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The Ugly Truth

Martin, TN

#1 Oct 21, 2010
I believe in marriage. I believe just as strongly in divorce. Getting a divorce will test your endurance, patience, and sanity. Anyone who has ever gotten out of a loveless, heartless, sexless, emotionless, abusive marriage knows what I'm talking about. Anyone who is still living in their own private hell may need some help, however. I'm going to list MY joys of impending divorce... hope anyone who reads this and has been through a nasty divorce, will post what they loved about being out of their own horrible relationships.

1. I come home to a clean place to live. I know when I leave the house to go out and come back, that it will be just as I left it.

2. I can go to bed when I choose - whether it be 7 at night or 4 in the morning. No one says anything about it one way or the other.

3. I can have a bowl of cereal for breakfast, lunch and dinner, or choose not to eat anything at all.

4. I don't have to explain where I've been, who I've been out with, what I did, what I spent, or anything else. No inquisitions!!

5. I can crawl in my bed and not worry about being injured in my sleep.

6. I can have sex with someone I WANT to have sex with, someone I love, rather than have sex out of some kind of sick obligation.

7. I can watch anything I want or nothing at all, on television, as I please.

8. I can leave the bathroom door open if I want, when I take a shower.

9. I can parade around naked all I want without worrying that someone is staring at me or saying something about the 5 pounds I need to get rid of.

10. I don't have to smell his nasty cigarettes stinking up the house.

11. I can sleep on the couch, in my beautiful and comfortable bed, or in the floor, if I want (without worrying that somebody wills step on me in the middle of the night).

12. I don't have to worry about my husband bringing me a disease of some kind because of his extra-marital habits.

13. I lay in my bed and watch television without worrying about hearing 'weird' sounds coming from somewhere else in the house.

14. My car is safer here than it was at home.

15. I can have company any time I want!

16. I feel safer and happier.

There are a lot more things I could list here, but I think you get the general idea. Please, feel free to post what you like or liked about your divorce. I know I can't be the only one who is enjoying her freedom from hell.
TheWeatherGirl

Morristown, TN

#2 Oct 22, 2010
The Ugly Truth wrote:
I believe in marriage. I believe just as strongly in divorce. Getting a divorce will test your endurance, patience, and sanity. Anyone who has ever gotten out of a loveless, heartless, sexless, emotionless, abusive marriage knows what I'm talking about. Anyone who is still living in their own private hell may need some help, however. I'm going to list MY joys of impending divorce... hope anyone who reads this and has been through a nasty divorce, will post what they loved about being out of their own horrible relationships.
1. I come home to a clean place to live. I know when I leave the house to go out and come back, that it will be just as I left it.
2. I can go to bed when I choose - whether it be 7 at night or 4 in the morning. No one says anything about it one way or the other.
3. I can have a bowl of cereal for breakfast, lunch and dinner, or choose not to eat anything at all.
4. I don't have to explain where I've been, who I've been out with, what I did, what I spent, or anything else. No inquisitions!!
5. I can crawl in my bed and not worry about being injured in my sleep.
6. I can have sex with someone I WANT to have sex with, someone I love, rather than have sex out of some kind of sick obligation.
7. I can watch anything I want or nothing at all, on television, as I please.
8. I can leave the bathroom door open if I want, when I take a shower.
9. I can parade around naked all I want without worrying that someone is staring at me or saying something about the 5 pounds I need to get rid of.
10. I don't have to smell his nasty cigarettes stinking up the house.
11. I can sleep on the couch, in my beautiful and comfortable bed, or in the floor, if I want (without worrying that somebody wills step on me in the middle of the night).
12. I don't have to worry about my husband bringing me a disease of some kind because of his extra-marital habits.
13. I lay in my bed and watch television without worrying about hearing 'weird' sounds coming from somewhere else in the house.
14. My car is safer here than it was at home.
15. I can have company any time I want!
16. I feel safer and happier.
There are a lot more things I could list here, but I think you get the general idea. Please, feel free to post what you like or liked about your divorce. I know I can't be the only one who is enjoying her freedom from hell.
5." I can crawl in my bed and not worry about being injured in my sleep." - Glad to hear , Baaahahahah. Too Funny
guest

