Financially speaking

Utica, NY

#23 Jul 30, 2012
Just Looking wrote:
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I always thought of marriage as legalized prostitution. It is true, it seems men pay whether thru dating or marriage. I think it is a stupid concept and prostitution should be legal; oldest profession in the book.
Big difference - prostitution is a quick fix. Get your rocks off and throw her out of the car. Who cares if you ever see her again. Marriage is a long term investment - emotionally, physically, financially, etc. Find a whore who will bear your children, pick up your smelly socks/underwear, and put up with your crap and flip her $20 every now and then...ain't happening. Guess you will die of AIDS or be single for life.
Gay Guy

Utica, NY

#24 Jul 30, 2012
Man wrote:
O an it is 17 percent one kid 25 percent two kids 29 percent three kid 31 percent four kids or more that is a big paycheck ladies get going
Why shouldn't a man pay to support his children? Maybe he should learn to wrap it up. How much do you think 31% of $7.25 an hour is? These women aren't rolling in the deep - they're paying their WHOLE paychecks to support the kids that live with them, and hoping to God that the men they were foolish enough to trust and believe in keep up their end of the deal.
Around

Baltimore, MD

#25 Jul 30, 2012
Just Looking wrote:
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I think alot of myself, thst is why I prefer to be single and like my independence. I don't believe in marriage.
Youll miss a lot.
Around

Baltimore, MD

#26 Jul 30, 2012
A good man would never take away your independence. The one that will ruin your lipstick but not your mascars. Marry him
I am Woman

East Rockaway, NY

#27 Jul 30, 2012
Gay Guy wrote:
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Why shouldn't a man pay to support his children? Maybe he should learn to wrap it up. How much do you think 31% of $7.25 an hour is? These women aren't rolling in the deep - they're paying their WHOLE paychecks to support the kids that live with them, and hoping to God that the men they were foolish enough to trust and believe in keep up their end of the deal.
Of course. I agree with you 100%. Posters were comparing marriage, commitment to prostituting yourself. Financial responsibilty is a given. Men that don't meet that obligation are not men.

"Just Looking" looks at marriage from a material side, and in my humble opinion a selfish side and the downside. Marriage is just a word. Commitment is what we are talking about here. When you are committed to each other and committed to raising your children almost everything else can be worked through. When there is abuse, betrayal, infidelity thats another story.
Gay Guy

Utica, NY

#28 Jul 30, 2012
I am Woman wrote:
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Of course. I agree with you 100%. Posters were comparing marriage, commitment to prostituting yourself. Financial responsibilty is a given. Men that don't meet that obligation are not men.
"Just Looking" looks at marriage from a material side, and in my humble opinion a selfish side and the downside. Marriage is just a word. Commitment is what we are talking about here. When you are committed to each other and committed to raising your children almost everything else can be worked through. When there is abuse, betrayal, infidelity thats another story.
You are looking at it through biased eyes. Marriage has historically been for few things - love, family, and money. Haven't you ever heard of a dowry? The old monarch tradition of "keeping it in the family" to make sure the "bloodlines stayed pure" (and the money and power were well contained)? Or the fact that for a long time, women were considered the property of their husbands, and then their husbands' brothers when the former died)? That's entirely material. They WERE material possessions, and baby factories, in the eyes of the law.
You talk about infidelity, abuse, betrayal... but that anything else can be worked through. What else is there? Falling out of love? That can lead to everything listed. It's better, for the sake of the couple and any children they have, to safely dissolve the marriage and remain civil and courteous. Don't push your morals onto other people, and get your head out of your ass. The men that go to jail for not paying child support weren't duped into fatherhood by women who wanted some mythical "meal ticket." Sure, there are cases of CELEBRITIES being targeted for such things, but those are millionaires. The crumb bums who choose to rawdog it, and then choose to not support the child they made DESERVE jail time.
Around

Baltimore, MD

#29 Jul 30, 2012
I don't see the poster pushing her morals on anyone. She makes a good point. I've seen her posts before where a poster is degrading women. I like her position. If you don't believe in marriage don't get married. Going through life with a partner is the best way. It's nice to know someone has your back. Someone that appreciates and accepts you unconditionally. That's my view. Good night

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#31 Jul 31, 2012
Gay Guy wrote:
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Why shouldn't a man pay to support his children? Maybe he should learn to wrap it up. How much do you think 31% of $7.25 an hour is? These women aren't rolling in the deep - they're paying their WHOLE paychecks to support the kids that live with them, and hoping to God that the men they were foolish enough to trust and believe in keep up their end of the deal.
Why cant a man decide he doesnt want to have a child after conception....the woman has that right? Why not the man
Beautiful

Dover, DE

#32 Jul 31, 2012
I_Gets_It_In wrote:
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Why cant a man decide he doesnt want to have a child after conception....the woman has that right? Why not the man
probably since she has to go thru all the trouble to carry the child and deliver it.

