Level 3

Since: Jan 12

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#1 Dec 14, 2012
Why do people have to live there life being angry?
Why are they so angry...?

To the point that they know that someone has a allergic reaction to something and they push it over the limit of making them doing something to give them a allergic reaction?

Ever since i turn 14..I grew up with a angry father and a alcoholic mother..And I try to look for reasons to why they treat me the victim when they should be more considerate to there family...

I ask my self..Why me?
Why do You have to do this to me???

I try hard to make it easier every day but its like a challenge to have to deal with it..

To much stress on themselves for what..Having a family? then why did u have one in the first place?
If you cant handle a family then why did u create one? is my question?

why do i have to call you Mom and Dad..When Basically Boser and Anger are always better..

I respect my parents..But to the point where I have to put this on a online topic..Is driving me totally insane...

I know people out there will ofcourse reject me and make fun of me ...because well thats how people are...

I have to go to al anon groups..and what the hell there no help at all...I dont wanna hear about other people's stories..I wanna get help for it...

its putting me down in my future career and living situation sucks..

wish we had people that just cared out there and wasnt just getting paid for what they dislike to do..And not help people..

Anyone? can describe to me what to do with this situation?

Level 3

Since: Jan 12

Location hidden

#2 Dec 14, 2012
and not only that..But I am soo close to being with my parents that i am so attached to them and i cant break free...I am one of those people that are just told to do this and that..

no biggie..no help at all.!
hit the bong

Fayetteville, NY

#3 Dec 14, 2012
smoke a few fatties and relax, be thankful you have two arms and legs, your head isn't deformed, you have sight.
Hang in there

Georgetown, NY

#4 Dec 14, 2012
Not everyone will reject you or make fun of you. I won't. Try to think of an adult that you respect (maybe a teacher or friend's parent) and ask for help. Life may be extremely difficult now but you will be an adult soon. Prepare for that, for getting out of the house and maybe going away to college. Count down the days. Do whatever you can to plan for your future and concentrate on your dreams and goals when times are tough. Take care of yourself. Your parents will have to make their own way.
Maybe

Hamilton, NY

#5 Dec 15, 2012
Thundertazz2493 wrote:
and not only that..But I am soo close to being with my parents that i am so attached to them and i cant break free...I am one of those people that are just told to do this and that..
no biggie..no help at all.!
How old are you? You are not clearly telling the story. I can't totally follow it.
Apparently your parents are messed up and you are busy feeling sorry for yourself instead of trying to make the most of your life. You also think that someone else is supposed to take care of you? Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and let go of the baggage and more on!

Level 3

Since: Jan 12

Location hidden

#6 Dec 19, 2012
Hang in there wrote:
Not everyone will reject you or make fun of you. I won't. Try to think of an adult that you respect (maybe a teacher or friend's parent) and ask for help. Life may be extremely difficult now but you will be an adult soon. Prepare for that, for getting out of the house and maybe going away to college. Count down the days. Do whatever you can to plan for your future and concentrate on your dreams and goals when times are tough. Take care of yourself. Your parents will have to make their own way.
Thank you..

I dont know longer go to school as i have completed ..But i am looking into college soon..still is not easy...Having a family
sit on computers in separate rooms..

Level 3

Since: Jan 12

Location hidden

#7 Dec 19, 2012
Maybe wrote:
<quoted text>
How old are you? You are not clearly telling the story. I can't totally follow it.
Apparently your parents are messed up and you are busy feeling sorry for yourself instead of trying to make the most of your life. You also think that someone else is supposed to take care of you? Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and let go of the baggage and more on!
I am 19!
I am moving on...
I guess when people are stress they rather drink and be miserable then happy and spend some time with there family..

Be locked up in another room and going at it..

And I am not dusty as i have a everyday experience of lifestyle..and having to search for a job after another..Because people as managers do not know how to run the place..
I volunteer for people as I love to help others...
I have a life..Just want my parents to help themselves and they are not..and they think it is a okay thing but it isnt..

