Caught my daughter in hottub with her...

Caught my daughter in hottub with her boyfriend?

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Overwhelmed mom

Utica, NY

#1 Apr 15, 2011
I cam home early yesterday and walked in on my dughter and her boyfriend in the hotub having sex. They are 13 and 14. Is this normal already these days? I always figured the day would come but she's still a baby in so many ways! I sent him home and called his mother about this she didn't seem to think this is a problem! What can I do? Is this the normal age for girls these days? I told her she is not to see this kid for at least until I decide what to do here. I am a single mom and I don't want to make a big problem or blow this out of proportion and want to do the right thing what should I do?
Doctor Phil

Lewiston, ME

#3 Apr 15, 2011
Thank you for your heartfelt and sincere post. Based on the details of what happened it's clear that your daughter feels a deep desire for a strong male influence in her life.

This probably never would have happened if you hadn't driven away your husband with your crazed behavior and shrieking, harridan-like personality. Really, who can blame him for trying to find a little comfort in the arms of another woman? Particularly when that woman has a beautiful, perky set of breasts, unlike your own wrinkled flesh bags.

It would probably be best for everyone involved if you immediately turned over custody of your daughter to your ex-husband and his charming, vivacious young wife. They're obviously far better equipped to provide the stable, loving environment your daughter obviously needs.

Glad I could help!
mayday

United States

#5 Apr 15, 2011
if they had bathing suites on i see no big deal,i would tell them they could only use the hottub when adults are around
don

Hadley, MA

#6 Apr 15, 2011
Get her birthcontrol
Overwhelmed mom

Utica, NY

#7 Apr 15, 2011
Doctor Phil wrote:
Thank you for your heartfelt and sincere post. Based on the details of what happened it's clear that your daughter feels a deep desire for a strong male influence in her life.
This probably never would have happened if you hadn't driven away your husband with your crazed behavior and shrieking, harridan-like personality. Really, who can blame him for trying to find a little comfort in the arms of another woman? Particularly when that woman has a beautiful, perky set of breasts, unlike your own wrinkled flesh bags.
It would probably be best for everyone involved if you immediately turned over custody of your daughter to your ex-husband and his charming, vivacious young wife. They're obviously far better equipped to provide the stable, loving environment your daughter obviously needs.
Glad I could help!
You moron what is wrong with you? HER FATHER DIED FROM THROAT CANCER WHY ARE YOU ACTING LIKE YOU KNOW ANYTHING LIKE YOU KNOW ME?
Overwhelmed mom

Utica, NY

#8 Apr 15, 2011
don wrote:
Get her birthcontrol
THANK YOU! I realise I have to do that right away but isn't that just like saying "do what you want"?
Overwhelmed mom

Utica, NY

#9 Apr 15, 2011
mayday wrote:
if they had bathing suites on i see no big deal,i would tell them they could only use the hottub when adults are around
I never thought you could have sex with a bathing suit on. They were not wearing anything.
trolls

Syracuse, NY

#11 Apr 15, 2011
Please remember there are more trolls on here that nice people. It seems kind of young if you ask me. I would definitely take her to someone for some counseling. Then again kids are doing this at this age so what can we do??
Just Looking

Dover, DE

#12 Apr 15, 2011
13 years old and you have no control of her. She is a child. I am no prude, but she shouldn't be having sex at 13 years old. Lay down the law and don't let her walk over you.
observer

Rensselaer, NY

#13 Apr 15, 2011
Have "the talk" with her NOW. Take her to Planned Parenthood NOW. Don't assume it won't happen again, it will. YOU need to be the responsible adult. My daughter was 14 her first time. I took her to PP. I didn't like it, but I can not be with her 24/7. It was either BC or an unwanted baby. Yes, It sucks, but think of the alternative.
HOTMOMMY

Baldwinsville, NY

#14 Apr 15, 2011
It's normal just show her how to protect herself snd try to keep a loving honest relationship with her. Otherwise she'll rebell and end up prego in a year . Show her with a bananna how mommy use to slide the rubber on all her boyfriends with her mouth have fun with it !
Just Looking

