Can't get her out of my head.

Posted in the West Helena Forum

nextguy

Paris, France

#1 Jun 26, 2012
I'm currently fighting with the thoughts of a woman, I can't get her out of my head. For what I've seen and heard, she's got everything I think a man like me needs. I could be wrong of course. But that's the way it is today. Problem is I already live with a woman and one of her sons. She divorced to get with me, after a long struggle. I love her and I love her son madly. But after a bit less than a year of facebook messages, mails, chats and a bit of skype lately, this woman did flirted with me, knowing I was in couple. And I did too, knowing I could and would feel bad about it. She's the deep kind, really special, maybe a bit too self-confident ( but I guess that's what I liked too). She's on line very often. The skype sessions we had made me really fall in love with her. She said I'm her kind, she likes my looks, etc. But beyond the flattery-like stuff, we could stare at each other for long moments without saying or typing a thing. We felt like something was happening. OK, to make it short, she seemed to want me to break up with my woman (and son...). She talked about some kind of "connection" - she's really tuned on sciences, astronomy, and other stuff she likes to share on facebook. The only thing that annoyed me abouther is that she always analyzed my problems - like what she thinks is missing in my couple - without ever getting down simply to why she engaged this correspondance and kept it going. We had some incredible moments, without meeting physically. She wanted me to come see here inher country, near mine. Recently, after a pseudo-philosophical argument about my needs, what true love is, etc, she decided to stop - as all women feel the right to do first, it seems!- and was quite tough, without being openly insulting, and she just quit messaging like she did before. I leave her alone, of course. I hate the way she seems so sure about everythign she says while saying she respects other people's points of views, but I can't stop thinking about her, and the "relationship" we had - most of all, the very strong and deep feeling we seemed to have shared when talking and seeing each other through our computers. So classic, right? I just needed to tell my story because I feel like shit, very low. And yes, I'm attracted by intellectual women. Even more when they're hot as hell, like she is. By the way if someone knows a good way to get her out of my head it would be appreciated. I do love my wife, so please, no moralizing, I guess it won't help. I go the lesson I think but I need to get over it or else I'll go crazy for good.
horay

United States

#2 Jun 26, 2012
stay off facebook
Hacky sack

United States

#3 Jun 26, 2012
The grass is always greener on the other side. Be glad nothing happened, norhing more than just some conversation and flirting. You would have made a mistake leaving the woman your with. Be thankful things worked out the way they did.
Grammar police

Conroe, TX

#4 Jun 26, 2012
If you're all torn up over a girl you never met, you might as well cut the current one loose. It's over, because you're already looking elsewhere. You can sugar coat it all you want, but the bottom line is you're looking for someone else.

BTW, try paragraphs next time. While you're at it, give the Cliff's Notes version too. That crap was way too long.
Long Gone

Ballwin, MO

#5 Jun 27, 2012
My heart bleeds. It sounds like you two cyber created entities deserved your little virtual relationship. Quit feeling sorry for your self. You can't lose what you never had.
sexy

Lake City, AR

#6 Jun 27, 2012
Grow up been there done that the grass is not greener on the other side,you dont want to lose what you have now( grow up)!!!!!

Since: Jan 12

Location hidden

#7 Jun 27, 2012
Grammar police wrote:
If you're all torn up over a girl you never met, you might as well cut the current one loose. It's over, because you're already looking elsewhere. You can sugar coat it all you want, but the bottom line is you're looking for someone else.

BTW, try paragraphs next time. While you're at it, give the Cliff's Notes version too. That crap was way too long.
Lmfao @paragraphs and cliff notes. But yeah I kinda agree obviously the one hes with isnt enough or he wouldn't be looking. But that doesn't necessarily mean it's over. Just means he's gonna keep cheating! Lol
sexy

Lake City, AR

#8 Jun 27, 2012
You are so right, be a man and respect your wife you need to tell her so she can make a new life for her self
Sad

Lake City, AR

#9 Jun 27, 2012
I feel for you your about to lose everything for something thats not going to work for one thing she stays on line to much do you really think your the only one she talks to sooo dumd, wake up
looser

United States

#10 Jun 28, 2012
Married men never stop looking. Even in their 70's, they will tell you all kinds of things of how miserable they are to just get your attention. The wife don't take care of him home, and etc... The truth of the matter is stay of facebook! Quit flirting with other womwn. Internet flirting is cheating! Your a sorry man dog! I feel sorry for the son and wife. Things will never be the same. Sorry Mf'er... I hate cheaters!
watchout

Helena, AR

#11 Jun 28, 2012
looser wrote:
Married men never stop looking. Even in their 70's, they will tell you all kinds of things of how miserable they are to just get your attention. The wife don't take care of him home, and etc... The truth of the matter is stay of facebook! Quit flirting with other womwn. Internet flirting is cheating! Your a sorry man dog! I feel sorry for the son and wife. Things will never be the same. Sorry Mf'er... I hate cheaters!
Bitter
AshleyBrister

West Helena, AR

#12 Jun 28, 2012
looser wrote:
Married men never stop looking. Even in their 70's, they will tell you all kinds of things of how miserable they are to just get your attention. The wife don't take care of him home, and etc... The truth of the matter is stay of facebook! Quit flirting with other womwn. Internet flirting is cheating! Your a sorry man dog! I feel sorry for the son and wife. Things will never be the same. Sorry Mf'er... I hate cheaters!
Well I agree except not all married men are like that. I feel bad for the wife too, and there's a child involved?! That's so sad. Whoever this guy is, is selfish. At least think about the kids feelings, you are just low down. And I feel sorry for you because if u had morals, you wouldn't cheat. You are hurting others. The manly thing to do is come clean so your wife and her son can make plans to move on before you go slinging your little baby making sperm everywhere and end up changing ur mind then having to tell ur wife u knocked someone else up... How low can you get? Keep the little thing in ur pants, u will probably never find someone who will live or tolerate you like your wife obviously does bc she's still married to u. I'd divorce your a$$.
looser

United States

#13 Jul 1, 2012
Yes, I'm could be bitter. More like hurt I happen to be married to lieing SOB, but happen to be in a situation that I can't do anything about at this time. Once the trust is gone there is NOTHING left. Sometimes just coming clean admitting what you have done can save a marriage if there is love. But no sorry dog can do that. Some people never change!

i hope the dog gets what he deserves, taste of his own medicene. Let's see if he can still love her, and forgive her?

Since: Aug 11

Helena

#14 Jul 3, 2012
If a woman leaves her husband for another man there's a good chance she will leave again. Better keep what you got, remember to Death Due we Part.
Grammar police

United States

#15 Jul 3, 2012
Marriage is so overrated.
ok

Euless, TX

#16 Jul 3, 2012
Your over rated you must not be married
Grammar police

College Station, TX

#17 Jul 3, 2012
Been there. Done that. Learned my lesson.
Grammar police

College Station, TX

#18 Jul 3, 2012
And I'm never overrated.

Since: Jan 12

Location hidden

#19 Jul 3, 2012
Grammar police wrote:
Been there. Done that. Learned my lesson.
Lmfao! Ain't that tha truth!

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