Where are all the single middle-aged ...
Out There

Whitesboro, NY

#22 May 28, 2012
I don't go to clubs or bars anymore ... I outgrew that 25 years ago.

I do go to cultural and educational events but you won't talk to me. Why? Because I'm wearing my wedding ring.

You'll never know that I'm widowed because I won't take off the ring. That should show you just how much I want to meet a woman from this area.
they r miserable

Waterville, NY

#23 May 28, 2012
Out There wrote:
I don't go to clubs or bars anymore ... I outgrew that 25 years ago.

I do go to cultural and educational events but you won't talk to me. Why? Because I'm wearing my wedding ring.

You'll never know that I'm widowed because I won't take off the ring. That should show you just how much I want to meet a woman from this area.
The ring doesn't stop 'em. The like a challenge.
none

Carthage, NY

#24 May 28, 2012
So what fine place are you great women hanging out at?
girl next door wrote:
My friends and I are women in our late 40s and early 50s. Some of us are married, some are single. Individually or as a group we have taken classes, volunteered, gone on trips, gone to clubs and bars - you name it.
We have noticed that nearly everyone at these activities is either female or with a female as part of a couple. There are loads of single middle-aged women out there joining things and having fun, but there seem to be almost no single middle-aged men. Friends in various parts of the country report the same thing.
Where do the single men go? They rarely go out alone or with a male buddy. Our running joke is they're all home watching bad cable TV. Middle-aged guys must be there somewhere, but where? You'd think that if they wanted to meet women, they'd go where women are, but we rarely see them.
Can somebody solve this mystery for me?
Clark Kent

Camillus, NY

#26 May 28, 2012
girl next door wrote:
My friends and I are women in our late 40s and early 50s. Some of us are married, some are single. Individually or as a group we have taken classes, volunteered, gone on trips, gone to clubs and bars - you name it.
We have noticed that nearly everyone at these activities is either female or with a female as part of a couple. There are loads of single middle-aged women out there joining things and having fun, but there seem to be almost no single middle-aged men. Friends in various parts of the country report the same thing.
Where do the single men go? They rarely go out alone or with a male buddy. Our running joke is they're all home watching bad cable TV. Middle-aged guys must be there somewhere, but where? You'd think that if they wanted to meet women, they'd go where women are, but we rarely see them.
Can somebody solve this mystery for me?
Where are you? I was tired of bars long ago...Now, I'm tired of bad cable TV as well....

I'm educated, in shape, and banned in 37 states for being too nice...which is why I ended up moving back to Utica.
single guy

Syracuse, NY

#27 May 29, 2012
girl next door wrote:
My friends and I are women in our late 40s and early 50s. Some of us are married, some are single. Individually or as a group we have taken classes, volunteered, gone on trips, gone to clubs and bars - you name it.
We have noticed that nearly everyone at these activities is either female or with a female as part of a couple. There are loads of single middle-aged women out there joining things and having fun, but there seem to be almost no single middle-aged men. Friends in various parts of the country report the same thing.
Where do the single men go? They rarely go out alone or with a male buddy. Our running joke is they're all home watching bad cable TV. Middle-aged guys must be there somewhere, but where? You'd think that if they wanted to meet women, they'd go where women are, but we rarely see them.
Can somebody solve this mystery for me?
i'm a 50 yr. old single guy,and wish i knew where you single ladies are! you say that you go on trips with your friends.
well,you aren't going to meet any local guys while you're on a trip! you say that you go to bars and clubs,but do you sit at a table over in the corner by yourselves,or do you stand where the single guys are? do you ever smile at a guy,maybe even say hi?
ask a guy to dance? i went to yesterday's royal in sylvan beach over the weekend.nice place,good band,lots of single guys,but
hardly any single women. it's the same anywhere in or near utica.
if you'd like to meet a nice guy,here i am...
laughing

United States

#28 May 29, 2012
We're all working ourselves to death so we can pay our ex-wives maintenance and child support so they can live comfortably in the home we built for them and not get a job. Meanwhile we're left with 1/4 of our income so we're not rolling in the dough like all you gold diggers are looking for. No fancy trips, no expensive jewelry and you might have to pay for your own drinks most of the time. Lol
Scotch

Cortland, NY

#29 May 29, 2012
laughing wrote:
We're all working ourselves to death so we can pay our ex-wives maintenance and child support so they can live comfortably in the home we built for them and not get a job. Meanwhile we're left with 1/4 of our income so we're not rolling in the dough like all you gold diggers are looking for. No fancy trips, no expensive jewelry and you might have to pay for your own drinks most of the time. Lol
I never saw th eproblem with all the ex wives. I had thought of marrying a few time when I was younger but decided I'd wait till 35 or 40, At 30 I had made a lot more than most and got an advisor "FB" my mom knew and liked for years who was a real character. He showed me a whole 3 ring binder of clients he had made without the names that had taken hits in their excellent portfolios after marrying and divorcing despite most people figuring it was beneficial to your bottom line to marry before 25 or 30. Each went in with over a million and came out with about a third. I never looked back. The old man is gone now he was beloved when he died now I use his sons.

