Where are all the single middle-aged ...
Gloria

Indianapolis, IN

#65 Aug 31, 2013
Yeah, and MOST of those 'abandonment issues', as you call them, originate with 1) bad, abandoning, abusive fathers and other male realtives 2) the CONSTANT mysoginistic and patriarchal messages that are delivered to women of all ages through every media available ( and also predominately run by men, so be careful before you react ) 3) the utter failure of all you 'nice guys' to ever present yourselves in support of women PUBLICALLY at political rallies oriented towards womens rights 4) your incredibly unrealistic expectations that you have failed to see are primarily programmed into you as well and 5) using your votes to just to vote for more men against the policies that help anyone but white males. So, if you don't like the women in your world once they've reached an age where they've grown both savvy of and irritated by this, then can I recommend, gentlemen, that you begin examinging the validity of your bigotries and (gawd)'player games' and all of the poor jokes that inevitably fall from your bitter, old lips? Don't like being a lonely old guy who's passed his expiration date, is sexually on the decline ( and often totally kaput ), or the hollow, cold wind blowing in your face as you reach the end of your unexamined lives? Well, let's see...what advice would you give to a woman of your age and in your shoes? Whatever it would be, I'm sure you'll see how absolutely vapid it is.

Thankfully, there's a whole new generation of younger men who are NOT interested in following in the bigoted, unhealthy steps of previous generations of men and there's an abundance of them worldwide who are fun, have sexual stamina for light years, aren't bitter, demanding, and unrealistic and delightfully nowhere near as self-centered as the average middle-aged man or older. Cheers!
Hahahaha

Utica, NY

#66 Aug 31, 2013
Anna wrote:
I'd like to know the answer to that question too. I'm single & raring to mingle! No drunks & no constant sex. Hopefully we're past that stage.
WTF??? No "constant" sex??? Are you kidding me? I get the no dunkards part, but... What would you like to do, play crossword puzzles til 2 am? Maybe you were an abused child and who now has issues with the sex? Maybe you should clarify or try better men...
People

Philadelphia, PA

#67 Aug 31, 2013
I spotted one at the market talking to an old high school friend. Got the 411 too. Single, cute, rich, divorced yummy
Hahahaha

Utica, NY

#68 Aug 31, 2013
People wrote:
I spotted one at the market talking to an old high school friend. Got the 411 too. Single, cute, rich, divorced yummy
Where'd you see me???
single lady

Carthage, NY

#69 Aug 31, 2013
I find life so much more enjoyable by avoiding all of the silly games looking for the opposite sex.

Someone told me once "You have to make yourself happy BEFORE you can make someone else happy". In other words, once you find out how to enjoy what YOU like to do and with who - you don't need the opposite sex at all.

I'm a professional single woman who supports herself and lives very comfortably. What can a man do for me that I can't do for myself or buy it? Forget about sex - who needs it.
H Street NW

Utica, NY

#70 Aug 31, 2013
Hahahaha wrote:
<quoted text>
Where'd you see me???
just past the National Mall
Yada yada

Plymouth Meeting, PA

#71 Nov 23, 2013
Here's a case study of a 41 year old male who is recently just not interested. Never married. Lots of grad school in 30s when I found myself surrounded by women either too young for me or simply interested only in career at that point in their lives. Before that, lived in small town without women who were compatible, spent 20s wondering who I was and working hard to find out. By late 30s, finally in good career and stable. 1/2 year ago was in two-year relationship that ended mutually and well but was marked by terrible communication (not usually a problem for me, but we just didn't match in the end--stuck it out because we both admired one another and wanted to try). Now I find that I'm happy with directing my energy to helping the homeless and being much more involved in my church. I think a lot less about my own desires and feel a different freedom and purpose than I did before. I love the homeless people I'm meeting and just want to work with them (maybe that's my "generativity" that developmental psychologists used to discuss). And job takes a lot of time--also working with people, so I'm ok with that. Dated a few times after breakup but realized I'm not interested much so I flat out realized I'm not a good bet for more than casual company. So I just stopped so as to not waste my time or someone else's. In short, took a long time to get started in my career and life due to idealistic tendencies and then found myself where I am afterwards, late in the game. If this is what they mean when they say a middle-aged, never-married man is not a good catch, then I will concede. I think I'm an example of someone who took a long time to find himself and so just kind of missed many years possibilities and in these later years of possibilities has instead found himself in another place. I'm happy and directed and successful, but beyond a friend who will happily listen your thoughts and appreciate your time, I doubt I'd be able to provide much else. I just don't have the desire in that arena anymore. There could be all sorts of character flaws in this, but so be it; I love who I'm growing to become, stunted relationship skills and all....so, that's just one case study.
Spartacus

