Moving to Wilmington NC

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Liz Mason

South Africa

#1 May 29, 2008
I have just discovered your website and wanted to try and gather some information. We are relocating to the area from South Africa. I am an American and my husband is British. I was born and raised in Charlotte, NC, therefore moving back to my roots. We are looking at the coastal areas as the temperatures will be about the same as where we live at the present time. We are both in our 50's and 60's and work from home. Mike does Internet copy writing and websites, I do research and I also have a business which I will have to began from scratch again as the equipment will be too expensive to ship, plus the voltage is much different. I hand craft solid wood furniture cottage/beach style and would like to carry on with this when settled in NC.

We are most likely going to have to rent some place for a short or long term as the difference in money exchange. As it works out we get a lot more for our money over here, but the situation politically is getting rather tense. This is what is motivating our anticipated change. To give you an example, we have an 18.5 acre farm with two residences, 1 main house and 1 smaller cottage and we paid the equivalent of $75,000. I wanted to ask you, as you own property there at the coast, perhaps you know of someone in the area who is not really looking to sell, but perhaps they too want a change in scenery and would like someone to live on the premises and manage the operation and oversee the day to day operations.

If you would like to know about who we are and what we are all about, please look at our website, www.themasons.co.za , it is here that you learn more about us and in fact more than you really want to know, but this is who we are. Our lives is an open book and we hide nothing. My personal business website is www.woodcrafts.co.za , and it is here that you will be able to see some of the items I hand craft. We are both very keen to be welcomed into a community that is friendly, warm, nonjudgmental and will accept us as part of their community. We do like to entertain and welcome guests into our home and enjoy good times. We do not "party" all the time and there is never any loud music to contend with except for maybe the occasional Jazz or Opera.

We would have to have a rather fast and powerful internet connection, as the work my husband does can be done from anywhere in the world, this is why we can do it from home and do not have to have the overhead expense of an outer office. We also do not like driving at night, but only on occasion, if we have been out to visit others as we both have night blindness, and the rush hour traffic we have to contend with here is a donkey cart or cattle being moved from one camp to the other.

I trust I have not bored you to tears, but because we really don't have anyone in the area to help us, we thought you might be able to either pass this along to someone who can help or guide us into the right direction. Thanking you in advance for your kind assistance and your valuable time. I do look forward to hearing from you in the near future.

Yours Sincerely,
Liz Mason

Since: Jun 07

earth

#2 Jun 2, 2008
i'm leaving wilmington nc as soon as my company can transfer me. if you are old and white and you celebrate the failed confederacy and miss the days of the american jim crow south you will love this boring racist town. the air stinks of all types of chemicals, the water is frightening and the people who cant afford to live behind the wall or live on figure eight island are just a mix of miserable defeated non evolved sub humans who have nothing to do but eat barbecue and get drunk and go fast in their pickup trucks to a dirty fishing hole.STAY WHERE YOU ARE OR GO ELSEWHERE.
volley

Wilmington, NC

#3 Jun 9, 2008
Wilmington is a wonderful place. We have enjoyed the beaches, the restaurants, the Airlie Garden concerts, the friendly people. It has a small town feel with still lots to do. Please check it out and don't be discouraged by the last comment. there are plenty of rentals listed in town for you to review. Good luck.
diggity

Wilmington, NC

#4 Jun 10, 2008
Just moved to Wilmington last week. I am temporarily near Monkey Junction. So far I am greatly disappointed. The positive: the beaches are great! The negatives: people are terribly unfriendly (opposite of what I expected), drivers are incredibly aggressive (not expected from what I would call a smaller town, very hot and humid (this I expected). Is Monkey Junction just a nasty area to live? Is there a part of Wilmington where the people are decent and courteous, not angry and redneck? There must be an area of Wilmington that is better than this.

Since: Jun 07

earth

#5 Jun 10, 2008
I moved from the monkey junction area to the ogden area. it is more upscale and the atmosphere is less redneckish. now instead of my family being called the n word my neighbors just barely speak and just stare at me. my son has made alot of friends but my wife and i are ready to get the hell outta here and give mayberry back yo the good ole boys. in all seriousness i love all people and can get along with anyone but i just get the feeling here that i am expected to start picking cotton and being whipped.these are some angry folks here
diggity

Wilmington, NC

#6 Jun 11, 2008
Hey Deric, obviously you have experienced the racism the south is stereotyped for. I am from Colorado and I can't even imagine what you just described, I am stunned really. All I can say is that reading this is inspiring me not to be complacent about racism.

