Lydia Dwight Sahlberg, murder victims...

Since: Jun 10

Location hidden

#22 May 13, 2012
noneed wrote:
You people make me sick, I am a family member of lydia and i know all of the facts and maybe before judging other people on what has happened in their lives you learn the facts and keep your mouths shut, you people have no idea what went on and why she got re married...and for the record the baby she just had was pre mature becuase the husband beat her up and attacked her forcing her into labor, and im sure you all will point that out saying "oh well if she was a good person and a good mom she wouldnt be married to a man that will beat her up"...shut the hell up and get a life and stop judging people based on facts that you get off of Google you...and as for the baby registry...she did all of that before she had the baby taken away you idiots..if you had a baby would you go register for the baby after she was born? no you wouldn't...use your heads and think about it before you talk.
OK, well you opened the door. If she was beat up by him, than, WHY was the baby taken away????? I am educated and know enough about victim rights and the law, that if she was a victim of abuse by him, the baby would NOT have been removed from her custody, especially with him in jail and a so called RO against him.... doesn't add up family member.....set the record straight????
You call "us" IDIOTS but we have legitimate reasons to question this situation. You aren't giving us legitimate reasons not to... We get facts that are of public record, give us something substantial that proves a defense for her....PLEASE, so that we can lay this issue to rest.
noneed

Roseburg, OR

#23 May 14, 2012
The baby was taken due to a faulty life style by Lydia, and for the record I never said she was taken away because rob(her husband) beat her up now did I? She got a R/O because the B.W.A told her to so he cannot contact her while he is in jail, which because of the restraining order he can’t. Trust me the R/O is real. In all honesty you have no reason to question anything because none of it is any of your business, I could explain the whole story from before Sahara died to today’s date but you would still believe what you want to believe and nothing is going to change that. What i do know that if Sahara was still alive today she would not tell you that her mommy is the best one in the world. You have no right to say the things you have said about Lydia, no right at all. If you were in this same situation, which i hope that you never find yourself in a situation like this, nor do i hope this on anyone for that matter, you would be singing a much different tune about all of this. Put yourself in Lydia’s shoes for one moment, her husband left her to raise to kids, after awhile she got together with another man who was a very great guy and both Ethan and Sahara Called Carl daddy. All that changed because his son came to visit and the sons mom didn’t tell Carl that his son has allot of problems...and thus my a niece was murdered and now i have to listen to people criticize Lydia on how horrible of a mother she is because some psychopath decided to kill her daughter...you act like Lydia is some kind of monster but you haven’t seen her not be able to sleep at night because when she shuts her eyes she sees her dead daughter in her arms asking god "why?" you don’t see her collect rocks in the yard looking for ones Sahara would find her in the shapes of hearts...and you didn’t see all the bruises over Lydia’s body last month from a person she trusted, I agree with you that she might have not made the best relationship choice after her daughter died but do you really not understand how emotionally distraught she is right now? if you do not understand the psychological aspects of seeing your first daughter laying in front of you as your trying to give her c.p.r to bring her back...don’t question why she is doing what she is doing because you have no idea what you would do in the same situation...and explanation you ask for? What do you want the pictures that the police took of Lydia’s bruised body after her husband beat the hell out of her? Rob has ruined the rest of the life that she has had, luckily her daughter came out completely healthy when she was born, and for the record the meconium test came back clean...so you tell me why her daughter got taken away? Because the entire test say she is clean and she doesn’t have anything on her record to say she is a bad mom so you tell me educated one? Why would they take her daughter away? The baby has no sign of F.A.S...the doctors say she is healthy even to this day she has no problems...trust me Lydia will get her daughter back...so please stop bringing up Lydia’s life on internet sites...let my family be and let us finally get over the death of a beloved family member..

