cheating- please read and give me you...
Evensteven

Cadiz, KY

#21 Feb 19, 2013
while cheating on a spouse is bad its not the worse thing that could happen and probably was not the first wrong in this relationship. Remember if you don't feed your dog at home he'll find some where else to eat.
My two cents

Marcus Hook, PA

#22 Feb 19, 2013
My ex husband cheated on me . Nobody told me, and to this day I resent his family for not informing me. I found out the hard way, by running into her face to face. We split up, and I do believe they persued a relationship. But now a couple years later me and him are reconsiling. Regardless of what you decide to do, true love always prevails!
oh my

Elizabethtown, KY

#23 Feb 20, 2013
ditto wrote:
<quoted text>Lmao! As I was reading this I also wondered if Joy was at it again! Karma has to catch up eventually to all the Joy's of the world.
she will always be at it. Her husband has to be insane to even want to be near her. She's nasty. Lazy fat and worthless. Karma will get her. Her fairy tale life will be shattered. Hopefully soon. A home wrecker like her does not deserve to be happy. Look out. She's on the prowl!!
Hot Mama

Elizabethtown, KY

#24 Feb 20, 2013
oh my wrote:
Would this home wreckers name happen to be joy Reynolds? This is her lifes story. Having affairs with married men then acting like an innocent victim.
Im glad you still think about me. You never will grow up and act like the wife you were suppose to be. Dont make me put your name on here again. Ive moved on and your "suppose" to be happy with you husband who you took back after EVERYTHING. So be happy with him amd stop worring about what and who im doing.
oh my

United States

#25 Feb 20, 2013
Hot Mama wrote:
<quoted text>Im glad you still think about me. You never will grow up and act like the wife you were suppose to be. Dont make me put your name on here again. Ive moved on and your "suppose" to be happy with you husband who you took back after EVERYTHING. So be happy with him amd stop worring about what and who im doing.
hot momma I hate to tell you but I've never been married. I will put my name on here for you if you want. It's Kim. I have a friend thats marriage was destroyed by your nasty ass. If my man had ever been with the likes of you, he wouldn't be my man anymore. I have higher standards than that. So post all you want. I have nothing for you to tell. Maybe you should think about how many people you have pissed off before you start assumming. And by the way my friend never took her husband back. She's doing fine with her new man.
bad idea

Hodgenville, KY

#26 Feb 21, 2013
The P.I. doesn't sound very professional, I don't think it is the right suggestion on his part to tell the woman's husband. Go on with your divorce, the mistress and her husband will have their day too.
Nail em

United States

#27 Feb 21, 2013
Give em all the proof and if that woman bothers you nail her too. Take everything he has, I did, it feels great!!!!!Getting rid og that cheater opened my life up to a beautiful man that loves me. Go for it!!!!
Jeff

Elizabethtown, KY

#28 Feb 21, 2013
My wife has recently cheated on me. If i had someone to tell me everything before I had to find out myself it would of saved alot of drama and heartache.
Theres your fries

Marcus Hook, PA

#29 Feb 21, 2013
Is this person related to Tommy Minton? Cause he is the master of cheating, lies, and deception.
Home wreckers

Elizabethtown, KY

#30 Feb 22, 2013
Homewreckers will burn in hell. Hope their little bit of excitement of taking someone else's spouse is worth a eternity in hell.

“Turn your ****ing brain on”

Since: Feb 11

Elizabethtown, KY

#31 Feb 22, 2013
Home wreckers wrote:
Homewreckers will burn in hell. Hope their little bit of excitement of taking someone else's spouse is worth a eternity in hell.
Religotards. Don't you just love 'em?

Er, no.

Since: Feb 13

Location hidden

#32 Feb 23, 2013
Hello wrote:
I'd tell the husband, I am sure it's not her first time having an affair.
Does her name start with a D?
No her name starts with a T.

Since: Feb 13

Location hidden

#33 Feb 23, 2013
ditto wrote:
<quoted text>
Lmao! As I was reading this I also wondered if Joy was at it again! Karma has to catch up eventually to all the Joy's of the world.
I don't know who joy is but I am not talking about her. Lol

Since: Feb 13

Location hidden

#34 Feb 23, 2013
Thanks to everyone that took the time to put up something helpful. I know it is sad to have to ask people that you don't even know, but I just wanted someone's opinion that was not dealing with it first hand. I still do not know for sure what to do, but I am so great foul for all your help. Thank you.

“Turn your ****ing brain on”

Since: Feb 11

Elizabethtown, KY

#35 Feb 23, 2013
The main reason that I think you shouldn't go forcing your proof to the husband is that you've already told him you have proof. He knows you're going through a divorce. That's a pretty massive indication that his wife has been cheating. As far as we know he's decided to buy her lies. You don't really want to start trying to make him see the light when he wants to sit in darkness.

You're going through enough right now. You don't need to worry about him in the slightest. You should just worry about making the best out of your situation that you can. And I don't think that includes taking any form of revenge on your husband or the woman he's cheating with. I'm not saying you are doing that, but that will be the accusation that they will come up with.

If he wanted the proof, he'd be coming to you to get the proof. I personally think he's trying to save his marriage by staying ignorant. Leave him to his ignorance. You've done enough already.