Rome, NY

#72 Nov 23, 2013
Gloria wrote:
Yeah, and MOST of those 'abandonment issues', as you call them, originate with 1) bad, abandoning, abusive fathers and other male realtives 2) the CONSTANT mysoginistic and patriarchal messages that are delivered to women of all ages through every media available ( and also predominately run by men, so be careful before you react ) 3) the utter failure of all you 'nice guys' to ever present yourselves in support of women PUBLICALLY at political rallies oriented towards womens rights 4) your incredibly unrealistic expectations that you have failed to see are primarily programmed into you as well and 5) using your votes to just to vote for more men against the policies that help anyone but white males. So, if you don't like the women in your world once they've reached an age where they've grown both savvy of and irritated by this, then can I recommend, gentlemen, that you begin examinging the validity of your bigotries and (gawd)'player games' and all of the poor jokes that inevitably fall from your bitter, old lips? Don't like being a lonely old guy who's passed his expiration date, is sexually on the decline ( and often totally kaput ), or the hollow, cold wind blowing in your face as you reach the end of your unexamined lives? Well, let's see...what advice would you give to a woman of your age and in your shoes? Whatever it would be, I'm sure you'll see how absolutely vapid it is.
Thankfully, there's a whole new generation of younger men who are NOT interested in following in the bigoted, unhealthy steps of previous generations of men and there's an abundance of them worldwide who are fun, have sexual stamina for light years, aren't bitter, demanding, and unrealistic and delightfully nowhere near as self-centered as the average middle-aged man or older. Cheers!
Gloria you are a flamin FA G! STFU B ITCH!!!
Spartacus

Rome, NY

#73 Nov 23, 2013
Yada yada wrote:
Here's a case study of a 41 year old male who is recently just not interested. Never married. Lots of grad school in 30s when I found myself surrounded by women either too young for me or simply interested only in career at that point in their lives. Before that, lived in small town without women who were compatible, spent 20s wondering who I was and working hard to find out. By late 30s, finally in good career and stable. 1/2 year ago was in two-year relationship that ended mutually and well but was marked by terrible communication (not usually a problem for me, but we just didn't match in the end--stuck it out because we both admired one another and wanted to try). Now I find that I'm happy with directing my energy to helping the homeless and being much more involved in my church. I think a lot less about my own desires and feel a different freedom and purpose than I did before. I love the homeless people I'm meeting and just want to work with them (maybe that's my "generativity" that developmental psychologists used to discuss). And job takes a lot of time--also working with people, so I'm ok with that. Dated a few times after breakup but realized I'm not interested much so I flat out realized I'm not a good bet for more than casual company. So I just stopped so as to not waste my time or someone else's. In short, took a long time to get started in my career and life due to idealistic tendencies and then found myself where I am afterwards, late in the game. If this is what they mean when they say a middle-aged, never-married man is not a good catch, then I will concede. I think I'm an example of someone who took a long time to find himself and so just kind of missed many years possibilities and in these later years of possibilities has instead found himself in another place. I'm happy and directed and successful, but beyond a friend who will happily listen your thoughts and appreciate your time, I doubt I'd be able to provide much else. I just don't have the desire in that arena anymore. There could be all sorts of character flaws in this, but so be it; I love who I'm growing to become, stunted relationship skills and all....so, that's just one case study.
DUDE! Just go out and bang the shitzle out of every consenting adult (17+) woman possible without cause or concern beyond gettin some. Just fckin DO IT! FCK THE BICHES!
Spartacus

Rome, NY

#74 Nov 23, 2013
Hahahaha wrote:
<quoted text>
WTF??? No "constant" sex??? Are you kidding me? I get the no dunkards part, but... What would you like to do, play crossword puzzles til 2 am? Maybe you were an abused child and who now has issues with the sex? Maybe you should clarify or try better men...
AMEN brother!
Mary

Utica, NY

#76 Aug 28, 2014
All the single middle age men in utica have multiple babies mothers and spend all their time drinking and have a pocket full of white powder. They try to score younger girls by buying drinks. This area is ridiculous!

