? TN Child Support Laws
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FYE

Since: Mar 11

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#1 Mar 21, 2011
Currently my ex husband is several years behind in child support and I've sat back and done nothing while our children have suffered from his lack of financial and moral support. I feel like I have let them down as they now enter stages of their life that I can't afford alone. Although I have remarried, collectively we make less than 25 thousand a year. What are the laws on child support now? Thank you UC for any advice.
Luciano

United States

#2 Mar 21, 2011
Best thing to do is contact the child support services in Nashville. They will give you all the info you need.

FYE

Since: Mar 11

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#3 Mar 21, 2011
Luciano wrote:
Best thing to do is contact the child support services in Nashville. They will give you all the info you need.
Thank you, I will. Would have never thought of calling over to offices Nashville.
Helpful

Paris, TN

#4 Mar 22, 2011
The Nashville office will probably just tell you to call the local office.

Usually, the state doesn't get involved on its own unless you're receiving some government benefits, like TennCare, food stamps, etc. Sometimes they will pick up other cases if you ask them to do it, though. I honestly don't know exactly how they decide which cases to take, even though I deal with them all the time.

If you can't get them to do anything about it, you can take your ex to court on your own or hire a lawyer to do it for you. I assume that since you're making less than 25k a year it would be hard to afford an attorney, but West Tennessee Legal Services (our version of Legal Aid) might be able to help get you a lawyer for free or at a reduced cost.
TBI

Alcoa, TN

#5 Mar 22, 2011
Helpful wrote:
The Nashville office will probably just tell you to call the local office.

Usually, the state doesn't get involved on its own unless you're receiving some government benefits, like TennCare, food stamps, etc. Sometimes they will pick up other cases if you ask them to do it, though. I honestly don't know exactly how they decide which cases to take, even though I deal with them all the time.

If you can't get them to do anything about it, you can take your ex to court on your own or hire a lawyer to do it for you. I assume that since you're making less than 25k a year it would be hard to afford an attorney, but West Tennessee Legal Services (our version of Legal Aid) might be able to help get you a lawyer for free or at a reduced cost.
Helpful Paris-I've been so out of the loop on where to turn that the obvious didn't occur. On a personal note: I hate stirring the pot. So for "me" to go after him will be a big step out of my normal. And I ask myself, is the $ worth it. My kids have not missed out on a full stomach, not gone unclothed or lost any sleep over his lack in a few dollars. What they really miss is him being a real father. The man that would support no matter what happened, who entered the picture or why. He only sees one of his children 4 to 5 times a year and the other is growing less & less too. He started a new family some years ago and ever since seems to have moved on past his "past". He makes promises he don't keep to them and when he does see them it's a cash hand out to buy them the love he don't know how to give. Anyways, sorry to dump on you @ Helpful Paris. But it feels better letting it out. Thank you again for the advice. Perhaps a fee more days of stewing and I will have a pot full of advice to stir him in. Lol. Have a blessed day.
Helpful

New Orleans, LA

#6 Mar 22, 2011
No problem. Dump on me all you want. And I've known plenty of people to decide that the money isn't worth the hassle. There's nothing wrong with that.

And I'm actually in Union City. Sometimes my location jumps around on here a little. Not sure why. It's probably based on my IP address.
Vatican Assassin

Cookeville, TN

#7 Mar 22, 2011
Dear FYE

Are you going after the money because you need the money or out of vengeance? If it has been a long time coming are you just wanting to stick it to the other parent? If it is truly for the benefit of the children, by all means nail him to the wall. If you are just doing it out of spite, your children might be better off not being put through that. Just a thought.
just so u know

Brevard, NC

#8 Mar 22, 2011
If he works 4 cash good luck getting anything..however do contact the Child Support office in Dresden ASAP..the sooner u file the better! If you've never had an order b4 I don't think he has 2 back pay..they will take into account his other biological children when figurung what he has 2 pay. I've been in your shoes & don't regret 1 penny he's had 2 pay 4 the child he helped create!!

