Should women have to pay child suppor...

Should women have to pay child support the same as a men?

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Since: Jun 08

Summersville MO

#1 Jul 16, 2008
If a woman is ordered to pay child support and doesn't do so, should the law go after her the same as they would go after a man?
KathieC

Columbia, MO

#2 Jul 17, 2008
Absolutely! What's good for the goose is good for the gander.
It probably wouldn't have been enforced in the 50's, when my parents divorced. My mother had custody of my sister, and my father raised me, yet he had to pay child support for my sister! Sounds crazy now, but he paid it faithfully without questioning the judge's order.
I may be a little prejudiced due to my family history, but I think any mother who doesn't have custody of her children is most likely not much of a mother to begin with. She produced them, so she should have to help support them - same as a father.
my two cents

United States

#3 Jul 21, 2008
I believe that women should pay just the same. Didnt we fight for equal rights!! I am a bit partial as well. I am raising my step daughter and have been for 5 years and the mom has not not had contact at all. She is suppose to pay childsupport but, I am not holding my breath.
gosh

Ruidoso, NM

#4 Jul 25, 2008
I am a woman who recieves child support from my childrens father. I beleive if a father has custody of thier children, they should absolutely receive child support! I respect any man who will raise their children! The courts should go after the absent (dead beat) parent, man or woman!

Since: Mar 08

United States

#5 Jul 26, 2008
Yes, I believe in equal rights. Unfortunately, the courts usually favor the mothers. I know from experience, we menfolk usually get the shaft.
KathieC

Columbia, MO

#6 Jul 28, 2008
Dolomite wrote:
Yes, I believe in equal rights. Unfortunately, the courts usually favor the mothers. I know from experience, we menfolk usually get the shaft.
Unfortunately, you're right. Most courts still feel that a child is better off with his mother. Thank goodness my father WANTED me, for I wouldn't have had much of a life with my mother.
newsflash

Cameron, MO

#7 Aug 4, 2008
what is a matter with some of you seriously. I am sure there are a few freak situations where the mother isnt fit. but let me tell you most men these days only want 50/50 or the children so they dont have to pay child support. But they love their children so much that until they had to begin paying it they werent ever every around. get a flipping clue. the mother does get stuck attempting to raise a child and provide everything they need on a two to three hundred dollars a month. I am fortunate atleast my ex is interested in being a father, but most of the men in this town are not and the mommy's are as lucky as me.
KathieC

Columbia, MO

#8 Aug 5, 2008
newsflash wrote:
what is a matter with some of you seriously. I am sure there are a few freak situations where the mother isnt fit. but let me tell you most men these days only want 50/50 or the children so they dont have to pay child support. But they love their children so much that until they had to begin paying it they werent ever every around. get a flipping clue. the mother does get stuck attempting to raise a child and provide everything they need on a two to three hundred dollars a month. I am fortunate atleast my ex is interested in being a father, but most of the men in this town are not and the mommy's are as lucky as me.
I'm sorry for your individual situation, but all fathers aren't jerks.
My mother took my younger sister, left me with my father, and left the state when I was 3 years old. Dad paid child support for my sister, though he was raising me,until he was granted custody of her after my mother's new husband molested her.
My dad was a great dad and was totally there for me until I lost him in 1991.
There's good fathers the same as there are good mothers. I had one of the best.
okeydokey

Columbia, MO

#9 Aug 5, 2008
was your dads name clyde?
Please

Saint Charles, MO

#10 Aug 6, 2008
newsflash wrote:
what is a matter with some of you seriously. I am sure there are a few freak situations where the mother isnt fit. but let me tell you most men these days only want 50/50 or the children so they dont have to pay child support. But they love their children so much that until they had to begin paying it they werent ever every around. get a flipping clue. the mother does get stuck attempting to raise a child and provide everything they need on a two to three hundred dollars a month. I am fortunate atleast my ex is interested in being a father, but most of the men in this town are not and the mommy's are as lucky as me.
My dear, you need to get a flip'n clue. It sounds like you have been jaded and you really need help. So many women get pregnant and do what ever they can to "live" off the father, sit on their arrss, and get fat. What is wrong with 50/50? Donít you want the father involved? If the father is involved and helping with the childís expenses, why would you need child support? Would you lose your car if he didnít pay child support? Would you then have to get a job? Stop complaining. Yes, there are good and bad fathers, but just as many good and bad mothers.

And donít forget the apostrophe. Itís by the pinky finger, next to the enter key.
james r

Saint Louis, MO

#11 Aug 8, 2008
I pay childsupport for 11 years and still paying. now the mother of my child turned her over to her sister,and has no contact. the judge said she will pay the money i been paying to her, to her sister. But i don't know how this is going work out. I think she should pay as much as i do. 50/50. But i know i will be alone to pay childsupport.
Just my opinon

Chesterfield, MO

#12 Aug 8, 2008
james r wrote:
I pay childsupport for 11 years and still paying. now the mother of my child turned her over to her sister,and has no contact. the judge said she will pay the money i been paying to her, to her sister. But i don't know how this is going work out. I think she should pay as much as i do. 50/50. But i know i will be alone to pay childsupport.
James you are right. If the child is no longer in the care of the mother, she should also have to pay child support, but unfortunately it doesn't work that way. Just like visitation has nothing to do with child support. You can pay your support every month and be denied visitation. Take your case to court and you will find that the courts really don't care if you get to see your kid, they just want to make sure that you pay and pay and pay.
please

Cameron, MO

#13 Aug 8, 2008
Please wrote:
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My dear, you need to get a flip'n clue. It sounds like you have been jaded and you really need help. So many women get pregnant and do what ever they can to "live" off the father, sit on their arrss, and get fat. What is wrong with 50/50? Donít you want the father involved? If the father is involved and helping with the childís expenses, why would you need child support? Would you lose your car if he didnít pay child support? Would you then have to get a job? Stop complaining. Yes, there are good and bad fathers, but just as many good and bad mothers.
And donít forget the apostrophe. Itís by the pinky finger, next to the enter key.
Me get a clue? Listen, you obviously have never delt with a child that has had to travel back and forth. It does not work. I know. I have watched my son freak out everytime his father is mentioned or him going down there. I think the father should have a relationship with him. but he also needs a stable home. going back and forth between homes doesnt provide that.