Since: Jun 10

Location hidden

#24 May 14, 2012
noneed wrote:
The baby was taken due to a faulty life style by Lydia, and for the record I never said she was taken away because rob(her husband) beat her up now did I? She got a R/O because the B.W.A told her to so he cannot contact her while he is in jail, which because of the restraining order he can’t. Trust me the R/O is real. In all honesty you have no reason to question anything because none of it is any of your business, I could explain the whole story from before Sahara died to today’s date but you would still believe what you want to believe and nothing is going to change that. What i do know that if Sahara was still alive today she would not tell you that her mommy is the best one in the world. You have no right to say the things you have said about Lydia, no right at all. If you were in this same situation, which i hope that you never find yourself in a situation like this, nor do i hope this on anyone for that matter, you would be singing a much different tune about all of this. Put yourself in Lydia’s shoes for one moment, her husband left her to raise to kids, after awhile she got together with another man who was a very great guy and both Ethan and Sahara Called Carl daddy. All that changed because his son came to visit and the sons mom didn’t tell Carl that his son has allot of problems...and thus my a niece was murdered and now i have to listen to people criticize Lydia on how horrible of a mother she is because some psychopath decided to kill her daughter...you act like Lydia is some kind of monster but you haven’t seen her not be able to sleep at night because when she shuts her eyes she sees her dead daughter in her arms asking god "why?" you don’t see her collect rocks in the yard looking for ones Sahara would find her in the shapes of hearts...and you didn’t see all the bruises over Lydia’s body last month from a person she trusted, I agree with you that she might have not made the best relationship choice after her daughter died but do you really not understand how emotionally distraught she is right now? if you do not understand the psychological aspects of seeing your first daughter laying in front of you as your trying to give her c.p.r to bring her back...don’t question why she is doing what she is doing because you have no idea what you would do in the same situation...and explanation you ask for? What do you want the pictures that the police took of Lydia’s bruised body after her husband beat the hell out of her? Rob has ruined the rest of the life that she has had, luckily her daughter came out completely healthy when she was born, and for the record the meconium test came back clean...so you tell me why her daughter got taken away? Because the entire test say she is clean and she doesn’t have anything on her record to say she is a bad mom so you tell me educated one? Why would they take her daughter away? The baby has no sign of F.A.S...the doctors say she is healthy even to this day she has no problems...trust me Lydia will get her daughter back...so please stop bringing up Lydia’s life on internet sites...let my family be and let us finally get over the death of a beloved family member..
Everyone goes through devastation during their lives, I too have had my share. It is how you deal with that devastation that makes you the person you are. It is unfortunate that Lydia’s emotional state is fragile, that being said she needs to focus on herself before she can focus on a relationship. That is the point I am trying to make. I hope that she is able to be alone and not get mixed up with yet another guy that is going to put her children and herself in harm’s way. My whole POINT in the matter from the beginning, is that her children should come first. I'm sure she grieves and that it is genuine, but had she made right choices from the beginning she would not be in the position that she is in now....

Since: Apr 12

Location hidden

#25 May 21, 2012
Just so you know. I am family. So at the time of the post, yes her mother was to get custody. Second, She is no better then he is but he is sitting in jail. Third if it was because he beat her that she had the baby early...she would still have her baby. also she registered for the baby registry at the last possible minute. And just so you are aware I am so in the loop as to what is going on that my recommendation was for both parents to lose custody permanently. Trust me you dont want to air their dirty laundry here, but what is good for the gander should be good for the goose. {Written backwards for a point}But why is he sitting in jail and she is sitting at home.

Since: Apr 12

Location hidden

#26 Jun 2, 2012
oh snap! It's complicated? now come on, it's not that hard when you are back in a relationship with the father of the teenage boy who murdered your daughter. And all while your husband is sitting in jail for crimes you also committed. Picking on her??? Geesh most people don't have it so easy....
smiley_face

Roseburg, OR

#27 Jun 5, 2012
Soo she is back with the father of the teen who killed her daughter?...and if i'm reading all the posts right he is in jail for beating her up? then why should she be sitting in jail with him because i don't think she could have beaten herself up? please make more. Isn't the murderers trial coming up in a couple of days?

