What is up with middle aged men?
Stupid

Holden, MA

#81 Sep 18, 2013
Wiser wrote:
Her husband is in great shape... Within the last few months began to pay for alterations so suits and shirts would be more form fitting. This is something he has never done before. On two separate occassions he has bought a new shirt in the middle of the day , while at work. He stated he needed to look better for a business meeting. Once again , this had never been necessary before. He is checking out younger women and forgot his 19th wedding anniversary. He blatantly showed interest in a waitress in front of his wife.(Asked the waitress her name three times and numerous other personal questions). Also-- behaves in ian exasperated manner whe she calls him to say hi (mind you she only calls once a day if that and the conversation only lasts a couple of minutes). Again-- this had never been an issue before. Is he going through the midlife crisis or is he losing interest in his wife?
why go u care your not married to the bum

Since: Sep 13

Utica, NY

#82 Sep 18, 2013
Whole lotta people around here went and got counseling and psychiatry degrees.... 1st to all you women calling men liars and cheaters,,,,, Shut up you whine asses.... You women are a bunch of hypocritical bitches.... Every woman I know has girlfriend that cheats and lies and every woman I know knows a man that cheats and lies.... Its like everything is a soap opera with you dim witted twats..... Middle aged men want to go fishing, golfing, etc etc they've listened to your dam drama for so many god damn years now that the kids are out on their own they just wanna feel like they are men.... But you dips hits gotta call , text 100 times a day like that's all we wanna do....You know what's worse is the text messages, because we actually hear your voice in our head when reading them... Guess what Nancy I've heard your spine cringing , nails on a chalk board voice for 20 years, its irritating shut up.... If you women actually put as much effort into appealing to your men and making them feel appealing to you as you do in to bitching moaning and groaning because we didn't answer your text message immediately y'all have nothing to worry about........ But you see I've come to realize that 85% of women are just basically messed up in the head... They almost live in a fantasy land where everything they think and say and want is the most important thing in the world....... Guess what girls....... Its why why middle aged men like younger women..... Younger women only care about 2 things , having a good time for free, and how much jeans are on sale for at american eagle, they are simpler and at the same time they don't exhibit all those needy qualities of constant verification that you want to put you dick in them, they know we wanna put our dicks in them.....
What I'm saying may seem harsh or whacked out.... But I was with the love of my life for 20+ years and it got to a point where everything I did after she hit 40 it was like I was cheating on her if I was talking on the phone in the car..... I couldn't take it anymore... I tried telling her over and over and over ... She kept giving little insinuations that she thought I was cheating or losing, or she would try and go out of her way to try and make it look like I lied about something,,,,,, like saying I had 4 bear when I really had 5....... You women are the demise of your relationships when you start this crap..... Because after about a year of it I left and filed for divorce.... Then after everything was final about a year later, I went out and I found myself a 30 year old woman...... You know why ? Because I can and there was nothing she could do about it....
Wiser

Holden, MA

#83 Sep 18, 2013
Cosmic Hurricane wrote:
Whole lotta people around here went and got counseling and psychiatry degrees.... 1st to all you women calling men liars and cheaters,,,,, Shut up you whine asses.... You women are a bunch of hypocritical bitches.... Every woman I know has girlfriend that cheats and lies and every woman I know knows a man that cheats and lies.... Its like everything is a soap opera with you dim witted twats..... Middle aged men want to go fishing, golfing, etc etc they've listened to your dam drama for so many god damn years now that the kids are out on their own they just wanna feel like they are men.... But you dips hits gotta call , text 100 times a day like that's all we wanna do....You know what's worse is the text messages, because we actually hear your voice in our head when reading them... Guess what Nancy I've heard your spine cringing , nails on a chalk board voice for 20 years, its irritating shut up.... If you women actually put as much effort into appealing to your men and making them feel appealing to you as you do in to bitching moaning and groaning because we didn't answer your text message immediately y'all have nothing to worry about........ But you see I've come to realize that 85% of women are just basically messed up in the head... They almost live in a fantasy land where everything they think and say and want is the most important thing in the world....... Guess what girls....... Its why why middle aged men like younger women..... Younger women only care about 2 things , having a good time for free, and how much jeans are on sale for at american eagle, they are simpler and at the same time they don't exhibit all those needy qualities of constant verification that you want to put you dick in them, they know we wanna put our dicks in them.....
What I'm saying may seem harsh or whacked out.... But I was with the love of my life for 20+ years and it got to a point where everything I did after she hit 40 it was like I was cheating on her if I was talking on the phone in the car..... I couldn't take it anymore... I tried telling her over and over and over ... She kept giving little insinuations that she thought I was cheating or losing, or she would try and go out of her way to try and make it look like I lied about something,,,,,, like saying I had 4 bear when I really had 5....... You women are the demise of your relationships when you start this crap..... Because after about a year of it I left and filed for divorce.... Then after everything was final about a year later, I went out and I found myself a 30 year old woman...... You know why ? Because I can and there was nothing she could do about it....
two things do you actually have a job that you go to ? Second I believe your trash
Wiser