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#33 Jul 31, 2012
Beautiful wrote:
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probably since she has to go thru all the trouble to carry the child and deliver it.
then he should be able to.charge her with murder for an abortion....same logi,
Around

Paterson, NJ

#34 Jul 31, 2012
No. You're wrong. It's a woman's choice. When you get a uterus, then you can decide.

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#35 Jul 31, 2012
Around wrote:
No. You're wrong. It's a woman's choice. When you get a uterus, then you can decide.
Thats cool....they are still murderers. Point blank period
Around

Paterson, NJ

#36 Jul 31, 2012
Oh well. Back to my post- I've been with the same man for almost 20 years. We never married. I refer to him as my husband. He's been a great dad to my guy. We own our home, cars and everything together. You can have a good life with someone without marrying and still be committed and your own person. He works i work. Up Until 3 years ago, we had seperate homes. That's it for me battery is dying! Interested in seeing more comments.
Tony m

Utica, NY

#37 Jul 31, 2012
Gay Guy wrote:
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Why shouldn't a man pay to support his children? Maybe he should learn to wrap it up. How much do you think 31% of $7.25 an hour is? These women aren't rolling in the deep - they're paying their WHOLE paychecks to support the kids that live with them, and hoping to God that the men they were foolish enough to trust and believe in keep up their end of the deal.
Yes but what about the good guys that make 30 dollers an hr an have been paying support for 21 years 1300 a month paying her rent her car payment get her nails done an for her box of condoms for all the guys that she is sleeping with that is ok don't give me that bull s """ it not fair we should not suffer for that bad father that the bitch should not of sleep with I'm the first place
Gay Guy

Utica, NY

#38 Jul 31, 2012
Tony m wrote:
<quoted text>Yes but what about the good guys that make 30 dollers an hr an have been paying support for 21 years 1300 a month paying her rent her car payment get her nails done an for her box of condoms for all the guys that she is sleeping with that is ok don't give me that bull s """ it not fair we should not suffer for that bad father that the bitch should not of sleep with I'm the first place
Sounds like someone has a personal grudge.... and you STILL aren't taking into account the SIMPLE fact that the custodial parent is spending 100% of their paycheck towards raising the child. Their paycheck pays the rent, the electric, buys the food.... the deadbeat dad (deadbeat because no REAL father would bitch about having to support his children) is just helping to offset the costs. Look at it this way - that single father, living alone, can rent a studio apartment and spend $30 a week on groceries; the mother with three children has to rent a bigger apartment, spent more on utilities, and purchase more food for the growing children. It's about fairness. Grow up.
What an IDI0T

Utica, NY

#39 Jul 31, 2012
Gay Guy wrote:
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Sounds like someone has a personal grudge.... and you STILL aren't taking into account the SIMPLE fact that the custodial parent is spending 100% of their paycheck towards raising the child. Their paycheck pays the rent, the electric, buys the food.... the deadbeat dad (deadbeat because no REAL father would bitch about having to support his children) is just helping to offset the costs. Look at it this way - that single father, living alone, can rent a studio apartment and spend $30 a week on groceries; the mother with three children has to rent a bigger apartment, spent more on utilities, and purchase more food for the growing children. It's about fairness. Grow up.
Who the fck can eat on $30 a week you dumb fck? One trip to Burger King blows your food budget for the month. Moron!

What are you supposed to pour milk over Cheerios 7 days a week?
Around

Newark, NJ

#40 Jul 31, 2012
Gay guy-there does have to be something more equitable. I don't know what the answer is, but living on $30 a week for groceries is not enough.
Good guy

Utica, NY

#41 Jul 31, 2012
Gay Guy wrote:
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Sounds like someone has a personal grudge.... and you STILL aren't taking into account the SIMPLE fact that the custodial parent is spending 100% of their paycheck towards raising the child. Their paycheck pays the rent, the electric, buys the food.... the deadbeat dad (deadbeat because no REAL father would bitch about having to support his children) is just helping to offset the costs. Look at it this way - that single father, living alone, can rent a studio apartment and spend $30 a week on groceries; the mother with three children has to rent a bigger apartment, spent more on utilities, and purchase more food for the growing children. It's about fairness. Grow up.
u are a jerk she is living bill free I pay her 900 a month rent an she does not even have to claim that 15000 year on her taxes am I can't claim it she put food on table that is it she makes 60 000 a year spends 500 month in her hair an nails an her trips to the casino an her doctor boy friend that she cheated on me with while I sat home with the kids let not forget about the power up her nose I the bad father u are a moron the women have it made have an get paid for life o I had a one bed room in south Utica am it was 750 a month cold what the hell are u talking abou dum bitch !!!!!!!
Good guy

Utica, NY

#42 Jul 31, 2012
An I pay all hospital bills an I have them every other weekend an tues an fri for 3 hr at night so I feed them two of the seven nights and u said she gives all her pay check know what u are talking about u Need to grow the hell up you are the reason these women do the things they do they think like u jerk !!!!!!!!!
Around

Newark, NJ

#43 Jul 31, 2012
I'm siding with the good guy on this one . I was married to doctor. Don't worry good guy. She'll see what that lifestyle is all about !

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