Boyfriend planned murder-suicide for weeks

Dec 23, 2008 Full story: Columbus Dispatch 24

West Jefferson police say a man meticulously and methodically planned every detail of a murder-suicide in what was apparently, until recently, a trouble-free relationship.

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Audrey Richards

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#1 Dec 30, 2008
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I knew Teddy Thompson. I never met him in person and was shocked to find out that the had a long time girfriend. I thought he was casually dating someone from the chat- room. I knew him as Ted, and he called me long distance on occasion. Ted was always polite friendly mild mannered and personable. We chatted in instant messages, and he was always very much the gentleman. But there was a dark side to him that he struggled with, a side no one in the chat room he frequented, ever saw or suspected,until afterb the news broke of this heinous crime where he took the life of his girfriend, and then turned gun on himself and ended his life.
I am the first to admit that I have been attracted to Ted, not knowing about the demons living within the man, who seemed by all accounts, to be a devoted single father. I am hurt
and shocked and saddened by what he has done. Ted would call me from time to time when my spirits were down. He was also an excellent cook, who sent me recipes. By all accounts he seemed like just a regular guy. I would never suspected this of him. It is frightening what you dont know about people, and tragic for the families who were innocent bystanders of this hideous crime.
I checked his profile online, and stared a minute at my picture on his buddy list. He often said he wished I lived closer so we could go out on a date and have a good time. I once lived in Columbus Ohio myself as a very young woman of twenty. Images of Ted cloud my mind, and I feel sad for his adorable sons and what kind of life they will have in store for them in the future.
Duped

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#2 Jan 6, 2009
Someone he duped, Ted did appear to be the perfect man. Romancing someone that thought she was the only woman in his life. Wow, he duped her. He duped us all. Who would have imagined that after his death so many truths would surface. He never told anyone he had a GF. Told everyone he was not dating anyone for years. We all knew that to be a lie. We just didnt think it was Mary Pat. I feel sorry for her. I feel sorry for her children. His children! How could he do that to HIS children. These were children we would hear about day after day. How much he loved and adored them . Then to see such a selfish act.. My heart hurts for all the women he duped. Not just myself!! This has taught me a big lesson.. Never just judge a book by its cover. Covers can fool you. You need to dig down deep into the content. What you find will shock you.
Audrey Richards wrote:
Comment on article, Boyfriend planned murder- suicide for weeks.
I knew Teddy Thompson. I never met him in person and was shocked to find out that the had a long time girfriend. I thought he was casually dating someone from the chat- room. I knew him as Ted, and he called me long distance on occasion. Ted was always polite friendly mild mannered and personable. We chatted in instant messages, and he was always very much the gentleman. But there was a dark side to him that he struggled with, a side no one in the chat room he frequented, ever saw or suspected,until afterb the news broke of this heinous crime where he took the life of his girfriend, and then turned gun on himself and ended his life.
I am the first to admit that I have been attracted to Ted, not knowing about the demons living within the man, who seemed by all accounts, to be a devoted single father. I am hurt
and shocked and saddened by what he has done. Ted would call me from time to time when my spirits were down. He was also an excellent cook, who sent me recipes. By all accounts he seemed like just a regular guy. I would never suspected this of him. It is frightening what you dont know about people, and tragic for the families who were innocent bystanders of this hideous crime.
I checked his profile online, and stared a minute at my picture on his buddy list. He often said he wished I lived closer so we could go out on a date and have a good time. I once lived in Columbus Ohio myself as a very young woman of twenty. Images of Ted cloud my mind, and I feel sad for his adorable sons and what kind of life they will have in store for them in the future.
a friend of Teds

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#3 Jan 6, 2009
Iam so shocked as many were to hear of the things Ted did, I feel so much saddness for the family of Mary pat as well as Teds children. I met Ted and he was so kind and caring and pleasent. We swapped recipes and he often told of his boys and how much he loved them and how he wasnt going to date anyone full time because he wanted to tend to his boys. I pray that his children get the counseling they need to help with the things they have been through and will go through. I commend his family for taking his boys to raise. It just goes to show you dont ever know anyone as well as you think you do.....Many blessings to the family of Ted and Mary Pat
Audrey Richards

AOL

#4 Jan 6, 2009
I would like to say that many people who knew of Ted in the chat room are very shocked and hurt by what has happend, and it has caused an emotional uproar in the room. Many of us are on an emotional roller coaster and are having a hard time coping with the fact that he is gone.

