bipolar never fall in love with a bpo...
ajv

Panama, Panama

#154 Jul 11, 2014
If she's divorced and with a medical history on depression,there is almost 60% chance she will be bipolar.
ajv

Panama, Panama

#156 Jul 11, 2014
Signs:
1. Into weird things, like kabbalah and new age stuff and they devote a LOT of time to this crap.
2. Heavy drinking when she doesn't need to drive.
3. Confession of another sex partner, besides you.
4. Lies about silliest things (like her married last name)
5. Depression combined with happiness.(really! Like she is down, you talk with her and then she is all happy and stuff. You think it's you who brings happiness to her life, but isn't)
6. When angry she does "Exorcist" type of things like writing with her left hand instead of the right hand she uses regularly when "normal".
7. She has "mommy" issues
8. When talking about her emotions she doesn't have a clue why she feels what they feel (I don't know, I don't feel it...)
9. Divorced and with a clinical history of taking depression medicines.
10. There are a couple who looks amazing, shaved down there and everything. However the place looks often a mess. Mine has clothes spread all over her room.
11. Incredible sex drive. This is perhaps the only good thing.
12. Excentric behavior. Often they look like goths or emos, even thought they aren't really one. Think Ally Sheedy on the Breakfast Club or Angelina Jolie on Girl Interrupted.
13. They told you once in a while, how men always try to hit on them, even it's not the subject of conversation.
14. They can be really smart, if you let your guard down they will take advantage of you.
15. They quit their steady jobs to try "different" things, you know are weird.
16. They told you on their "episodes" they don't wan't to see you anymore and then 2 weeks later they want to be with you or ask you for time.
17. Weird sleep time. They don't sleep like regular and normal people or they sleep too much.
My advice? Don't fall in love. Do her and leave her. Sounds awful I know, but you cannot win on this one. If you get into deep, you will see the ugly and bitter end.
If you stay on the "friend zone", maybe, maybe if she is bipolar 2 or not so aggravated you can achieve something if she decides to visit an specialist.
Otherwise...run away!!!

Since: Nov 12

Location hidden

#157 Jul 12, 2014
ajv wrote:
Signs:
1. Into weird things, like kabbalah and new age stuff and they devote a LOT of time to this crap.
2. Heavy drinking when she doesn't need to drive.
3. Confession of another sex partner, besides you.
4. Lies about silliest things (like her married last name)
5. Depression combined with happiness.(really! Like she is down, you talk with her and then she is all happy and stuff. You think it's you who brings happiness to her life, but isn't)
6. When angry she does "Exorcist" type of things like writing with her left hand instead of the right hand she uses regularly when "normal".
7. She has "mommy" issues
8. When talking about her emotions she doesn't have a clue why she feels what they feel (I don't know, I don't feel it...)
9. Divorced and with a clinical history of taking depression medicines.
10. There are a couple who looks amazing, shaved down there and everything. However the place looks often a mess. Mine has clothes spread all over her room.
11. Incredible sex drive. This is perhaps the only good thing.
12. Excentric behavior. Often they look like goths or emos, even thought they aren't really one. Think Ally Sheedy on the Breakfast Club or Angelina Jolie on Girl Interrupted.
13. They told you once in a while, how men always try to hit on them, even it's not the subject of conversation.
14. They can be really smart, if you let your guard down they will take advantage of you.
15. They quit their steady jobs to try "different" things, you know are weird.
16. They told you on their "episodes" they don't wan't to see you anymore and then 2 weeks later they want to be with you or ask you for time.
17. Weird sleep time. They don't sleep like regular and normal people or they sleep too much.
My advice? Don't fall in love. Do her and leave her. Sounds awful I know, but you cannot win on this one. If you get into deep, you will see the ugly and bitter end.
If you stay on the "friend zone", maybe, maybe if she is bipolar 2 or not so aggravated you can achieve something if she decides to visit an specialist.
Otherwise...run away!!!
You know it. Accurate for sure!
Joey

Utica, NY

#158 Jul 12, 2014
Also add to this list:

When angry, they like to throw dishes or anything available.

Will throw your clothes out the door.

Alienates you from your family. Already alienated from her own family.
They have to literally kiss-her-azz to get back into her good graces.

EVERYONE is against her.....except herself.

You have to be VERY careful how you word things. She ALWAYS takes it the wrong way.

