Women Who Don't Know How to Treat Men...

Women Who Don't Know How to Treat Men Special

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Casual Observer

New York Mills, NY

#1 Aug 3, 2012
Why is it that women these days expect men to do all the romanticizing, but yet they don't seem to know how to treat a man special?

Before you jump to conclusions and say that I was dumped, etc., that's anything but the case.

I'm in my mid 40's and it seems that women above age 50 really seem to know how to nurture a guy and make him feel special. On the other hand, the younger ones are just lazy, feel entitled and have this unbelievable double standard about everything. Their houses and cars are dirty. They struggle to feed the kids mac and cheese. They're jacked up on all sorts of meds. They have no food in their fridge and think cooking a burger is a major chore.

Now, I know we could attack the men here as a counter argument since most have become mama's boys and yes, I agree. But this thread is dedicated to helping some of you "good" women better understand us "good" guys. That's all!:)

Let's try and keep the thread on course with the understanding that there's more to a healthy relationship than sex despite the fact it's undoubtedly a major component.
hank hill

United States

#2 Aug 3, 2012
What happened to treating ppl the way you want to be treated? Seems like that ship has sailed...too bad. The world was a better place when people werent so selfish and greedy.
Derick

Lowville, NY

#3 Aug 3, 2012
Casual Observer wrote:
Why is it that women these days expect men to do all the romanticizing, but yet they don't seem to know how to treat a man special?
Before you jump to conclusions and say that I was dumped, etc., that's anything but the case.
I'm in my mid 40's and it seems that women above age 50 really seem to know how to nurture a guy and make him feel special. On the other hand, the younger ones are just lazy, feel entitled and have this unbelievable double standard about everything. Their houses and cars are dirty. They struggle to feed the kids mac and cheese. They're jacked up on all sorts of meds. They have no food in their fridge and think cooking a burger is a major chore.
Now, I know we could attack the men here as a counter argument since most have become mama's boys and yes, I agree. But this thread is dedicated to helping some of you "good" women better understand us "good" guys. That's all!:)
Let's try and keep the thread on course with the understanding that there's more to a healthy relationship than sex despite the fact it's undoubtedly a major component.
The only thing a man needs from a woman is sex, sex, and more sex. How many guys reading this agrees? come on guys, be truthful. If I want to drink beer, go to a game, talk sports, cars, trucks, go fishing, hunting and more, I rather hang with the guys. But when I need to get my rocks off, it's all about the ladies!!!!
Other foot

United States

#4 Aug 3, 2012
Because the younger women are in the mindset of let me find a guy thats going to give me everything I want.If he's a jerk, I can change them. They see good guys as too available or weak.

The older women have been through that and know it doesnt work and realize that the good guys really are nice guys and finally appreciate them.
Valerie

Waterville, NY

#5 Aug 5, 2012
The younger women can't hold a candle to those of us with wisdom, age and experience.

I'll be the first to admit that I jerked alot of good guys around. One thing that I've learned, is that guys want to feel special...number one. The first thing I do for my man in the morning is start him off with a satisfied feeling. Before he's out of bed, I've got the coffee on and breakfast ready.

He appreciates this and makes it all up to me many times over. Because, I treat him like a man, he looks out for me and makes sure I'm taken care of.

It works both ways, but generally speaking, most women that I know put very little effort into the relationship and that's why the guys up and run.
Chasing Pavement

Baltimore, MD

#6 Aug 5, 2012
Other foot wrote:
Because the younger women are in the mindset of let me find a guy thats going to give me everything I want.If he's a jerk, I can change them. They see good guys as too available or weak.
The older women have been through that and know it doesnt work and realize that the good guys really are nice guys and finally appreciate them.
yep
Chasing Pavement

Baltimore, MD

#7 Aug 5, 2012
Valerie wrote:
The younger women can't hold a candle to those of us with wisdom, age and experience.
I'll be the first to admit that I jerked alot of good guys around. One thing that I've learned, is that guys want to feel special...number one. The first thing I do for my man in the morning is start him off with a satisfied feeling. Before he's out of bed, I've got the coffee on and breakfast ready.
He appreciates this and makes it all up to me many times over. Because, I treat him like a man, he looks out for me and makes sure I'm taken care of.
It works both ways, but generally speaking, most women that I know put very little effort into the relationship and that's why the guys up and run.
and yep
yessiree

Waterville, NY

#8 Aug 5, 2012
This thread explains my last 10 girlfriends and why one who is 9 years older than me continues to be my best friend in the world. She is and will always be the standard that others have no chance at.
arms race

United States

#9 Aug 5, 2012
Women today are generally selfish. They watch too much Kardashians and House Wives. Many operate on a pure double standard. Use them and abuse them before they do it to you! Get used to dating many women and find happiness in volume!
Relationship Doctor

