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curious

United States

#1 Sep 23, 2009
anyone know him or if he is still in shep?
Shepherdsville Lady

United States

#2 Sep 24, 2009
if he is the same one I know, mother's name is Debbie, he is in Shepherdsville
curious

United States

#3 Sep 29, 2009
Do you know him?
Shepherdsville Lady

United States

#4 Sep 29, 2009
Yes I do.
curious

United States

#5 Sep 30, 2009
i am an ex girlfriend from many many years ago and married but just wanted to know if he is okay and staying out of trouble...
Shepherdsville Lady

United States

#6 Sep 30, 2009
He is doing well now, he has a son now. he got in some trouble but I believe he has turned his life around. I have known him since he was 5.
curious

United States

#7 Sep 30, 2009
good to know i always thought that i would end up marrying him (many years ago) even though we parted ways i still often think of him and wonder how he is. i work close to where his dad is from and i guess it makes me think of him more often. are you a family friend?
Shepherdsville Lady

United States

#8 Oct 1, 2009
I am friends with his step brother,Chris, but I used to babysit TJ and his twin sisters.
curious

United States

#9 Oct 1, 2009
Thanks for the info...i really appreciate it.
Shepherdsville Lady

United States

#10 Oct 2, 2009
no problem, have a great day!
whatadouche

Shepherdsville, KY

#11 Sep 14, 2010
tj is a piece of shit drunk! he beats his wife (Dessa Avis) and he drinks ALL the time! he's horribly mean to his wife and his son (CJ).... he lives in a dump in Lebanon Junction... he ditches his wife all the time to be with his best friend (and even possibly gay lover) Michael keith. everytime michael gets a gf tj starts a bunch of drama to run her off... he wants michael all to himself. so anyone who disagrees with that is full of shit and must not really know him.
i kno

United States

#12 Sep 15, 2010
whatadouche wrote:
tj is a piece of shit drunk! he beats his wife (Dessa Avis) and he drinks ALL the time! he's horribly mean to his wife and his son (CJ).... he lives in a dump in Lebanon Junction... he ditches his wife all the time to be with his best friend (and even possibly gay lover) Michael keith. everytime michael gets a gf tj starts a bunch of drama to run her off... he wants michael all to himself. so anyone who disagrees with that is full of shit and must not really know him.
he has had a drinking problem since his teen years...And putting your hands on anyone is totally uncalled for. But in defense for T.J. I have known him for many many years. Not 4 or 5 but for more like 22 years. He did not have a good childhood at all. He was physically abused as a child. I know this for a fact. He always had a good heart but was led down the wrong path by many in his life. I wish he would get some help, and take care of his problems. Its sad to hear that this is what he has turned in to but when you are shown a way and its all that you know, then do they really know better? Sounds like he needs some help. I once loved him very, very much. First love. Just hate to hear it. Your life doesnt always have to turn out the way, All he ever needed was love and compassion, which he never got from anyone in his family.
i kno

United States

#13 Sep 15, 2010
T.J has always hung around with Michael Keith! They have been friends for many years. I dont know about the gay part but they have always been buddies!
whatadouche

Shepherdsville, KY

#14 Sep 15, 2010
i kno wrote:
T.J has always hung around with Michael Keith! They have been friends for many years. I dont know about the gay part but they have always been buddies!
just because a person goes through a bad childhood does not mean they get to use that as an excuse to beat his wife and be a bad person. there's no reason for that. i know all kinds of people who have had bad childhoods and they turned out fine.. Tj is no exception. if he really wanted to get better then he would. there is NO addiction that can't be beat.
i kno

United States

#15 Sep 15, 2010
whatadouche wrote:
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just because a person goes through a bad childhood does not mean they get to use that as an excuse to beat his wife and be a bad person. there's no reason for that. i know all kinds of people who have had bad childhoods and they turned out fine.. Tj is no exception. if he really wanted to get better then he would. there is NO addiction that can't be beat.
and this is why i said there is no excuse for his behavior. i do not know him now, all i stated are the facts. please re read my post. T. J. is a little different than most I would say. I know many things about him and his life, that frankly, most people wouldnt be able to deal with. I know he has had time, after time, to get help, as he has been to many facilities for help. I dont know what is going on with him now as i said before. All i know is when we were together he never, ever laid a hand on me and was never abusive. All i saw from him was love, and saw someone that needed to be loved. But people change and take paths that we would have never thought of them taking before. Are you a friend or family of Dessa or do you know him? Just curious, I may know you.
whatadouche

