Why do women get with guys who have no life or job?

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just want to know

Syracuse, NY

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Sep 20, 2009
 
Most women don't give a guy a chance with a half of life or job. They like people to depend on them for money cars food.They love that long tee shirt white baggy crooked hat baggy jeans clock on the neck held by a dog chain. Empty pocket no they heve pot blunts and a house key a benefit card. People don't be offended i hope this isn't you i speak of.
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Sep 20, 2009
 

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These women are damaged goods.They have low self esteem no matter how hard they try to hide it. They only feel good about themselves when they have a man who they feel NEEDS them and depends on them. It gives them self gratification. Any man who is about something is a threat to them and causes them to look at their own lack of ambition and positive qualities. Been their and not going back to another crazy Utica female.
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Syracuse, NY

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Sep 20, 2009
 
Brother you said it better than i have ever heard.
Jaz25

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Nov 6, 2009
 
your right but not all woman are like that! I don't look for it.. if it finds me then it does... everybody wants love but some woman just settle for anything! Guys in utica aren't the grestest and that's why I am alone now.. I refuse to settle for anything less than I deserve..
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Nov 6, 2009
 
I don't understand this. I see all these beautiful women with guys who just beat them and cheat them. A successful man comes along and they say he is boring. Maybe it is just a Utica thing that women go for dirtbags.
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Nov 6, 2009
 

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Get a coon, as long as you give it money and a free ride they aren't jealous,and don't do anything.
Just sit and watch tv.
Alfalfa

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Nov 6, 2009
 
Don't forget the Cheetos and Hawaiian Punch!
tvcoon wrote:
Get a coon, as long as you give it money and a free ride they aren't jealous,and don't do anything.
Just sit and watch tv.
Failure

Auburn, NY

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Nov 6, 2009
 
tvcoon wrote:
Get a coon, as long as you give it money and a free ride they aren't jealous,and don't do anything.
Just sit and watch tv.
Signed: Ignorant miserable racist that seeks to blame his misery on others.
Have Fun

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Nov 6, 2009
 
Great in bed!! Don't like minute men!
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Auburn, NY

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Nov 6, 2009
 
Women are usually abused at some point so it makes them needy. Needy makes them even more desperate so they lower the price. They lower their standards.

It's a catch .22.

Another part of the prob is that probably 99% of the "men" walking around the area are just worthless meat. Sweating, farting, scheming and eating their way across the social landscape. It's common because there is a complet lack of standards anymore.
Daddy

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Nov 6, 2009
 
Failure wrote:
<quoted text>Signed: Ignorant miserable racist that seeks to blame his misery on others.
Wow, at least you know what you are son!
The Disciple

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The truth wrote:
These women are damaged goods.They have low self esteem no matter how hard they try to hide it. They only feel good about themselves when they have a man who they feel NEEDS them and depends on them. It gives them self gratification. Any man who is about something is a threat to them and causes them to look at their own lack of ambition and positive qualities. Been their and not going back to another crazy Utica female.
My friend I feel that the above pargraph is on of the most insightful and intelligent collection of words I have ever heard. Talk about hitting it right on the head. It should be engraved on a stone somewhere. I'm one of those decent hard working guys and I have been wondering for years and years why so many seemingly nice beautiful women go after the guys with nothing going for them. Thank you for sharing that keen wisdom.
Jaz25

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Nov 6, 2009
 
a guy wrote:
I don't understand this. I see all these beautiful women with guys who just beat them and cheat them. A successful man comes along and they say he is boring. Maybe it is just a Utica thing that women go for dirtbags.


I just want a man that's not gonna hurt me.. and that treats me like I am supposed to be treated! that's all I am asking for. Not much of anything really. But I still can't find that. I don't get it. I want a good man that's gonna treat me right. I don't care what they do for a living just as long as they can take care of themselves...
no such thing

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Nov 7, 2009
 

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Most women know that someone that actually DOES something with their lives will likely be attractive to some other woman too... they want these dregs of society because then they are "all theirs..." and as far as the "good in bed" bit, it is the heroin usually...
Krissy

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Nov 7, 2009
 
This title made me laugh when i saw it because i just got out of a relationship with a guy who had no job or life. Yet i still feel like i lost something good! haha im still young and my moms real happy i got rid of him but she says the same thing that alot of you are saying that if the girl has low self esteem it just feels good to have a guy depend on her..which is my case i guess.
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Nov 7, 2009
 
The truth wrote:
These women are damaged goods.They have low self esteem no matter how hard they try to hide it. They only feel good about themselves when they have a man who they feel NEEDS them and depends on them. It gives them self gratification. Any man who is about something is a threat to them and causes them to look at their own lack of ambition and positive qualities. Been their and not going back to another crazy Utica female.
Wow - I couldn't have said it better myself. You are right on the money. My youngest sister is like that. It's really sad to see because she was beautiful, smart, young, and could have really made something of her life. But all she does is pick losers. And of course now she's one of them - at the tender age of 23.
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Nov 10, 2009
 
Does anyone know Cindy Ainsworth (cindy lou) she like married men, She has a married man now! she is disgusting...I think she lives in North Utica somewhere.
Class of 1969

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Nov 10, 2009
 
I just want a man that's not gonna hurt me.. and that treats me like I am supposed to be treated! that's all I am asking for. Not much of anything really. But I still can't find that. I don't get it. I want a good man that's gonna treat me right. I don't care what they do for a living just as long as they can take care of themselves...
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Jaz, they are out there. Are you "looking" in the not-so-good places i.e. bars, bars or bars ?
I do know what you mean, however, there ARE many nice guys out there that will treat a woman like she deserves. I must assume that you lead a good, clean life, yes ? If that's the case, then you will find a good man.
Know what ? Believe it or not, most "good" guys are a bit on the shy side. Yes, it IS true. I am sure that you and most women have been approached many times, but I will bet you a dollar on a dime, that most of those that do approach you are not the type that you would like to have a long-termer with.
With this said, do not feel "shy" about taking the first step. It will NOT be misconstrued as you being aggressive or that you are looking for you know what. Try it. When you see someone "of interest", take that step.
Nothing gained, nothing lost.
But more so, nothing ventured, nothing gained ...
Good luck !
Have Fun

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Nov 10, 2009
 
Nice guys = boring

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Nov 10, 2009
 
Class of 1969 wrote:
I just want a man that's not gonna hurt me.. and that treats me like I am supposed to be treated! that's all I am asking for. Not much of anything really. But I still can't find that. I don't get it. I want a good man that's gonna treat me right. I don't care what they do for a living just as long as they can take care of themselves...
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Jaz, they are out there. Are you "looking" in the not-so-good places i.e. bars, bars or bars ?
I do know what you mean, however, there ARE many nice guys out there that will treat a woman like she deserves. I must assume that you lead a good, clean life, yes ? If that's the case, then you will find a good man.
Know what ? Believe it or not, most "good" guys are a bit on the shy side. Yes, it IS true. I am sure that you and most women have been approached many times, but I will bet you a dollar on a dime, that most of those that do approach you are not the type that you would like to have a long-termer with.
With this said, do not feel "shy" about taking the first step. It will NOT be misconstrued as you being aggressive or that you are looking for you know what. Try it. When you see someone "of interest", take that step.
Nothing gained, nothing lost.
But more so, nothing ventured, nothing gained ...
Good luck !
I have since stopped looking in the bars for these so called "good men". I just feel like if it is meant to happen then it will but I have stopped looking.

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