Been There

New Hartford, NY

#61 Sep 17, 2013
The Central NY dating pool continues to dwindle for both men and women. The options are fewer and fewer.
Those left behind here seem to be holding onto bad relationships because they don't want to be alone (insecurity). Those with any intelligence, class, etc. have pretty much left the area. What you have is a majority class of scumbag, tattooed, pierced low end job working and a handful of decent people with good jobs along with crazy lunatic ex's who bleed them dry and use the children as innocent victims.

Why would anybody with half a brain want to be in a relationship in a small town like this just to deal with constant aggravation, drama and games?

The outcome is inevitable. It's often a recipe for disaster. Better of dating elsewhere!
Single Man

Milford, MA

#62 Sep 17, 2013
There's nothing more than sharing your life with someone. I would give almost anything for it. I'm just trying to make a point . If there is any baggage on my end, it's that I'm used to being alone. I'm not jaded or love lorn. I know what I am and what I have to offer and ill only share that with someone that has their life together. I agree that bad experiences make you better. I hope that I'm a product of that. It seems that some people can't let go of the past and grab hold of the future- those are the personality types that I avoid because I've been with women like that and ill never play second fiddle to what they had before me. I walk away rather than trying to prove my worth to someone
Truth

New Hartford, NY

#63 Sep 17, 2013
Single Man wrote:
There's nothing more than sharing your life with someone. I would give almost anything for it. I'm just trying to make a point . If there is any baggage on my end, it's that I'm used to being alone. I'm not jaded or love lorn. I know what I am and what I have to offer and ill only share that with someone that has their life together. I agree that bad experiences make you better. I hope that I'm a product of that. It seems that some people can't let go of the past and grab hold of the future- those are the personality types that I avoid because I've been with women like that and ill never play second fiddle to what they had before me. I walk away rather than trying to prove my worth to someone
I think what you're saying is that you're not going to allow yourself to be judged or compared to a standard they're hung up on. I agree. It's better to set your boundaries early on and walk away. I have a wonderful female friend who I speak with almost daily. I love her to death but can't be with her for this same reason. She constantly is hung up on what she had. Early on, she reminded me over and over. One day, I said, "look I'm not him, nor will I ever be him and I certainly don't want to be him." She cried, but it needed to be said. I understand this about her. Which is why we will always be friends and nothing more.
Bachlorette Number 1

Utica, NY

#64 Sep 17, 2013
Single Man wrote:
There's nothing more than sharing your life with someone. I would give almost anything for it. I'm just trying to make a point . If there is any baggage on my end, it's that I'm used to being alone. I'm not jaded or love lorn. I know what I am and what I have to offer and ill only share that with someone that has their life together. I agree that bad experiences make you better. I hope that I'm a product of that. It seems that some people can't let go of the past and grab hold of the future- those are the personality types that I avoid because I've been with women like that and ill never play second fiddle to what they had before me. I walk away rather than trying to prove my worth to someone
This is a man i want to me. Great post
Wiser

Birmingham, AL

#65 Sep 17, 2013
Single Man wrote:
There's nothing more than sharing your life with someone. I would give almost anything for it. I'm just trying to make a point . If there is any baggage on my end, it's that I'm used to being alone. I'm not jaded or love lorn. I know what I am and what I have to offer and ill only share that with someone that has their life together. I agree that bad experiences make you better. I hope that I'm a product of that. It seems that some people can't let go of the past and grab hold of the future- those are the personality types that I avoid because I've been with women like that and ill never play second fiddle to what they had before me. I walk away rather than trying to prove my worth to someone
. First of all having a good job doesn't make you a decent person. Some of the most self indulging , selfish people are professional people. Don't get confused here. It also doesn't mean a person is more interesting or intelligent . Some of the most genuine, kind hearted people I know have no formal education. Maybe you are judging a book by its cover. Again there are many types of intelligence.
yep

Woonsocket, RI

#66 Sep 17, 2013
Wiser wrote:
<quoted text>. First of all having a good job doesn't make you a decent person. Some of the most self indulging , selfish people are professional people. Don't get confused here. It also doesn't mean a person is more interesting or intelligent . Some of the most genuine, kind hearted people I know have no formal education. Maybe you are judging a book by its cover. Again there are many types of intelligence.
Typical Utica trailer trash setting the bar low. Enjoy your uneducated over worked bum.
Wiser

