Guys that treat their young daughter like a girlfriend!

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Jilly

Marlborough, MA

#1 Sep 4, 2013
Is it normal for a guy to want to spend all his time with his 11 yr old daughter and not have time for a woman? I know it's great he spends quality time with her but every waking moment?! Shouldn't he want some alone time with a woman to have adult companionship? She's not gonna wanna hang around her dad forever so shouldn't he have a life besides her??
way it is

Newington, CT

#2 Sep 4, 2013
Jilly wrote:
Is it normal for a guy to want to spend all his time with his 11 yr old daughter and not have time for a woman? I know it's great he spends quality time with her but every waking moment?! Shouldn't he want some alone time with a woman to have adult companionship? She's not gonna wanna hang around her dad forever so shouldn't he have a life besides her??
Most guys get the raw end of the deal in a divorce and no matter how good of a parent they are, they are forced to rebuild and hopefully maximize their limited time with their children. As a single dad of a 15 year girl, my daughter will come first until she's on her way to college. It's women like you who want control. We gave it once and will never give it again. Our kids come first and you come second. The sooner you figure this out, then you can decide if it's worth it to stick around. Don't worry, by age 14 they start to pull away, so, hopefully you'll pay your dues and give this good father a fair chance.
Truth

Rome, NY

#3 Sep 5, 2013
way it is wrote:
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Most guys get the raw end of the deal in a divorce and no matter how good of a parent they are, they are forced to rebuild and hopefully maximize their limited time with their children. As a single dad of a 15 year girl, my daughter will come first until she's on her way to college. It's women like you who want control. We gave it once and will never give it again. Our kids come first and you come second. The sooner you figure this out, then you can decide if it's worth it to stick around. Don't worry, by age 14 they start to pull away, so, hopefully you'll pay your dues and give this good father a fair chance.
100% agree. It is people like "Jilly" who are out of touch with reality. Strikes me as someone with an overwhelming sense of entitlement, mental stability issues, and a piss poor attitude to boot. If you came on here thinking that people were going re-enforce your ego than think again. Time for you to hit the road "Jilly". You sound like a psycho.
Strange

Utica, NY

#4 Sep 5, 2013
There is a girl in her 30's who on Facebook constantly refers to her 3 year old son as "lover". It just sounds bad and inappropriate. "My little lover and i are going to the movies" "My little lover and I are cuddling". Personally, it is inappropriate to post such things on Facebook, but in addition refer to your child as "little lover" and proclaim that "he is my only love"...etc. Its obvious that her man left her, and she cannot find another one. It's just gross that people behave the way they do. Just gross, cannot imagine any man wanting to date her but for her huge artificial boobs and her bleached blond hair.
Jilly

Lowell, MA

#5 Sep 5, 2013
Truth wrote:
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100% agree. It is people like "Jilly" who are out of touch with reality. Strikes me as someone with an overwhelming sense of entitlement, mental stability issues, and a piss poor attitude to boot. If you came on here thinking that people were going re-enforce your ego than think again. Time for you to hit the road "Jilly". You sound like a psycho.
I am far from a psycho and I think you are taking what I said the wrong way. I am also a single parent who adores and loves spending as much time with my child as possible. I'm having trouble with this guys relationship with his daughter because of the fact that he treats her more like a "girlfriend " than daughter. is this normal? She sleeps with him sometimes even when I'm there and that means I retreat to the sofa. He takes her to dinners & movies and has even taken her to adult parties as his date so to speak.The other night I overheard him having a adult conversation about his job with her! How could a 11 yr old give him any insite on something like that? Are these things normal? Has anyone else experienced a father/daughter relationship to this degree? just curious..
uhhuh