As a white person, for what its worth, I am sorry that has happened to you and your family. I believe that God has something better in store for you and your family.

“F*** Socialism!”

Since: May 08

The Blessed U.S, of A.!

#7 Jun 12, 2008
deric wrote:
I moved from the monkey junction area to the ogden area. it is more upscale and the atmosphere is less redneckish. now instead of my family being called the n word my neighbors just barely speak and just stare at me. my son has made alot of friends but my wife and i are ready to get the hell outta here and give mayberry back yo the good ole boys. in all seriousness i love all people and can get along with anyone but i just get the feeling here that i am expected to start picking cotton and being whipped.these are some angry folks here
Could you be a bit more racist my dim witted friend? I wonder if people would be a bit more friendly to you if you did not try to portray such a "thuggish" attitude? It's not cool.

Lovw thy neighbor - it will come back to you in great dividends.
Thanks

South Africa

#8 Jun 12, 2008
Thanks to all that have replied. Sorry no amount of harsh words, belittling or otherwise will change my mind, no our minds. I am a Southern Belle by birth and I believe that there is good in everybody, no matter the color of your skin, hair or eyes. It is the person inside the skin, under the hair and behind the eyes. If you seem to be arrogant and unfriendly, then that is the way that most people will treat you. If you put aside all your differences and realize that the world comes in all colors and forms, then you should be able to live peacefully and without malice.

We are still coming and we will be very happy. That's just who we are.
diggity

Sanford, NC

#9 Jun 12, 2008
Diablo069 wrote:
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Could you be a bit more racist my dim witted friend? I wonder if people would be a bit more friendly to you if you did not try to portray such a "thuggish" attitude? It's not cool.
Lovw thy neighbor - it will come back to you in great dividends.
I would suspect that he has gotten into that rut, you can tell he is ticked off and has given up. But I would have too. Race aside, if someone around you treats you like a jerk, you can let it stew and next thing you know, you hate this person just because he hates you. That's not prejudice, or in this case racist, it is responding negatively to someone who has mistreated you, and we all do it. In this case, Derec has evidently been treated this way by multiple people who share a trait, white and Wilmington. He has been hurt by certain instances, and responded to it by being angry (again we all do this), and found the best way to protect himself and his family is to stereotype whites in Wilmington as racist, and I'm sure ther are those that really are. The unfortunate thing, is that after being burned so many times, I'm sure he can come across to some white Wilmingtonites as angry at first because he is expecting that person to be racist. I frankly don't blame him, here is a black man in the middle of a white area where he has been the culprit of racism (direct or indirect), and he is in protective mode. Put yourself in his shoes. I can probably stereotype, and assume that just about every black family that appears unfriendly, living in a predominantely white area, are that way because they also have been burnt by racism. So I will now make an effort to assume that, and will go out of my way to be friendly to that person, to let them know that I am not going to prejudge them for the way God made them. But instead, let them know I am interested in knowing the real person behind the protective shell. People that have been hurt like this deserve to be reached out to. And I may also get burned occasionally, but at least when I die, I can say that I really lived. People are what matters. Off the pedestal, but it needs to be said and lived.

“F*** Socialism!”

Since: May 08

The Blessed U.S, of A.!

#10 Jun 12, 2008
Thanks wrote:
Thanks to all that have replied. Sorry no amount of harsh words, belittling or otherwise will change my mind, no our minds. I am a Southern Belle by birth and I believe that there is good in everybody, no matter the color of your skin, hair or eyes. It is the person inside the skin, under the hair and behind the eyes. If you seem to be arrogant and unfriendly, then that is the way that most people will treat you. If you put aside all your differences and realize that the world comes in all colors and forms, then you should be able to live peacefully and without malice.
We are still coming and we will be very happy. That's just who we are.
I don't live in Wilmington now, but I grew up visting that city very often.
Despite the ugly words used to describe Wilmington - this city is what you make of it.

