Alexandra Kogut Obituary

Alexandra Kogut Obituary

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King

Utica, NY

#2 Oct 2, 2012
Clearly, it will be a long hard road for her family. Speaking from experience, you never get over the tragedy, but you try to live around the pain. I'm sure the outpouring of support from the community is helpful to them. A senseless death but hopefully young people can learn something from this.
joanne

Utica, NY

#3 Oct 2, 2012
Hug your kids a little tighter and remind them never to get involved in an abusive relationship...
Commentdawg

Bronx, NY

#4 Oct 2, 2012
If it was one of my kids he killed, he would not see the inside of a court room because he would be dead already.
hot air

Utica, NY

#5 Oct 2, 2012
Commentdawg wrote:
If it was one of my kids he killed, he would not see the inside of a court room because he would be dead already.
Yeah sure!!!
Straight_Shooter

Rochester, NY

#6 Oct 2, 2012
Commentdawg wrote:
If it was one of my kids he killed, he would not see the inside of a court room because he would be dead already.
Yeah sure. And how would you accomplish that there Einstein? You'd have to somehow get into the Monroe County Jail. And even then he is in segregation/protective custody at this time.
Must be great to be a Cyber Vigilante, Not well thought out either.
Thereareways

Syracuse, NY

#7 Oct 2, 2012
I feel for this family also. I have a daughter that I treasure. If I ever lost her, I would probably react the same way... find him, kill him.
You don't think you can get put in the same prison ? If you know the right people in law enforcement, things can be arranged. It might take a while, but I would eventually end up in the same location. They wouldn't be able to identify him when I was done. Trust me, I am serious.
years ago

Ilion, NY

#8 Oct 2, 2012
Thereareways wrote:
I feel for this family also. I have a daughter that I treasure. If I ever lost her, I would probably react the same way... find him, kill him.
You don't think you can get put in the same prison ? If you know the right people in law enforcement, things can be arranged. It might take a while, but I would eventually end up in the same location. They wouldn't be able to identify him when I was done. Trust me, I am serious.
Same thing happened years ago I believe it was at a Denver airport. A young man killed his girlfriend He was being extradited The father sat at a pay phone station When the young man passed by him The father shot him dead. As I recall The father received one year jail sentence for possession of a unlicensed hand gun. There are ways to get justice. If it were my child bet your sweet ass I'd seek death penalty
Just An Idea

Olmstedville, NY

#9 Oct 2, 2012
Isn't there a hog farm somewhere in Blossvale? I ask because there's a news report about some old farmer devoured by his hogs. Perhaps he fell into their pit because they found his dentures just outside. Anyway, there are creative ways of seeking justice. Death row inmates working on a hog farm, first there were 10, one fell over, now there are nine - lalala.
Rambo

Syracuse, NY

#13 Oct 3, 2012
dented shark tooth wrote:
<quoted text> Its dead, never saved anyone from a burning building. Bending over in college for any frat when you're gross looking and have a six head that's dented is no loss.
You are a low level pos. Go to hell
also lost a child

Ithaca, NY

#14 Oct 3, 2012
King wrote:
Clearly, it will be a long hard road for her family. Speaking from experience, you never get over the tragedy, but you try to live around the pain. I'm sure the outpouring of support from the community is helpful to them. A senseless death but hopefully young people can learn something from this.
I also speak from the experience of losing a child suddendly; a pain that last forever but somehow you learn to live with it. Losing a child is losing a part of yourself.

Recognizing a ticking time bomb in a person is not that easily detected; especially when you are so young.{something I also experienced) Hopefully the young girls of today will remember this tragedy and watch for the warning signs displayed by the animal that took the life of beautiful Alex. RIP sweetheart.
linda

Utica, NY

#15 Oct 3, 2012
Remember the Poma family from Whitesboro I think it was? They lost both their daughter and their son on Christmas Eve in a car accident. Both kids in their late teens. How they are still continuing to get out of bed in the morning is beyond me. It takes an incredible amount of strength. Peace be with all families that have to deal with the death of a young person.
also lost a child

Ithaca, NY

#16 Oct 3, 2012
Father too wrote:
I started this post before I left for work today. She wasn't even my daughter and I couldn't concentrate on work today. Being a father of a teenage girl too, I can't imagine loosing her in that tragic way. At least for me, I would feel dead myself, and everything I always enjoyed would mean nothing to me. I would become a different person, I wouldn't have the drive to do well at work, I wouldn't look forward to vacations, I would be changed forever. How does one overcome this tragedy? My answer would be, you don't, at least I couldn't, maybe I'm weak. I grieve for her parents, I hope they can grasp a little hope to move forward.
I know from experience exactly what it means to lose a child unexpectedly and suddendly and, perhaps, I can answer some of your thoughts.