Since: Jun 10

Location hidden

#28 Jun 7, 2012
queenbee53 wrote:
oh snap! It's complicated? now come on, it's not that hard when you are back in a relationship with the father of the teenage boy who murdered your daughter. And all while your husband is sitting in jail for crimes you also committed. Picking on her??? Geesh most people don't have it so easy....
You have GOT to be kidding, is she really back with Carl Wallace ....seriously? If this is the case, than I have NO sympathy for this lady. Why can't she just take time for herself!!

Since: Apr 12

Location hidden

#29 Jun 15, 2012
Her current husband is in jail and no he is not the father of the boy who killed Sahara. And yes she is back involved with carl wallace the boy's father while her new husband sits in jail serving her time too. Why arent you in jail Lydia? Dont worry Iwill be asking the olice the same question! See I know who you are and the crimes you have committed so how do you keep getting away with it? Hmmmm........

Since: Jun 10

Location hidden

#30 Jun 15, 2012
queenbee53 wrote:
Her current husband is in jail and no he is not the father of the boy who killed Sahara. And yes she is back involved with carl wallace the boy's father while her new husband sits in jail serving her time too. Why arent you in jail Lydia? Dont worry Iwill be asking the olice the same question! See I know who you are and the crimes you have committed so how do you keep getting away with it? Hmmmm........
I have been following Dustins trial in the news. I am curious if Carl will testify. I find it hard to believe that Lydia is back with him. I guess I will never understand. I am interested in knowing what kind of information you have on her criminal history.

Since: Apr 12

Location hidden

#31 Jun 20, 2012
Been watching the trial from the courtroom and watch what comes up on tv. I do not know if Carl will testify or not I can make assumtions but would rather deal in facts. I know alot about her but cannot share this yet as we are waiting for trials to run their course. Thank you whomever posted me clueless you made me chuckle.... wait and see, wait and see.

Since: Jun 10

Location hidden

#32 Jun 20, 2012
I have been following the trial myself...I am curious to see if any charges will be brought against Dustin’s parents.....He was supposedly on meds for Asperger’s, but he left them behind in OK...as a parent of a minor child, why did the mother not acknowledge that the meds were left behind on his visit and FED EX them and why did Carl not try to get the meds that Dustin would need, as a past caregiver I know that if someone on chemical balanced meds knows that if you miss even 1 dose it can interfere with day to day functions.....as a minor child, I think the parents of Dustin should be held accountable in some regard... That being said too, Lydia says that she sensed something weird about Dustin so why not take extra precautions....

Since: Jun 10

Location hidden

#33 Jun 20, 2012
queenbee53 wrote:
Been watching the trial from the courtroom and watch what comes up on tv. I do not know if Carl will testify or not I can make assumtions but would rather deal in facts. I know alot about her but cannot share this yet as we are waiting for trials to run their course. Thank you whomever posted me clueless you made me chuckle.... wait and see, wait and see.
cant wait for you to share....this case has caught my attention from the beginning...obviously, because we have been back and forth on this forum......

Since: Apr 12

Location hidden

#34 Jun 22, 2012
youngmkaren wrote:
<quoted text>
cant wait for you to share....this case has caught my attention from the beginning...obviously, because we have been back and forth on this forum......
Hope I can Share soon!!!! I am about ready to burst at the seams!:)

Since: Jun 10

Location hidden

#35 Jun 22, 2012
I just saw that Dustin was guilty on all charges...Sahara's Uncle posted on his facebook page about it but her own mother hasn't acknowledged it....It's sad to think that Uncle Nathan has more to say about the outcome than her own mother does.... very sad....and anyone that argues this....take note that on one of the most upsetting days in court, that night she is posting on facebook pics of "pappa Roach" saying...

Lydia Meyer shared Papa Roach's photo.

June 14.

I LOVE LOVE LOVE this man...Damn!! no JK is there anything hotter?
Working on cover ideas for the new album ...

Uncle Nathan is more devistated than MOM....very sad...and anyone that wants to contradict me...bring it on....no one can dispute these facebook facts..and I have images saved on my computer so try and make ME look like the BAD guy...
If My child murderer was convicted I would be all over that......
guess she doesnt really care...
and again...I have facebook pics showing Uncle is more abreast of things and more concerning...than MOM....WTF very sad
If you contradict me I can send emails....