As a college student, I have been taught to write unbiased material. Anyone is free to write or express anything they want, within reason. I encourage all of you who knew Ted, knew of him, or cared about him, to express your feelings. It might be therapeutic. It doesnt matter what your point of view is, we all have a right to express ourselves. This has been painful to all who have connected to this tragedy. I guess some of us have forgotten this: " Judge not lest ye be judged." Ted must have been a tormented soul. But it doesn't excuse him in any what for his crimes.
Sadness

Orange Park, FL

#5 Jan 7, 2009
My heart hurts over losing Ted. I just wish I would have known how much torment he was in. We talked daily. Several times a day. It just hurts to know that he left this earth the way he did. That he was in so much torment he felt the need to take another with him. Ted was so charismatic and I thought very trusting. We spent a lot of time together the last year of his life. Why he chose to keep Mary Pat a secret I have no clue. Ultimately in the end they both paid a huge price for his decision. My prayers are with the boys and his family. I have met a couple of his family members and I have talked to his sister since his passing. I know that they are all hurt and confused. HOwever, they also know that the task at hand is to see the boys raised to become healthy young men. I pray that the boys will get all the counseling they need to make it through. I also pray that Tommy and his wife keep them in a good church. They need to have a strong foundation of the God. In the end this is what will help get them through the dark days ahead. I enjoyed so much the times I met and talked to the boys. They were such a joy. Please if you read this.. Give them both a hug from me. Ted, regardless of what you have done. I miss you. I know you gave me several small clues the last month. I just wish I had been able to understand them all before the fatal day. Prayers for all families involved.
shocked in north carolina

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#6 Jan 9, 2009
I met Ted in a chatroom a couple of years ago. He was always friendly, talked about his sons and how he loved being a dad. We even shared recipes. I know that no one reveals everything about themselves in a chatroom, that's to be expected. Now, I feel as though I never really knew Ted and that's saddest of all I guess. God bless you all and may He help you deal with the grief you're going through.
Audrey Richards

AOL

#7 Jan 9, 2009
I cannot begin to say how much Ted's passing has hurt me. I know what he did, and I am shocked and angry at how he left this world, and what he did to his girfriend, his family, and to himself.

The other night before I went to sleep, I told Ted that I loved him and then I burst into tears. I didn't mean it in any sort of romantic way, but I felt for him as a fellow human being.

Every day when I rise out of bed, when I am at my computer, when I am in college, I think of the last few hours of Ted's life and I ask myself why?
I see him strangling his girlfriend, then killing himself and try to make sense of why he would do either of those things, or why he would leave his wonderful sons alone without a father.

Yes, it is true that Ted may not have been the person that we all thought we knew, and I know some people in the chat room might want to condemn me for commenting that I knew him for saying that I knew him without meeting him in person, but I dont think caring for another person has to be undervalued just because we didnt meet face to face.

Ted's death has left a void in my life, with many questions left unanswered. It's shocking enough to think you will never see someone because they die suddenly, but then you add his mental state and what he did right before he died, and it becomes a hideous mess that you try to make some sort of logic out of.

Many of my on line friends and myself are still in shock, and there are many who are put off about discussing Ted in the room, after discovering he was not the wholesome and upstanding single father he made himself out to be.

None of us even knew he had a long time girfriend, we were all collectively duped by this
man who lead a double life. I know I would not have wanted to have been in Mary Pat's shoes and had to die of stragulation, my only flaw being that I wanted to leave Ted and escape an abusive, obcessive, unhealthy relationship. I wouldnt want to be in Mary Pat's daughters' situation and left without a mother, with all the hurt and rage she must be feeling at the violence perpertrated against her mother. The whole act was senseless, I guess Ted didn't even care if he hurt his friends that loved him, or if he hurt his sons, when they said goodbye to him before he went out with Mary Pat, not knowing that they would never see thier father or Mary Pat again.