You never "get over" the lost of a child as that child is part of you. I lost my son (4 years old) back in 1961 and there is not a day in my life that I don't miss him and still carry the pain of losing him so suddendly. I keep his picture next to my bed and his smiling face is the last thing I see when I go to bed at night and the first thing I see when I awake in the mornhings.

His name will always live on in my family as I have a Grandson whose middle name is the same as my deceased son, and one of my Great Grandson is named after my son.

I firmly believe that my 4 year old son is watching over me and his siblings and their families as our own personal Guardian Angel. There have been many occurences where without my son's intervention, tragis results could have happened.

It took me 10 years before I stopped asking the question "Why" as there is no answer here on Earth but since I am a Christian, I firmly believe that when it is my time to pass on, my son will meet me and I will finally know the answer to "Why" he was taken from me.

Finally, the only reason I overcame the unbearable pain of those first 10 days of dealing with the loss of my son was the realization that I had 3 other small children that needed me. These children saved my life in helping me cope even though it took over a year to be able to close my eyes at night and fall asleep without crying.

Hopefully, no one will have to experience the pain of losing a child that is reading this post as I wouldn't wish this type of pain on my worst enemy.
Kady

Oriskany, NY

#17 Oct 3, 2012
Anonymous wrote:
I laugh when airheads make bad decisions about men.
At least she admitted it before she died..."Should've known."
Teach your daughters to be smarter than this girl was.
Oh shut the F up. What is wrong with you disgusting individuals?! Should have been YOU in that dorm room that night, and not poor alex. What a piece of absolute trash you are. Do us all a favor and go jump off a bridge
hank hill

Clinton, MA

#20 Oct 3, 2012
Just An Idea wrote:
Isn't there a hog farm somewhere in Blossvale? I ask because there's a news report about some old farmer devoured by his hogs. Perhaps he fell into their pit because they found his dentures just outside. Anyway, there are creative ways of seeking justice. Death row inmates working on a hog farm, first there were 10, one fell over, now there are nine - lalala.
don't know about the hog farm in blossvale but it sound's like the movie Hannibal, and a great suggestion. I don't know if regular hog's or pigs will do this so why don't we wrangle up a bunch of the wild boars roaming and destroying tx and fl and use them? Wild boars are more ferocious looking. I think they'd be more effective. I'm for it as long as we can throw in pedophiles too! It'd be a shame to get rid of murderers and not the pervs if we can.
sabra

Manlius, NY

#21 Oct 3, 2012
Father too wrote:
<quoted text>
I'm very sorry for your loss, I'm not going to say I know how you feel because unless you live that terrible loss, there's no way of knowing the pain. God bless you and your family and thank you for sharing that part of your life with me.
You can't even imagine the pain unless you have experienced it.
Anonymous

La Habra, CA

#22 Oct 3, 2012
sabra wrote:
<quoted text>You can't even imagine the pain unless you have experienced it.
That's exactly what "Father Too", posted.
hank hill

Clinton, MA

#23 Oct 3, 2012
I don't know how people go on after something like this. It would be hard enough if it were from natural causes but this? I don't know where people get their strength.

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#25 Oct 3, 2012
hank hill wrote:
I don't know how people go on after something like this. It would be hard enough if it were from natural causes but this? I don't know where people get their strength.
You know for sure,after what you have been through. It is probably 1000 times more intense...
Ummmm

United States

#26 Oct 3, 2012
I'm having a hard time thinking about this beautiful girl being beaten to death with a crow bar. My heart aches I hope the angels spared her pain. My condolences to her family I couldn't fathom the pain. How could someone do this ? People seriously need to address their anger management
Anonymous

La Habra, CA

#27 Oct 3, 2012
Ummmm wrote:
How could someone do this ? People seriously need to address their anger management
Kids raised in the 80's and 90's were not raised knowing how to deal with the word, "No". It's part of the reason we have so many obese youngsters.

It's only going to get worse.

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