Couples Who Claim to be Happily Married are Delusional

Posted in the Utica Forum

Comments

Showing posts 1 - 5 of5
Just the facts

New Hartford, NY

|
Report Abuse
|
Judge it!
|
#1
Jan 9, 2013
 

Judged:

1

Most relationships today are set in foundations of apathy, insecurity & deceit. Is it any wonder these marriages fail? Look around you....how many ppl do u know are on 2nd, 3rd & more marriages? When you marry today, there is just too much pressure & expectations of happiness. YOU and only YOU are responsible for your own happiness! Marriage is not all it's made up to be.

People come into our lives to teach us & leave when the lesson is learned.

Marriage is amazing to some & horrendous to others.
The other sid

Utica, NY

|
Report Abuse
|
Judge it!
|
#2
Jan 9, 2013
 

Judged:

1

1

1

Been with the same man for 49 years. Wouldn't change it for the world (yes, we both have had chances). We always put the other one first, cared about each others feelings and respected and
honored the vows we said to each other in front of family and God. Corny, and you don't believe me? To bad, it's the truth... It will be till death do us part. We can hold our head high, can you?
Wow

New York, NY

|
Report Abuse
|
Judge it!
|
#3
Jan 10, 2013
 

Judged:

1

1

Just the facts wrote:
Most relationships today are set in foundations of apathy, insecurity & deceit. Is it any wonder these marriages fail? Look around you....how many ppl do u know are on 2nd, 3rd & more marriages? When you marry today, there is just too much pressure & expectations of happiness. YOU and only YOU are responsible for your own happiness! Marriage is not all it's made up to be.
People come into our lives to teach us & leave when the lesson is learned.
Marriage is amazing to some & horrendous to others.
Marriage takes a lot of work, like anything good in life. Some people are too selfish to work that hard, and should stay single. There is nothing worong with that. But don't be bitter toward people that ARE happy. I got lucky, my wife and I are mostly always on the same page and if we aren't, we work it out. We are not jealous or insecure, we have a LOT of fun together. We have a ton of stress just likle everyone else, but again, we have our fun to balance it out. I don't expect everyone to agree or believe me, or not be bitter. But don't take out your frustrations on other people because they have decided to get married, are happy, and don't regret it.
Just Wondering

Hampton, VA

|
Report Abuse
|
Judge it!
|
#4
Jan 10, 2013
 
Wow wrote:
<quoted text>
Marriage takes a lot of work, like anything good in life. Some people are too selfish to work that hard, and should stay single. There is nothing worong with that. But don't be bitter toward people that ARE happy. I got lucky, my wife and I are mostly always on the same page and if we aren't, we work it out. We are not jealous or insecure, we have a LOT of fun together. We have a ton of stress just likle everyone else, but again, we have our fun to balance it out. I don't expect everyone to agree or believe me, or not be bitter. But don't take out your frustrations on other people because they have decided to get married, are happy, and don't regret it.
Doesn't make people who choose to be single selfish - they are sensible and not delusional!! I agree with the OP.
Maybe

Rome, NY

|
Report Abuse
|
Judge it!
|
#5
Jan 10, 2013
 
Marriage is not for everyone. And I don't necessarily think that marriage is a lot of work either. It is give and take but that is just part of living with someone. If my husband were insecure or I were insecure or if my husband was selfish and I were selfish, then it would not be worth it. Had I not met him I would be single also. Remaining single does not make a person selfish!!!

I think first you have to make sure that you are not a selfish insecure person and second I think you need to really put some time into your relationships and pay attention to who the other person is underneath it all.

I would not being my situation with my husband at all. But when people tell me that we are one of the only couples they know that are really happy, it reinforces how truly lucky we are to have each other. I have a friend that says she would rather be with no person than to be with the wrong person as it really is not worth it. I agree!

Tell me when this thread is updated: (Registration is not required)

Add to my Tracker Send me an email

Showing posts 1 - 5 of5
Type in your comments below
Name
(appears on your post)
Comments
Characters left: 4000
Type the numbers you see in the image on the right:

Please note by clicking on "Post Comment" you acknowledge that you have read the Terms of Service and the comment you are posting is in compliance with such terms. Be polite. Inappropriate posts may be removed by the moderator. Send us your feedback.

226 Users are viewing the Utica Forum right now

Search the Utica Forum:
Topic Updated Last By Comments
Ruling on 2010 Griffiss project stuns worker, u... 2 min Truth 24
Utica "College" needs "Sports Glory Dome!" 7 min Riggie the Touchole 57
The Utica Harbor 10 min Yes Gary ur mom IS a pig 9
Esche wins AHL award!!!!!! 14 min Boilgasmic IViggertown 8
Tyranny & Treason- Fearing the Government 18 min BobbyO1967 7
sreggin NEVER PAID BILLS BAMMY PAYS THEM WIT ST... 43 min Gary Heenan Asslikker 10
]\[iggers! 47 min Gary Heenan Asslikker 16
•••
•••
•••
•••

Utica Jobs

•••
Enter and win $5000
•••
•••

Utica People Search

Addresses and phone numbers for FREE

•••

Utica News, Events & Info

Click for news, events and info in Utica
•••

Personal Finance

Mortgages [ See current mortgage rates ]
•••