on his own. He finally went into rehab. He is much better today than he ever was. My mom meant well and would do anything for her kids, and unfortunately that wasn't such a good thing. I feel had she let him hold the reigns on his problems he would have been forced to address his alcohol problems earlier and she may have lived to see him sober.
Morph

Canada

#4 Feb 3, 2013
Forgot to add, my mom blamed herself for his problems. She felt she had somewhere gone wrong with him. Never could figure out why she did that to herself. She worked hard to provide, didn't drink, was honest and loving. She was a great mom. That is something else parents do, they take the blame and put it on themselves. Don't do that. Make your kids responsible.
WP girl

Sparta, MO

#5 Feb 3, 2013
I agree that sometimes no matter what a parent does there is a possibility their child will not follow the path they were raised in. There are too many parents now though that start this process when the kids are teenagers. They allow their kids to party, Buy them cigs and booze, and make sure they have condoms so they can have sex any time. They also let the girlfriend/boyfriend spent the night at their home. What kind of message is this sending to the kid? There are many ways to parent, but starting them out thinking all of this is okay and is a responsible way to live does not help later in life. They need to learn there are consequences for their actions.
They also need to know that it isn't always someone else's fault when things don't go their way. It's not always the parent's fault or the teacher's fault. At some point the kid makes their own desicians and can distinguish right from wrong.
Annie

Branson, MO

#6 Feb 3, 2013
WP girl wrote:
I agree that sometimes no matter what a parent does there is a possibility their child will not follow the path they were raised in. There are too many parents now though that start this process when the kids are teenagers. They allow their kids to party, Buy them cigs and booze, and make sure they have condoms so they can have sex any time. They also let the girlfriend/boyfriend spent the night at their home. What kind of message is this sending to the kid? There are many ways to parent, but starting them out thinking all of this is okay and is a responsible way to live does not help later in life. They need to learn there are consequences for their actions.
They also need to know that it isn't always someone else's fault when things don't go their way. It's not always the parent's fault or the teacher's fault. At some point the kid makes their own desicians and can distinguish right from wrong.
It's nice to know that we do still have smart young ladies out there that realizes what responsibilty is and that there are consequences for ones actions.

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