And as for sitting on their butts. wow I dont know who you are referring too....but I have a job and I work hard. which is good since I never actually receive the child support on a regular basis.

Maybe if the fathers did spend that time with the child and try to have a relationship it would be different. But most pick them up from the mommy and drop him off to a family member until time to bring him back to me. doesnt sound like he cares about the child to much right?

you got pretty personal..... sounds like you are the one attacking with the issues, not me.
KathieC

Columbia, MO

#14 Aug 18, 2008
And what about the "fathers" who do pay child support but turn their backs on their own children when they remarry - treating the new woman's children like they're his own?

My grandchildren are heartbroken because not only does their dad no longer want to see them or be with them, he is intentionally cruel to them on the phone just to satisfy his new wife's fits of jealousy.

There's so much more to supporting a child than just sending money. My grandkids would love to be hugged by their dad and told that he loves them.

As a grandmother, I don't know what to do except love them with all my heart.

“Nothing but the facts”

Since: Aug 08

Summersville MO

#15 Aug 19, 2008
Yes, but what about fathers who do pay child support, try to have a relationship with their kids and are sabotaged by the biological mother. Yeah, maybe the kid "freaks" out when it is mentioned that he has to go to his dad's house for the weekend, but do you make the transition easier???? This sounds a little like parental alienation syndrome.

There is no ideal solution to the problem when to people make children and then can't get along anymore, but one parent is not more important in the child's life than the other. A child needs a father and a mother.

A lot of times, instead of allowing the father more time with their child, the mother will rigidly stick to the court order, denying both the child and the other parent time to get to know one another and have a relationship.
pot head

Weaubleau, MO

#16 Aug 19, 2008
i was raised by my mother and she is the one who gave me my first joint. mom was so cool when she was high. when she drank that wild turkey look out. i ran away 5x but the court keep sending me back to my mother. i would tell the court i wanted to stay with my father but they never cared. all the men that my mom would bring in the house some was good to me but most was not not. a few even beat me yes let us defend the mother. make sure we strip the dad of his rights and make him pay all his money to a woman like that.
My Two Cents

Edgar Springs, MO

#17 Aug 30, 2008
My opinion whether you believe in it or not is that the children are the ones that suffer. There are so many out there men and women that drop these kids and forget about them and could care less whether they get cared for when the law states that they are suppose to pay. In my situation the state that the mom is in is protecting her because she has another dependant in the home who cares about the one that she had before lets take care of the one she has now and hope that someone responsible is taking care of the other. There are several things that are agravating and all different situations but the bottom line is that it is the kids that are suffering.
Warren

Greenbrier, AR

#18 Nov 25, 2008
I have been paying child support since 1997 and have a good relationship with my daughter However,all the ex-wife thinks about is how to get more money from me and the courts are behind her all of the way! From what I have seen over the years the courts are to blame for this!! It appears that they always side with the mother!! I have 1.5 years left and I am done. Because the courts mostly side with the women the kids end up suffering. I don't mind supporting my daughter but, when your a man the courts look down on you!!
mvresident

Ozark, MO

#19 Nov 26, 2008
newsflash wrote:
what is a matter with some of you seriously. I am sure there are a few freak situations where the mother isnt fit. but let me tell you most men these days only want 50/50 or the children so they dont have to pay child support. But they love their children so much that until they had to begin paying it they werent ever every around. get a flipping clue. the mother does get stuck attempting to raise a child and provide everything they need on a two to three hundred dollars a month. I am fortunate atleast my ex is interested in being a father, but most of the men in this town are not and the mommy's are as lucky as me.
my nephew paid almost 1000 a month in child support for 3 years or so until his ex called one day and said hew could have full custody of the kids.. with one stipulation..she did not want to pay child support./. so to get the kids in a safe envirement he stupidly agreed. now she sees them maybe once every 5 or 6 months, doesn't call on their birthdays or buy them gifts or christmas. yet her boyfriends kids get child support from him and lots of christmas and whatyever they want. she should not be allowed within the sound of their voices in my opinion.. i raised my kids working 2 jobs and got a whopping 175 a month support.. no ins. no nothing but 175 a month...
mom who pays

Foristell, MO

#20 Nov 29, 2008
i am one of the women in this country who pays child support and have for the last 9 years i love my son but at the time i felt that his father was the better person to rise him being a boy and his age he is 18 now and will graduate highschool in june and then im done or not
in the 9 years i have payed there have been problems in my life and times that i could not pay i have done weekends in jail for non support and then have spent 30 day in jail for the same thing so yes if the woman does not pay the same things that happen to men when they dont pay should happen to them i have been through it all and even now that my son is of age and is about to be out of highschool i will still have to pay until i get caught up on all the back pay i owe but what is not fair there is that every month the state adds intrest to the back support so even though i pay more the intrest adds up and i go backwards every month its sometime feel like i will never get on the plus side of this debt that i owe to my child but then i think about the time that i didnt pay and know that i owe him and i love him so i will keep paying until i pay it all off

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