“Do unto others before”

Since: Apr 10

They do unto you

#77 Aug 28, 2014
Ya' know, if the wimmens wouldn't weigh 300-400 pounds maybe they could find a man.
Whitney

Utica, NY

#78 Aug 29, 2014
Wow Mary ! You seriously really nailed it on the head . Describes a man I know all to well . I am sure there are some decent men out there . Not many but a few . Prob is you really have to spend time with them to make sure the nice guy routine isn't fake. Make sure he isn't hiding things like wife or significant other or how many kids he has . Could lie about just how many other women he has in general . So many men actually do that to . Good luck to all you single ladies with the hunt . Lol.
RNPC

Roslindale, MA

#79 Aug 29, 2014
Whitney wrote:
Wow Mary ! You seriously really nailed it on the head . Describes a man I know all to well . I am sure there are some decent men out there . Not many but a few . Prob is you really have to spend time with them to make sure the nice guy routine isn't fake. Make sure he isn't hiding things like wife or significant other or how many kids he has . Could lie about just how many other women he has in general . So many men actually do that to . Good luck to all you single ladies with the hunt . Lol.
My guy friends think women don't want good men. They want losers because losers are safe. Haha . Agree?
luv it

Whitesboro, NY

#80 Aug 29, 2014
My wife and I roleplay also 3x a week and she is one of the girls
from byrne dairy

“Do unto others before”

Since: Apr 10

They do unto you

#82 Aug 29, 2014
RNPC wrote:
<quoted text>My guy friends think women don't want good men. They want losers because losers are safe. Haha . Agree?
I've seen beautiful women with drunks and pill heads. Some with men who will not work and have the woman work to support them both.
They don't want a good man, they want someone who will treat them like chit.
RNPC

Newark, NJ

#84 Aug 29, 2014
Exactly ! No nice guys, just good ones

“Do unto others before”

Since: Apr 10

They do unto you

#86 Aug 29, 2014
Modern Man wrote:
The majority of women wouldn't know how to treat a Good Man good anyways !
AMEN
Mary

Utica, NY

#88 Sep 3, 2014
Whitney wrote:
Wow Mary ! You seriously really nailed it on the head . Describes a man I know all to well . I am sure there are some decent men out there . Not many but a few . Prob is you really have to spend time with them to make sure the nice guy routine isn't fake. Make sure he isn't hiding things like wife or significant other or how many kids he has . Could lie about just how many other women he has in general . So many men actually do that to . Good luck to all you single ladies with the hunt . Lol.
It's unfortunate .. U find the exact same men all the time on the bar scene. A few in particular. There just looking for the dunkest girl .Talked to one " middle age" man for 20 min.. Went from having one kid to two.. Kept checking his phone compulsively .. And just talked about his outstanding career. Come to find out after he texted for the next two days to meet him back at the bar that he's a druggie who lives at home with parents in his 40's and drinks every night.. What happened to his two kids? It's a joke out there.
anon for female penpals

Msida, Malta

#89 Sep 27, 2014
i am looking for a female penpal to chat with me...40 - 48 ....
i given up dating since most men around are divorced or separated those categories i loat for a relationship but not for a simple friendship that will lead to nothing than a brotherly friendship ( also have no brothers or sisters ( i live solo) but i prefer a female friend still)
the penpal can talk of anything, from pets, to computers and ps3 yes i'm fan of itech...that includes playstation games, i also am a fan of movies. a single female who is chidless like me would be preferred because otherwise there would be some conflicting interests although most of my friends are married with children, and i still enjoy their company. but the experiance to have a friend in your situation you will feel closer, and have more things to talk about. imo

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