I am not the person you are addressing. Just another ex member.I would like to ask why if you have left the Church and moved on with such better and happy lives, you can't move on. You seem hell bent to bash the Church, this sound like extreme bitterness! Just move on and live your life.
It is not easy to let go of this church. Your whole family is there. You are cast out once you leave, your family is gone forever without anymore contact. All you've known and loved is gone as well. You should catch up on cult religions and what they do to your soul.