Adults weigh in on party

Adults weigh in on party

There are 69 comments on the North Adams Transcript story from Jul 9, 2009, titled Adults weigh in on party. In it, North Adams Transcript reports that:

The owners of the land used for a recent graduation party that was broken up by the Vermont State Police have taken issue with the charge that they were providing alcohol to minors.

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yeah

Amsterdam, NY

#62 Jul 12, 2009
too bad wrote:
To Yeah, you talk a double talk my young child! First you say "if the parents would have call the cops with 60 minors some invited some were trespassing. Because the parents did not want trouble, well they already have trouble. Then you say the cops may have illegally gave you minors a breathalyzer test. My dear, the parents of the party were the bad ones not the cops, also you are wrong too. You knew their was alcohol at the party, but said nothing. Now your crying because people are talking about the stupid parents and you kids that got caught. Well you kids and the parents of the party put it in the paper. And your still whinnying about people going on Facebook looking at your pictures on that site. Maybe the pictures should have not been put on Facebook to begin with. Once you let it on Facebook you are not in charge of who looks at it anymore. It will be forever out there for people to look at. Now it is in the newspaper and people are blogging about it. How many minors were at this party to begin with?? You have to be 21 to drink period!! Your parents and the parents of the party can not change the law to drink, my dear.. Please stop crying that I'm bashing people and think I'm better I don't. But I hope wiser then the parents of the party..
First off, none of your sentences make much sense so I'm trying to figure out what you are getting at but it's difficult. I did NOT say cops "illegally gave us breathalyzers." People before me were saying that it is not legal for them to do this. I said that whether it was legal or not, we all COOPERATED. Of course I knew people would be bringing alcohol to the party. We are teens, we plan those things. However, that doesn't mean that it was planned by the adults to have alcohol involved. Also, I am not in any way "crying" about what happened. Did you not read where I said we all know the stupid mistakes we made and we are paying for it now. We are not idiots. We completely understand what we did was wrong, you live and you learn buddy. We learned, we're all paying for it now, so don't tell me that we're crying about it. Also, you clearly do not know the adults who were at this party, so do NOT call them irresponsible, unwise, etc. That is not your place and you have no right to question their character. Also, by calling me "young child," or "my dear," it seems to me that you are talking down to me, i.e: you think you are better. With all do respect, you know nothing. You know nothing about us, the adults, or the party. Also, I did not once whine about putting pictures on Facebook. I said there was no pictures on Facebook of this party the day that it was occurring. Next post, please use commas, periods, quotations, etc. a little better so that I can understand what you are saying. And seriously, don't call me my dear, or young child, I don't appreciate being talked to like a dog. Thanks.
Nope

Manchester, NH

#63 Jul 13, 2009
yeah wrote:
The alcohol was in no way provided to the kids in attendance. When the host came back to the property, she found that kids were drinking. However, she did the right thing by confiscating car keys. Had she told us all to drive home, I would have liked to send her to jail myself. But, she protected us. With a party of 60+ people, four adults can't physically stop 60 teenagers from drinking.
Thank you 'yeah' for your point of view. It's nice to see someone (of any age) take personal responsibility. But please let me comment on your flawed logic. I know three of the adults in question and have talked directly to one of them about the situation.

The problem:

'Four adults can't physically stop 60 teenagers from drinking.' Exactly! This party should have been kept small enough so that the chaperones COULD stop the teenagers from drinking! That IS their responsibility. Any guest not invited (w/ parental permission) should have been turned away. PERIOD!

'She did the right thing by confiscating car keys.' NOT! The responsible thing would have been to call the parents and/or police. They should have had contact information for every kid at the party. If they didn't, see above for what they should have done.

Like I said, it's nice that you're willing to take personal responsibility for this. But please don't confuse the adults INTENT with the reality of what happened. It could have been avoided AND it could have been a lot worse. Despite the problems this has caused for the adults they are all very fortunate we're talking about what MIGHT have happened. The police spend every day picking up the pieces from 'good' intentions gone bad.

Good luck in your future. Despite or maybe because of this mistake, you will be a better person. Be very grateful that you're attending classes instead of funerals. Trust me, I've been there. The funerals are the pits...
too bad

