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#1 Jul 28, 2010
What should I do? Should I get a divorce? I am a 100% total disabled veteran who also receives Social Security disability payments. I have been married for 41 years. We have a son and daughter, both are married, the oldest is now forty years old.
My wife feels that half of all my disability payments belong to her. During our married I never could depend on her to work or to pay one bill. When she was self employed she kept all her money. She would not pay her taxes every quarter so I paid them when I was working 23 years ago. She feels what is hers, is her, what is mind is hers. She has told me a number of times that she didnt marry me to work.
My first point is a woman chooses the man that she wants to married for whatever reason, not the other way around. When I met my wife she was dating four other guys. These other boyfriends didnt have a job and some stayed with their mother. Out of that bunch I had a good paying job, a new car, new furniture and never had been married.
My second point is a woman has a certain type of man she wants to go to bed with, one that she truly loved but cant have and one that will provide for her. My wife never truly loved me from day one, but I was a good provider.
To make a long story short, now that I am headed toward the seventy year old bracket, unable to have sex, getting sicker by the year, she feels she earned more than halve of my disability payments in this married. She doesnt take proper care of me in my sicknesses. She screams and loud talked me every day. Sometimes she threatens me. She wants me to get her permission before I do anything. She wants me to ask her permission to eat food out of the kitchen, of which my disability payment paid for, etc.
In these forty one years, I could not depend on her for sex, help paying the bills, breakfast, lunch or dinner. If I divorce her she would not have Champva health insurance. After the judge give her half of my disability payments for support, we both will be living very poorly. Again, what should I do? Is it cheaper to keep her?
#2 Jul 28, 2010
yes dude in my eyes it would be cheaper 2 keep her cause then u dont loose half of everything u get now .
#3 Jul 29, 2010
get her for elderly abuse.....and then she wont get shit..woman like this are a joke...im a woman myself with kids and a husband and i bust my ass at my job....all i can say is she sounds like one hell of a lazy b**ch...
#4 Jul 30, 2010
This is just awful.You are being mistreated and abused. Are you on home health or anything? Get the state involved. There is a way to go about it and get rid of her and still have everything of yours. For health reasons for sure you don't need her around. There are lots of people that get paid to come in with you a few hours a day to take care of your needs.Remember to go about it the right way. She has nothing on you either. Let her scream all she wants at you when you leave and don't tell her where you are going or eat without asking. That is absolutely dumb, you are not a child. If she gets that angry let her pop you one, then get her arrested.
#5 Jul 30, 2010
If it took you 41 years to discover all these things at once, you really have to be disabled. Never paid a bill, that is one thing the judge will laugh about, it seems that if you continued for 41 years then you get no tears, especially from the legal system.
#6 Jul 30, 2010
Notify the States Attorney immediately.
You are a victim of elderly abuse.
This C*NT of a wife needs to explain herself in front of a judge.
YOU do not deserve this and YOU are the only one that can stop it from continuing.
#7 Jul 31, 2010
No no dont get states attorney!! Get her pissed off have her swing at you call cops then get an order of protection!!! Order o protection is what all rotten mothers who want their kids use. Just go out and cry in front of judge you will get one. With that she gets thrown out of house for two weeks. you get lawyer. I suggest go to Momence. A group of lawyers there can do anything you want. truthful or not.
#8 Jul 31, 2010
Abusive language or threatening a Senior is against the law. The catch here is how old is the wife, 41 years of marriage, make you think she is either close or is also a Senior. A friend of mine was divorced by his wife, one of the things the wife used was that she was never allowed to pay a bill.
#9 Jul 31, 2010
SOUNDS LIKE YOUR BEING MISTREATED WHICH YOU CAN DO SOMETHING ABOUT-GET A ORDER OF PROTECTION AGAINST HER-SHE WILL HAVE TO LEAVE-FOR 2 WEEKS THEN YOU GO BACK IN FRONT OF JUDGE AND YOU CAN GET A 2 YEAR ORDER THEN DIVORCE IF THAT'S WHAT YOU WANT, AND SHE IF SHE GET'S HALF YOU DISABILITY, YOU WILL STILL GET YOUR FULL CHECK, THEY CAN'T TAKE IT AWAY FROM YOU WHEN YOUR DISABLED. bY THE WHY WHERE ARE YOU FROM CAN LOOK ON COMPUTER TO FIND OUT WHAT YOUR RIGHTS ARE-CAN'T BELIEVE YOU STAYED THIS LONG IF SHE HAS BEEN KNOW HELP OR SUPPORT FOR TAKING CARE OF YOU-JUST NOT RIGHT-GET A BACKBONE AND GETTER DONE, AND I AM A WOMAN-YOU HAVE RIGHTS, AND SHE IS TAKING ADVANTAGE OF YOU!!!
