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Dayton, OH

#43 Sep 26, 2012
Scotty wrote:
<quoted text>EW you sound like a real unclassy pig!
Take a good look folks... this woman's "Don't deserve me at my worst," bullshit is what's wrong with women today.

Dayton, OH

#44 Sep 26, 2012
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You realize you aren't making any sense right? How does emotionally unstable = money grubbing cheater? Sounds like YOU are probably the unstable one!
No honey... you're the one defending a woman that uses suicide as a relationship tactic, and has just taken 100,000 dollars from a man and is now being charged with fraud. You're the unstable one. Keep your bullshit psycho-babble, Marilyn Monroe wisdom, self-entitled crap to yourself.
Psycho babble

Newark, NJ

#45 Sep 26, 2012
No, they can't be trusted. They will do anything to satisfy whatever whim they have at the moment and when they get caught they cry and apologize as if it means something. They are typically insecure sociopaths that need attention from any source to feel good about themselves. They will typically be addicted to something to get them to a point where they don't care about a thing.

It's best that you don't have a relationship with this type of person man or woman. You know how it ends. Hurt is the best you'll get.
Psycho babble

Newark, NJ

#46 Sep 26, 2012
Marilyn Monroe? How'd all that wisdom workout for her. She had people that adored her, but she hated herself and died naked alone with no dignity.
Stays Away

Utica, NY

#47 Sep 26, 2012
My boy is with a crazy, bi-polar nut that won't take meds. Good luck with that!

Utica, NY

#48 Sep 26, 2012
Stays Away wrote:
My boy is with a crazy, bi-polar nut that won't take meds. Good luck with that!
That's 99% of the women around here! Poor boy hasn't got a chance!

Beaverton, OR

#49 Mar 5, 2013
you just met a woman who felt in love with you, Deal with it. You can't handle emotions? Than what will you opt for? Cheated? Find the reason and deal with it. I was married to a man who said his worst mistake3 was to marry me, he never thought Russians as I am as the same as Italians, very emotionally unstable. Wtf you want? Someone who cannot express in a passionate way her emotions? You bet you will get it, but will you be happy with it? My ex said "even if I will forgive you (?!?!?! for his own immaturity?!?!), my older brother (read: single divorced 50-ish something dude living with no job on his mother's basement for a last 10 years on some funny govmts bennies), he will never forgive you." My ex never tried to repair relationship: he never used his own brain, neither do you. Use your own judgment, if you feel you don't need these emotions and so the woman, more power to you, move on. For idiots who are talking about restraining order: you can get one if the person is dangerous to you, such as living nearby, possessing firearm, threatening you. Who she is threatening by death? Herself? No restraining order to you. Grew up and deal with it: emotions are what makes us happy or unhappy. Lack of it is like a food without a salt. Too much salt? Unless you asked for it.

Buffalo, NY

#50 Mar 6, 2013
As much as they want to be and as much as you want to, the answer is no.

According to the American Psychiatric Association’s guidelines, a person should display five of the following symptoms to be diagnosed with HPD (APA):

•be uncomfortable or unhappy if not the center of attention
•be overly seductive or sexual
•have emotions that change very quickly
•use physical appearance to draw the attention of others
•talk in a way that lacks detail and relies on personal impressions
•use very theatrical expressions
•be very suggestible or influenced by the opinions of others
•believe personal relationships are more intimate than they really are

The Cleveland Clinic states that those with HPD may also be easily frustrated or bored with routines, make rash decisions before thinking, or threaten to commit suicide in order to get attention.
Julie Westcot

Syracuse, NY

#51 Mar 6, 2013
Ask anybbody that ever dated me.

Baltimore, MD

#52 Mar 6, 2013
They will say or do anything to get what they want. They're actresses. They can't keep jobs or friends. Whatever happens in their lives is because of something other than them. They're completely self-absorbed and irrational. Need to be the center of attention all the time . When they're not, they will look for someone who gives it. They make terrible lovers ,friends, partners Take it from me, I was in love with one and it almost destroyed my life. I wouldn't wish a woman like that on anyone.
ten percenter

Buffalo, NY

#53 Mar 6, 2013
I haven't been on but poster #52, you must be talking about my ex-wife. If not, you know what they say, if there's one, there's two. I lived with it for 14 years. The sad part about it was, I thought it was me. I thought I wasn't good enough. after years I realized that it was my pride talking.

I've been lucky enough to find the right woman. I real woman. Not one that is caught up in whatever status she thought being my wife brought. Unfortunately I still have a relationship with her through my children. Now that she's almost gone through her settlement, she's calling every day just to "check on the girls." Its now to the point that I can't take her phone calls because of the stress she is putting on my marriage. She's self-absorbed, as you call it. It makes my wife feel very uncomfortable. They put you in between a rock in a hard place. My wife is so understanding, but its starting to wear thin. Not sure what my next move with be, because she is relentless. I would never in a million years go back to her, but I have to keep a relationship with her for the sake of my youngest that's still at home. My advice to the original poster. before you settle, find about her family, get to know her friends. It'll tell you a lot. My ex didn't speak to her family and I don't think she had any life long friends. In hindsight, that speaks volumes. good luck

Utica, NY

#54 Mar 6, 2013
And what about emotionally unstable MEN?! A guy I work with @ the post office is like this. All we hear about is how unstable his life is. And he's a big boozer to boot!

New York, NY

#55 Mar 6, 2013
getouttahere wrote:
she can never be trusted...i was in your shoes ex cheated....gave her the benefit of the doubt and gave her a 2nd chance....and she just did it again.
the old saying is true....once a cheater, always a cheater......even if she gets help and "changes her ways"........all it'll take is a drink, or a one time situation that she knows she'll get away with, before she cheats on you again.
plenty of other girls out there....let her dwell in her bad ways.
Thanks Mark, love my dirty Kimmie
ten percenter

Buffalo, NY

#56 Mar 7, 2013
Millie wrote:
And what about emotionally unstable MEN?! A guy I work with @ the post office is like this. All we hear about is how unstable his life is. And he's a big boozer to boot!
No agruement here. It goes both ways. Your right the drinking is a big part of it. I can never be with a person that drinks again.

Sioux City, IA

#57 Aug 26, 2013
Mine was a woman 8 years older than me (early 50s) She had all the elements of mental instability, although she did not stalk me after I cut the chord once and for all. She used the suicide card, had ideations, and told me she could not live without me. She acted like 54 going on 25 and dressed the part too to rope me in. She was like a chameleon with her mood swings and her appearance would change like a visual affect whether I was sober, high, or buzzed. Her eyes changed color from blue to brown to black. When I was high once, she literally changed from being somewhat attractive to a satanic looking old lady similar to Steven Kings The shining. She brought out the worst in me, because before I met her, I was at most, mildly depressed and haven't done the THC bit since 94. Almost lost my marriage and daughter and she would have wanted it that way, so I could be all hers. Either she killed herself, or is on her next victim. In retrospect, I could not fathom why I was so helpful emotionally and financially. It did not help that my family and I were 1300 miles apart for 2 years, causing me to latch on and become irrational. Still got PTSD from it.

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