Couples Who Claim to be Happily Marri...

Couples Who Claim to be Happily Married are Delusional

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Just the facts

Utica, NY

#1 Jan 9, 2013
Most relationships today are set in foundations of apathy, insecurity & deceit. Is it any wonder these marriages fail? Look around you....how many ppl do u know are on 2nd, 3rd & more marriages? When you marry today, there is just too much pressure & expectations of happiness. YOU and only YOU are responsible for your own happiness! Marriage is not all it's made up to be.

People come into our lives to teach us & leave when the lesson is learned.

Marriage is amazing to some & horrendous to others.
The other sid

Utica, NY

#2 Jan 9, 2013
Been with the same man for 49 years. Wouldn't change it for the world (yes, we both have had chances). We always put the other one first, cared about each others feelings and respected and
honored the vows we said to each other in front of family and God. Corny, and you don't believe me? To bad, it's the truth... It will be till death do us part. We can hold our head high, can you?
Wow

New York, NY

#3 Jan 10, 2013
Just the facts wrote:
Most relationships today are set in foundations of apathy, insecurity & deceit. Is it any wonder these marriages fail? Look around you....how many ppl do u know are on 2nd, 3rd & more marriages? When you marry today, there is just too much pressure & expectations of happiness. YOU and only YOU are responsible for your own happiness! Marriage is not all it's made up to be.
People come into our lives to teach us & leave when the lesson is learned.
Marriage is amazing to some & horrendous to others.
Marriage takes a lot of work, like anything good in life. Some people are too selfish to work that hard, and should stay single. There is nothing worong with that. But don't be bitter toward people that ARE happy. I got lucky, my wife and I are mostly always on the same page and if we aren't, we work it out. We are not jealous or insecure, we have a LOT of fun together. We have a ton of stress just likle everyone else, but again, we have our fun to balance it out. I don't expect everyone to agree or believe me, or not be bitter. But don't take out your frustrations on other people because they have decided to get married, are happy, and don't regret it.
Just Wondering

Dover, DE

#4 Jan 10, 2013
Wow wrote:
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Marriage takes a lot of work, like anything good in life. Some people are too selfish to work that hard, and should stay single. There is nothing worong with that. But don't be bitter toward people that ARE happy. I got lucky, my wife and I are mostly always on the same page and if we aren't, we work it out. We are not jealous or insecure, we have a LOT of fun together. We have a ton of stress just likle everyone else, but again, we have our fun to balance it out. I don't expect everyone to agree or believe me, or not be bitter. But don't take out your frustrations on other people because they have decided to get married, are happy, and don't regret it.
Doesn't make people who choose to be single selfish - they are sensible and not delusional!! I agree with the OP.
Maybe

Hamilton, NY

#5 Jan 10, 2013
Marriage is not for everyone. And I don't necessarily think that marriage is a lot of work either. It is give and take but that is just part of living with someone. If my husband were insecure or I were insecure or if my husband was selfish and I were selfish, then it would not be worth it. Had I not met him I would be single also. Remaining single does not make a person selfish!!!

I think first you have to make sure that you are not a selfish insecure person and second I think you need to really put some time into your relationships and pay attention to who the other person is underneath it all.

I would not being my situation with my husband at all. But when people tell me that we are one of the only couples they know that are really happy, it reinforces how truly lucky we are to have each other. I have a friend that says she would rather be with no person than to be with the wrong person as it really is not worth it. I agree!

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