Bi-Polar Women Who Present Well

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Predicament

Utica, NY

#1 May 4, 2013
Recently met a very attractive and well put together woman who came across as sharp. We dated a few times and it was hard to understand why she was single. I began to notice that certain things didn't necessarily add up. She acted like she had some social phobias. Today, I received a telephone call from someone in her family who monitors her. It was rather upsetting to learn the truth about this woman's life and her shady past. They called me purely out of concern and didn't want me to become her latest of many past victims. Now I know why she was hesitant to go in certain places. She was fearful that someone would recognize us and the truth would come out.

How do I disengage from what has otherwise been a wonderful emotional and physical experience? I called a therapist to meet next week and get some guidance. But now, this woman is expecting me to be with her tonight and tomorrow. I was advised that it was best not to confront her and tell her what I know. I did some additional digging around and the family member was correct. Please help. Thanks in advance.
Stiggs

Utica, NY

#2 May 4, 2013
I doubt you'd be in any danger confronting her, but she might stalk you or make you misreable; there's no need to tell her why you have to disengage, just say it wasn't working. She may not be taking her medication, because if she was, the odds are she would be relatively stable.
bad times

Meriden, CT

#3 May 4, 2013
sorry to hear about your problem , you better run and run fast or you will be sorry later you will never be able to change her, most bipolar women enjoy the thrill of being what they are
Predicament

Utica, NY

#4 May 4, 2013
bad times wrote:
sorry to hear about your problem , you better run and run fast or you will be sorry later you will never be able to change her, most bipolar women enjoy the thrill of being what they are
You are right. The family member informed me that she is well aware of her condition but chooses not to treat it with meds or therapy but rather alcohol.
Familiar

Utica, NY

#5 May 4, 2013
Predicament wrote:
Recently met a very attractive and well put together woman who came across as sharp. We dated a few times and it was hard to understand why she was single. I began to notice that certain things didn't necessarily add up. She acted like she had some social phobias. Today, I received a telephone call from someone in her family who monitors her. It was rather upsetting to learn the truth about this woman's life and her shady past. They called me purely out of concern and didn't want me to become her latest of many past victims. Now I know why she was hesitant to go in certain places. She was fearful that someone would recognize us and the truth would come out.
How do I disengage from what has otherwise been a wonderful emotional and physical experience? I called a therapist to meet next week and get some guidance. But now, this woman is expecting me to be with her tonight and tomorrow. I was advised that it was best not to confront her and tell her what I know. I did some additional digging around and the family member was correct. Please help. Thanks in advance.
This situation sounds very familiar. If you don't mind, what are her initials? If you know her middle name, just mix up the letters when posting.
There's no easy way out of the situation you're in. If you're not "in too deep" already, then it is probably best to back off as much as possible. Minimal contact, tell her something came up. When she finally does question you, you can try the old standby excuse of not wanting to get involved in a relationship right now.
Predicament

Utica, NY

#6 May 4, 2013
Familiar wrote:
<quoted text>This situation sounds very familiar. If you don't mind, what are her initials? If you know her middle name, just mix up the letters when posting.
There's no easy way out of the situation you're in. If you're not "in too deep" already, then it is probably best to back off as much as possible. Minimal contact, tell her something came up. When she finally does question you, you can try the old standby excuse of not wanting to get involved in a relationship right now.
I would prefer not to. She's been back in the area about 15 years and looks about mid 40's, but a few years older.
doesnt surprise me

Poland, NY

#7 May 4, 2013
Shes more then bipolar if a family member monitors her. Wasnt right someone called you about your relationship. Why would a family member find your number ? Why would a family member or person warn a complete stranger? Does she have a criminal record ? Jail time fir 15 years? Why was she away for 15 years jail people give good jail house rap , thats why sounds put togher..people deserve to have someone . Very nasty to inform a stranger or even aqaintence not to date someone be patient and kind if its not your personality to have compassion then run . Is she a piece of crap or truly off balance ? On the other hand if she is off the edge run . People should mind business. A phone call please
doesnt surprise me

Poland, NY

#8 May 4, 2013
Predicament wrote:
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I would prefer not to. She's been back in the area about 15 years and looks about mid 40's, but a few years older.
oh for the record if shes a drunk you will know , wont take long who the hell are u someone called to warn you ? I hope that woman finds peace . I really do .
Predicament

Utica, NY

#9 May 4, 2013
doesnt surprise me wrote:
<quoted text>oh for the record if shes a drunk you will know , wont take long who the hell are u someone called to warn you ? I hope that woman finds peace . I really do .
Sorry if you think I'm being judgmental. But, the family member did not call to warn me or tell me not to date her. But, rather to make me aware of some issues that she hides well. These issues could end up with me being falsely accused of domestic charges being a guy and a responsible person.

