Public invited to discuss child support

Public invited to discuss child support

There are 6 comments on the Des Moines Register story from Jan 29, 2007, titled Public invited to discuss child support. In it, Des Moines Register reports that:

The state's child support guidelines are undergoing a review, and Iowa parents are being asked to offer advice.

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Laura L Spengler

United States

#1 Feb 7, 2007
I have been divorced for approximately 11 years. Over that time frame my ex-husband has changed jobs many times. I have a court order to garnish wages but when he freq. changes jobs the order never last very long. He does not free willed give me any information or the courts any information on where he is working. When I do find out it takes me so much time to re-instate the garnishment that he is then onto his next job. I must pay an attorney to help with any court order, which cost me many dollars, he is never punished for not paying, my children and I go without and we end up being punished. I feel there should be stricter laws for dads that don't pay child support. I have never recovered any lost child support and I do not have to money to get it.
PenniePhil

AOL

#4 Jan 16, 2008
I agree with Laura,, But thats not only for men What about those women that abandent there children and the men are raising? Women should have to pay child support as well. Today things have changed so much there are so so many men raising there children. But they are so much more easier on women when it comes to paying!! Its just not right.I dont understand how a women(me being one) can walk away from there children. My sons a single father of two babies and living with me and my husband trying to make ends meet and not getting anything from the mother except greaf. If u have any suggestions we would love to hear them?
Good luck to all those single PARENTS!
and there children(there the ones whom suffer!)
God bless!!
D in Nebraska

Bay City, MI

#5 Jan 28, 2008
Now if Nebraska would get on the ball. Children could be taken care of without having to spend all on state aide. There are so many parents without the support and so many promises to get it for them and NONE is working very well. I totally agree with Laura! Absent parents should have the responsibility of helping raise their own children and what we have in place is just not working. This only hurts the children by inadequate day care, food, housing etc. Let's get it together and help these children!
Hax Or

West Des Moines, IA

#6 Jan 29, 2008
Laura, good for your ex! At least he is staying employed. If you're so worried about where he works and his money, you should have stayed married to him.

Most men believe the wife who left the commitment (to stay married through better or worse).

Now you're upset because he has not made a new commitment to you? You screwed him over on the first commitment, now you just want money? Why don't you get a job like the single mothers I know?

In reality, you made the mistake of committing to marriage with a man that you soon ditched. That type of fiasco is bound to result in high legal costs.

You're just a whiner. At least your ex is finding work.

The kids don't suffer if you put your kids that you can't afford up for adoption. If you fail as a parent, you should do what is required.

I feel the same way as a divorced ex-hubby. I would rather be penniless and on the streets than see that jerk get any of my money. It was a scam from Day 1 to get child support. The 'so-called' commitment to marriage was just that... so-called as in FAKE.
Hax Or

West Des Moines, IA

#7 Jan 29, 2008
P.S. I've been married to my third wife for 7 and a half wonderful years. She raised her daughter on her own, and she hates people like you. Stop whining and get to work and take care of your daughter. Blaming the man that you ditched is not going to solve anything.
Hax Or

Des Moines, IA

#8 Jan 29, 2008
P.S.S. I shouldn't speak for my wife.

I'm not bitter, I'm just not interested. The fact that the birth was someplace I was *forbidden* just emphasized the fact that I have no ties with the child.

I know you would like to keep the child, but if you can't cut it, there is always adoption. You already have the government and everyone else to help you.

I don't get any compensation for losing 'the light of my life'. I get a lot of bills, for something you obviously can't handle on your own.

It's a shame all the way around. Cut the blame game sport.

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