The way things end up today better off not marrying you can have all the fruit you want why buy all the fruitflies?
i know

Millersville, MD

#30 May 29, 2012
A man doesnt need a woman to live! Think about that a little bit ! It s true !
Lonely 2 Long

Rome, NY

#31 May 29, 2012
none wrote:
So what fine place are you great women hanging out at?
<quoted text>
Denny's North Utica. 8PM

“Smokin' Hot'n'Feelin' Groovy”

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Here, There, and Everywhere,..

#32 May 31, 2012
At what age is middle-aged...?
dave

Exton, PA

#34 Jun 22, 2012
-Just One of the Girls - Be confident, be nice , be funny -----
and get rejected, AGAIN! I know, I know, rejection is just a natural part of the "game" ( I have heard that lecture)! Women need to get rejected more often so that THEY can be funny, confident and nice!
Just Wondering

Dover, DE

#35 Jun 22, 2012
Scotch wrote:
<quoted text>I never saw th eproblem with all the ex wives. I had thought of marrying a few time when I was younger but decided I'd wait till 35 or 40, At 30 I had made a lot more than most and got an advisor "FB" my mom knew and liked for years who was a real character. He showed me a whole 3 ring binder of clients he had made without the names that had taken hits in their excellent portfolios after marrying and divorcing despite most people figuring it was beneficial to your bottom line to marry before 25 or 30. Each went in with over a million and came out with about a third. I never looked back. The old man is gone now he was beloved when he died now I use his sons.
The way things end up today better off not marrying you can have all the fruit you want why buy all the fruitflies?
Totally agree; anyone with any appreciable assets is crazy for marrying. I am a female and never had the desire to marry or have kids. Love my freedom and to see whoever I choose and do as I please.
huh

Rome, NY

#37 Jun 22, 2012
they r miserable wrote:
<quoted text>
The ring doesn't stop 'em. The like a challenge.
Yeah no shit, when I was single and hung out with my buddy (who was married and wore the ring out) all the girls would be making passes at him all freaking night... no interest in the single guy.
bar patron

Fredericksburg, VA

#38 Jun 22, 2012
Im waiting for a hot single woman to ask me out. And woman, u better have your sh*t together! And no drama !
Holly

Rome, NY

#39 Jun 22, 2012
bar patron wrote:
Im waiting for a hot single woman to ask me out. And woman, u better have your sh*t together! And no drama !
EVERYONE brings in drama. Some, a lot more than others.
Rabbit

Grantham, NH

#40 Jan 2, 2013
some help please wrote:
Found out that the woman in my life has not been faithful. So she has given me a hall pass for for one night of passion with someone else. I don't even know if I want to I love her with all my heart but maybe that's what I need to get past this. Anyway 40ish
5ft 7in tall 173lbs brown eyes and love to laugh and not a drinker oh and I love to give a woman oral. Could be a wondeful night for the right woman any takers?
Look, if you love her and she is really sorry. You know her,(if she is sorry) you know. Then forgive her and move on. Things can still work out. Sleeping with a stranger won't help.
Rabbit

Grantham, NH

#41 Jan 2, 2013
Holly wrote:
<quoted text>EVERYONE brings in drama. Some, a lot more than others.
I ditto that statement. But the Bar Patron, expecting a hot woman to ask him out and have all her "st#t" together. LOL! If you go by the name Bar Patron do you have your own SH#T, together.
My big thing is this: I don't care what rules a guy wants to bring into our relationship, I'm very compromising and try to comply. However, I have one rule, "whatever rule you bring in for me to follow, that is your rule too." Seem to have a problem with those putting boundaries on me but not applying those same rules to himself. Yes i am nice looking and nice too.
Rabbit

Grantham, NH

#42 Jan 2, 2013
Crazy Jae wrote:
At what age is middle-aged...?
At the moment it is 50yrs old, ABC news. But in reality you would have to know the date of your dealth to know what age was your middle age.
Yeah

Teaneck, NJ

#43 Jan 2, 2013
Interesting wrote:
Interesting. I'm in my late 30's and we ask the same question about where you can meet a good, mature woman around here. If you do see them out, they see more attracted to some old goof with a pocket full of dollar bills and white powder.
It also depends on how you look. Yes, sorry but the truth is that men are intimidated by hot women. That's why you see hot woman with ugly dudes. The ugly dudes are so used to getting rejected that they have no problem approaching woman after woman. A good looking guy is less likely to want to look like a sleaze and approach you. Women need to start approaching men more. You'd be surprised.
Well to be honest with you the good ones are either married or just taken. Perhaps they have left Utica altogether like myself. All the rest are in jail or still doing the same shyt they did 20 years ago. Sorry I can't be of more help.
R U Kidding

Buffalo, NY

#44 Jan 2, 2013
Woman here have masochistic personalities or bi-polar. They all have these childhood issues that make it impossible to have a stable relationship with. They want a "nice guy" but after you peel down the layers they dont think they deserve it and eventually will do anything to kill the relationship. They have trust and abandonment issues that manifested themselves why before you came along. If they ever do open up to you, you will see it, but they won't because theyre great actors.

Single guy, find a woman that had has had a stable upbringing and knows what unconditional love is. One that truly wants to know what you are, what you're passions are, and what you want out of life, instead of hoping to change a woman by treating her as you would want to be treated. They'll just destroy it.

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