Lydia Dwight Sahlberg, murder victims mother

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#1 Oct 25, 2010
Is this the same mother of the little girl that was murdered by a soon to be step brother? And now she is married so some differenty guy, Maybe if she put the needs of her children before her "OWN NEEDS" he daughter might still be alive, now she has run into the arms of some other guy! Hope her little son is safe! Keep your legs together honey and take care of yourself for a while, maybe mourn your daughter a little longer!
Roseburglady

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#3 Apr 10, 2011
You don't know her!!! I grew up with her and the family. Don't judge..you have no idea the horrific tragedy they have been through. No one is perfect. Lydia is devastated. Please leave her and the family alone. She never asked for any of this to happen.

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#4 Apr 11, 2011
I never claimed to know her. I am just tired of hearing horror story after horror story about women that move men in and out of their homes and the kids are the ones that ultimatley suffer in the end. It's sad that the daughter had to die because her Mom couldn't be alone long enough to raise her kids. What I don't understand is how she could still bring another man into the mix, she still isn't willing to just be single for a while! I have been divorced and raising my 2 kids alone for 7 years and although I would love to date again I'm not bringing some random guys home and putting my children at risk....JUST SAYING!!!
Roseburglady

United States

#5 Apr 16, 2011
"It's sad that the daughter had to die because her Mom couldn't be alone long enough to raise her kids."
That is a very bold and false statement that you made. It was Dustin Wallace who made that choice that night to attack Sahara. Maybe if you could respond out of love and compassion instead of judging the family on how you think people should make decisions. We are all not like you. Lydia was a great mother who loved her children. Not for one second has anyone thought that this was her fault.

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#6 Apr 20, 2011
Parents have a responsiblity to keep their children safe and shacking up with some guy without having a commitment isn't a healthy enviornment for minor children,I don't care how "great and wonderful" you think the person is. I guess she didn't learn from this tradegy because after this she got married to some other guy. Answer me this, how can you mourn the loss of your child when you are out dating and hooking up with someone new. Your are right that Dustin made the choice to attack Sahara BUT if he wasn't in the home with his "shack-up commitment lacking" Dad and Lydia who wants to get laid rather than put the needs of her children first,than this could have been avoided! With all that I have read and followed this story I have not heard of anyone saying she was a great Mother except for you and I'm sure that is because others feel the same way I do!

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#7 Apr 21, 2011
check out www.gonetosoon.org and click on the murder link. The percentage of children and babies that are murdered at the hands of "shackup lovers" is staggering. It's out there every day and if these parents just kept their focus on their children and not on their own needs of not being alone then so many more children would be alive today. It is the selfishness of these parents that I criticize most. Take a look at the site and maybe you can understand where my anger comes from!
Noone really

United States

#8 Apr 6, 2012
Same girl had a baby girl yesterday. In and out of trouble with the law she is. Dont know what happened to the baby boy.... makes you sick and you dont even have to live in this mess.
nnone really

Prosser, WA

#9 Apr 11, 2012
Had a baby girl, in the custody of children services now, probably going to be released in lydia's mom care. Lydia is registered with Target baby registry if you want to buy her what she needsfor a baby girl she doesnt have custody of. Hmmm taking gifts for a baby she doesnt have custody of......

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#10 Apr 12, 2012
nnone really wrote:
Had a baby girl, in the custody of children services now, probably going to be released in lydia's mom care. Lydia is registered with Target baby registry if you want to buy her what she needsfor a baby girl she doesnt have custody of. Hmmm taking gifts for a baby she doesnt have custody of......
Interesting, Thank you for that information, are there any news links as to why they took the baby? I'm glad I'm not the only one that things she's a screw up.... poor kids!

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#11 Apr 16, 2012
Is there information on the internet about the mom and the new man? Wasnt there a fiancee named Carl in this somewhere? Where did he go?

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#12 Apr 17, 2012
knowing that her daughter was murdered by a live-in boyfriends kid, you would think that she would lay low instead of continuing to sleep around and have more kids with different guys.....isn't there a name for women like that?? I feel truly sorry for the kids.......

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#13 Apr 18, 2012
Yeah there is a name...but I am a Lady. I iwhs the news was more up on what was going on here, there are SO many unanswered questions that should be answered. What about it Lydia wanna join the forum? And really she is registered for Baby gifts on two web sites... shouldnt that be considered fraud...I mean since SHE doesnt have custody of the baby?