Holden, MA

#84 Sep 18, 2013
Cosmic Hurricane wrote:
Whole lotta people around here went and got counseling and psychiatry degrees.... 1st to all you women calling men liars and cheaters,,,,, Shut up you whine asses.... You women are a bunch of hypocritical bitches.... Every woman I know has girlfriend that cheats and lies and every woman I know knows a man that cheats and lies.... Its like everything is a soap opera with you dim witted twats..... Middle aged men want to go fishing, golfing, etc etc they've listened to your dam drama for so many god damn years now that the kids are out on their own they just wanna feel like they are men.... But you dips hits gotta call , text 100 times a day like that's all we wanna do....You know what's worse is the text messages, because we actually hear your voice in our head when reading them... Guess what Nancy I've heard your spine cringing , nails on a chalk board voice for 20 years, its irritating shut up.... If you women actually put as much effort into appealing to your men and making them feel appealing to you as you do in to bitching moaning and groaning because we didn't answer your text message immediately y'all have nothing to worry about........ But you see I've come to realize that 85% of women are just basically messed up in the head... They almost live in a fantasy land where everything they think and say and want is the most important thing in the world....... Guess what girls....... Its why why middle aged men like younger women..... Younger women only care about 2 things , having a good time for free, and how much jeans are on sale for at american eagle, they are simpler and at the same time they don't exhibit all those needy qualities of constant verification that you want to put you dick in them, they know we wanna put our dicks in them.....
What I'm saying may seem harsh or whacked out.... But I was with the love of my life for 20+ years and it got to a point where everything I did after she hit 40 it was like I was cheating on her if I was talking on the phone in the car..... I couldn't take it anymore... I tried telling her over and over and over ... She kept giving little insinuations that she thought I was cheating or losing, or she would try and go out of her way to try and make it look like I lied about something,,,,,, like saying I had 4 bear when I really had 5....... You women are the demise of your relationships when you start this crap..... Because after about a year of it I left and filed for divorce.... Then after everything was final about a year later, I went out and I found myself a 30 year old woman...... You know why ? Because I can and there was nothing she could do about it....
if your wife sounded too winey. You have been been looking obviously your wife had reason to be suspicious . Wow you sound like a gem .
Wiser

Holden, MA

#85 Sep 18, 2013
Again do you actually have a job hurricane !
Flo

Brooklyn, NY

#86 Sep 18, 2013
I guess I am in the small percent of women who didn't do anything you said Cosmic. I never started any drama and I never accused him of cheating. He has been caught in quite a few lies lately. I also keep up with myself to make him still attracted to me after 20 years. Like I stated before I have been hit on by other men, but have always been faithful and truthful to him. I have just lost all trust because if you can see someone you "love" hurting and asking for the truth and still lie to their face I guess I question everything about them.

Since: Sep 13

Woburn, MA

#87 Sep 18, 2013
No I collect welfare ..... Truth hurts ehh ?

Since: Sep 13

Woburn, MA

#88 Sep 18, 2013
Flo wrote:
I guess I am in the small percent of women who didn't do anything you said Cosmic. I never started any drama and I never accused him of cheating. He has been caught in quite a few lies lately. I also keep up with myself to make him still attracted to me after 20 years. Like I stated before I have been hit on by other men, but have always been faithful and truthful to him. I have just lost all trust because if you can see someone you "love" hurting and asking for the truth and still lie to their face I guess I question everything about them.
Oh you did your just to whacked out to admitted it....
who cares

Cold Brook, NY

#89 Sep 18, 2013
A well fed man at home won't go out for fast food. Feed him, feed him well!! And do it with a smile on your sour puss.
Wiser