This is only the beginning.
4x4

Utica, NY

#159 Jul 12, 2014
Joey wrote:
Also add to this list:

When angry, they like to throw dishes or anything available.

Will throw your clothes out the door.

Alienates you from your family. Already alienated from her own family.
They have to literally kiss-her-azz to get back into her good graces.

EVERYONE is against her.....except herself.

You have to be VERY careful how you word things. She ALWAYS takes it the wrong way.

This is only the beginning.
Thanks for the warning dude I owe you a beer!
codrut

Orange, CA

#160 Jul 12, 2014
was on and off with a young woman who was a bipolar 2. we were on and off at the beginning because of her antics, which i thought were just games and i left her. She eventually came back several times where i denied her, but she kept feeding me these stories of how she was changed. Being a fool i believed her and took her back. the last couple months of our relationship started becoming serious, but she was still have episodes where she would fight with me for seemingly small things. Like many have stated here, jekle and hyde type things. Would love you one minute and would turn into a completely different person the next. The relationship began becoming very destructive for me. To a normal person who is seriously invested in a relationship you can't fathom how another person who has stated multiple times their feelings for you can just turn around and seem to not care what she does and how much she hurts you. She told me she was diagnosed with bipolar 2 eventually and the more i researched and informed myself the more i understood i could never have a stable happy future with someone like that. Read the signs and read them well. If she is a bipolar, i would pack up and leave immediately. It never gets better, no matter what you try, what you discuss. They are delusional, they admit something is wrong with them one day and the next the swear they are perfectly normal and don't need any kind of help or treatment. very sad indeed, but you don't need that kind of person in your life if you are trying to be happy or get places.
ajv

Panama, Panama

#161 Jul 13, 2014
the only way you can have a "normal" relationship with one (I think the one I dated had cyclotimia) is if she gets professional help. I dated this one for a month or so, and after 2 weeks of her "Exorcist" episode (She was screaming "I'm a loose cannon!!!" and writing with her left hand scribbles in a notepad), I told her about her condition and she got angry, saying "I don't need to hear this" and the worst thing...she was depressed that day.
Really it's sad because without the illness they can be amazing women, marrying material and everything, but you cannot help anyone who doesn't have the humility to recognize they need the help.
Relationships are hard, with "normal" people, yet with bipolars...
facts

Utica, NY

#163 Jul 13, 2014
ajv wrote:
the only way you can have a "normal" relationship with one (I think the one I dated had cyclotimia) is if she gets professional help. I dated this one for a month or so, and after 2 weeks of her "Exorcist" episode (She was screaming "I'm a loose cannon!!!" and writing with her left hand scribbles in a notepad), I told her about her condition and she got angry, saying "I don't need to hear this" and the worst thing...she was depressed that day.
Really it's sad because without the illness they can be amazing women, marrying material and everything, but you cannot help anyone who doesn't have the humility to recognize they need the help.
Relationships are hard, with "normal" people, yet with bipolars...
My friend you have compassion and that's great. But the fact remains, she has a mental illness and if you want to help her manage it, that's great. But when you start doubting yourself because she is stuck in a rut, it's your own fault. Move on you'll be happy in a few weeks.
Fire and ice

Westwood, MA

#165 Jul 13, 2014
They thrive on drama and discourse. There's something inside them that's screwed up. You can't fix anyone. Best case is you become codependent . No way to live your life. I'd rather be alone that with someone that doesn't have it together. There's always someone to fault. Ex husband , mother, family. They're adults they have to get over that and move on. You'll always be competing for their affection and when you get it , it's insincere. They're never looking for someone nice, they're just looking for someplace nice to go.
Fire and ice

Westwood, MA

#166 Jul 13, 2014
They can't be trusted because they'll put themselves out to anyone that gives them attention. Emotional hoes is what the really are
so true

Utica, NY

#167 Jul 13, 2014
Fire and ice wrote:
They can't be trusted because they'll put themselves out to anyone that gives them attention. Emotional hoes is what the really are
Look for someone that knows how to keep busy and entertain their self. The ones with no hobbies, interests and always making excuses are emotional zombies. They will suck the life out of you. If the ex husband or boyfriend wants nothing to do with her.... Pay close attention.
Fire and ice

