Women Need To Understand Prenups

Women Need To Understand Prenups

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adrenalin surge

Earlville, NY

#1 Apr 20, 2014
I recently asked my gf of 3 years to sign a pre nup. She refused and now we are done. Why is it so difficult for a person to understand that someone with assets wants to keep the state out of their business? I have no problem sharing what we acquire together in marriage. If anything the prenup creates a disincentive for her to leave. I asked her if she was upset because it could ruin her exit strategy. It's not about trust it's about protecting what you had before the marriage and what you may inherit. Besides she will benefit from it all if we are together. The only legitimate reason a women won't sign one IMO is that she is a gold digger. Otherwise she is free to leave anytime she wants and get at least half of what was ours together in the marriage. Why are these women so immature about this? I'd have no problem as a guy signing one of these if roles were reversed. Who is feeding these ignants?
logic

United States

#3 Apr 20, 2014
The facts wrote:
<quoted text>Women are very emotional people, some more than others. Women also like to feel like their the most important thing to the man that wants to marry them. Although I personally understand the concept of a prenuptial agreement, I also understand how this can drive a wedge into the relationship. I would venture to guess that a prenuptial agreement to most women might be offensive when marriage is based on a union of trust.
Consequently the same argument based on trust can also be used as reason to sign it. However a pre nup is not about trust it's about practicality in today's world
Soso

Newark, NJ

#4 Apr 20, 2014
Why would you want to deny your future wife part of any financial gains you and her made when you were together?

She has no right to any inheritance you may receive unless she was also named as an heir.

Anything you have before the marriage is yours anyway.

It's nothing but a document that you can use and control your spouse. Only a desperate woman would sign one. Smart girl
idiots

Utica, NY

#5 Apr 20, 2014
Soso wrote:
Why would you want to deny your future wife part of any financial gains you and her made when you were together?

She has no right to any inheritance you may receive unless she was also named as an heir.

Anything you have before the marriage is yours anyway.

It's nothing but a document that you can use and control your spouse. Only a desperate woman would sign one. Smart girl
A prenup would not include financial gains that you made when you were together. That's the part most women don't get. Most people asking for a prenup want to protect what was acquired BEFORE the marriage. What is so difficult to understand about this. It make complete sense. If you love the person asking you to sign one, you shouldn't want what was his/hers before the marriage. Do you feel that entitled?
anon

Utica, NY

#6 Apr 20, 2014
adrenalin surge wrote:
I recently asked my gf of 3 years to sign a pre nup. She refused and now we are done. Why is it so difficult for a person to understand that someone with assets wants to keep the state out of their business? I have no problem sharing what we acquire together in marriage. If anything the prenup creates a disincentive for her to leave. I asked her if she was upset because it could ruin her exit strategy. It's not about trust it's about protecting what you had before the marriage and what you may inherit. Besides she will benefit from it all if we are together. The only legitimate reason a women won't sign one IMO is that she is a gold digger. Otherwise she is free to leave anytime she wants and get at least half of what was ours together in the marriage. Why are these women so immature about this? I'd have no problem as a guy signing one of these if roles were reversed. Who is feeding these ignants?
Women are emotional where men can be more practical....IMO, it's a trust issue for her and that's a deal breaker for women. As A woman who went into a marriage in a better financial position than my now husband, I fully understand why someone would want a pre-nup, but would walk away before I would sign one.
Soso

Newark, NJ

#7 Apr 20, 2014
Isn't that what I said?
Megan

Utica, NY

#8 Apr 20, 2014
Soso wrote:
Why would you want to deny your future wife part of any financial gains you and her made when you were together?
She has no right to any inheritance you may receive unless she was also named as an heir.
Anything you have before the marriage is yours anyway.
It's nothing but a document that you can use and control your spouse. Only a desperate woman would sign one. Smart girl
Lil signed one & boy has she ever regretted it! lol

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