Dover, DE

#15 Apr 15, 2011
She is too young to be having sex period. Find her some hobbies or give her some jobs to do. Parents these days are way too lenient on their kids. She has plenty of time to fool around when she knows what life is about and takes on responsibility. Okay, enought said for me on this rant. But, she is way to young. You are the parent, act like one.
wow

Baldwinsville, NY

#16 Apr 15, 2011
Really ! Our world is going to crap !
Overwhelmed mom

Utica, NY

#17 Apr 15, 2011
trolls wrote:
Please remember there are more trolls on here that nice people. It seems kind of young if you ask me. I would definitely take her to someone for some counseling. Then again kids are doing this at this age so what can we do??
Thank you. What type of counsilor would you think I should find for something like this? Should I wait a week or so so she doesn't just think its "something wrong" or what? I never figured I would deal with this so soon maybe yeah at 16 but I had a feeling the second she latched her heart on this kid I knew because he looks just almost exactly like that little beiber punk my daughter and her friends are infatuated with today! I knew it but didn't want to jinx myself by dareing her by forbidding it!! Thank you. Will do!
wboro

Rome, NY

#18 Apr 15, 2011
How about keep an eye on your daughter. I starting having sex at 12 and it was because nobody was ever around to keep an eye on me. I could do what I wanted. Don't give me the single mom bit because 90% of us are. I have an 18 and a 16.
Just Looking

Dover, DE

#19 Apr 15, 2011
..not for nothing, my mother kept a close eye and me and knew who I was with and what I was doing. It is YOUR RESPONSIBILITY AS A PARENT. At 13, she is a child. She lives under your roof, you need to be assertive and lay down the law. She is a child!
Nana

Lake Placid, NY

#20 Apr 15, 2011
Overwhelmed mom wrote:
<quoted text>You moron what is wrong with you? HER FATHER DIED FROM THROAT CANCER WHY ARE YOU ACTING LIKE YOU KNOW ANYTHING LIKE YOU KNOW ME?
You killed him. He's better off without you. You are a loser. If you were legit, you would seek professional help...not the Topix kind.
Overwhelmed mom

Utica, NY

#21 Apr 15, 2011
Just Looking wrote:
13 years old and you have no control of her. She is a child. I am no prude, but she shouldn't be having sex at 13 years old. Lay down the law and don't let her walk over you.
What law do you mean? The law where you can make a young girl forget sex for a few years? If you didn't read the cat is out of the bag. My daughter isn't walking all over me. I asked her after I let them get dressed and she said it wasn't against her will but she knew she was getting in trouble. She is a level headed good girl I have never had any problems with her she's just as mature as her older cousins. Since she started going out with the boy her grades have actually improved. I don't want to act like an idiot over it and make things worse I know that much at least. I also don't want to make it hard for her to talk to the adults around her or embarrassed to tell someone who is old enough to know what to do if something is wrong. I am growing to trust her judgement about friends and boys she has met. I am blessed or cursed she has had more than the usual interest from boys her age sfor a few yeas already. I am overwhelmed by it it is so SOOON what is the world coming to today?
Nana

Lake Placid, NY

#22 Apr 15, 2011
Overwhelmed mom wrote:
I cam home early yesterday and walked in on my dughter and her boyfriend in the hotub having sex. They are 13 and 14. Is this normal already these days? I always figured the day would come but she's still a baby in so many ways! I sent him home and called his mother about this she didn't seem to think this is a problem! What can I do? Is this the normal age for girls these days? I told her she is not to see this kid for at least until I decide what to do here. I am a single mom and I don't want to make a big problem or blow this out of proportion and want to do the right thing what should I do?
I'm calling CPS on you for leaving your child unattended.
mayday

United States

#23 Apr 15, 2011
Nana wrote:
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You killed him. He's better off without you. You are a loser. If you were legit, you would seek professional help...not the Topix kind.
you must be a nut case or very stupid

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