Why do men have sex with other women

Why do men have sex with other women

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Sad Wife

Douglasville, GA

#1 Oct 5, 2011
I ask the question because I sincerely want to know. Is it something biological or have today's men just lost all ability to control themselves.

I know it's not just me or just my husband. I get hit on by other women's husbands. I caught my husband red handed making a pass at another woman. Most of my friends have the same issue and either ignore it or get a divorce.

Is there anything that can be done or should I just accept the fact that men run around.

Since: Jun 07

D'ville, GA

#2 Oct 5, 2011
I love my wife with all my heart and wouldn't ever do anything to hurt her or damage our relationship. That's just me and I can't speak for other men.

Since: Mar 11

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#3 Oct 5, 2011
I have some question before I give an answer either way.
1.How old are you in your husband.

2.How long have you been married and are there any kids involved

3.How often do you and your husband have sex(sorry I know a little personal but there is a point I promise)

4.What do you mean pass? There is a different between coming on to a woman with the intent to have an affair and harmless flirting.

Since: Feb 08

Douglasville, Georgia

#4 Oct 5, 2011
NYC718 wrote:
I have some question before I give an answer either way.
1.How old are you in your husband.
2.How long have you been married and are there any kids involved
3.How often do you and your husband have sex(sorry I know a little personal but there is a point I promise)
4.What do you mean pass? There is a different between coming on to a woman with the intent to have an affair and harmless flirting.
Yes, question 3. is a little personal. I'm assuming you are going to go down the road that perhaps the wife isn't giving up the goods as often as she should and therefore the husband's eye wanders.

I hope that's not where you are going.

However, if I knew my Mister had a wondering eye I'd be less inclined to have sex with him because I would have no idea where he had been, and I'm not into sharing things if you know what I mean.
bored monitor

Athens, GA

#5 Oct 5, 2011
Isn't it better than having sex with other men? Not that there's anything wrong with that (Seinfeld).

Sorry, couldn't resist.

“Yet another average white man.”

Since: Jun 11

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#6 Oct 5, 2011
Men cheat because they know they will be dead sooner than their wives and fear they can't get permission to enjoy their last days/years in sexual bliss. I'm not suggesting that sexual bliss is not possible with their wife, but that does seem to be a the prevailing complaint. Most of the guys I have ever known who cheated did so for sexual reasons that usually involved their wife saying NO far more often than saying yes. Just as often that NO is followed with the suggesting that he's some kind of pervert for even asking. With that in mind, there are only a couple of options, become a monk, take a job in Antarctica or meet a woman who doesn't think sex is a perversion or violation of her personal space.

I personally would never cheat on my wife. Aside from the fact she'd ice pick me in my sleep, I happen to like having someone else to hold the camcorder!
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Wife of Grob

Duluth, GA

#7 Oct 5, 2011
No dear, I wouldn't leave any evidence. It wouldn't be an ice pick ;)
LYL

Since: Jan 10

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#8 Oct 5, 2011
This subject is probably better discussed with a professional therapist or clergy person, IMHO.

That being said, I seem to recall having a class in college (a long time ago in a galaxy far, far away) in which we learned that men are "wired" differently from millions of years (sorry to those that believe the world is 5,000 years old) of wanting to procreate to continue to increase the number in the tribe or some similar reason.

My view: "I have filet at home, why would I mess with hamburger away from home?"

BTW: Note I didn't ask if the OP was hot...

Since: Mar 11

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#9 Oct 5, 2011
elementaryhistoryteacher wrote:
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Yes, question 3. is a little personal. I'm assuming you are going to go down the road that perhaps the wife isn't giving up the goods as often as she should and therefore the husband's eye wanders.
I hope that's not where you are going.
However, if I knew my Mister had a wondering eye I'd be less inclined to have sex with him because I would have no idea where he had been, and I'm not into sharing things if you know what I mean.
Yes #3 is personal but she did ask a very personal question. And yes unfortunately that is where I am going. I have had this conversation with many men and I'm sorry to say that is always the #1 answer. I'm in no way saying that gives the man the right to cheat, but her question was why. It may not be a good reason but it is a reason that 8 out of 10 cheating men will give. Sorry but if you going to ask the hard question you need to be prepare to hear the hard answer. Also as you see that was #3 not #1.#1 was how old they was I notice age have a lot to do with a man or woman for that matter ability to truly commit.

P.S I'm not into sharing either and my mister wouldn't even be my mister for me to have to worry about having sex with him.

Since: Feb 08

Douglasville, Georgia

#10 Oct 5, 2011
NYC718 wrote:
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Yes #3 is personal but she did ask a very personal question. And yes unfortunately that is where I am going. I have had this conversation with many men and I'm sorry to say that is always the #1 answer. I'm in no way saying that gives the man the right to cheat, but her question was why. It may not be a good reason but it is a reason that 8 out of 10 cheating men will give. Sorry but if you going to ask the hard question you need to be prepare to hear the hard answer. Also as you see that was #3 not #1.#1 was how old they was I notice age have a lot to do with a man or woman for that matter ability to truly commit.
P.S I'm not into sharing either and my mister wouldn't even be my mister for me to have to worry about having sex with him.
Yes, it does seem so many men do seem to use "not enough" excuse as a way to justify their actions. However, there are has to be other issues going on in a marriage if a wife feels like she has to perform more often than what is comfortable for her or do things she doesn't want to do just to keep her man from straying.