I want other peoples point of view with this!
Maybe

Hamilton, NY

#8 Dec 19, 2012
Thundertazz2493 wrote:
<quoted text>
I am 19!
I am moving on...
I guess when people are stress they rather drink and be miserable then happy and spend some time with there family..
Be locked up in another room and going at it..
And I am not dusty as i have a everyday experience of lifestyle..and having to search for a job after another..Because people as managers do not know how to run the place..
I volunteer for people as I love to help others...
I have a life..Just want my parents to help themselves and they are not..and they think it is a okay thing but it isnt..
I want other peoples point of view with this!
So all and all you are a kid. Do you have friends who you can talk to who help you deal with all of this? And I am not trying to be rude, but is English really your first language, as it seems like you are typing broken English so it is tough to understand. the big about the managers not knowing how to run the place and all and you looking for a job, does that mean you keep losing your job, and it is not your fault but the managers' fault?

You can not help someone who does not want to help themselves. If there is an alcohol problem with one of them, then perhaps you could contact the tv show "Intervention" on A&E and see if they would be interested. You need to tend to yourself, and live your life.

Level 3

Since: Jan 12

Location hidden

#9 Jan 13, 2013
Maybe wrote:
<quoted text>
So all and all you are a kid. Do you have friends who you can talk to who help you deal with all of this? And I am not trying to be rude, but is English really your first language, as it seems like you are typing broken English so it is tough to understand. the big about the managers not knowing how to run the place and all and you looking for a job, does that mean you keep losing your job, and it is not your fault but the managers' fault?
You can not help someone who does not want to help themselves. If there is an alcohol problem with one of them, then perhaps you could contact the tv show "Intervention" on A&E and see if they would be interested. You need to tend to yourself, and live your life.
Intervention..sounds pretty cool..
My parents will be very upset with me..But hey getting them on tv probably will boost them from drinking to much..:)
Thank you.
hank hill

New York, NY

#10 Jan 13, 2013
Your parents are unhappy with their lives, you cant do anything to change that. Go to school, get a good job and leave them behind. You dont have to be unhappy with your life.
check this out

Utica, NY

#11 Jan 13, 2013
i know just what this kind of things like i feel for you kid. hang in there it will be ok.
Django

Whitesboro, NY

#12 Jan 13, 2013
Goodluck to you. I can't imagine living like that. One day good things will happen for you soon and you'll find out sooner or later that your past experience has prepared you for something very important in your life. Keep your head up and your focus at 20/20.

Level 3

Since: Jan 12

Location hidden

#13 Jan 28, 2013
hank hill wrote:
Your parents are unhappy with their lives, you cant do anything to change that. Go to school, get a good job and leave them behind. You dont have to be unhappy with your life.
ya i know...i am working on that...But like growing up with no sociability and having alot of things to do..
and like i am there magnet..i have to ask to do things when i am capable of doing it myself..

Level 3

Since: Jan 12

Location hidden

#14 Jan 28, 2013
Django wrote:
Goodluck to you. I can't imagine living like that. One day good things will happen for you soon and you'll find out sooner or later that your past experience has prepared you for something very important in your life. Keep your head up and your focus at 20/20.
thank u..thats pretty hard to live my life by myself as i had to many rules to grow up with soon ill be 20 and i still wont know what to do with myself..i cant get my own place as i wont know how to care for myself...cuz of being treated the way i am...

thank you again
there

Fayetteville, NY

#15 Jan 28, 2013
Thundertazz2493 wrote:
Why do people have to live there life being angry?
Why are they so angry...?
To the point that they know that someone has a allergic reaction to something and they push it over the limit of making them doing something to give them a allergic reaction?
Ever since i turn 14..I grew up with a angry father and a alcoholic mother..And I try to look for reasons to why they treat me the victim when they should be more considerate to there family...
I ask my self..Why me?
Why do You have to do this to me???
I try hard to make it easier every day but its like a challenge to have to deal with it..
To much stress on themselves for what..Having a family? then why did u have one in the first place?
If you cant handle a family then why did u create one? is my question?
why do i have to call you Mom and Dad..When Basically Boser and Anger are always better..
I respect my parents..But to the point where I have to put this on a online topic..Is driving me totally insane...
I know people out there will ofcourse reject me and make fun of me ...because well thats how people are...
I have to go to al anon groups..and what the hell there no help at all...I dont wanna hear about other people's stories..I wanna get help for it...
its putting me down in my future career and living situation sucks..
wish we had people that just cared out there and wasnt just getting paid for what they dislike to do..And not help people..
Anyone? can describe to me what to do with this situation?
You are all set, by reading this, I can see you have what it takes, if you don't see it, know you are strong and intelligent.