There are many parts of the city: suberban neigborhoods, beach community, apartment living, outlying country areas - you name it. It has gotten very busy as it has grown. Many of the outlying areas all go to Wilmington for their "big city" fun.

I think the racist overtones mentioned by other members here are over exaggerated - but that's their opinion. The crime rate has increased over the years with the growing population.

Lots of Fast food joints, restuarants, low end shopping, etc.

Have a good move and make the best of it.

Peace to you all!

Since: Jun 07

earth

#11 Jun 13, 2008
amazing. i am neither arrogant, thuggish, racist and i am not dim witted nor do i believe all white people here are racist. cmon people, i was speaking about the general attitude here in wilmington towards an ordinary 35 year old professional black family man. hell i have hired at least 20 white employees since ive been here. im not mr angry black guy but it is typical in the south when you point out the facts on the culture down here people say you are the problem not the backwards culture.if you are a southern belle and all that you will probably fit right in

“F*** Socialism!”

Since: May 08

The Blessed U.S, of A.!

#12 Jun 15, 2008
diggity wrote:
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I would suspect that he has gotten into that rut, you can tell he is ticked off and has given up. But I would have too.
Those are beautiful words my friend - I just don't buy into defeatism. Having been in the military for 20+ years (now retired, but still there as a civilian) I've been friends with many a minority (various races) and I also come from the south - a small hick town about 40 miles east of Wilmington.

I've seen what people can do when they put their mind to it and don't try to use race as an excuse for thwir shortcomings. I'm sure Deric has had incidents where he's felt looked down on by others.

I'm a white man in a predominatly black neighborhood - I can understand some of this feelings. I am known for walking my dog every evening and throwing a little country conversation (small talk) and politeness at all my neighbors - and I truly feel I am doing a world of good with just my small gestures.

I've got half the neighnors waving & speaking to each other - where they all seemed very distant before. Maybe they think I'm nuts, but I believe people are basically good - you just have to work harder with dome to bring it out.

But you can not give up and let their ignorance tear you dowm. Nothing wrong with offering a smile or a "How's it going?" to break the ice.

OK - off my soapbox now!:)

“F*** Socialism!”

Since: May 08

The Blessed U.S, of A.!

#13 Jun 15, 2008
deric wrote:
amazing. i am neither arrogant, thuggish, racist and i am not dim witted nor do i believe all white people here are racist. cmon people, i was speaking about the general attitude here in wilmington towards an ordinary 35 year old professional black family man. hell i have hired at least 20 white employees since ive been here. im not mr angry black guy but it is typical in the south when you point out the facts on the culture down here people say you are the problem not the backwards culture.if you are a southern belle and all that you will probably fit right in
There is much bitterness in you, my friend. It does you no good. Wilmington is no more backwards than any other the many other cities I've lived in around the world. Sure - there are losers everywhere. So. Maryland is a really odd place. I'm white and the white folks here make me feel more uncomfortable than do the black folks.

Look past color and look into the soul of a person. Dams, I must be watching too much Barack Obama - I'm starting to hum coum-buy-ya.:)

Peace and strength to you and your family, my friend.

“move to Wilmington?”

Since: Apr 08

Billings, MT

#15 Jul 17, 2008
As a few others who have posted here, I too want to relocate to Wilmington. Me, a 30/F nursing student, my 33yr husband (truss designer) and my 2 beautiful daughters ages 8 and 10 currently live in Montana. I'm originally from the east and miss it so much. I really want to move to Wilmington, and although I'm not as familiar with Wilmington as those of you who live there there are, you will encounter all the posted negatives anywhere you live.
To those of you who are willing, would you please give me advice as to:

where to look,(or rather avoid) as far as clean, safe places to rent/buy (we'll have to rent for awhile then plan to buy).

Do you know of any truss plants in the area?
Are there any elementry/middle schools that are better than others?

And any other helpful info you can offer someone who only knows they want to come to NC, specifically the Wilmington area.

Thanks so much!!!