Camillus, NY

#10 Aug 5, 2012
Casual Observer wrote:
Why is it that women these days expect men to do all the romanticizing, but yet they don't seem to know how to treat a man special?
Before you jump to conclusions and say that I was dumped, etc., that's anything but the case.
I'm in my mid 40's and it seems that women above age 50 really seem to know how to nurture a guy and make him feel special. On the other hand, the younger ones are just lazy, feel entitled and have this unbelievable double standard about everything. Their houses and cars are dirty. They struggle to feed the kids mac and cheese. They're jacked up on all sorts of meds. They have no food in their fridge and think cooking a burger is a major chore.
Now, I know we could attack the men here as a counter argument since most have become mama's boys and yes, I agree. But this thread is dedicated to helping some of you "good" women better understand us "good" guys. That's all!:)
Let's try and keep the thread on course with the understanding that there's more to a healthy relationship than sex despite the fact it's undoubtedly a major component.
It seems that most guys would really just appreciate a "thank you". When my bf opens the car door for me, I say "thank you". A lot of women have a sense of "entitlement" and don't know how to appreciate what they have. Also, men like compliments too. Women seem to want their men to tell them they are pretty, skinny, etc. But, many women forget to do the same to their men....and of course, sex. Men fear women getting to a point where they will refuse to have sex. Women must initiate sex, enjoy it (or at least pretend to), and have it weekly. If not, there is always another woman around the corner who will do this and steal your man away.

Another thought, the negative, nagging, and passive aggressiveness that some women display really needs to stop. It can be over such minor things and really ruin relationships. The best thing some women can do, is to make sure they have a life of their own and self esteem.

There usually are not "relationship" problems. If everyone takes care of their own mental health, things would work out much better.
homewrecker

United States

#11 Aug 5, 2012
You dont even have to say thank you...although it doesnt hurt. On your way in the door reach out and give his ass a squeeze,(when your relationship gets to that point obviously) brush up against him on your way in, look up at him and give him "the eyes"once you're in...plenty of other options. I used to do that for my guy all the time to show him I appreciated it. Lasted 7 years in todays uncaring cruel independant woman world. Hell its just another opportunity to get close to him. Take advantage of it!!
so true

Waterville, NY

#12 Aug 5, 2012
homewrecker wrote:
You dont even have to say thank you...although it doesnt hurt. On your way in the door reach out and give his ass a squeeze,(when your relationship gets to that point obviously) brush up against him on your way in, look up at him and give him "the eyes"once you're in...plenty of other options. I used to do that for my guy all the time to show him I appreciated it. Lasted 7 years in todays uncaring cruel independant woman world. Hell its just another opportunity to get close to him. Take advantage of it!!
Guys want to feel appreciated. Food is a way to a mans heart. Not take out. Home cooked! I don't mean Mac and Cheese either.
homewrecker

United States

#13 Aug 5, 2012
I make a mean home made mac n cheese though!! Not that cheap boxed crap. Also got a couple of other specialties too. Im not a wiz in the kitchen but I can get the job done and I haven't killed anyone yet lol...I did scare the dog one night though. But that was probably cuz he didn't know I had knowledge of what the stove was actually for since he'd never seen me anywhere near it.
vinces u pull it

Waterville, NY

#14 Aug 5, 2012
homewrecker wrote:
I make a mean home made mac n cheese though!! Not that cheap boxed crap. Also got a couple of other specialties too. Im not a wiz in the kitchen but I can get the job done and I haven't killed anyone yet lol...I did scare the dog one night though. But that was probably cuz he didn't know I had knowledge of what the stove was actually for since he'd never seen me anywhere near it.
I can't tell you how many times I've gone to a woman's house only to discover clutter everywhere, every square inch of wall space covered by a picture and annoying pets that smell. To top it all off, a messy and empty fridge. Both men and woman today lack any sort of common decency or self pride. How can you expect someone to be accommodating when they fail to take care of themself.
All I Can Say

Utica, NY

#15 Aug 5, 2012
,.........is that relationships are comparable to garage sales---from a distance they look like they could be interesting. But up close they turn out to be nothing more than a ton-of-shit you don't need.
Not Me

New York Mills, NY

#16 Aug 6, 2012
In this day and age of social networking, people are way too consumed with gathering large volumes of friends rather than building quality relationships with fewer numbers. It's so easy to become dissatisfied with a person because you have a much greater awareness as to what other options exist and are available.

Enter the realm of texting and email where convenience has taken over face to face conversation. You can try to justify this all you want, but I'd rather fly solo than text a person all day.

KY WELLER
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Since: Jun 10

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#17 Aug 8, 2012
Great thread people! This is what I enjoy about topix!
guy talk

Waterville, NY

#18 Aug 8, 2012
KY WELLER wrote:
Great thread people! This is what I enjoy about topix!
This is a great thread. I hope it helps save a few relationships. Seems you always hear women ragging on men but rarely do they take the time to understand them. Ironically, it's usually the women who make this complaint. About time the guys start speaking up!
riptide

United States

#19 Aug 9, 2012
It sounds like Gina Coury,lazy selfish and a horder but will tell you about how smart she is.lol
wondering

Lowville, NY

#20 Aug 9, 2012
How many ladies in here give their man oral sex? And do you enjoy it or do you do it just to please him?

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