Westwood, MA

#168 Jul 13, 2014
True . I've got no identity . Too screwed up
so true

Utica, NY

#169 Jul 13, 2014
Fire and ice wrote:
True . I've got no identity . Too screwed up
Life is short. Get an identity and you will be amazed who gravitates to you for who you are. The key is to set boundaries, know your limits and determine what you want in your life. I've dated many of the same bipolar types described. The sex was incredible but it always got taken away when least expected. That's when I decided to focus on me and take control. Either way the sex is just as good, more frequent etc. now that I only date women with common interests. They are much more stable. Here are a few things to avoid: doesn't work out, high maintenance, not financially independent and rarely leaves the house on a sunny day. Runnnnnnn
ajv

Panama, Panama

#170 Jul 14, 2014
Fire and ice wrote:
They can't be trusted because they'll put themselves out to anyone that gives them attention. Emotional hoes is what the really are
I don't think everyone is the same really...this one wants a guy who can take her outside the country and doesn't even know it. That's the whole deal. The "emotional" thing as you said can vary depending on the patient.
ajv

Panama, Panama

#171 Jul 14, 2014
facts wrote:
<quoted text>
My friend you have compassion and that's great. But the fact remains, she has a mental illness and if you want to help her manage it, that's great. But when you start doubting yourself because she is stuck in a rut, it's your own fault. Move on you'll be happy in a few weeks.
You are right. It's a little bit sad for me because she's not a bad person by any means. I know a few of "normal" women who are just "diva bitches", so it's kinda hard to say goodbye to a good "bipolar" girl, because you think to yourself you cannot meet "good normal, kind" women out there, but you have to look at this without emotions, and without remorse. Trust me I know drama and it's not good. Best wishes to all.
ajv

Panama, Panama

#172 Jul 14, 2014
How is it possible wrote:
<quoted text>Who could get past a first date w a bipolar woman let alone fall in love with one
Depending on the type, you can get a date with a bipolar and most of the time will go down as dating an excentric woman so to speak. I did. Problem is when you get too involved.
ajv

Panama, Panama

#173 Jul 14, 2014
Since I joined this forum recently I will discuss my case:

I met this 40 yr divorced woman, she was very sweet and normal. After 2 years of ocassional dating. We hooked up, she was getting over a past relationship. I noticed several things on her behavior: she was with an incredible sex drive (She confessed to me she had another sex partner, I didn't like it but we were just "friends with benefits" so to speak), she is into a lot of things online (including a kabbalah thing) and doesn't sleep well, then I noticed most of the time she was depressed and she was sleeping with her street clothes on. I didn't give that much importance to the depression thing, since she was coming out of another relationship. She was very sweet with me, and I was feeling real hard for her. I was thinking marrying material in the future. She was asking me for "time" over and over again. I said "okay".

Then one night she had what I think was an episode. She began to yell at me for no reason. Telling me she was "a loose cannon", and not what I was looking for.That I was looking maybe for a mother or a sister and not a girlfriend. She began to write something with her left hand...and she is a right handed person!!! It was like an "Exorcist" type of thing. I was scared and also hurt.

Then after 2 weeks I asked her to meet me at a local coffee shop. I told her with respect: "you have a bipolar disorder, you need help". She got angry and left. She is not answering my calls or chats.

It was hard for me to let go because she was very sweet and we were friends for quite a while, but I had too. It was too scary and exhausting to deal with this kind of crap.

So there you go...that's the story folks...
Factoid

New York Mills, NY

#174 Jul 14, 2014
Dude, get over her fast. Save yourself first. Telling her she's BP is not the answer. maybe it makes you feel good but she needs to come to grips on her own. She will just resent you anyway for being a good guy and speaking the truth.

Since: Nov 12

Location hidden

#175 Jul 14, 2014
so true wrote:
<quoted text>
Look for someone that knows how to keep busy and entertain their self. The ones with no hobbies, interests and always making excuses are emotional zombies. They will suck the life out of you. If the ex husband or boyfriend wants nothing to do with her.... Pay close attention.
That is advice that needs to be said. She wear down husband and boyfriends and other men who use her. Pay attention. She blames very one else. Pay attention
ajv

Panama, Panama

#176 Jul 15, 2014
Factoid wrote:
Dude, get over her fast. Save yourself first. Telling her she's BP is not the answer. maybe it makes you feel good but she needs to come to grips on her own. She will just resent you anyway for being a good guy and speaking the truth.
That's what everybody told me...you never told a BP she is bipolar. But that was the way to get off that "merry go round" crap of the "gimme time".

Hope she can get help on her own.

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