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“Like to talk”

Since: Mar 07

Waterloo, illinoia

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May 14, 2007
 
It is a shame that this happened to Jay, He was trying so hard to be a good father to his three girls, I saw first hand how much he loved them and devoted his time to making sure that they were ok.
Betty

Steeleville, IL

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May 18, 2007
 
I Have known Jay since High School and Jay was the best father he could be. He Loved those three girls and I truly believe that he would never want to hurt them in the way they are hurting now. I also know that Jay had a bad drug habit. It will be interesting to see the toxicology report. Regardless if the accident was from drugs or suicide (this very well my have been just an accident). But the 'old' (before drugs) Jay would want this used to teach the young people. He would want them to learn from this. Please dont think I am bad mouthing Jay. I always thought he a good person and I enjoyed being around him.
Chris Otten

Waterloo, IL

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May 18, 2007
 
Betty wrote:
I Have known Jay since High School and Jay was the best father he could be. He Loved those three girls and I truly believe that he would never want to hurt them in the way they are hurting now. I also know that Jay had a bad drug habit. It will be interesting to see the toxicology report. Regardless if the accident was from drugs or suicide (this very well my have been just an accident). But the 'old'(before drugs) Jay would want this used to teach the young people. He would want them to learn from this. Please dont think I am bad mouthing Jay. I always thought he a good person and I enjoyed being around him.
Betty.....you are bad mouthing Jay. There certainly are other possibilities to what happened.... like he could have FALLEN ASLEEP (not drug induced). If you think anything of him at all you could stop SPREADING RUMORS and generating chit-chat. The fact of the matter is you have NO IDEA if he had any kind of problem at all. I've seen him with his kids frequently (I live here in Waterloo, not Willisville) and he looked like a good Dad to me. So I highly doubt you are a "friend" of any sort with the accusations you posted. Would you want someone to post that about you???? Have some respect for his FAMILY..........
Jen and Art Rusteberg

Waterloo, IL

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May 19, 2007
 
We only had the pleasure of knowing Jay for about a year. Him and his girls live next door. And let me tell you about this man that we knew. Caring, gentle, strongwilling, outgoing, a wonderfull friend, devoting father, and a GREAT MAN are only the start about him. Jay loved those girls so very much, you could see it. We will never forget our friend. And girls, he is with you in your hearts. We love you, Jay.
See you later, buddy.
Kristen

Columbia, IL

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May 21, 2007
 
Betty wrote:
I Have known Jay since High School and Jay was the best father he could be. He Loved those three girls and I truly believe that he would never want to hurt them in the way they are hurting now. I also know that Jay had a bad drug habit. It will be interesting to see the toxicology report. Regardless if the accident was from drugs or suicide (this very well my have been just an accident). But the 'old'(before drugs) Jay would want this used to teach the young people. He would want them to learn from this. Please dont think I am bad mouthing Jay. I always thought he a good person and I enjoyed being around him.
Anyway you look at this Betty, is it is very sad for his family. He has 3 wonderful girls who lost their daddy. He adored his girls. This was a horrible accident. YOU, Betty, are bad mouthing Jay. There is no reason, to post something so negitive about someone after their untimely death. I am from Waterloo, and went to school with Jay. The point is now that we need to pray for his family, so God gives them the strength to get past hearing people, like yourself, talk nonsense about their daddy, son, or brother. God Bless the entire Henson family.
Betty

Steeleville, IL

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May 22, 2007
 

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Kristen I do live in waterloo. Born and raised there with many generations in waterloo. First of all I NEVER said anything about Jay being a Bad father. Jay was the best father he could be. And yes his girls adored him and he adored them. I live next to Jay for quite a while. I am not bad mouthing him or his family. You are right there could be many reasons why that accident happened. I would do anything to help those girls I can not imagine the pain they are going thru. I dont spread rumors I speak the truth. The Jay and his Wife both have a drug problem. All I am saying is Tabitha needs help (drup rehab or professional counseling) to raise those girls. Yes, we need to pray for them. Kristen, I am telling you, you dont know the situation like you think you do. I know Jay would want this horrible situation turned around and used for good. For the record..I dont live in willisville ...that is where my provider is....research the internet and learn how it works before you go and make yourself look stupid.
Betty

