Where are all the single middle-aged men?

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Interesting

Utica, NY

#2 May 27, 2012
Interesting. I'm in my late 30's and we ask the same question about where you can meet a good, mature woman around here. If you do see them out, they see more attracted to some old goof with a pocket full of dollar bills and white powder.

It also depends on how you look. Yes, sorry but the truth is that men are intimidated by hot women. That's why you see hot woman with ugly dudes. The ugly dudes are so used to getting rejected that they have no problem approaching woman after woman. A good looking guy is less likely to want to look like a sleaze and approach you. Women need to start approaching men more. You'd be surprised.
Male Single and Happy

Utica, NY

#3 May 27, 2012
Guys in there late 40's early 50's already played that game with you women 10-15 years ago. That's why you rarely see them out. Totally sick of the chase with no or bad results.

I love my couch and remote control. ;)
bored

Utica, NY

#4 May 27, 2012
I'm a professional guy in my early 40s and all I see out is the under 30 inked up broads and over 50 cougars. It's rather depressing.
drunkard

Holden, MA

#5 May 27, 2012
I hang out at bar after work to unwind. Come and find me at yur local bar,i am the dude thats passed out ! Come and make my day,honey !!
Anna

Rome, NY

#6 May 27, 2012
I'd like to know the answer to that question too. I'm single & raring to mingle! No drunks & no constant sex. Hopefully we're past that stage.
Lol

Utica, NY

#7 May 27, 2012
Interesting wrote:
It also depends on how you look. Yes, sorry but the truth is that men are intimidated by hot women. That's why you see hot woman with ugly dudes. The ugly dudes are so used to getting rejected that they have no problem approaching woman after woman. A good looking guy is less likely to want to look like a sleaze and approach you. Women need to start approaching men more. You'd be surprised.
Oh..so that's what it is? It's no wonder why you're looking! Lol
Maybe the dudes you consider "ugly" are actually nice guys who know how to treat a lady? But I guess you didn't think of that. Maybe there are actually women out there who are not impressed by some guy doing his best to impress her with his clothes and his made up persona and know a good guy when they find him? And the bigtime GQ guys usually aren't the ones who are intimidated by the hot women. They're usually the ones so full of themselves that they make jackasses of themselves by hitting on every woman they see. I consider myself one of the "ugly" guys...and my woman by my standards and many other men's standards is one of the hot women. But I treat her good...like a lady...and she knows I'm one of the real guys that tells it like it is and isn't trying to run a game on her. It's confidence in yourself...not arrogance that will get a real woman's attention...and keep it.
Just one of the girls

United States

#8 May 27, 2012
We want good guys! Did your hear me? GOOD GUYS!!
Be confident. Be funny. Be nice. And be yourself.
We'll take it from there.
some help please

Utica, NY

#9 May 28, 2012
Found out that the woman in my life has not been faithful. So she has given me a hall pass for for one night of passion with someone else. I don't even know if I want to I love her with all my heart but maybe that's what I need to get past this. Anyway 40ish
5ft 7in tall 173lbs brown eyes and love to laugh and not a drinker oh and I love to give a woman oral. Could be a wondeful night for the right woman any takers?
guy next door

Utica, NY

#10 May 28, 2012
Well, where do you ladies go that you're not seeing me?

Another thought, it's much easier to approach a woman who isn't in a pack. I'm fairly confident but being judged on approach by 3 or more women can be quite intimidating. Make eye contact then conveniently separate from your friends to give us the opportunity to approach you.

And for christ's sake, be honest if you're not interested. I know it's hard to believe but some of us guys can only focus on pursuing 1 woman at a time. If you're stringing us along because you're afraid of hurting hour feelings, it's just wasting our time which creates resentment. We're big boys and can take the rejection.

See you at Hannafords in the beer or frozen food aisle.:)
why bother

Utica, NY

#11 May 28, 2012
I'm all around town and refuse to make a spectacle of myself while you ladies sit in a pack with your girlfriends. You see me, I'm the guy standing there who would love for you to walk by and strike up a conversation. Instead, you all run for safety in numbers. Anywhere else that I travel, the women are forward. In Utica, they sit around guarding their depreciating assets. Go figure.
What

Rome, NY

#12 May 28, 2012
Go to valley view.
justin bieber

Worcester, MA

#13 May 28, 2012
All the good middle-aged women are married !!
Oh Brother

Utica, NY

#14 May 28, 2012
some help please wrote:
Found out that the woman in my life has not been faithful. So she has given me a hall pass for for one night of passion with someone else. I don't even know if I want to I love her with all my heart but maybe that's what I need to get past this. Anyway 40ish
5ft 7in tall 173lbs brown eyes and love to laugh and not a drinker oh and I love to give a woman oral. Could be a wondeful night for the right woman any takers?
Dude you're pathetic, no wonder she cheated on you.
they r miserable

Utica, NY

#15 May 28, 2012
What wrote:
Go to valley view.
And deal with snotty Italian women who love to gossip and think their stuff doesn't stink? Please, I'd rather sit home and spank it. I have another 10 years left of payments to my ex. She was Italian. Never again! I have never met such stupid and unworldly women as I have met around here. They have the nerve to make up for their ignorance with their mouths. Few bring anything of substance to the table beyond cooking as long as someone else buys the food for them. Pathetic. Keep your Valley View and keep them contained.
What

Rome, NY

#16 May 28, 2012
You keep those payments up I love hen our ex picks up the tab.
everyday joe

Worcester, MA

#17 May 28, 2012
Dont be so obsessed with women. Find a hobby or a sport. Grow some balls. Women aren't everything. Dont settle for anything.
the right stuff

United States

#18 May 28, 2012
What's up with the whining. Act like a man not mouse. Men step on mice. Get off the couch, grow some balls and get in the game. Wtf
sunshine

Worcester, MA

#19 May 28, 2012
The bar
funny

Avon, CT

#20 May 28, 2012
What wrote:
Go to valley viewg.
the men are gross there last time i went
joe

Rome, NY

#21 May 28, 2012
i go to valley view with my wife so i can stare at marissa, then we go home and role play and my wife plays like she is marissa.

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