friends who turn their back on you
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“Purple girl in a purple world”

Since: Apr 08

Plum, Purplonia

#90 Sep 22, 2011
his child wrote:
Can someone tell me why people who you think are your friends turn their back on you. I thought that I had some friends in NC while I lived there, but when I moved away and changed my lifestyle, they completely wiped me off their friends list. I am still the same person I was then, I just don't don't have the same nasty habits.
Apparently, they were never your friends. They just liked what you did. Now that you have nothing in common with them, they don't want anything to do with you. If I were you, I'd be glad they are out of my life.

This is often human nature. If one person in a relationship improves and another doesn't want to, the one still in the rut will either try to sabotage that person's success or push them out of their lives. In a romantic situation, if the woman improves herself and isn't needy, the man feels threatened. Sometimes when one evolves in their life, the other will follow after a while, and a lot of times they won't.
Big Jack

Stanley, NC

#91 Oct 3, 2011
Just give them long enough man will let you down everytime! Jesus first and my pet second, they can be trusted!!!!!!
Niceguysfinishla st

Garden City, MI

#92 Oct 9, 2011
If one of ur close friends is insulting u when ur not around, n u no he is just trying 2 crack a joke about u n didnt mean any harm by it...should I be pissed, cuz I sure am...i would never make fun of him if he wasnt around, breaking ur friends balls is ok, only when they r there to hear it but I feel its not cool when ur not there to defend urself...am I just overreacting?
Karabo

United States

#93 Dec 20, 2011
You knw what the are mn pple that their frnds thy trstd who letted thm down smof thy are making jks abt u and they do nt wnt to si u anymore after eating ur money and destroying ur lf but bro or sis the is hp that hp is the Lord Jesus christ who died for me and u sis bro its nt yet over until God sayz so God bls
Karabo

United States

#94 Dec 20, 2011
My friend we have Jesus on our side he is always waiting for us to repent
georg G

Europe

#95 Jan 15, 2012
For me the case was much worse.Every single person who i thought was my friend turned their back on me when they knew i had social anxiety disorder.it has been a really tough journey for me bt i am on my way to recovery and letting go of the past.You should first forgive people make yourself a better person,when they see a change in you they will want to be part of you again,let go of them and dont hold grudges and walk with weights.As for me i'm still struggling with my disorder though i have made very important steps,ive made new friends and the future looks bright
Gold Digger Diamond

Gastonia, NC

#96 Jan 16, 2012
I will sucker your husband in, I can believe me!! A real looker, taking your husband and money, maybe everything. It's a great game and has made me wealthy.
TwentyTwelve

Peakhurst, Australia

#97 Mar 11, 2012
Im 28years old and i thought the games would all be over... but it doesn't. It doesn't get any easier but you suck it up and just live. You will end up learning so much more about yourself. You have to remember that the battle isn't between them and you - the battle is between yourself. Don't waste so much time dwelling on these 'friends'. Focus on yourself.

The problem with women is that we are highly competitive... Don't give in to their games. It isn't a game if there is only one person playing.
Pissed

United States

#100 Oct 3, 2012
Sometimes people that you trust betray you. It's the shit life.
lady N

South Africa

#106 Dec 30, 2012
I had a friend I thought she's everything to me.she use to come n spend time at my place when she had no money for transport I will allow her to stay at my place we did everything together but now she turned against me and making me a bad person while I was the one who was helping her. I don't know what to do but I think I'm better off withouth her though I'm hurting cos I dnt knw what I did to her
person

Utica, MI

#107 Mar 7, 2013
my use to be best friend turned her back on me.she listened to this other girl and changed her personality.then her monkey laughing leader started talking about everyone.she even had a chart.now back on the track.she ruined our friendship.the day that really hurt me is when she called me stupid.she asked me to say my name in 3 seconds but i didn't hear her.1,2,3 she said.then the girl and her laughed and said that i am so dumb i cant say my name.that's when it started.i gave her like a million chances and she let them down.weeks and weeks later i told her.and that was today march 7.i told her and her monkey laughing friend. it felt good.but one thing shes so dumb.she stared at me like she did nothing *0 well hats my story hope it helps
BrokenWisdom