Milan, TN

#3 Oct 22, 2010
I have felt the exact way you do now many years ago. I stayed single for many years because I enjoyed my freedom. I can now gladly say I have married my true love and this marriage is much better than I ever thought a marriage could be. God is good!
Sara

United States

#4 Oct 22, 2010
guest wrote:
I have felt the exact way you do now many years ago. I stayed single for many years because I enjoyed my freedom. I can now gladly say I have married my true love and this marriage is much better than I ever thought a marriage could be. God is good!
I am going through a divorce right now and I know in the end it will be totaly worth the headaches.
I have yet to miss anything about being married to my overbearing, lazy piece of you know what hubby. 15 years of misery is enough.
The Ugly Truth

Martin, TN

#5 Oct 22, 2010
TheWeatherGirl wrote:
<quoted text>5." I can crawl in my bed and not worry about being injured in my sleep." - Glad to hear , Baaahahahah. Too Funny
LOL!! It's worth everything to be able to do that. I'm happy not having to come home to an a-hole who made my life miserable, not to mention what he did to my family members, for over 17 years.
The Ugly Truth

Martin, TN

#6 Oct 22, 2010
guest wrote:
I have felt the exact way you do now many years ago. I stayed single for many years because I enjoyed my freedom. I can now gladly say I have married my true love and this marriage is much better than I ever thought a marriage could be. God is good!
You're right - God IS Good! When a woman or man says FREEDOM, the majority of people think you mean 'Freedom to sleep around.' That's just not true, at least in the majority of cases. In MY case, it meant being FREE to BREATHE, as listed in my original post, and much more than that. As for finding some guy to make me feel 'complete'- I don't need a guy to make me feel like a woman. I AM a woman... and now I am a woman who is free to breathe - anywhere I please. Glad to hear you married a good person!!! Bless you!
Divorcee

Union City, TN

#7 Oct 22, 2010
Ditto...I just got divorced this week..and I feel so free!
married

Cookeville, TN

#8 Oct 22, 2010
Maybe you havent found the right person?I really enjoy being married.I enjoy spending my life with someone.Sharing everything with that person.Its comepletly awesome!I wouldnt have it any other way!!!!
guest

Milan, TN

#9 Oct 23, 2010
The Ugly Truth wrote:
<quoted text>
You're right - God IS Good! When a woman or man says FREEDOM, the majority of people think you mean 'Freedom to sleep around.' That's just not true, at least in the majority of cases. In MY case, it meant being FREE to BREATHE, as listed in my original post, and much more than that. As for finding some guy to make me feel 'complete'- I don't need a guy to make me feel like a woman. I AM a woman... and now I am a woman who is free to breathe - anywhere I please. Glad to hear you married a good person!!! Bless you!
Exacly, freedom didnt mean I had to be sleeping around although it was nice to know that I could if I choose to! Lol I was complete before I married again, he just makes my life better. Not like the last one who wanted to control everything in my life and was extremely jealous to a mentally unstable point! He caught me when I was way too young and trying to get out of a home where alot of abuse was going on. Ironic , huh?
dummie