#10 Jul 31, 2010
one more loady down the throaty and dump the nasty slut.
#11 Aug 2, 2010
Disabled Veterans NEED to know that THEIR Veterans' Disability Compensation is NOT to be used for marital property settlement for Alimony/Maintenance.
This goes against Federal Law (38 USC 5301), and in Ehlers v. Ehlers,(No. 97D-73) Illinois case law precedent, Wojcik v. Wojcik (No. 03-D-2709),
Du Page County, Illinois Plus MANY MORE States.
The wording of 5301(a) is Very clear and forbids 'attachment' of veterans' benefits under any legal process, including divorce court.
If a judge uses a veteran's VA Disability benefits to determine ability to pay alimony or spousal support, that judge has 'attached' to that veteran's benefits by calculation.
Disability benefits should belong solely to the person that has the disability and qualified for the benefits. Not an able body third party.(Meaning ex-wife or husband)
Nonassignability and exempt status of benefits Payments of benefits due or to become due under any law administered by the Secretary shall not be assignable except to the extent specifically authorized by law, and such payments made to, or on account of, a beneficiary shall be exempt from taxation, shall be exempt from the claim of creditors, and shall not be liable to attachment, levy, or seizure by or under any legal or equitable process whatever, either before or after receipt by the beneficiary.
Anyone can view this Federal Law by going to:
Or At Their Public Library Under Federal US Codes-Statutes.
Many Of Our Disabled Military Veterans Are Jailed In Contempt Of Court By Refusing To Pay Their Able Bodied Ex's Alimony/Spousal Support And Will Continue to do so UNTIL the County And State Judges Read And Learn OUR Federal US Codes-Statutes.
When it concerns our Past Military Disabled Veterans, and Our Disabled Military Men and Women, Returning Now From wars.....
Isn't it time to stand up for our Disabled Veterans?
Enough is Enough!
Do NOT Go Through The Iroquois County Divorce Court System. It is FULL Of Corrupt Judges Who Do NOT Follow Federal Law!!!
You NEED To Visit The 5301 CLUB And We Will Get You The Help You Need.
If You Are A Disabled Veteran Receiving Disablity Compensation From The VA (Veterans Affairs), And You Become Divorced, Make Sure That You Know Your Rights And Make Sure That Your Attorney Knows That Their Is A Federal Law That Protects Your Compensation.
If You Have Children That Are Of Child Support Age, Then You Must Take Care Of Your Children And Your Disability Compensation Can Be Used To Support Your Children, But Not To Your Ex Wife Or Husband.
Thank You And God Bless,
Proud Wife Of American 100% Disabled Veteran
#12 Aug 2, 2010
Do NOT Go Through The Iroquois County Divorce Court System. It is FULL Of Corrupt Judges Who Do NOT Follow Federal Law. You forgot Kankakee Will Everyone but Kane County
#13 Aug 3, 2010
I am not familiar with those 2 counties. But I Know For A Fact That Watseka is in Iroquois County And Those Judges Actually Believe They are god. They are a joke and should be removed from their benches and jailed.
To the guy asking if he should stay with her or divorce her.
IF you can and since your kids are on their own, LEAVE the State Of Illinois and move to a surrounding state. I live in Missouri and my husband was divorced in Watskea....And his divorce was through a VERY corrupt judge and a very coniving ex-wife who actually WORKED for the Court System. When my husbands atty requested the case be moved out of Iroquois County because of this conflict of interest the judge said No.
After 5 Years Of Fighting The Corrupt Watseka Court System the 5301 Club jumped in and took over.
They told my husband to NOT pay 1 more DIME to his ex-wife because His VA Disability Belonged to HIM and NOT To HER! SHE DID NOT EARN 1 PENNY OF IT Plus SHE WAS WORKING FULL TIME FOR THIS CORRUPT COUNTY!!!
If anyone reading this is going through this problem LEAVE THE STATE and Start enjoying your life!
#14 Aug 7, 2010
Can your heart and mind handle staying with her? Just because you happen to be a man doesn't give your wife the right to take everything from you and you get everything taken from you. Being married 4 or 40 years doesn't give her the right to suck you dry......How do your children feel about all this? I hope GOD will help you make the right choice and HE will if you ask GOD to show you what's the right thing to do. Good luck and I happen to be a woman on disabilty living without a man in my life cause they were takers not givers. You will in the end make your choice and I hope it's the right one for you but really why live in such pain? I will pray that GOD will help you
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