Since: Jun 07

earth

#16 Jul 19, 2008
i know utopia exists nowhere but i was stating that here in wilmington the negatives are much more apparent but i dont expect these issues to matter much to some people because as typical they are never a big deal if they dont target you. anyways the ogden area has schools that far surpass other area schools, and this area is pretty crime free and safe and that cant be said of wilmington as you move west toward the cape fear river.
James

Wilmington, NC

#17 Jul 20, 2008
Wilmington is said to be one of the highest crime rates per capita in some publication, I don't know which one.
James

Wilmington, NC

#18 Jul 20, 2008
Wilmington is no longer the nice little sleepy southern town I grew up in. If you move here be prepared to spend half of your life either stuck in a traffic jam or standing in a long line. Most dangerous place in NC to drive a car. Make your Doctors appointments 3 months in advance. In regards to the racial thing I have personally never noticed any kind of problem like that here. People don't seem any less friendly here than anywhere else. There is some resentment of the northerners and other people who have moved here from other parts of the country coming here and spoiling things for some of the locals born and raised here. The thing that I really hate about some of them is calling the police when you take your dog for a ride with you in the summer in your truck or car. If you want to eat out and you like Asian or Mexican you are in luck but if you want American food you will have to settle for MacDonalds. I personally long sometimes for the old south days of my youth when you could take your dog and go just about anywhere and shoot your guns and could find good restaurants that served good old fashioned pork chops, collard greens and field peas. Yes I am probably a semi redneck. Those days are gone forever but if you are rich enough you will probably find Wilmington ok.

Since: Jun 07

earth

#19 Jul 20, 2008
i have to ask you james, i hear everyone complain about traffic here and in two years i have seen none. maybe because where im from it can take you an hour to go 2 miles but what they call traffic here is a breeze. i can get across town at any time in 10 or 15 min tops.i have noticed the terrible drivers here though . the back of my car was smashed in as soon as i moved here.check out cassies on oleander for down home southern food. they are the best. also what is up with all the people from new jersey that live here? by the way with all due respect i wouldnt expect you to notice the racial thing here ,it doesnt affect you. i just laugh now about it and hope i never have to use my gun to protect my wife or son or myself before i get out of here. we are not making these problems up, they are painfully real. but i still give respect and kindness when it is given to me.
James

Wilmington, NC

#20 Jul 21, 2008
deric,

I guess it is all relative on the traffic. It depends on where you came from I guess. I know people from Charlotte and Winston Salem who say they have bad traffic but Wilmington is the hardest place to get around in they have ever seen. I hear comments from time to time that Wilmington is becoming what I moved here to get away from. Blacks seem like they are on an equal footing here to me. I have many black friends even though I am white and they don't express any concerns to me. Wilmington has come a long way since the Wilmington 10 days. At that time tensions were very high but that is a thing of the past for a long time now. Yes, Casey's is a pretty good place to eat. As far as the crime is concerned I have had my home broken into within the last 5 years so I know from experience it is out there. I just try to be careful and stay away from any place that I might run in to some kind of trouble. Stay home mostly.

“Trolls ----> YAWN.”

Since: Jun 08

Lowcountry, USA

#21 Jul 22, 2008
WnaGo2NC wrote:
As a few others who have posted here, I too want to relocate to Wilmington. Me, a 30/F nursing student, my 33yr husband (truss designer) and my 2 beautiful daughters ages 8 and 10 currently live in Montana. I'm originally from the east and miss it so much. I really want to move to Wilmington, and although I'm not as familiar with Wilmington as those of you who live there there are, you will encounter all the posted negatives anywhere you live.
To those of you who are willing, would you please give me advice as to:
where to look,(or rather avoid) as far as clean, safe places to rent/buy (we'll have to rent for awhile then plan to buy).
Do you know of any truss plants in the area?
Are there any elementry/middle schools that are better than others?
And any other helpful info you can offer someone who only knows they want to come to NC, specifically the Wilmington area.
Thanks so much!!!
Look in Pender County to buy. I recommend Hampstead, Porters Neck, Scotts Hill. Although by NC standards these areas are on the expensive side. Not sure of the best places to rent but I do know that a lot of patio homes, condos, etc are available to rent in this area.

Builders First Source and Stock Lumber are the bigger professional lumber co's here.

South Topsail Elementary School. Go to NCreportcard.org

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