All I know is, Ted must have been carrying around alot of pain that he didnt share with anyone. What he did was wrong, and it hurt all of us who knew him. NO one wants a friend to commit suicide, and his sons will have to be minus a father because of his selfish and cowardly act. If I were Mary Pat's daughter, I would be very angry and hurt right now. Ted's actions have brought turmoil to many who knew him, and thought that they had a friend in a chat room.
Typoqueenpeggyz

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#8 Jan 9, 2009
When Tedoldy .i called him that vers's his real screen name because of the picture of him dressed as an old lady ,he shared with us, it was at halloween, anyway when he would come into the room ,or i came in after he was already in the chat room, he would always say hey Peggy,queen of our room. and *** which are hugs and kiss's to me just affectionate showed for a roomie, I met Ted in person in Myrtle Beach at our chat room get together, He was a lot of fun, we all loved watching him dance and i called him the dancing fool.or dance king, I still can't beleive Ted is gone, I wanted to say to his family and friends, how sorry i am for your loss and also say that to Mary Pat's family, dear God i know tihs has to be one of the hardest things ya'll can go through, My prayer is that God holds you all close especally his 2 little boys, man to me they seemed to be ted's world. he seemed to be so close to his sons, he said he wouldn't date or bring another .woman to his home because of his kids, that they had to get older, so they would understand, So wow learning of Mary Pat was a total shock, and i was just a friend, But I know . frpm the chat room that he was some what of a player, and had many thinking he was thier man . or wanted to be. so i know how some were hurt to learn of her,. But having said that, i guess they now just feel lucky that this didn't happen to them,or all of us,But Ted was never disrespectful in our chat room ,as i seen, he did seem moody at times and i thought him somewhat acting weird at the get together in Myrtlebeach that time, but Nothing gave a clue as to how sick Ted had to be to do this to himself and to plan it ttis way to take his long time girlfriend's life, what i do not understand is why she justy didn't get out and say NO way, your're nuts i am feeling like she had to see him as he truly was or she wouldn't have moved her daughter out, saying she was scared,he would kill them both.and i can say this with a free mind because My x husband threatened my life two times .the second time i got the hell out, knowing the next time had a drink could be my last breath, so i am not judgeing Mary Pat, i just wondered why she hung around,anyway, i am rambling on, but again I pray God continues to hold you all close and helps you all to mend, and helps me to trust, i have to admit i was distrusting before this happened,Now even more distrusting! so i pray that God helps me as well.
with sadness i will miss his humor he had ,
Sincerly
Peggy
Peas

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#9 Jan 9, 2009
To Ted's family and Mary's family, I send my heartfelt and sincere condolences. I am so sad to have read of the tradedy that touched both families. I wish Ted had been able to reach out to somebody and get the help he needed, and I wish Mary could have been strong enough to reach out as well. Ted was always very polite to me, and reminded me of a kid in a candy store when we all went to Myrtle Beach in 2007. He would run from the beach back to the pool at the resort, having a great time, with a huge smile on his face. The demons that must have been raging in his mind were surely at rest that weekend, and I think he enjoyed himself, and we all enjoyed him. I realize it is very hard for people outside of a chatroom to realize that peole online can indeed become friends, but I have made some of the most wonderful, long-lasting friendships online you can imagine. Ted is among several others that have passed through our chatroom and have now left this earth. You are all in my thoughts and prayers. I hope the two little boys will be happy and well.
Sincerely,
Peasie
Shelia Sites

Salyersville, KY

#10 Jan 9, 2009
Audrey Richards wrote:
Comment on article, Boyfriend planned murder- suicide for weeks.
I knew Teddy Thompson. I never met him in person and was shocked to find out that the had a long time girfriend. I thought he was casually dating someone from the chat- room. I knew him as Ted, and he called me long distance on occasion. Ted was always polite friendly mild mannered and personable. We chatted in instant messages, and he was always very much the gentleman. But there was a dark side to him that he struggled with, a side no one in the chat room he frequented, ever saw or suspected,until afterb the news broke of this heinous crime where he took the life of his girfriend, and then turned gun on himself and ended his life.
I am the first to admit that I have been attracted to Ted, not knowing about the demons living within the man, who seemed by all accounts, to be a devoted single father. I am hurt
and shocked and saddened by what he has done. Ted would call me from time to time when my spirits were down. He was also an excellent cook, who sent me recipes. By all accounts he seemed like just a regular guy. I would never suspected this of him. It is frightening what you dont know about people, and tragic for the families who were innocent bystanders of this hideous crime.
I checked his profile online, and stared a minute at my picture on his buddy list. He often said he wished I lived closer so we could go out on a date and have a good time. I once lived in Columbus Ohio myself as a very young woman of twenty. Images of Ted cloud my mind, and I feel sad for his adorable sons and what kind of life they will have in store for them in the future.
....I hurt for everyone all around & I am his sister....I love Teddy still & Mary Pat....and my heart breaks for All the children! brothers and sisters...and the Most of all Ted's friends some of the best people ever! ladybleybelle@yahoo.com
Disgusted AOL