Can you change your parents, only if they want to change themselves.

Why where you put in that situation, you could have been born Jewish years ago in Germany and watched people starve to death or watch your parents walk to their death, you could have been born a potato, no arms or legs, a giant hump.

Might sound harsh, but what you deal with is nothing compared to what other have been dealt, stop thinking you have it so bad. Help an old lady across the street, help someone, you will feel better, just don't waste to much time trying to help those that won't help themselves.

And don't turn into them.
hank hill

Washington, DC

#16 Jan 28, 2013
Thundertazz2493 wrote:
<quoted text>
ya i know...i am working on that...But like growing up with no sociability and having alot of things to do..
and like i am there magnet..i have to ask to do things when i am capable of doing it myself..
3 words of advice, on campus housing, and somewhere away from them. They'll give you the guilt trip but don't fall for it. You'll turn into them if you don't distance yourself from the situation, and seems like you've already figured you don't want to be like them, so do yourself a favor and do year round classes with housing. Graduate early, and do your own thing. You'll meet someone and have a better life than them, they'll be unhappy with that but don't let that stop you from being happy in your own life. They're clearly not, nothing you can do about that. Thats up to them.
Yankee

Brooklyn, NY

#17 Jan 28, 2013
Thundertazz2493 wrote:
Why do people have to live there life being angry?
Why are they so angry...?
To the point that they know that someone has a allergic reaction to something and they push it over the limit of making them doing something to give them a allergic reaction?
Ever since i turn 14..I grew up with a angry father and a alcoholic mother..And I try to look for reasons to why they treat me the victim when they should be more considerate to there family...
I ask my self..Why me?
Why do You have to do this to me???
I try hard to make it easier every day but its like a challenge to have to deal with it..
To much stress on themselves for what..Having a family? then why did u have one in the first place?
If you cant handle a family then why did u create one? is my question?
why do i have to call you Mom and Dad..When Basically Boser and Anger are always better..
I respect my parents..But to the point where I have to put this on a online topic..Is driving me totally insane...
I know people out there will ofcourse reject me and make fun of me ...because well thats how people are...
I have to go to al anon groups..and what the hell there no help at all...I dont wanna hear about other people's stories..I wanna get help for it...
its putting me down in my future career and living situation sucks..
wish we had people that just cared out there and wasnt just getting paid for what they dislike to do..And not help people..
Anyone? can describe to me what to do with this situation?
1. Quit your whining.
2. Get on with your own life.
Lived it

Roslindale, MA

#18 Jan 28, 2013
I was in your shoes once. My father was a drunk. A mean one. I saved up as much as I could and moved away to college. I would hate coming home, I would rather Bevin my dorm alone than coming back home. I used to walk to the al anon meetings after school and no one knew. They didn't help me either but I had no where else to go.

One thing I can tell you, it's not your fault.

Spend as little time there as you have to. Confide in a friend. Find that place where you can be alone. The library always worked for me. If things are getting too heavy for you, there is a crisis hotline in Utica and someone will be there and talk to you.

Level 3

Since: Jan 12

Location hidden

#19 Jan 30, 2013
hank hill wrote:
<quoted text>
3 words of advice, on campus housing, and somewhere away from them. They'll give you the guilt trip but don't fall for it. You'll turn into them if you don't distance yourself from the situation, and seems like you've already figured you don't want to be like them, so do yourself a favor and do year round classes with housing. Graduate early, and do your own thing. You'll meet someone and have a better life than them, they'll be unhappy with that but don't let that stop you from being happy in your own life. They're clearly not, nothing you can do about that. Thats up to them.
i am out of school already just need to work on a better diploma...
thank u

Level 3

Since: Jan 12

Location hidden

#20 Jan 30, 2013
Lived it wrote:
I was in your shoes once. My father was a drunk. A mean one. I saved up as much as I could and moved away to college. I would hate coming home, I would rather Bevin my dorm alone than coming back home. I used to walk to the al anon meetings after school and no one knew. They didn't help me either but I had no where else to go.
One thing I can tell you, it's not your fault.
Spend as little time there as you have to. Confide in a friend. Find that place where you can be alone. The library always worked for me. If things are getting too heavy for you, there is a crisis hotline in Utica and someone will be there and talk to you.
thank u...no its not a crisis...

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