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May 22, 2007
 
Jen and Art Rusteberg wrote:
We only had the pleasure of knowing Jay for about a year. Him and his girls live next door. And let me tell you about this man that we knew. Caring, gentle, strongwilling, outgoing, a wonderfull friend, devoting father, and a GREAT MAN are only the start about him. Jay loved those girls so very much, you could see it. We will never forget our friend. And girls, he is with you in your hearts. We love you, Jay.
See you later, buddy.
Jay was all those things you have said about him. He was a great guy. He will be missed greatly!
Betty

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May 22, 2007
 
Chris Otten wrote:
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Betty.....you are bad mouthing Jay. There certainly are other possibilities to what happened.... like he could have FALLEN ASLEEP (not drug induced). If you think anything of him at all you could stop SPREADING RUMORS and generating chit-chat. The fact of the matter is you have NO IDEA if he had any kind of problem at all. I've seen him with his kids frequently (I live here in Waterloo, not Willisville) and he looked like a good Dad to me. So I highly doubt you are a "friend" of any sort with the accusations you posted. Would you want someone to post that about you???? Have some respect for his FAMILY..........
Chris I know you also, Shame on you otten.

“Like to talk”

Since: Mar 07

Waterloo, illinoia

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May 22, 2007
 
Betty,

First off if we want to have an adult conversation please post your last name. I am never to impressed with people who like to hide behind what they think is the private world of the internet. As you can see I have no problem letting everyone know exactly who I am. Everyone in life has issues some are known, some are hidden. I would just like to keep this civil in case one of the Henson family were to read this thread. My daughter is a friend to Jay's girls. I an a neighbor and have spoken to Tabitha and she understands the situation she is in and the responsibility that she must now shoulder alone. I think that the best thing that you can do if you know them is contact her and let her know that you will support in whatever way that you can. If you need help getting in contact with them please let me know and I will do what I can.

God bless for your concern for the girls and continued prayers.

“Like to talk”

Since: Mar 07

Waterloo, illinoia

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May 22, 2007
 
Chris Otten, I am not sure what Betty meant when she said shame on you but that was totaly out of line and I know that you can be the better person and not attack her here like I know you will want to.

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Kristen

Columbia, IL

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#12
May 22, 2007
 
Betty wrote:
Kristen I do live in waterloo. Born and raised there with many generations in waterloo. First of all I NEVER said anything about Jay being a Bad father. Jay was the best father he could be. And yes his girls adored him and he adored them. I live next to Jay for quite a while. I am not bad mouthing him or his family. You are right there could be many reasons why that accident happened. I would do anything to help those girls I can not imagine the pain they are going thru. I dont spread rumors I speak the truth. The Jay and his Wife both have a drug problem. All I am saying is Tabitha needs help (drup rehab or professional counseling) to raise those girls. Yes, we need to pray for them. Kristen, I am telling you, you dont know the situation like you think you do. I know Jay would want this horrible situation turned around and used for good. For the record..I dont live in willisville ...that is where my provider is....research the internet and learn how it works before you go and make yourself look stupid.
Betty, I did not say anything about were you live, if you need to reread my post. My main point is that when you post things such as you did its there forever, and I hate to have the children see things like that. That is all my comment was about. I just hate the fact that comments (even if the are true) can hurt the children. It may not hurt them today, but it could someday.
Kristen