Morristown, TN

#10 Oct 23, 2010
never say never
love it

United States

#11 Oct 23, 2010
The Ugly Truth wrote:
I believe in marriage. I believe just as strongly in divorce. Getting a divorce will test your endurance, patience, and sanity. Anyone who has ever gotten out of a loveless, heartless, sexless, emotionless, abusive marriage knows what I'm talking about. Anyone who is still living in their own private hell may need some help, however. I'm going to list MY joys of impending divorce... hope anyone who reads this and has been through a nasty divorce, will post what they loved about being out of their own horrible relationships.
1. I come home to a clean place to live. I know when I leave the house to go out and come back, that it will be just as I left it.
2. I can go to bed when I choose - whether it be 7 at night or 4 in the morning. No one says anything about it one way or the other.
3. I can have a bowl of cereal for breakfast, lunch and dinner, or choose not to eat anything at all.
4. I don't have to explain where I've been, who I've been out with, what I did, what I spent, or anything else. No inquisitions!!
5. I can crawl in my bed and not worry about being injured in my sleep.
6. I can have sex with someone I WANT to have sex with, someone I love, rather than have sex out of some kind of sick obligation.
7. I can watch anything I want or nothing at all, on television, as I please.
8. I can leave the bathroom door open if I want, when I take a shower.
9. I can parade around naked all I want without worrying that someone is staring at me or saying something about the 5 pounds I need to get rid of.
10. I don't have to smell his nasty cigarettes stinking up the house.
11. I can sleep on the couch, in my beautiful and comfortable bed, or in the floor, if I want (without worrying that somebody wills step on me in the middle of the night).
12. I don't have to worry about my husband bringing me a disease of some kind because of his extra-marital habits.
13. I lay in my bed and watch television without worrying about hearing 'weird' sounds coming from somewhere else in the house.
14. My car is safer here than it was at home.
15. I can have company any time I want!
16. I feel safer and happier.
There are a lot more things I could list here, but I think you get the general idea. Please, feel free to post what you like or liked about your divorce. I know I can't be the only one who is enjoying her freedom from hell.
I agree w #5,6,11 AND MOST OF ALL 16. This was a GREAT post!!!
TnVsBama

Macon, GA

#12 Oct 23, 2010
I think #1 is the best one of all... but that's just my opinion
love it wrote:
<quoted text>
I agree w #5,6,11 AND MOST OF ALL 16. This was a GREAT post!!!
hello

Martin, TN

#13 Oct 23, 2010
i agree!! i read it and was like omg that sounds like me except ex broke everything, bad drunk
The Ugly Truth

Martin, TN

#14 Oct 23, 2010
love it wrote:
<quoted text>
I agree w #5,6,11 AND MOST OF ALL 16. This was a GREAT post!!!
Thank you! The 'safe and happy' are the most important of all.
The Ugly Truth

Martin, TN

#15 Oct 23, 2010
hello wrote:
i agree!! i read it and was like omg that sounds like me except ex broke everything, bad drunk
Mine is probably giving all my stuff away. He won't let anyone bring it to me. Some lame excuse about how if and when I come out there all my stuff better be there. I'd have to be brain-deficient to go back out there for anything.
Dudes

Martin, TN

#16 Oct 23, 2010
Had to speak up for the male side of things, most of your list could go either way!:-) I'm happy to be free from my crazy ex wife!
info

Martin, TN

#17 Oct 23, 2010
mine still got another court date comin he dont know about from his stupidity
The Ugly Truth

Martin, TN

#19 Oct 24, 2010
Believe me, male or female, when you find out you're with a crazy one, you're just happy to get out from under that crap.

There is no way in hell I'd ever walk back into that nightmare. I'd sleep in my car before I did that. Hopefully that won't be necessary.
love it

Canada

#20 Oct 24, 2010
The Ugly Truth wrote:
Believe me, male or female, when you find out you're with a crazy one, you're just happy to get out from under that crap.
There is no way in hell I'd ever walk back into that nightmare. I'd sleep in my car before I did that. Hopefully that won't be necessary.
LOL everything you have said is TRUE. I'd NEVER walk into that nightmare again,myself. Nor would I ever put my kids through seeing the arguing and violence.
Reality-NY

Murray, KY

#21 Oct 24, 2010
Divorce is a sin. Divorce is not something to celebrate or be joyful about. I do not advocate someone to live in a miserable or even violent environment but for goodness sake don't promote divorce. What a DISGRACE some of you are and you probably call yourself a Christian. I will pray for YOU.

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