Rachel

Little Falls, NY

#1 Jul 29, 2013
All divorces are ugly but who would you say had the worst one?
Divorce

Lowville, NY

#3 Jul 29, 2013
Divorce sucks for both people...Everyone is hurting in this situation.
nomoralsland

Ithaca, NY

#4 Jul 29, 2013
about 23% of couples marry.
93% cheated.
73% of them divorce in about 4-7 years.
84% of divorcees find a live in.
11% " "remarry (usually the family friend).
2% " "come out of the closet.
78% " "go bankrupt.
over 90% of their kids grow up to be violent offenders.
over 54% practiced incest.
63% of their kids wonder who their real father is.
78% turn into alcoholics.
ect...
Exactly

Dover, DE

#5 Jul 29, 2013
nomoralsland wrote:
about 23% of couples marry.
93% cheated.
73% of them divorce in about 4-7 years.
84% of divorcees find a live in.
11% " "remarry (usually the family friend).
2% " "come out of the closet.
78% " "go bankrupt.
over 90% of their kids grow up to be violent offenders.
over 54% practiced incest.
63% of their kids wonder who their real father is.
78% turn into alcoholics.
ect...
..that is why I choose to stay single with no kids. No drama.
ulyssses

Utica, NY

#6 Jul 29, 2013
Divorces are a matter of public record. They could be published in the paper and be within the law. Too few papers publish them because they don't want to waste the space. I'm surprised the OD hasn't started publishing them to boost circulation.
Land of analphabetism

United States

#7 Jul 29, 2013
It's all fun and games till the bank acct is closed the locks are changed and the gatecode is changed LMAO!
Ten percenter

Yorkville, NY

#8 Jul 29, 2013
Mine was a dandy. I gave her everything but my business, and she and Akinson wanted that too.
It hurts the kids. No matter what lousy choice youve made as to who will be the other parent, that choice was yours not the kids.

Everytime you bash ex, youre saying half of what that child is, is bad. Its unforgivible. That's not love, that's possesion.
I tried to control the spin but couldnt. As much as Im glad she is gone, the harm she inflicted on my girls almost destroyed her realtionship with them.

And it was all over money. Now that she's ripped through almost all of it. I get the calls, the girls get the calls at college asking about dad. Is he happy.

She's someone else's problem now. Whoever he is, I almost feel sorry for him
Really

Dover, DE

#9 Jul 29, 2013
Ten percenter wrote:
Mine was a dandy. I gave her everything but my business, and she and Akinson wanted that too.
It hurts the kids. No matter what lousy choice youve made as to who will be the other parent, that choice was yours not the kids.
Everytime you bash ex, youre saying half of what that child is, is bad. Its unforgivible. That's not love, that's possesion.
I tried to control the spin but couldnt. As much as Im glad she is gone, the harm she inflicted on my girls almost destroyed her realtionship with them.
And it was all over money. Now that she's ripped through almost all of it. I get the calls, the girls get the calls at college asking about dad. Is he happy.
She's someone else's problem now. Whoever he is, I almost feel sorry for him
Amen, brother. Mine just got finished. The ex came into a financial windfall for the next two years, then it's off to public assistence for her. Thank God the only thing the court had brains about was to not give my daughter over to a pathetic cheating drunk who only looks out for number one, as I was given sole custody. I will gladyly pay whatever the court sees fit for the duration to protect my daughter.

Sure, she has all kinds of horrible things to say to my daughter about her dad, but like you've I've tried to control that spin. Luckily (or unluckily), my daughter witnessed all of the horrible that went down during the breakdown of our marriage and knows the truth, despite what her mother tells her. It just stinks to see my daughter hurt because of words and actions of her mother.

My daughter and I have paid the price in more ways than one for all this nonsense, but sadly, in the end, every night as we fall asleep in a peaceful household, I can say it was truly worth it.

Much respect to single parents everywhere, either mom or dad. Stay strong.
Ten percenter

Yorkville, NY

#10 Jul 29, 2013
Yep. Mine was a drinker too. It made things so much more complicated. Irrational and crazy accusations. I almost lost my temper a few times. Especially after I would send her a check, and two later she would have the girls ask me for money. I'd drive by the house, cars every where, it was party time. I didnt fight her one bit about money. She got half our retirement, 1/3 of my 1040, a house, an car that I agreed to lease for her the last one turned in with 25K in miles over contract.
Shes probably down to about 300k of which she cant touch in an IRA.

Now she calls me to see how Im doing!I just couldnt take her calls anymore.

Im the first to admit I was a sucker. Live and learn and do the best you can.
Exactly

Dover, DE

#11 Jul 29, 2013
..any fool who gets married today is stupid
been there

Lowville, NY

#12 Jul 29, 2013
i was married to a drunk for years..best thing i ever did was cheat and get rid of the drunk. i gave hr everythhing except my 401k ..the best thing i ever did..the kids understood completely too
I love Diamonds

Baltimore, MD

#13 Jul 29, 2013
Marriage is great with a person that has the same value system as yours.

If you don't recognize that in the first few months of meeting you deserve to be taken
Ten percenter

Yorkville, NY

#14 Jul 29, 2013
You're right Post#13. My eyes lied to me. Pretty on the outside, and a monster inside. I did love her, she just didnt give a crap about me. only what I could give her. The truth hurts,and it sets you free.
Exactly

Dover, DE

#15 Jul 29, 2013
Marriage is a stupid concept.
God

Sherburne, NY

#16 Jul 29, 2013
Exactly wrote:
Marriage is a stupid concept.
I totally agree dude!!
Needs to Know

Utica, NY

#17 Jul 29, 2013
ulyssses wrote:
Divorces are a matter of public record. They could be published in the paper and be within the law. Too few papers publish them because they don't want to waste the space. I'm surprised the OD hasn't started publishing them to boost circulation.
I wish they would publish them. Then, we'd all know whose available. As far as the OD goes, their subscription rate would jump ten-fold!
beaner

Lowville, NY

#18 Jul 29, 2013
My ex was a drunk and a coke head. The best thing he ever did for me was cheat on me! Really opened my eyes and made divorce that much easier since I was looking for a way out for years. I'm glad we were never blessed with kids because the thought of my child being stuck with him for the rest of its life would absolutely disgust me. I just wish I didn't waste 10 years if my life with him. Anyway I'm happy now and having the best sex of my life something he never knew how to do lol
Worth Repeating

Utica, NY

#19 Jul 29, 2013
talk is cheap until u say "I do".
Really

Dover, DE

#22 Jul 30, 2013
Needs to Know wrote:
<quoted text> I wish they would publish them. Then, we'd all know whose available. As far as the OD goes, their subscription rate would jump ten-fold!
heheh, you can have mine. She's available.

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