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#11 Jan 9, 2009
I think these posts are self indulgent and inconsiderate of the family. All they need right now is to be left alone. Seeing this posts makes them re-live this nightmare over and over. You have a right to your feelings? They have a right to their privacy. Give it a rest.
Lady Dy

United States

#12 Jan 9, 2009
I am another aol chatroom friend who never met Ted in person, but enjoyed his kindness, warm heart and good humor.
Why? Sometimes I think that should be etched on many people's Tombstone or Who?
Many of us see only who is revealed to us, and in the chatroom, I choose to believe that Ted found a safe Haven, with friends who never judged. There, he had no past, no dark demons, just acceptance. We saw him as the great father, good cook, caring, polite, gentleman and gracious pal to all the other men. This IS Ted....the Ted he wanted to be and was able to be online.
It is indeed sad to know he had another side that ultimately won the inner battle that was within. I think there were signs, but who ever would suspect such deep, darkness.
I grieve for Mary Pat's daughter and all of her family. They knew she lived in fear and she didn't quite know how to get out. We need to honor her and her memory by helping to empower battered women. I offer peace and prayers to Mary Pat's family.
To Ted's sister Sheila, and all of Ted's family, please know that Ted has a wonderful, joyful spirit that we did see, and please nurture all the good qualities that he embodied, in his boys.
They will miss him every hour of every day. They need to know the good things and know UNEQUIVOCALLY that He loved all of his children and spoke often of them and his children in CA too.
I will miss Ted's funny, boylike charm but I chose to remember the happy carefree Ted that he shared with us all.
If Mary Pat's family and Ted's family need anything in the way of support, I offer mine. Please know prayers are always free and freely given.

I wish all the Peace that Passes understanding...

Dy
Daughter

Columbus, OH

#13 Jan 13, 2009
You were duped? Please. My mother was killed. The way I see it you got the good end of the deal. You women need to wake up and realize the dangers of meeting people in chat rooms. Why would you expect someone to be honest in a chat room especially a sociopath like Ted?
a friend of Teds

AOL

#14 Jan 13, 2009
My deepest sympathies at the loss of your mother, I dont think any of us meant to belittle the death of your mother, I think we were all just trying to make sense of all this. I know your momma was a fine lady just by the many wonderful things people wrote about her. I think we were just using this way to express our sorrow and shock, alot of us did not meet Ted as romantic interest, he actually went to many functions we had and many spoke to him daily by telephone as friends not as a love interest. I pray daily for you and your family and Teds children. I read alot in the papers as to the bad person that Ted was but we never seen any of that not even for one min so its such a shock to us that he did this to your mother and himself and his children and your family. I apologize for any pain any of these writings caused you but please know my friendship with Ted was simply that a friendship and I had met him in person it was not a internet relationship. I had a family member murdered, shot 5 times by her husband so I can some what simpathize with you although in no way does it compare to the loss of your sweet mother. I pray for peace for you and that your heart cand begin to mend~God bless
Sadness

Orange Park, FL

#15 Jan 14, 2009
I wish that there were words to take away the pain that you and everyone is feeling. No one would have ever expected what took place to have happened. This is a good indication that we as woman just need to be careful regardless of where we meet a man. Your mother did not meet Ted in a chat room. She met him in person. Some others only knew him via a chat room and others knew him in person. This has caused everyone that knew Ted or your mother to take a good hard look at life and how to protect themselves from this happening to them. This is a lesson in following your gut instincts. If something does not seem right. Find out why. Check it out. Dig dig dig until you have satisfied with the answers. What happen can happen to anyone anywhere no matter how they meet. We need to start thinking about number 1. US!! Investigate any man you are thinking of dating. If he does not want investigated. RED FLAG! Nothing will bring your mom or Ted back. Your mothers passing has possibly saved so many other women from finding themselves in the same situation. So many prayers to all of Mary Pats Children and to Ted's. Not alone was Mary Pat a victim, you all were as well.
Daughter