Since: Jun 10

Location hidden

#36 Jun 22, 2012
queenbee53 wrote:
<quoted text>
Hope I can Share soon!!!! I am about ready to burst at the seams!:)
anxious

Since: Jun 10

Location hidden

#37 Jun 22, 2012
You know...I get that she never meant any harm to her daughter..... however....her actions after the fact and even before when she acknowledges that she had a weird vibe from Dustin.... have lead me to believe that she was not as "Caring and nurturing" as most people would believe
smiley_face

Roseburg, OR

#38 Jun 23, 2012
I just looked at both there face book pages and although nathan did post what you said he did lydia has been posting things about the case since the trial start, please if your going to judge someone in open media make sure you cover all your loose ends. You should be a reporter for the news review..and thats not a good thing;)
smiley_face

Roseburg, OR

#39 Jun 23, 2012
and as for her being caring and nurturing as most people would believe...I'm going to let you in on a little secret, there is no formula for how you should act after you lose your first daughter/son, especially if the way you lose them is that they were raped and murdered, and that justice that you have been waiting for, well that hasn't come until two years after the fact. Just a cookie for your thoughts

Since: Jun 10

Location hidden

#40 Jun 23, 2012
smiley_face wrote:
I just looked at both there face book pages and although nathan did post what you said he did lydia has been posting things about the case since the trial start, please if your going to judge someone in open media make sure you cover all your loose ends. You should be a reporter for the news review..and thats not a good thing;)
Lydia did post on her Facebook page prior to what I said about Papa Roach...But here in this forum I was stating what she posted after those...if you check the dates of her posts and what I was referring to, my statements came after the fact...so you cover those loose ends by looking at dates and posts....trust me I am not an amateur when it comes to PI work (and for those that don't know....PI stands for Private Investigator). I have followed this crime since it started and I am not going to back down now....and after hearing trial testimony, I am more upset about things than before........

Since: Jun 10

Location hidden

#41 Jun 23, 2012
smiley_face wrote:
and as for her being caring and nurturing as most people would believe...I'm going to let you in on a little secret, there is no formula for how you should act after you lose your first daughter/son, especially if the way you lose them is that they were raped and murdered, and that justice that you have been waiting for, well that hasn't come until two years after the fact. Just a cookie for your thoughts
I have seen these stories repeatedly...go to gonetosoon.com and you will see that this happens over and over again.....I can't imagine losing a child, but I know that I am level headed and have morals, my kids come first. Had Lydia put the needs of her kids before hers than she never would "shacked up" with someone...bottom line....no ring on the finger,,, t he guy goes home at the end of the night.....I guess that makes me Old Fashion, But I would rather be Old Fashion and have my kids alive than be "HIP" and mourn my kids passing.....

Tell me when this thread is updated:

Subscribe Now Add to my Tracker

Add your comments below

Characters left: 4000

Please note by submitting this form you acknowledge that you have read the Terms of Service and the comment you are posting is in compliance with such terms. Be polite. Inappropriate posts may be removed by the moderator. Send us your feedback.

Umpqua Discussions

Title Updated Last By Comments
News Teen drowning victim enjoyed life in Sutherlin (Jul '08) Tue Paris Rivera 6
roseburg blog! you may rant or rave whenever y... (Jan '14) Aug '16 Roseburg Oregon 11
News Wendy G. (Stephens/Lanier) McLane Jul '16 amtbs 1
Sun Shine Taxi. Jun '16 Wymcdo 2
News Chris Mintz, veteran hailed as hero of Oregon c... (Oct '15) Oct '15 WeTheSheeple 65
News Roseburg's Revival Tattoo holds fundraiser for ... (Oct '15) Oct '15 frilled2b 1
News 7 to 10 Dead, 20 Wounded in Oregon School Shooting (Oct '15) Oct '15 True Christian wi... 119

Umpqua Jobs

More from around the web

Personal Finance

Umpqua Mortgages