What To Do When You See Your Friends Husband w/Another Woman...HELP

[My Turn]

may i ask wrote:

Sorry that post was for TO TELL OR NOT TO TELL.I'm still trying to learn this thing.Ha!Ha!

Dad burn it take my advise and don't tell. For God's sake are you listening? If you become a snitch you'll never get any strange. You'll dry up like a prune,. Keep it to yourself. Don't listen to this bunch of Quacks. Just don't tell. Shew weeeee.
Some folks never learn, they stay grouchy all their lives because they cant keep a secret. Shhh Keep it to your self...

[To Tell Or Not To Tell]

My Turn wrote:

<quoted text>Dad burn it take my advise and don't tell. For God's sake are you listening? If you become a snitch you'll never get any strange. You'll dry up like a prune,. Keep it to yourself. Don't listen to this bunch of Quacks. Just don't tell. Shew weeeee.
Some folks never learn, they stay grouchy all their lives because they cant keep a secret. Shhh Keep it to your self...

Huh I think you need to go back and read my last post and you will see your a little behind in this conversation.

Just to let everyone know we are all fine and my friend is very hurt, heartbroke and confused but she's keeping her head up. So keep praying for us because for some reason her husband acts like he cares not that she left. He has called come by the house saying how sorry he is and that he loves her. You know the same old song and dance. She is standing strong so please keep praying for her and the kids.

[Mandy]

Well, I'm so glad she finally seen it for herself. At least, she has a good friend to be there for her. I hope that she doesn't give into him. I will continue to pray for her and her children.

[Mandy]

A LADY wrote:

<quoted text>NO PUT HER IN THE CAR AND LET HER SEE IT FOR HERSELF THAT WAY SHE WONT GET MAD AT U DONT TELL HER TAKE HERE OUT FOR A RIDE AND LET HER SEE IT

She did.

[Been There Done That]

Take it from someone who knows. Tell her. She might get mad at you for it but if youare truly friends than she will forgive you and just be there for when she does.

[My Turn]

To Tell Or Not To Tell wrote:

<quoted text>
Huh I think you need to go back and read my last post and you will see your a little behind in this conversation.
Just to let everyone know we are all fine and my friend is very hurt, heartbroke and confused but she's keeping her head up. So keep praying for us because for some reason her husband acts like he cares not that she left. He has called come by the house saying how sorry he is and that he loves her. You know the same old song and dance. She is standing strong so please keep praying for her and the kids.

You sure are not curing the problem by riding her around and showing her , her old man smooching on another woman.
Have you ever herd of don't ask don't tell. LMBO.
What you do and what your hubby does is none of my business, and Ive kept my nose from being broke by keeping it to myself. When you stick your nose in someones business it has the tendency to get broke.
The best way to keep friends is to just pretend to no see anything. If you're around and see her hubby into something, just walk by like you don't know him, and that way you'll have 2 friends in the end. For if they settle their differences, you'll be the Blame for the whole incident. Go figure.

[moondance]

My Turn wrote:

<quoted text>You sure are not curing the problem by riding her around and showing her , her old man smooching on another woman.
Have you ever herd of don't ask don't tell. LMBO.
What you do and what your hubby does is none of my business, and Ive kept my nose from being broke by keeping it to myself. When you stick your nose in someones business it has the tendency to get broke.
The best way to keep friends is to just pretend to no see anything. If you're around and see her hubby into something, just walk by like you don't know him, and that way you'll have 2 friends in the end. For if they settle their differences, you'll be the Blame for the whole incident. Go figure.

I wouldn't want that kind of person for a friend.

[My Turn]

moondance wrote:

<quoted text>I wouldn't want that kind of person for a friend.

I'm just being honest. If you get involved with the wifeof a cheating husband or visa versa and they end up back together, you'll be the one they blame for all of their trouble. And you know it's the truth.

[NYB]

To Tell Or Not To Tell wrote:

Hey Everyone
I've got a problem. I was driving around McDowell the other day trying to find my 14yr old son and I see my best friends husband w/another woman. Now I know she has suspected him cheating for along time but she has never been able to catch him. So do I tell her and if so will she believe me or him? I don't want to lose her because she is a very very good friend of mine. At the same time I know how it goes when you take that chance and tell. I just need some feed back.

I would tell him that I saw him, and give him the option to tell her first. Did you not have a cell phone with camera?

[NYB]

guess I should have finished reading, huh?

[Marco]

To Tell Or Not To Tell wrote:

<quoted text>
I never said he was in a truck so how did you know.

Glad you caught that!!!!

[Marco]

Now POOPIE tell how you knew it was a TRUCK ???
The truth will set you free ????

[another burned woman]

may i ask wrote:

<quoted text>To answer your questions yes my husband can turn things around.He can look you in the eyes and tell you a lie and make you believe it.I even got him on tape talking to this woman.I played it back to him and he said it wasn't him he didn't know who it was she was talking to.I also had a child still at home but almost out of school.We are still together but he now knows he can no longer lie to me and get away with it.I also let him know i could get me someone else.I let the girl know she wasn't getting my home.

You know I have been cheated on for years by my husband would catch him and he would tell me he just had an addiction and that he loved me and wanted no one else but me , I forgave him and took him back, each time I did this for almost 8 years, we split up again several months ago and it was over another woman well now he is with another one in his past and he is telling me he is truly happy, I didnt realize it but I probably wasted my last few years hoping and thinking he would change. Well he even admits he cant change, the only thing that has given me some comfort during this is knowing that the girl he is with now, is screwing around on him right under his nose and he doesnt know it. Sure I could tell him, but why he wouldnt believe me. I think that in time he will realize it was his loss and it will probably be too late. Some men never change no matter how much we love them and do for them. So maybe you should cut your losses as soon as possible and move on. I am trying to do that right now...My marriage was on topix here for a long time and I didnt listen to things on here but now that I think back on things, even strangers cared more for me than my own husband did. The post hurt me because people called names and then downed us both. But you know what they say. The things that dont kill you will make you stronger and this is true

[Ped]

It is better to lose a friend by trying to help than to keep a friend by not helping them. I have given a lot of "big brother" advice that has not been taken well. But I know if it wasn't for my friends intervening in my life I would not have the success I have today.

The trick is not to be judgmental about the path she takes. Don't polarize to one side of the situation when she is angry. Because she will swing back and forth a lot. be an ear but tell her that you have not been in her shoes and seen what this man has given her or has not given her and that the decision is hers alone and no matter which way she decides you will be by her side and you will not talk about the matter with any one else.

[dingo]

i say tell her, she needs to know,,, why lie about it, tell it let the rest fall were it may.

[roderfield]

my wife cheated on me for a whole year before i found out everyone knew but me and nobody ever told me but i wish they had

[u know]

Guess you know who you frinds are, soom frinds