Ottawa, Canada

#108 Apr 10, 2013
I recently found out a 'friend' of ours has narcissistic personality disorder. I am furious that this person has and still tries to manipulate me! Now, he's my husband's friend and is part of our group of friends so I can't go NC on him. I wish I could. My problem isn't just dealing with him unfortunately, it's our other friends as well. I've told 2 others that he has NPD and they don't seem to believe me, it's like they think I'm making it up or exaggerating the 'facts' I've read. And every time I say something about him that doesn't seem to depict him in a 'good light' they all jump to his defense or worse, down my throat. Either they argue with me that what I'm saying is just not true, try to justify his horrible behavior, or simply say that I 'have it in' for him! I can't even express myself with anyone because they won't listen, my own husband had started doing this as well! I am at my wits end, I just don't know how to handle the situation anymore. I'm made to feel like I can't say anything without people getting mad at me. I feel so alone.:(
Niallsprincess

Damascus, MD

#109 Apr 21, 2013
At the beginning of this year I met this girl in one of my classes and i thought she was cool and funny and well a good person to be friends with. I really admired her. I became friends with her later on. We were both really close and we laughed all the time!! Then she started not talking to me as much. And spending more time with her other friends. And believe me that's fine with me she is totally allowed to have other friends than me. I completely understand!!!! But then she began coming up with inside jokes with her other group of friends and laughing about them in front of my face. I felt really left out. It hurt!!! Then I began realizing she would only be friendly with me sometimes and act like she didnt notice me around her friends. I would try talking to me and she would ignore me. Other times she would talk to me and be friendly and act nice around me. She is just taking it too far. She is a 2 sided friend. There is nothing I can do about it. I thought it through and i decided I will not consider her a true friend anymore and I will move on and I WILL NOT SHED A TEAR because of something as small as our friendship.
Anonymous

Lawndale, CA

#110 Jan 8, 2015
his child wrote:
Can someone tell me why people who you think are your friends turn their back on you. I thought that I had some friends in NC while I lived there, but when I moved away and changed my lifestyle, they completely wiped me off their friends list. I am still the same person I was then, I just don't don't have the same nasty habits.
You answered your own question. You changed your lifestyle and no longer have the same nasty habits. These "friends" now realize that they no longer have anything in common with you. Consider this a good thing, make better friends and move on. Most times the people who become part of our past become part of our past for a good reason.
Possible Answer

High Point, NC

#111 Feb 3, 2015
his child wrote:
Can someone tell me why people who you think are your friends turn their back on you. I thought that I had some friends in NC while I lived there, but when I moved away and changed my lifestyle, they completely wiped me off their friends list. I am still the same person I was then, I just don't don't have the same nasty habits.
That is how most of us White people are. Once someone moves on, we tend to let them go if they are not a part of our primary clique. If you move away from an apartment complex, most there will not have anything to do with you in any other context, since you're irrelevant to them.

As for habits and all, well, most White folks want only friends who had the morals, brains, and obedience to parents to never do whatever in the first place. We are all born with a sense of right and wrong, and it is wrong to do wrong in the first place if you know it is wrong.

All that said, I feel for you, and I hope your find sincere friends who won't judge you nor throw up the past.
Possible Answer

High Point, NC

#112 Feb 3, 2015
BrokenWisdom wrote:
I recently found out a 'friend' of ours has narcissistic personality disorder. I am furious that this person has and still tries to manipulate me! Now, he's my husband's friend and is part of our group of friends so I can't go NC on him. I wish I could. My problem isn't just dealing with him unfortunately, it's our other friends as well. I've told 2 others that he has NPD and they don't seem to believe me, it's like they think I'm making it up or exaggerating the 'facts' I've read. And every time I say something about him that doesn't seem to depict him in a 'good light' they all jump to his defense or worse, down my throat. Either they argue with me that what I'm saying is just not true, try to justify his horrible behavior, or simply say that I 'have it in' for him! I can't even express myself with anyone because they won't listen, my own husband had started doing this as well! I am at my wits end, I just don't know how to handle the situation anymore. I'm made to feel like I can't say anything without people getting mad at me. I feel so alone.:(
Narcissists can be master manipulators. The malignant ones often have sociopathic tendencies and artificial charm.

Maybe it is time you divorce for your sake and choose new friends. At the least, meditate and look inward or to God for peace, and find a spiritual crowd.

I know of dirty tricks you could try, but I won't give them. You could try to get incontrovertible evidence of things, and if it is criminal, go to the authorities. And try to get evidence of any gas-lighting attempts he tries with you.

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