Birmingham, AL

#67 Sep 17, 2013
Truth wrote:
<quoted text>
I think what you're saying is that you're not going to allow yourself to be judged or compared to a standard they're hung up on. I agree. It's better to set your boundaries early on and walk away. I have a wonderful female friend who I speak with almost daily. I love her to death but can't be with her for this same reason. She constantly is hung up on what she had. Early on, she reminded me over and over. One day, I said, "look I'm not him, nor will I ever be him and I certainly don't want to be him." She cried, but it needed to be said. I understand this about her. Which is why we will always be friends and nothing more.
. Emotionally intelligent people require proof. You have to earn their trust. They wan't to make sure you are not so set in your ways that you come across as " my way or the hi way ". Because they need give and take... Compassion, consideration, and most importantly the acknowledgement that nobody is perfect.
Wiser

Birmingham, AL

#68 Sep 17, 2013
yep wrote:
<quoted text>
Typical Utica trailer trash setting the bar low. Enjoy your uneducated over worked bum.
. The most elitist people tend to be middle class. You sound terrified to be in a category of any kind with low socio economic people as if were to rub off. You have to differentiate yourself to think you are better. It is as if I were to despise mentally challenged people. That would only happen if I were concerned and insecure of being associated with them. Some low income people never rise above their economic class for a number of reasons including upbringing conditioning, lack of intellect or opportunity. But-- it doesn't mean they are not well adapted, society contributing individuals who can offer a stable, loving life. Think again
Devils advocate

Birmingham, AL

#69 Sep 17, 2013
yep wrote:
<quoted text>
Typical Utica trailer trash setting the bar low. Enjoy your uneducated over worked bum.
dear yep:
Your little bachelors degree is the laughing stock of people with actual money. You will never be anything but a servant, never associate with us or be in our club or ever date our women. Your are my guess 2 or 3 pay checks away fro the trailer trash you repudiate. Get off this forum. We are competing in the battle of the wits with an unarmed man. Enjoy middle class!
Im Saying

Utica, NY

#70 Sep 17, 2013
We accept the love we think we deserve!
Single Man

Milford, MA

#71 Sep 17, 2013
Wiser ,
I don't think you're getting what I'm saying. It may be my fault. I was trying to project stability . I'm not the smartest or the richest. Never wanted to be. The happiest is what I've always strived for.

I was making a point from my perspective . I think of myself as a well rounded person that is at a point in my life where I don't need to compete for someone's affection ; most certainly with a person that isn't happy with themselves or wants me to be someone that I'm not. Last comment.
Single Man

Milford, MA

#72 Sep 17, 2013
I'm saying , you're right . One gets the love one deserves and I know what I deserve.
Exactly

Hampton, VA

#73 Sep 17, 2013
..Nothing wrong with staying single, I don't think marriage is for everyone. Personally, I like my freedom.
Wiser

Birmingham, AL

#74 Sep 17, 2013
Exactly wrote:
..Nothing wrong with staying single, I don't think marriage is for everyone. Personally, I like my freedom.
. Very right !! Unless you are doing it out of fear.
Yep

Birmingham, AL

#75 Sep 17, 2013
We are not seeing you comment. Please enlighten us.
Bruce Y

Utica, NY

#76 Sep 17, 2013
I'm single & ready to mingle
Devils advocate

Birmingham, AL

#77 Sep 18, 2013
Bruce Y wrote:
I'm single & ready to mingle
. Good for you . Go on a dating site
Wiser

Birmingham, AL

#78 Sep 18, 2013
What would happen if she cheated ? Would it be his way out?
Stupid

Holden, MA

#79 Sep 18, 2013
Wiser wrote:
What would happen if she cheated ? Would it be his way out?
would be her way out .
Stupid

Holden, MA

#80 Sep 18, 2013
Wiser wrote:
What would happen if she cheated ? Would it be his way out?
why are you interested in someone else's husband ? Your first posting .

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