HELP Reform Sex Offender Laws

HELP Reform Sex Offender Laws

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Sentenced To Life

Hamilton, NY

#1 Nov 8, 2013
To Whom it May Concern:

My life is Hell! In 1996 I was involved in a consensual relationship with a
16 year old girl. I was 23 at the time, we dated 3 months. We broke up and
after 1 year she pressed charges.. I was charged with Rape in the 3rd degree in
New York State. I took a Plea dealwhich gave me 6 Months in county jail and 5 years probation. If I knew then what I know now I would have have seriously thought about the deal I was
about to make. took the deal in 1998, I was told I would also have to register as a sex
offender for 10 years. Of course around here in about 2006 the laws and
conditions changed dramatically. I was living with a relative in 2006, a
local ordinance was put in place where sex offender level 2 or 3 could not
live within 1500 feet of a school or playground. So I was given 30 days to
move. I am a level 2. Then I was informed that my picture was on the
Internet. So that's when I found out about watchdog.com . I was devastated
but still held out hope as at this point I thought I had only two years
left to be on the list as was my sentence. Well that has also changed. It was
first raised to 20 years I must register then went to 30 years and now is
aLifetime registration subject to relief. I have had several jobs that I
excelled at only after a period of time someone saw my picture and rumors
and pictures started to flow around the work place. I have not been able
tomaintain steady employment because of constant harassment and being the
general public sees no difference between Rape 3rd (Statutory) and 1st
Degree which is by force, I am a monster to my community. I am called pedophile , child molester, rapist etc etc etc. I have had posters stapled
to telephone poles near my home which state this. Told by local police this is not against the law.I am currently on SSI/SSD as I now have Severe Anxiety and Depressive Disorder. I have become some what introverted as I always think I am being
talked about and judged when I am around people, and in quite a few cases i am correct. I live in a small town/city and I am VERY well known. I have
lost pretty much all hope of any kind of a successful meaningful life. I almost feel uncomfortable around kids now , not because of what I might do but because of the constant harassment I receive from others. I am dating or I am in a relationship with a small town elected official. I lived with her in the past but cannot live with her now as her address will effect her re-election. She does not need nor deserve the attention or harassment that I receive. These laws are so out of whack. I am lumped in with all other offenders, from the man or woman who sneaks into a small child's room and commits disgusting acts, to a man/woman who would kidnap and violently rape someone.The general public hears " Sex Offender" and you are a POS that's it. I
have done quite a bit of research on this since it has consumed my life since and since the laws were dramatically toughened. In 32 other states what I did was not even a crime. Sixteen is the legal age, but in New York it's 17 so Iam a Monster for life. I cannot attend a school play, go to a park. Reside near a school or a park. I have my picture posted online like a Monster and neighbors steer clear of me as if I am one. I have had no similar charges but after 8 years the laws made me into one. This is unconstitutional. I pled guilty and accepted a ten year term on the list but they raised it to life. This in my eyes it is Double jeopardy, It would be no different then or example Pleading guilty to say DWI accept a fine and a 1 year suspension
Sentenced To Life

Hamilton, NY

#2 Nov 8, 2013
on your license. Then when your fine is payed and your time without your
license is almost over they just say well now we think you shouldn't have a license for ten years, without a hearing or a chance to defend myself.
My only hope for relief is to petition the court for relief, to lower my sex offender level from a level 2 to a level 1 , then after 20 years I can
petition the court to be removed. This is disgraceful. I know the Supreme
Court has ruled this to be constitutional but they are WRONG! I am no
saint by any means but I am not this monster society sees me as. I believe this
to be a form of social torture. I cannot work, I have Anxiety and Depression
I never had before, I do not feel comfortable being out in the local public
asI feel I will be recognized and ridiculed. I have lost all quality of life
and have contemplated suicide and actually been admitted to a Mental
Hospital. Let me quickly discuss another situation i endured. In May/June 2011 I moved out of my Girlfriends house. I briefly went to stay with family while I found a place. Well I have 10 days to register an address or I am guilty of a Felony for not registering my address. Being Homeless is illegal punishable by 4 years in prison. Well I was staying with Family and I had to register my address, well the
no help

Utica, NY

#3 Nov 9, 2013
You took advantage of a minor sexually, but thought you'd be ok. Lesson learned chump
did the crime

Little Falls, NY

#4 Nov 10, 2013
You took a plea deal stop being such a baby! You are a criminal, no one cares.
Rick

Holland Patent, NY

#5 Nov 11, 2013
At 23 you should have been at the bar paying for some chick's drinks in hopes of scoring - not at a teen kegger party out in the woods.
salad sauce

Whitesboro, NY

#6 Nov 11, 2013
U all have no idea wtf its like till it happens to you
Stupid lil trailer trash lie about there age cuz they think its funny and ruin lifes its the girls who are the rapeist not us!
Blame the Victim

Syracuse, NY

#7 Nov 11, 2013
salad sauce wrote:
U all have no idea wtf its like till it happens to you
Stupid lil trailer trash lie about there age cuz they think its funny and ruin lifes its the girls who are the rapeist not us!
Typical sex-offender rationale, blame the victim. They lie about their age? How friggin' stoopid are you that you'd fall for that? Try thinking with the head on your shoulders next time.
no help

Utica, NY

#8 Nov 11, 2013
salad sauce wrote:
U all have no idea wtf its like till it happens to you
Stupid lil trailer trash lie about there age cuz they think its funny and ruin lifes its the girls who are the rapeist not us!
It's the lying teenager who's the rapist?? Seriously??? With that logic, no wonder your immature-thinking self got in trouble.. have fun registering, Perv-Boy!!!
clueless

Utica, NY

#9 Nov 11, 2013
salad sauce wrote:
U all have no idea wtf its like till it happens to you
Stupid lil trailer trash lie about there age cuz they think its funny and ruin lifes its the girls who are the rapeist not us!
You had NO IDEA she was underage? You obviously should have got to know this girl, before you jumped into bed with her. Now HOPEFULLY you know.. but now that you've ruined 2 lives, it's a LITTLE too late.. lesson learned..
Shipwreck Lady

Oriskany, NY

#10 Nov 12, 2013
find the posters you said that are stapled on phone polls and take a sharpie with you & write 'She said she was eighteen!' on them. So this was back in 1996 and now you're 40, she's 33. Just curious if you were interested in seeing her again.

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