What do you do

San Diego, CA

#1 May 29, 2013
What do you do when your Ex constantly tells your kid that you left the child, when in fact you just left the relationship or marriage.(BUT, you ARE paying support, plus extras, and exercise your right to visitation with the child.)

Is that psychological abuse? What would a judge say?
obvious

New Britain, CT

#2 May 29, 2013
What if you left the marriage, took the kid away from the partner b/c of abuse and that person has rights and doesn't use them at all to see or talk to the child? Is it worse for said child to know he/she is not a priority or to be lied to about being one? I see one side as neglect and abandonment and the other as a lesson to early in life. Either way it's wrong. Only the child suffers.
Two things

South Burlington, VT

#3 May 30, 2013
FIRST, get the child into therapy. Anyone who would tell their own child such a story is a sick person.

ALSO, if the child has one, call their law guardian! Ask for advice. You may possibly end up before a judge. Your first priority is to protect your child!

Yes, this is definitely abuse!
What do you do

San Diego, CA

#4 May 31, 2013
Thank you for the advice! And, of course, you are right. Therapy is a good start. This is a very young child but can speak clearly and talk about feelings and tell what is happening to her when away.

Yes, there is a law guardian, and that's what I'm going to do next.

I wonder if you can get a order of protection against someone who is messing with a child's mind like this??
Two things wrote:
FIRST, get the child into therapy. Anyone who would tell their own child such a story is a sick person.
ALSO, if the child has one, call their law guardian! Ask for advice. You may possibly end up before a judge. Your first priority is to protect your child!
Yes, this is definitely abuse!
smh

Watertown, MA

#5 Jun 1, 2013
Law guardians are a joke. Law guardians have wonderful intentions, however they only spend a few hours with a child, this is not nearly enough time to asses the sitiation. It's commonly accepted bythe courts that the custodial parent does have more influnce over the child. This is just natural, the custodial parent is the "provider" in the childs mind. Custodial parents often influence what a child will say to a law guardian somtimes unintentional, other times very intentional by using various methods. Children are pliable and easily influenced by less than ethical custodial parents. There is no good system, the nature of the parent child relationship complicates this further. Therapy is probably the best route IF you're willing to give the child privacy so they can speak freely to the therapist. In the end it's always the child wrapped in a web of guilt and sorrow. Whatever they say or do they'll always feel they've betrayed someone. It's to bad so many adults are emotionally immature and insist on using the children to hurt one another. In the end that's what it boils down to, while they lie to themselves nd everyone else saying they're doing what's best for the children that is RARELY the truth.
Two things

South Burlington, VT

#6 Jun 2, 2013
Yes, you can! Tell your lawyer AND the law guardian everything! about what is happening to the child, physical and psychological. And ASK for an order of protection or at least supervised visitation in a neutral place. I understand that this judge has no tolerance for this crap. Sick, sick people!
What do you do wrote:
I wonder if you can get a order of protection against someone who is messing with a child's mind like this??
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Please

Mineville, NY

#7 Jun 2, 2013
Like it or not when a parent chooses to leave their partner they also choose to break up the family.Accept your own responsibility for your choices and stop blaming the spouse.Therapy would help both you and the child yet it should have been a thought before you walked out of the marriage.The psychological damage started long before you walked out the door and it will take therapy and maturity to even started the healing.

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