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#14 Apr 22, 2012
We need to find the answer to the big question....WHY was this baby taken away....Drugs? Neglect of Sahara's younger sibling? There has to be a reason.....and I agree with QUEENBEE53....Lydia, joing the forum and answer some of our questions...if you have nothing to be ashamed of you will be forthcoming.....

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#15 Apr 22, 2012
http://www.newbabynews.net/hospitals/mmc1/pub...

link to the new baby announcement...4 lbs....I'm guessing drugs

http://convicted.me/oregon/douglas-county-jai...

here is the proud dad's mug shot from just a couple days before birth....REALLY....PATHETIC... .at this wasn't his first arrest...

http://roseburgmugshots.com/mug/robert-michae...

Now I really want to see what Lydia has to say.... she brought a child into this MESS knowing what kind of a guy this Robert was.....ORGASIMS ARENT WORTH THIS KIND OF $#!T

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#16 Apr 27, 2012
Wow sorry.. got busy and didnt check this for a while... I will add it to my stream to follow. Well he is no prize of course... But she is being protected, she has hit him, why wasnt she charged, she got a R.O. -was with him, when she was caught she had him charged. She is an addict but blames him for that too. She was arrested so she said but try finding the arrest records.There should be new chrages against her that havent surfaced yet and noone knows why....He sits in jail doing his time per your article, but she gets to run around setting up registry sites for a baby she doesn't have. What a sick system all the way around.

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#17 Apr 29, 2012
I will see what I can dig up on her too. People that play the victim when they are to blame as well intrigue me. I just hope she doesn't get her kids back.

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#18 Apr 30, 2012
I know right?! She is so accountable for this mess, and yet portrays herself as being so wounded. Be interesting to see what you find. It will be nice to hav another pair of eyes on this chaos....
Roseburglady

Federal Way, WA

#19 May 8, 2012
nnone really wrote:
Had a baby girl, in the custody of children services now, probably going to be released in lydia's mom care. Lydia is registered with Target baby registry if you want to buy her what she needsfor a baby girl she doesnt have custody of. Hmmm taking gifts for a baby she doesnt have custody of......
I am pretty sure you should get your facts straight before you post. Lydia's mom does not have custody of the baby. The baby is with a family member. And anything purchased for the baby is given to the baby. I don't understand how any of you could be so heartless as to say such terrible things about this family. This family has been through enough as it is.

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#20 May 9, 2012
Roseburglady wrote:
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I am pretty sure you should get your facts straight before you post. Lydia's mom does not have custody of the baby. The baby is with a family member. And anything purchased for the baby is given to the baby. I don't understand how any of you could be so heartless as to say such terrible things about this family. This family has been through enough as it is.
SO, you acknowledge that the baby is not in Lydia's care.... Us "heartless"? We aren't the ones having babies that we can't take care of! I agree the family has been through enough, but we aren't to blame! We weren't the ones making poor choices and putting children in harmís way, and having them removed from custody! Why is it people can defend a parent that doesn't put the lives and well being of their children before their own?
These kids are now from a broken home, with a convict for a father and a mother on drugs.... What kind of example is that for the kids...How "PROUD" they will be of Mom and Dad when they are at the age to understand?
I by no means am the best divorced parent, I make mistakes, but I work hard and have a good job, so that I can provide for my kids and give them a good moral upbringing. I put the needs of my kids before any of my own. I don't date because my kids are young and it scares me to think that the person I meet will have to want to be with my kids as much as he wants to be with me and that is hard to find. My kids are my focus and priority. DON'T waste your time telling me that Lydia is a good mom (although I don't doubt that she loves her kids, loving kids and taking care of them are two different issues)....if she were, she wouldn't be jumping from man to man having kids that are being taken away from her!!!!
noneed

Roseburg, OR

#21 May 11, 2012
You people make me sick, I am a family member of lydia and i know all of the facts and maybe before judging other people on what has happened in their lives you learn the facts and keep your mouths shut, you people have no idea what went on and why she got re married...and for the record the baby she just had was pre mature becuase the husband beat her up and attacked her forcing her into labor, and im sure you all will point that out saying "oh well if she was a good person and a good mom she wouldnt be married to a man that will beat her up"...shut the hell up and get a life and stop judging people based on facts that you get off of Google you...and as for the baby registry...she did all of that before she had the baby taken away you idiots..if you had a baby would you go register for the baby after she was born? no you wouldn't...use your heads and think about it before you talk.

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