New York, NY

#16 Jan 15, 2009
Sadness wrote:
I wish that there were words to take away the pain that you and everyone is feeling. No one would have ever expected what took place to have happened. This is a good indication that we as woman just need to be careful regardless of where we meet a man. Your mother did not meet Ted in a chat room. She met him in person. Some others only knew him via a chat room and others knew him in person. This has caused everyone that knew Ted or your mother to take a good hard look at life and how to protect themselves from this happening to them. This is a lesson in following your gut instincts. If something does not seem right. Find out why. Check it out. Dig dig dig until you have satisfied with the answers. What happen can happen to anyone anywhere no matter how they meet. We need to start thinking about number 1. US!! Investigate any man you are thinking of dating. If he does not want investigated. RED FLAG! Nothing will bring your mom or Ted back. Your mothers passing has possibly saved so many other women from finding themselves in the same situation. So many prayers to all of Mary Pats Children and to Ted's. Not alone was Mary Pat a victim, you all were as well.
First of all do not speak to me about how my mom met Ted, I think I know a lot more about that than you do. For a moment I forgot that some people only have the ability to think in the literal and must be spoon fed. The reason for my saying that is because I was amazed by statements made by his chat room friends over their disbelief that he would do something like this. It can be dangerous to meet someone in person, but in a chat room that increases.

From your post you sound like the women who keeps calling my sister and has stated that you are Ted's "other" girlfriend.(If this is not you please ignore, but I'm sure she is reading this and it must be said). It is highly inappropriate for you, the self proclaimed "other woman" to contact my sister or any other member of my family. Contact Ted's family, contact your own family, DO NOT contact mine. No matter what he told you, obviously you weren't important to him otherwise he wouldn't have minded that my mom was leaving him, because he would have had someone else to look forward to having in his life.

It is understood that when someone dies people speak of the good in them and many people have commented on what a good father he was. Just because you're a single-father does not make you a good father. Ted's kids were being raised by video games and the television. He wouldn't let his kids participate in sports because he was so worried it would cut into his time with my mom. I told him on numerous occasions that kids need more than a father's physical presence but also quality time with their father. A good father would not selfishly do this to his four children and grand children. The two youngest children not only lost their father but the only mother that they have ever known. I have watched those two little boys grow up and I am comforted in the fact that they seem to be in a better environment with Tommy.

I apologize if this post hurts any of Ted's family or true friends. I pray for you as I am sure you are praying for me. For the others that won't let us grieve in peace, we have been traumatized, we have lost our mother, grandmother, friend, sister, and daughter; we have lost much more than a part-time boyfriend.
Aol Chatter

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#17 Jan 22, 2009
To Daughter, Well said.
Another Aol Chatter

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#18 Jan 22, 2009
To daughter,very very well said!!!!!I don't know about these stupid women but I have seen Ted turn on a chat room in a dime......I think they're all tryin to make up for something in their lives.Its a chat room for goodness sake.Let everyone involved rest in pease and get on with their lives
AOL Chatter 3

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#19 Jun 3, 2009
I find it ironic that Ted set out to murder this women. After all the women he made advances towards. Poor Mary Pat never knew he was cheating on her. What a sick freak he was. Almost 6 months later. He should have left her and just took himself. Selfish selfish man.
IhateTED

Columbus, OH

#20 Jun 18, 2009
Ted I wish u were alive so I could wish u were dead.You have a horrible soul and you took my bestfriend. When you strangled her did you look in her eyes did you just ignore all her begging and cries. Did you care that her family will never forget. So many lives have been changed because of what you have done. Did you think about her kids your kids how much pain you would cause. Did you think at all during the 12 hours u paused. Theres a void in my heart no one can replace, when you shot yourself I hope u blew off your face. TED I wish u were alive so I could wish u were dead.

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