Also, your sentence structure is very confusing and you come off as rambling various pro and con snid bits. Did I touch a nerve here? Sorry, that wasn't my attention. Thanks to those who gave advice. I'm home suffering tonight with a sinus infection. That's what I told her. Ugh!
maybe

Ashburn, VA

#10 May 4, 2013
The family member is the bipolar one.....try to look deeper. Keep it casual until you know for sure.
Familiar

Utica, NY

#11 May 4, 2013
Predicament wrote:
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I would prefer not to. She's been back in the area about 15 years and looks about mid 40's, but a few years older.
Good luck with your predicament. When dealing with someone who is Bi-Polar, there is a place for compassion. But there is also a place for self preservation. It's always best to remember that people who are Bi-Polar are not always in control of their thoughts and actions. However, that does not mean that they should be excused from responsibility for their actions, especially when their actions can wreak havoc on other people's personal lives and well being.
Radar Love

Utica, NY

#12 May 4, 2013
Predicament wrote:
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You are right. The family member informed me that she is well aware of her condition but chooses not to treat it with meds or therapy but rather alcohol.
That sounds like my ex-wife. Does she have one or two ...unusual tats?$50 a week on wine? Like to a sneak a doobie behind your back?

That's her, the porcupine. You know, if she had as many quills sticking out of her as she's had stuck in her, she'd be a porcupine!

Save yourself now, run like a MF and don't look back else you too will be turned into a pillar of salt!

RUN RUN RUN RUN RUN RUN !!! RUN RUN RUN!!! RUN!! RUN RUN RUN RUN!!!
Predicament

Utica, NY

#13 May 4, 2013
Familiar wrote:
<quoted text>Good luck with your predicament. When dealing with someone who is Bi-Polar, there is a place for compassion. But there is also a place for self preservation. It's always best to remember that people who are Bi-Polar are not always in control of their thoughts and actions. However, that does not mean that they should be excused from responsibility for their actions, especially when their actions can wreak havoc on other people's personal lives and well being.


I agree
Doesnt surprise me

Plantsville, CT

#14 May 4, 2013
That's ok . You sound nice good luck
True

Brooklyn, NY

#15 May 4, 2013
I know her. She was married and her kid lives with.
Hey there

Plantsville, CT

#16 May 4, 2013
Familiar wrote:
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Good luck with your predicament. When dealing with someone who is Bi-Polar, there is a place for compassion. But there is also a place for self preservation. It's always best to remember that people who are Bi-Polar are not always in control of their thoughts and actions. However, that does not mean that they should be excused from responsibility for their actions, especially when their actions can wreak havoc on other people's personal lives and well being. What's your initials ? You sound like you know someone
whats your initials ?
Chatwood Talbot

Utica, NY

#17 May 4, 2013
A family member is involved with a BP woman. She alienated her family & ruined our's. Our son has a child with the nut. Our side hasn't been invited to anything since the child was born! He claims she threatens to take said child away if he doesn't do as she says!
TRUTH

Utica, NY

#18 May 4, 2013
IF SHE REALLY IS BI-POLAR, YOUR FAMILY MEMBER HAS A GOOD CHANCE OF GETTING PRIMARY CUSTODY BECAUSE OF SAFETY CONCERNS. TELL HIM TO GROW SOME BALLS AND STOP MAKING EXCUSES IF HE'S SERIOUS.
Truth is

Plantsville, CT

#20 May 4, 2013
Chatwood Talbot wrote:
A family member is involved with a BP woman. She alienated her family & ruined our's. Our son has a child with the nut. Our side hasn't been invited to anything since the child was born! He claims she threatens to take said child away if he doesn't do as she says!
is she borderline or bipolar ?
Truth is

Plantsville, CT

#21 May 4, 2013
TRUTH wrote:
IF SHE REALLY IS BI-POLAR, YOUR FAMILY MEMBER HAS A GOOD CHANCE OF GETTING PRIMARY CUSTODY BECAUSE OF SAFETY CONCERNS. TELL HIM TO GROW SOME BALLS AND STOP MAKING EXCUSES IF HE'S SERIOUS.
sounds like he likes the way things are going..

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