Danielson, CT

#6 Sep 5, 2013
Jilly wrote:
<quoted text>I am far from a psycho and I think you are taking what I said the wrong way. I am also a single parent who adores and loves spending as much time with my child as possible. I'm having trouble with this guys relationship with his daughter because of the fact that he treats her more like a "girlfriend " than daughter. is this normal? She sleeps with him sometimes even when I'm there and that means I retreat to the sofa. He takes her to dinners & movies and has even taken her to adult parties as his date so to speak.The other night I overheard him having a adult conversation about his job with her! How could a 11 yr old give him any insite on something like that? Are these things normal? Has anyone else experienced a father/daughter relationship to this degree? just curious..
You are jealous that he has a close relationship with his daughter! She will
Grow up and find a man that treated her as great as her father did! I really don't understand people, if this guy ignored his daughter and she became
A teen mom or got into an abusive relationship, you would blame the father! This guy is a great dad, let
It be, you should take notes from him and focus on your child.
happy single

Southbridge, MA

#7 Sep 5, 2013
Too many women are jealous of good fathers because they didn't get the same attention while growing up. Any women who takes issue with a father trying to maximize his parenting time should be kicked to the curb. Kids grow up fast. Relationships come and go. Maturity is required. As a single father of 2, sure I feel guilt that things didn't work out. It's not their fault.
nonya

United States

#8 Nov 17, 2013
Jilly, I am going through the same thing. I totally understand. I also understand that a parent should put their child first but my situation is just gross. They text each other every 10 minutes if not sooner with messages like "you're myyyyyyy baby" I love you" "I love you more" "cant wait to have dada time with u" ok, this is just small things!! Keep in mind I have 2 small boys and been together and married all together 2 yrs now and never do anything with all 5. Its either me and all 3 kids or him and her.
On the money

Albany, NY

#9 Nov 17, 2013
way it is wrote:
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Most guys get the raw end of the deal in a divorce and no matter how good of a parent they are, they are forced to rebuild and hopefully maximize their limited time with their children. As a single dad of a 15 year girl, my daughter will come first until she's on her way to college. It's women like you who want control. We gave it once and will never give it again. Our kids come first and you come second. The sooner you figure this out, then you can decide if it's worth it to stick around. Don't worry, by age 14 they start to pull away, so, hopefully you'll pay your dues and give this good father a fair chance.
you're on the money brother!!

“"Trust no one"”

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Since: Jul 13

Drive it, like you stole it

#10 Nov 17, 2013
Jilly wrote:
<quoted text>I am far from a psycho and I think you are taking what I said the wrong way. I am also a single parent who adores and loves spending as much time with my child as possible. I'm having trouble with this guys relationship with his daughter because of the fact that he treats her more like a "girlfriend " than daughter. is this normal? She sleeps with him sometimes even when I'm there and that means I retreat to the sofa. He takes her to dinners & movies and has even taken her to adult parties as his date so to speak.The other night I overheard him having a adult conversation about his job with her! How could a 11 yr old give him any insite on something like that? Are these things normal? Has anyone else experienced a father/daughter relationship to this degree? just curious..
If this is true it is creepy as hell.
Butch

Torrance, CA

#11 Nov 18, 2013
I'll spend some time with her, if he needs someone to fill in. So you say they sleep together? OK, I can do that.
Ian

Rome, NY

#12 Nov 18, 2013
way it is wrote:
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Most guys get the raw end of the deal in a divorce and no matter how good of a parent they are, they are forced to rebuild and hopefully maximize their limited time with their children. As a single dad of a 15 year girl, my daughter will come first until she's on her way to college. It's women like you who want control. We gave it once and will never give it again. Our kids come first and you come second. The sooner you figure this out, then you can decide if it's worth it to stick around. Don't worry, by age 14 they start to pull away, so, hopefully you'll pay your dues and give this good father a fair chance.
Right on! Well said. Apparently some women don't get it. Maybe because Jilly's ex is not so involved?

