Breaking Free of Family, Relationship...

Breaking Free of Family, Relationships and Negative People to Achieve Greatness

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Been There

New Hartford, NY

#1 Jul 23, 2013
Please share your success stories and the positive things that are happening in your life after you've gotten rid of the garbage!
My story

Utica, NY

#2 Jul 23, 2013
I have always been one of those women who has been afraid to be alone. Truth be told. Ever since I was a teenager. This made me vulnerable to stay in unhealthy relationships. When I finally decided I had enough, and believe me, it took a while I broke out on my own. I decided to live life for me and my children. I got my friends back and started going out and enjoying myself. I didn't realize how much life had to offer without the restraints of being unhappy and tied down to someone whose life he only cared about was his own. There's a great big beautiful world out there. I'm glad I am seeing it. Better late than never
Been There

New Hartford, NY

#3 Jul 23, 2013
My story wrote:
I have always been one of those women who has been afraid to be alone. Truth be told. Ever since I was a teenager. This made me vulnerable to stay in unhealthy relationships. When I finally decided I had enough, and believe me, it took a while I broke out on my own. I decided to live life for me and my children. I got my friends back and started going out and enjoying myself. I didn't realize how much life had to offer without the restraints of being unhappy and tied down to someone whose life he only cared about was his own. There's a great big beautiful world out there. I'm glad I am seeing it. Better late than never
Great story and kudos for not only recognizing what was unhealthy but actually having the courage to take steps to break free and live the life that you deserve! Relationships should never define a person but rather enhance who you are. People who are secure in themselves get this and are not afraid to have their own individual identities. A supportive partner will encourage this. An unsupportive partner who is insecure will demonstrate resistance. It's a good test when you meet someone.
Ho Hum

Utica, NY

#4 Jul 23, 2013
Yes breaking free is the hardest thing to do, but its the best thing. You dont always have to turn your back on them. Just realize what they are and react with indifference; you ca nonly control you. My ex controlled me even after my divorce, and that was my fault. I allowed it to happen. Someone came into my life at that time, a very loving person and given the postion I was in, I let them go. He was hurt but it was for my own sanity. I wish he was here now. The world is round, maybe our paths will cross again.
My story

Utica, NY

#5 Jul 23, 2013
Been There wrote:
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Great story and kudos for not only recognizing what was unhealthy but actually having the courage to take steps to break free and live the life that you deserve! Relationships should never define a person but rather enhance who you are. People who are secure in themselves get this and are not afraid to have their own individual identities. A supportive partner will encourage this. An unsupportive partner who is insecure will demonstrate resistance. It's a good test when you meet someone.
it wasn't easy. I did the back and forth thing for a while until I realized 2 very important things. One, he'll never change and 2, my kids were being damaged.
So true

New Hartford, NY

#6 Jul 23, 2013
My story wrote:
<quoted text> it wasn't easy. I did the back and forth thing for a while until I realized 2 very important things. One, he'll never change and 2, my kids were being damaged.
People don't change (Men or Women)nor should you expect them to. Protecting your children is key. Putting our relationship insecurities (not to be confused with needs) aside and becoming strong from within is key.
Ho Hum

Utica, NY

#7 Jul 23, 2013
My story wrote:
<quoted text> it wasn't easy. I did the back and forth thing for a while until I realized 2 very important things. One, he'll never change and 2, my kids were being damaged.
As did I. I brought it on myself. I shouldve never spoken to him. My girlfriends told me to stop, but I used the excuse that I had to speak with him because of the kids.

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