Shepherdsville, KY

#16 Sep 15, 2010
im pretty sure you dont know me.. im more of a friend of Dessa's and Tj's.. i should have stated in my other posts that Tj is only like that when he's drunk.. as far as i know he's never laid a hand on Dessa while he was sober.. everytime i've ever been around him and he was sober he was a great person to be around.. funny, considerate, just a nice person. but when he gets that alcohol in him he completely changes... and i wish he would get help because his wife and son deserve better and so does he.
i kno

United States

#17 Sep 16, 2010
whatadouche wrote:
im pretty sure you dont know me.. im more of a friend of Dessa's and Tj's.. i should have stated in my other posts that Tj is only like that when he's drunk.. as far as i know he's never laid a hand on Dessa while he was sober.. everytime i've ever been around him and he was sober he was a great person to be around.. funny, considerate, just a nice person. but when he gets that alcohol in him he completely changes... and i wish he would get help because his wife and son deserve better and so does he.
i said earlier, that T.J.has had a drinking problem since we were in early teens, I mean very young. He also has a chemical inbalance that was discovered after an incident happened and he went to a treatment facility. When he drinks, it doesnt mix with his inbalance and it sends him into a violent rage, i know this first hand. I have seen this violence and rage before i know what it is like, though it was never directed towards me, i know what it is like. You said that its only when he drinks, which is what i thought. Without the alcohol, he is really a good person. I dont know if the alcohol is how he copes with things or what. But it is sad, that this has overcome him. Because i know the person that he can be or use to be, and i loved him so much, I probably would have married him if it werent for his troubles. We reconnected at one time when he lived in Wisconsin, and he did lots of drinking and I knew then that we couldnt go down that path again, even though I wanted to. Another thing, I know he always wanted kids, we even use to talk about what we would name them. Funny. But i know that he would never want to hurt his children, not when he was in his right mind. and should never treat his girlfriend/wife this way. I tried to tell him years ago when we reconnected that he needed to be there for his daughter, even though April didnt want him to be. He would send her stuff and it was sent back. I told him to always make an effort and if its sent back save it so he can maybe one day show her. It was like, i never thought of that. But he seemed really glad that someone had brought that to his attention. Okay enough of that stuff, Even though its is bad news, i am glad to hear anything about him. I am married now with kids, an my husband wouldnt appreciate me checking up on my ex, so i guess this is a way to do it anonymis. I did use to call his mom Debbie every now and again to see how he was. Sometimes i guess you just cant let that first love ever go. you will always have those memories......thanks for chatting back and forth with me.
whatadouche

Shepherdsville, KY

#18 Sep 16, 2010
you're welcome. you seem like a good person. if you'd like i can give you a number where you can get hold of him. i can actually give you two numbers. so if you want i'll give you them so that you can reconnect with him.. possibly meet his wife and son.. and maybe you could even save him.
i kno

United States

#19 Sep 17, 2010
whatadouche wrote:
you're welcome. you seem like a good person. if you'd like i can give you a number where you can get hold of him. i can actually give you two numbers. so if you want i'll give you them so that you can reconnect with him.. possibly meet his wife and son.. and maybe you could even save him.
i would love to but, i will have to think about that one! as i said i am married, and dont think my hubby would approve. but at the same time i feel like its something that i should do. i tell you what, if you see him, tell him that the girl who he was with on and off his life, elementary school, middle, and high school was thinking about him and if you want to you can tell him about this post and tell him the things that i said about him. tell him i said that he needs to get things straight for his kids/wife/ and self. you can tell him that i said he is better than all of this. i just dont feel i need to go any further on my part even though i would like to. i appreciate all the info and keep me posted every now and again. thanks again!
whatadouche

Shepherdsville, KY

#20 Sep 17, 2010
i kno wrote:
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i would love to but, i will have to think about that one! as i said i am married, and dont think my hubby would approve. but at the same time i feel like its something that i should do. i tell you what, if you see him, tell him that the girl who he was with on and off his life, elementary school, middle, and high school was thinking about him and if you want to you can tell him about this post and tell him the things that i said about him. tell him i said that he needs to get things straight for his kids/wife/ and self. you can tell him that i said he is better than all of this. i just dont feel i need to go any further on my part even though i would like to. i appreciate all the info and keep me posted every now and again. thanks again!
if i do see him again i will tell him about this post.. but i very much doubt that i will see him again. i'll keep checking this post in case you change your mind. i think that if you talked to your husband and explained the situation then the two of you could go to Tj together maybe. and you're welcome. im glad to be able to help. but i like i said i'll keep checking to see if you changed your mind.

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