Cheshire, CT

#90 Sep 18, 2013
Cosmic Hurricane wrote:
No I collect welfare ..... Truth hurts ehh ?
then you must hand over your new love the check .
Flo

New York, NY

#91 Sep 18, 2013
No I'm not whacked, but you are entitled to your opinion. We have had a relationship where we have never resorted in name calling during a disagreement or ever threatened to leave. We have always had a good relationship. Not all women are whacked or whine. I agree we do all know cheaters and I'm not saying that's what my husband did. I'm saying he betrayed all my trust because of lies.
A Lesson

Utica, NY

#92 Sep 18, 2013
When u open yourself up to someone----u get one of 2 things---the love of your life OR the lesson of your life. It's hard. But, the only thing u can do is move on with your life & accept the apology you know you'll never get!
Wiser--1

Birmingham, AL

#93 Sep 19, 2013
If you go for nothing truly fulfilling-- after a while it feels like you had a half eaten taco. Tastes great but not a true meal. It absolutely leaves wanting more but-- in the end you want a real meal. Cosmic hurricane criticizes for making speculations only a mental health pro should but he in turn hands out a " 85 percent of some.." Statistic founded only by personal opinion. This is a place to bounce ideas off one another not to spew hatred. His posts read he deeply dislikes and certainly doesn't respect mature women. Middle age has its conflicts and its resolutions. An emotionally healthy individual also has insight and doesn't discard people , their feelings or ideas.
Wiser--1

Birmingham, AL

#94 Sep 19, 2013
Wiser wrote:
<quoted text> then you must hand over your new love the check .
I noticed you have my same name. I'll use wiser--1 to differentiate us. I noticed your opinions are very different from mine.
Wiser--1

Birmingham, AL

#95 Sep 19, 2013
Stupid wrote:
<quoted text> why go u care your not married to the bum
I care because this is behavior I find alarmingly common. And people often don't recognize it for what it truly is. I have a keen interest in sociology and relationships. I enjoy reading about the subjects and I enjoy listening to other people's opinions.-- And even debating some at times. What is your interest to have come here?
Wiser

Cheshire, CT

#96 Sep 19, 2013
Wiser--1 wrote:
<quoted text>
I care because this is behavior I find alarmingly common. And people often don't recognize it for what it truly is. I have a keen interest in sociology and relationships. I enjoy reading about the subjects and I enjoy listening to other people's opinions.-- And even debating some at times. What is your interest to have come here?
to vent . I'm tired of feeling lousy . The man I love whom I'm with doesn't seem to bring the best out of me .
Devils advocate

Birmingham, AL

#97 Sep 19, 2013
A Lesson wrote:
When u open yourself up to someone----u get one of 2 things---the love of your life OR the lesson of your life. It's hard. But, the only thing u can do is move on with your life & accept the apology you know you'll never get!
. Sometimes- not always when someone has given all they can possibly give-- meaning body, mind, soul and paycheck you don't want some arm candy to steal it all away. If they do what is the point of anything? If this is truly how it works then women would always go for the alpha male and the others would have nothing for 20 or more years. It would simply be prostitution. At the end males would die first ( a 20 year difference between the genders). And nobody would feel wronged. He would be a steady check and she the eternal beauty. If women learned they are simply commodities and not complex human beings, they would stick through think and thin with some schmuck and strive alongside with him... striving for a real life together.
Devils advocate

Birmingham, AL

#98 Sep 19, 2013
I meant if a female knew she would be so replaceable in the future she would certainly not give it her all. Same way as if a business partner knew beforehand this person would s few them, the would not go into business with them. Hindsight is always 20/20.
Devils advocate

Birmingham, AL

#99 Sep 19, 2013
Wiser wrote:
<quoted text> to vent . I'm tired of feeling lousy . The man I love whom I'm with doesn't seem to bring the best out of me .
You shouldn't expect for another human to bring out the best in you! That is your job! He is not responsible as to how you fulfill your life. Go for what you want.. Don't make excuses.
Devils advocate

Birmingham, AL

#100 Sep 19, 2013
Wiser wrote:
<quoted text> to vent . I'm tired of feeling lousy . The man I love whom I'm with doesn't seem to bring the best out of me .
there are 2 named Wiser on here. You are clearly the second. Why won't you clarify? Perhaps you are posing a distraction

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