Since: Mar 11

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#11 Oct 5, 2011
elementaryhistoryteacher wrote:
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Yes, it does seem so many men do seem to use "not enough" excuse as a way to justify their actions. However, there are has to be other issues going on in a marriage if a wife feels like she has to perform more often than what is comfortable for her or do things she doesn't want to do just to keep her man from straying.
Yes that is true and that is the hard answer men have to hear. If your wife always say no to sex then maybe you just don't do it for her. I don't know to many people they always turn down great sex. Also in marriage you have to compromise. If your husband like having sex 3 times a week and you like have sex 3 times a month thats a big difference and you both need to sit and talk about how you can meet some where in the middle.

We still have to consider that her and her husband could be in they early twenty. In which case in my opinion changes everything.

“Yet another average white man.”

Since: Jun 11

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#12 Oct 5, 2011
Wife of Grob wrote:
No dear, I wouldn't leave any evidence. It wouldn't be an ice pick ;)
LYL

You're just trying to turn me on again. Ok, I'll bite, what will you use on me? And does it require ropes, batteries or baby oil?

Oh, and can I bring a friend?
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mmm15937

Powder Springs, GA

#13 Oct 5, 2011
In my opinion the women are out cheating more than the men now days.
mmm15937

Powder Springs, GA

#14 Oct 5, 2011
I forgot to write I think question 3 is a very valid question.

“Unions are still scum ”

Since: Dec 07

Atlanta

#15 Oct 6, 2011
Sad Wife wrote:
Is it something biological
Yes. That is something wired into a mans brain since the dawn of time. Just take a buck during rut, he will attempt to have sex with every doe he can find. We just have the ability to control or not control our behavior. It really is that simple.
Zero

Woodstock, GA

#16 Oct 6, 2011
I am a divorced man, and I can tell you for a fact that now a days women are more likely to cheat then men... its to the point where it has become a turn off to me, now I find myself looking for the ones that WONT sleep with you within the first few hours.
My point is, it goes both ways sad wife.
BIG bob

Tempe, AZ

#17 Oct 6, 2011
Zero wrote:
I am a divorced man, and I can tell you for a fact that now a days women are more likely to cheat then men... its to the point where it has become a turn off to me, now I find myself looking for the ones that WONT sleep with you within the first few hours.
My point is, it goes both ways sad wife.
I agree from another divorced man.I have slept with severl wives of other guys over the last 3 years of divorce.These women will meet you anywhere, take off work, meet you at diner,anything to get some strange meat.
byron camp

Whitesburg, GA

#18 Oct 6, 2011
a piece of ass is like a glass of water.You can stick your finger in it and 10 minutes later you can not tell if a finger has been in it or not.Whats wrong with people sleeping around?WHats it possibly hurting other than someone is mad that someone else got a piece ass and they didnt?Marriage is nothing more than a legal process for the woman to take what she wants if something goes wrong.Suppose the woman finds a better lay and wants to leave.She still gets what she wants from the marriage, so whats it hurting???Get out there and stir up some fun, it keeps you young.A man is like a dog, if he is getting what he wants at home, he will not go next door and eat from the neighbors bowl.

Since: Jan 10

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#19 Oct 6, 2011
byron camp wrote:
a piece of ass is like a glass of water.You can stick your finger in it and 10 minutes later you can not tell if a finger has been in it or not.Whats wrong with people sleeping around?WHats it possibly hurting other than someone is mad that someone else got a piece ass and they didnt?Marriage is nothing more than a legal process for the woman to take what she wants if something goes wrong.Suppose the woman finds a better lay and wants to leave.She still gets what she wants from the marriage, so whats it hurting???Get out there and stir up some fun, it keeps you young.A man is like a dog, if he is getting what he wants at home, he will not go next door and eat from the neighbors bowl.
And just how many times have you been married, if any at all?
Sad Wife

Douglasville, GA

#20 Oct 6, 2011
This is my 3rd marriage - his 2nd. I have never cheated on him. However, I did have an affair in my first marriage that he knows about.(the marriage had been over for a while, we were both just hanging in for the kids.)

We are in our 40s. I really love him but I don't know if I can tolerate his straying. But I look around and I see all of these other couples that are supposedly "happy" and then at the dinner party their husbands are hitting on me. I didn't focus on it too much until I found out my husband was hitting on someone else.

I guess what I'm wondering is whether I should keep looking for the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow or accept that this is as good as it gets.

BTW, we used to have sex all the time. I mean probably 5 or 6 times per week. Obviously, that's changed since I found out what I found out.

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