FYE

Since: Mar 11

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#9 Mar 22, 2011
No Problem Helpful-it has me tossing around also. I'm becoming more and more aware from my love and husband that as long as I stay true to myself the rest will work itself out.
Helpful

New Orleans, LA

#10 Mar 22, 2011
@Vatican Assassin: The children won't be put through anything. She's already said he's an absentee father, so he won't personally have any impact on them, and the children won't need to be present for a child support hearing.
Helpful

New Orleans, LA

#11 Mar 22, 2011
@just so u know: He may have to pay back child support even if there's never been an order. One thing a lot of people don't know is that, legally speaking, even without a child support order the parents are still required to support their children.

Also, there should be an existing order anyway. You can't get divorced without entering a parenting plan for the children, and you can't enter a parenting plan without setting child support.

FYE

Since: Mar 11

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#12 Mar 22, 2011
Vatican Assassin-Thought well taken. Since my stewing over, I've had much revelation that spite/revenge maybe best served cold rather than with my hot speed onto the Child Support Offices. He decided long ago what he wanted when it came to our children. He will be the one that will have to reap the harvest in fall and live with the reget in his winter years. Like I said earlier to Helpful, I'm thankful for a man in my childrens' lives that not only can help guide them on but will be there and see them succeed. Thank you, too for your advice. I seem to be showered today with kindness.

just so you know-I believe that cash may flow into his hands from time to time on odd jobs outside his factory job. I do have a court order yet it wasnt inforced through the courts...it was so backwards. I do think that for now I am going to let things alone and not allow my spitefullness rear its ugly head. Still the same, Thank you so much for your replying to the thread.

FYE

Since: Mar 11

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#13 Mar 22, 2011
Helpful-He was ordered to pay CS, yet he didnt pay through the Clerk & Masters office. He shouldve..that's what was backwards. He just wrote me checks.
hmmm

Zeeland, MI

#14 Mar 25, 2011
You do know if he doesn't spend time with his kids, if you address the issue, the court can and will raise the suppport amount.

Just remember, that money is not for you, it is for your children, and their care. He OWES that much to them, and if you contact the child support office, I believe they will supply any legal assistance you may need to represent the kids.
good luck

Milan, TN

#15 Mar 25, 2011
good luck with that.Ive been fighting the system for 17 years.My kids were 3 when me and my ex divorced.they are almost 20 now and in college. He has learned to beat the system by getting a job a couple weeks before court then quitting or getting fired right after court.The system in Tenn is so screwed up.Pathetic that they let deadbeats get so far behind and wont do a damn thing about it
FYE

United States

#16 Mar 25, 2011
Yes, I filed paper work..somehow he got wind of it. And he called me today asking why after 4 1/2 years..why now? I just told him the kids were due it. Not sure what is going to happen now but I'm hopeful good will.
good luck

United States

#17 Mar 26, 2011
I hate to say it but the system around here is so messed up. Mine is behind over $30,000 between a couple of mothers and nothing happens in CS Court. Just get to sit in the courthouse ALL DAY and that's it.
Good luck to you,FYE. Hope you get better service than more than half the single parents with court ordered child support papers do in OBION COUNTY!!!!!!!!!
william

United States

#18 Jun 6, 2011
The child support system sucks I think it should be deactivated because they make most father's pay in to much Money . Like when I was in Iraq they did an income assessment. And pumped mine up to $1300 a month then I get back here and it took over a year to get it lowered mean while in that year they were taking. Half of my pay check and I was still going $650.00 a month. In back child support so after a year I owed them $10,000 .but they should leave. It up to a judge to set the payments at a reasonable monthly payment not cock sucking child support laser in Cleveland. TN.

Since: May 11

Martinsville Va

#19 Jun 6, 2011
Take his ass to court. They will garnish the dirtbag's wages and any income tax return he might get.

If he doesn't work or gets paid under the table then they will yank his drivers license if he still won't pay.

Since: May 11

Martinsville Va

#20 Jun 6, 2011
FYE wrote:
Helpful-He was ordered to pay CS, yet he didnt pay through the Clerk & Masters office. He shouldve..that's what was backwards. He just wrote me checks.
If you have his employer and his SSN number then you need to go back to the child support place and tell them you want some action. It won't cost you a dime and Helpful is wrong, it doesn't matter if you are on government aid or not...they take all cases.

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