“"Trust no one"”

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Since: Jul 13

Drive it, like you stole it

#13 Nov 18, 2013
You guys are missing the details here.
Taking your 11 year old to adult parties.
Letting your 11 year old to sleep in bed with you.
Having conversations about adult issues with your 11 year old.
This is creepy behavior for sure. I've seen similar behavior from some guys before too. As a fellow man it is weird as hell. Just like when I here fathers/mothers describe their sons/daughters as hot or sexy. Gross and inappropriate.
They Get Worse With Age

New Hartford, NY

#14 Nov 18, 2013
Too many mothers these days are quick to grab the tax free check and fail to teach both boys and girls the importance of respecting their father. Most fathers work hard to pay their court ordered child support but rarely do mothers encourage their offspring to acknowledge his efforts. Instead, they complain that his money is simply never enough despite the fact that they (the mother) is not required to be held accountable for their own spending habits. Mothers want the majority of the time with the children in order to get the entitlement check. They often complain in the next breath how the father is no good and spends no time with the children despite the fact that the father was given limited time by the court in the first place. God forbid dad get a new girl friend and mom often goes bezerk further alienating the kids from dad.

I have lived with this nightmare of constant manipulation and unnecessary drama for over 15 years with my 3 children. There is no women who going to tell me what kind of relationship I'm going to have with my kids. If you can't handle it...take a walk...I'd rather enjoy single life and get my needs met when it's convenient for me. I got divorced to get away from a nagging woman.
On the money

Fayetteville, NY

#15 Nov 18, 2013
They Get Worse With Age wrote:
Too many mothers these days are quick to grab the tax free check and fail to teach both boys and girls the importance of respecting their father. Most fathers work hard to pay their court ordered child support but rarely do mothers encourage their offspring to acknowledge his efforts. Instead, they complain that his money is simply never enough despite the fact that they (the mother) is not required to be held accountable for their own spending habits. Mothers want the majority of the time with the children in order to get the entitlement check. They often complain in the next breath how the father is no good and spends no time with the children despite the fact that the father was given limited time by the court in the first place. God forbid dad get a new girl friend and mom often goes bezerk further alienating the kids from dad.
I have lived with this nightmare of constant manipulation and unnecessary drama for over 15 years with my 3 children. There is no women who going to tell me what kind of relationship I'm going to have with my kids. If you can't handle it...take a walk...I'd rather enjoy single life and get my needs met when it's convenient for me. I got divorced to get away from a nagging woman.
priceless. So true! I think FYI is exaggerating a little to get her point across !
On the money

Fayetteville, NY

#16 Nov 18, 2013
Ftw yall. No way that you re a man!

“"Trust no one"”

Level 1

Since: Jul 13

Drive it, like you stole it

#17 Nov 18, 2013
On the money wrote:
Ftw yall. No way that you re a man!
%100 male. Just because I have also noticed that some parents have a creepy relationship with their children does not change my gender. The scenario this woman is describing, if it is true, is weird. Letting an 11 year old sleep in bed with you? That's freaking disturbing.
Jilly

Clinton, NY

#18 Nov 18, 2013
FTW Yall wrote:
You guys are missing the details here.
Taking your 11 year old to adult parties.
Letting your 11 year old to sleep in bed with you.
Having conversations about adult issues with your 11 year old.
This is creepy behavior for sure. I've seen similar behavior from some guys before too. As a fellow man it is weird as hell. Just like when I here fathers/mothers describe their sons/daughters as hot or sexy. Gross and inappropriate.
Thank you! that's exactly what I'm saying !
Chewy

Rome, NY

#19 Nov 18, 2013
FTW Yall wrote:
<quoted text> %100 male. Just because I have also noticed that some parents have a creepy relationship with their children does not change my gender. The scenario this woman is describing, if it is true, is weird. Letting an 11 year old sleep in bed with you? That's freaking disturbing.
You're fckin disturbing. Just because you couldn't handle yourself appropriately doesn't mean most other father are the same as you loser. STFU!
Chewy

Rome, NY

#20 Nov 18, 2013
Jilly wrote:
<quoted text>Thank you! that's exactly what I'm saying !
Jilly- you're a jealous, insecure, conniving bi*tch! Likely a very good reason you're an EX. You and FTW can go fk yourselves! Probably already are.

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