Columbia, IL

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May 22, 2007
 
Eric Baker wrote:
Betty,
First off if we want to have an adult conversation please post your last name. I am never to impressed with people who like to hide behind what they think is the private world of the internet. As you can see I have no problem letting everyone know exactly who I am. Everyone in life has issues some are known, some are hidden. I would just like to keep this civil in case one of the Henson family were to read this thread. My daughter is a friend to Jay's girls. I an a neighbor and have spoken to Tabitha and she understands the situation she is in and the responsibility that she must now shoulder alone. I think that the best thing that you can do if you know them is contact her and let her know that you will support in whatever way that you can. If you need help getting in contact with them please let me know and I will do what I can.
God bless for your concern for the girls and continued prayers.
Could not have said it better myself!!! Do not remove my "tip" money again!! Guess I deserved it!! HaHa
carol walla

Waterloo, IL

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May 22, 2007
 
Betty: First, computers have spell check, you should research that and find out how to use it before you "make yourself look stupid" too. Second, you said you'd do anything to help those girls, well what you could do is not say horrible things about their father and mother that hundreds of people, including Jay's own kids could read. What you said is a cause of more pain to his loved ones. I hope nobody ever tells YOUR son about some of the things you've done. Jay has been a very close friend of my family as long as I can remember and our daughters are good friends so I know Jay and my friend Tabitha very well and what you said is wrong and so uncalled for. This family is grieving over the loss of a DADDY HUSBAND BROTHER SON and FRIEND. I pray for the Henson family that God gives them the strength to get thru this. Jay will be SADLY missed by everyone who knew and loved him.
carol walla

Waterloo, IL

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May 22, 2007
 
And Betty as far as your comment, that it would be interesting to see the toxicology report, your sick. Who cares about that at this point? We, as his friends and his family want to remember the good things about this man, and there are alot to remember, please for the sake of his children, keep your negitivity and your ignorance of this horrible situation to yourself.
Kristen

Columbia, IL

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May 22, 2007
 
carol walla wrote:
And Betty as far as your comment, that it would be interesting to see the toxicology report, your sick. Who cares about that at this point? We, as his friends and his family want to remember the good things about this man, and there are alot to remember, please for the sake of his children, keep your negitivity and your ignorance of this horrible situation to yourself.
Carol, those are my same feelings!!! I didn't want to sound snotty, but I believe we need to watch what we say in the internet, because it is here forever. I believe, like you that we need to be positive. Everyone has their own set of problems. I, for one, know first hand how childlen can be hurt by words they hear from adults. I knew Jay well years ago, along with his family. I am sorry for your loss. My prayers are with his family, and for his dear friends. Take care of eachother.
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May 22, 2007
 
Carol, I couldn't have said it better myself. If this person knew Jay the way she says she does' she would know that he would have never wanted what she said, put where it could cause pain to the people he loved. And that's what she's done. Losing Jay is hurting so bad it's unreal. Some people don't understand true love!!
Whoa

Smithton, IL

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#18
May 23, 2007
 
This is supposed to be for people to express their sorrow about a father who lost his life and isn't here to defend himself.

Eric, I think the starter of the forum can remove the forum. Maybe you should just delete it. If I where those girls I wouldn't want the stuff that has been said on here about Jay and Tabitha on the internet whether it is true or not.
shame on betty

Waterloo, IL

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#19
May 23, 2007
 
I am so sorry to the Henson family for their tragic loss. And I am also sorry for any of them that had to read what some idiot named betty wrote. I know his daughters will be loved and reminded how much their father loved them for the rest of their life. Carol, I agree with you 100%. I have also known you since you moved to this town when we were 13 and I hope you find this betty and teach her a little respect.
Chris Otten

Waterloo, IL

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May 23, 2007
 
Eric Baker wrote:
Chris Otten, I am not sure what Betty meant when she said shame on you but that was totaly out of line and I know that you can be the better person and not attack her here like I know you will want to.
Eric
Eric.... I agree with you on "no re-attack" (it would only make things worse). I said all I needed to in my 1st reply. Can the forum be removed and a nice one started like Whoa suggested? If so could you please remove it? I don't want anyone else to read this craziness. I would enjoy participating in a forum where we can all talk like adults,leave our real names and words of inspiration and laughter for those we care about. Take care...

Chris

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Since: Mar 07

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May 23, 2007
 
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