Where do I think this is going? I think that your husband will keep messing around with her in secret. Her husband will stupidly ignore that his wife is messing around on him. He'll stay in ignorance until one day she's packed her bags and left him, or even worse she'll kick him out and your husband will move in. Then he'll whine about being the last to know his wife was cheating on him. But the truth is he's known all along but he just wanted to try and keep her by accepting all her lies without question.

Don't involve yourself in their drama. You've got enough to deal with on your own. Look after yourself, but try and make your divorce as fair and amicable as possible. Don't try to screw him in the divorce as a final way of getting back at him.

“Turn your ****ing brain on”

Since: Feb 11

Elizabethtown, KY

#36 Feb 23, 2013
My two cents wrote:
My ex husband cheated on me . Nobody told me, and to this day I resent his family for not informing me. I found out the hard way, by running into her face to face. We split up, and I do believe they persued a relationship. But now a couple years later me and him are reconsiling. Regardless of what you decide to do, true love always prevails!
You blame his family for not telling you he was cheating, but you're forgiving him for cheating on you and are getting back with him - because yours is "true love".

His family didn't make vows to you, your husband did. The unwritten rules are that blood family stand by each other through everything. It's not up to his family to protect you from him. They will always side with him, unless he is doing something totally unacceptable like beating you up.

You are a good argument for staying out of other people's drama. Just imagine one of his family had told you he was cheating. You'd confront your husband, he would deny it and then never forgive his family member. And now you'd be getting back together because you believe it was true love after all. The family member who told you will never be forgiven, so it's him or her who is the bad guy and not your cheating husband.

Since: Feb 13

Location hidden

#37 Feb 24, 2013
Hot Mama wrote:
<quoted text>
Im glad you still think about me. You never will grow up and act like the wife you were suppose to be. Dont make me put your name on here again. Ive moved on and your "suppose" to be happy with you husband who you took back after EVERYTHING. So be happy with him amd stop worring about what and who im doing.
Wrong person hot mama. I don't believe I know you.
Hot Mama

Elizabethtown, KY

#38 Feb 24, 2013
Sweetheart420 wrote:
<quoted text>
Wrong person hot mama. I don't believe I know you.
Its ok. If I ever met your husband you would know me then. All these old women hate on me cus I stole their o. Men for a couple hours. Some for a cocouple weeks amd the sad part is some of them took them back evwn after they learned the truth about us and the truth about their past! But hey not my loss. I get what I want when I want it. I didnt force them into my bed. They crawled into it theirself cua they wasnt happy at home.
kim again

Elizabethtown, KY

#39 Feb 24, 2013
Hot Mama wrote:
<quoted text>Its ok. If I ever met your husband you would know me then. All these old women hate on me cus I stole their o. Men for a couple hours. Some for a cocouple weeks amd the sad part is some of them took them back evwn after they learned the truth about us and the truth about their past! But hey not my loss. I get what I want when I want it. I didnt force them into my bed. They crawled into it theirself cua they wasnt happy at home.
crawled back out due to the stink they found there from the man before him. Nasty just nasty. You are pretty old yourself. No young chicken. All those men left ashamed to be with the likes of you. Heard they were all trying to get their money and property you conned them out of. You are such a low class bitch that no body will ever really want you. That's why they always leave you. You are NASTY. You will be a lonesome old lady and boy is it deserving. I thought you would drop it but you just can't keep your big mouth shut. Just shows how sorry you are. You probably are the home wrecker that this was started about. Bet your husband left you along time ago nobody wants you!!!!
Lady Hawk

Greensburg, KY

#40 Feb 24, 2013
In the know wrote:
As a husband who has been cheated on, I'd want to know. If he doesn't know that his wife was cheating with your ex, he should. If he chooses to stay with her after that, then so be it as it is his choice.
I know for me, someone I thought was a good friend knew of what my wife was up to and they did not come tell me. I will never forgive my "friend" for that. I would want to know.
So I say TELL HIM!!
I agree wholeheartedly with your opinion.

It must be heartbreaking to deal with the devastation that comes from cheating. I can only speak for myself & I know that betrayal comes in more forms than cheating with another person. My spouse created a lie out of thin air. He was apparently afraid I was thinking of getting out so what does he do? He concocts this outlandish accusation about me. Under the guise of him caring, Right. Only its wrong!! and even though my relatives know me, they leaned heavily toward what he claimed. an absolute LIE created out of thin air.

I proved myself but few know that I did! Those who do see him as the sociopath he truly is know & understand what he did. I am in a situation where I'm damned if I do and I'm damned if I don't.

Problem is, I loved my husband with every single fiber of my being. He is incapable of loving back because he is a true narcissist sociopath. They are not capable of loving someone. Sadly so!
So, I find myself in a situation where I know I need to leave but as yet I haven't.

Thing is, I'm perfectly ok ok with being single, I was single 18 yrs before I said I said I do to this "incapable of love" human being.

I can say that I know no amount of wishful thinking will result in this type of person being able to feel for anyone other than themselves. They are absolutely incapable of feeling any emotion een remotely close to loving feelings.

I'm screwed and I know it. I just have to decide what is my best course of action to get on with my life and leave this "pretender" behind.

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