Why dosent he love me

Why dosent he love me

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Confused

Worcester, MA

#1 Jul 17, 2013
I have been with the same man for 5 years off and on.We get along great,I love his family and son and we have awesome sex.Problem is he dosent allow himself to get really close to me.He has said he wants a relationship in the past but then he changes his mind and says he dosent have those feelings for me.Well why the hell not!? He knows I love him and could have a great life with me.Why can't he fall in love with me!??
Show me

Baltimore, MD

#2 Jul 17, 2013
If you have to convince someone to love you, they don't deserve you.
Confused

Worcester, MA

#3 Jul 17, 2013
Show me wrote:
If you have to convince someone to love you, they don't deserve you.
Your right I know but I don't understand how after all this time he has no feeling of love for me I leave him and go out with other guys but then I go back with him.it sucks to love someone who dosent love you back:((
The facts

Utica, NY

#4 Jul 17, 2013
Confused wrote:
I have been with the same man for 5 years off and on.We get along great,I love his family and son and we have awesome sex.Problem is he dosent allow himself to get really close to me.He has said he wants a relationship in the past but then he changes his mind and says he dosent have those feelings for me.Well why the hell not!? He knows I love him and could have a great life with me.Why can't he fall in love with me!??
Maybe he doesn't like you enough to fall in love with you. Think about that really hard, makes a lot of sense!!

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Since: Jul 10

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#5 Jul 17, 2013
"She offered her honor.
He honored her offer
And from then forward
T'was on her and off her."

You're a part time gig, get it?

I wouldn't want anyone who sold so cheaply.
Just Saying

Utica, NY

#7 Jul 17, 2013
We accept the love we think we deserve.
Good luck

Albany, NY

#8 Jul 17, 2013
Confused wrote:
I have been with the same man for 5 years off and on.We get along great,I love his family and son and we have awesome sex.Problem is he dosent allow himself to get really close to me.He has said he wants a relationship in the past but then he changes his mind and says he dosent have those feelings for me.Well why the hell not!? He knows I love him and could have a great life with me.Why can't he fall in love with me!??
too vague . If he says he dont have those feeling your friends with benefits . You slept with him too soon , in the past when you first met him perhaps . You slept with him prior to you really knowing how he felt about you . You never put a guard up making sure he felt the same way you did . Can't go falling in love with a man before you know if your something to past time with . You have to be careful. Now that you love him good luck with the emotional trap . I hope it works out .
Good luck

Albany, NY

#9 Jul 17, 2013
Confused wrote:
I have been with the same man for 5 years off and on.We get along great,I love his family and son and we have awesome sex.Problem is he dosent allow himself to get really close to me.He has said he wants a relationship in the past but then he changes his mind and says he dosent have those feelings for me.Well why the hell not!? He knows I love him and could have a great life with me.Why can't he fall in love with me!??
but on the other hand maybe you can turn the cards around .
I am a guy

Utica, NY

#11 Jul 18, 2013
Blondie wrote:
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You dumb bitch move on. He is using you!! If he loved you he'd commit. Move on your giving us women a bad name. Pull up your big girl panties. Move on
I love a tough woman Blondie, Wish I could pull your panties off!!
Brunette

Utica, NY

#12 Jul 18, 2013
I am a guy wrote:
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I love a tough woman Blondie, Wish I could pull your panties off!!
blondie is really a middle aged man I'm sure .
Guys View

New Hartford, NY

#15 Jul 18, 2013
Something is missing. There is something you're lacking that he can't quite tell you or you don't get.

I've had similar experiences. You could be -bi-polar and he enjoys you but doesn't want to manage your illness or you could be overweight and he doesn't want to hurt your feelings.

You know the answer....you just are unwilling to take responsibility and instead allow yourself to remain in a situation that's going nowhere. Get some confidence in yourself and move on or he's gonna keep using you for a piece of azz.
Exactly

Hampton, VA

#16 Jul 18, 2013
Confused wrote:
I have been with the same man for 5 years off and on.We get along great,I love his family and son and we have awesome sex.Problem is he dosent allow himself to get really close to me.He has said he wants a relationship in the past but then he changes his mind and says he dosent have those feelings for me.Well why the hell not!? He knows I love him and could have a great life with me.Why can't he fall in love with me!??
If the sex is good, just use him for the sex. Woman can enjoy it too. Just keep your options open. Don't fall "in love." Most of it is bs anyway.
Girly

Utica, NY

#17 Jul 18, 2013
He just wasnt the one for you. There is one out there just waiting and wondering where you've been all his life.
Exactly

Hampton, VA

#18 Jul 18, 2013
Girly wrote:
He just wasnt the one for you. There is one out there just waiting and wondering where you've been all his life.
Keep dreaming, that is BS. No one right person for anyone. Keep falling for the Prince Charming BS, it doesn't exist. Get a good job, support yourself and play the field and have fun. Be careful while you are at it. You pick them, not the other way around.
not worth it

Cortland, NY

#20 Jul 18, 2013
Move On, Now!!!!!
My name

Danielson, CT

#21 Jul 18, 2013
You should pray and find a real man, not the piece of shit that he is.
And by the way I'm a man
I am a guy

Utica, NY

#22 Jul 18, 2013
Blondie wrote:
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;-) And Smell them?
Oh yea, I would pull your hair and doggie style you. If you would let me of course.
Confused

Lowell, MA

#23 Jul 18, 2013
So I guess there's no hope..I guess you really can't make someone love you:(
Carrie Said

Utica, NY

#24 Jul 18, 2013
he's just not that into you.
Honestly

Lowell, MA

#25 Jul 18, 2013
Carrie Said wrote:
he's just not that into you.
You wouldn't think it after the night we had last night,but I guess sex dosent equal love for a man..Everytime I move on he always wants me back I can't keep going through this anymore I have to leave it alone & walk away

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