Clockville, NY

#64 Jul 13, 2009
yeah wrote:
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First off, none of your sentences make much sense so I'm trying to figure out what you are getting at but it's difficult. I did NOT say cops "illegally gave us breathalyzers." People before me were saying that it is not legal for them to do this. I said that whether it was legal or not, we all COOPERATED. Of course I knew people would be bringing alcohol to the party. We are teens, we plan those things. However, that doesn't mean that it was planned by the adults to have alcohol involved. Also, I am not in any way "crying" about what happened. Did you not read where I said we all know the stupid mistakes we made and we are paying for it now. We are not idiots. We completely understand what we did was wrong, you live and you learn buddy. We learned, we're all paying for it now, so don't tell me that we're crying about it. Also, you clearly do not know the adults who were at this party, so do NOT call them irresponsible, unwise, etc. That is not your place and you have no right to question their character. Also, by calling me "young child," or "my dear," it seems to me that you are talking down to me, i.e: you think you are better. With all do respect, you know nothing. You know nothing about us, the adults, or the party. Also, I did not once whine about putting pictures on Facebook. I said there was no pictures on Facebook of this party the day that it was occurring. Next post, please use commas, periods, quotations, etc. a little better so that I can understand what you are saying. And seriously, don't call me my dear, or young child, I don't appreciate being talked to like a dog. Thanks.
Well I'm learning now, By having you crying about what happen and your need to explain yourself. If someone can not call you dear and you feel degraded, what are you going to do when you get out in the real word?? Plus I would not let my dog hang around you to begins with. He might come home drunk!!You might take my dog to the party house and have some real good parents watch him. He is almost 10. Old enough to drink. Your still worried about what the cops did to you! I think they should have thrown you in jail. And made you go to court. But I guess blogging about you is more fun. The fun of having the internet around. And you can thanks the parents of your stupid friend for having half of the county blogging about this joke. This whole problem was brought upon you yourself. Being a smart one like you. You should have left the party when the drinking began. Your not 21. And by the way just because your paying for it know, still does not make it right. In some of your blogs you are way off base. But you are too young to realized it. Spelling and crying.. You will face more problems in life. And will you blog about them too. You made your bed now you have to lay in it... You will live through it just like the rest of us did. But if you are hurt about people comments stop blogging about it. How should we feel about the party that served minors or people under the age 21. Boy that must be a magic number 21. Cry under your pillow if you can not stand the heat. If I was talking down to you like a dog. I would have told you to go lay down and put your tail between your legs. Plus be careful what you say. Your words are coming back to haunt you. Now you say you knew beer was going to be there. It just keep getting better every time you blog. The cop should make you testified against the parents. By you knowing there was going to be alcohol at the party.. You are a minor. Look up the word or better yet just look in the mirror in your room. The guy that rob that little old lady at Big Y made a poor judgment too. He is young to. I guess that makes it O.K for him too. But he is paying for it now just like you minors.
way too much ado

Gansevoort, NY

#65 Jul 13, 2009
Are you all really still arguing about this? Hot damn, let it go! No one died or got hurt. Surely there is a lesson here: Don't get caught. Or, better yet, you kids should have gone drinking in the woods or something. Get creative. Remember...work smart, not hard.

These forum posters must be Red Sox fans. That's the only way this debate could still be going on. Youkilis sucks a fat one.
Berkshire

Springfield, MA

#66 Jul 13, 2009
Duff Man wrote:
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How about these Nazi cops useing a dog? A drug dog no doubt.Why don't they take the dog to any federal or state houseing project and nail the parasites who live there are are known drug users?
I agree...pee tests and drug tests for all the "public assistance" people that could hold a real job instead of polluting the streets of our cities and towns with their gangster mentality and drugs!
Perhaps a "public assistance" facility/institution that houses and feeds them three squares at certain times a day...miss the time miss the meal. Don't like it get a job or move somewhere else.
We make it to easy for these low lives to survive in our state!
my side

Boston, MA

#67 Jul 13, 2009
I know enough wrote:
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I do know that the parents were aware there would be alcohol consumed whether or not they provided it. My child ask to attend this party and stated it was a mandatory sleepover and keys would be collected. The 4 adults involved may be the nicest people in the world, but they absolutely did NOT do the right thing!
Perhaps your facebook photos were not from this party, but another where you all gathered to drink. A party that was not busted, and you did not all understand that you have to pay the consequences. We as parents do go to work, and take care of our families. One way is by going on your facebook and stalking your photos. By doing these things, we make sure, as best we can, that you have a LIFE to live.
And most certainly if I came into this situation, I would phone the police, and make absolute certain my child was involved. To make sure my child deals the the consequences of his actions, in the most scary, embarrassing, and hopefully eye-opening way possible.
You may not get it now, but someday, as an adult, hard working, and possible parent, you will see where we are coming from. Believe it or not, we are only trying to protect you. Because like you, I was a teenager at one time. And I made the mistakes you made, and I had that mother who didn't understand we just wanted to have fun. I was in situations that I now see were sooooooo dangerous, and luckily I'm still here.
Then one day I became a mother. And I said 4 things to my mom.
1.) I now get it
2.) I'm sorry
3.) Thank you
4.) I love you
Interesting that you would call the police on your child if they were underage drinking. It gives me some insight in to your parenting style (lack of trust and scare tactics). I would never surrender my authority to the police. Maybe they are authority figures in your life, I do not respect them (in general) and would not do that to my child. Also what you told your mother when you had children is not any different than anyone else. Most people think their mother's parenting was the best way and they follow it. The one thing I see in all of these judgemental posts is a lack of compassion and blaming. I think in another time the neighbor would have gone over instead of calling the police. We live in a culture where it is very popular to disrespect others rights (and they do have some).
umm

Gansevoort, NY

#68 Jul 13, 2009
I personally think everyone still fighting about this needs to grow up and get on with it. Seriously tell me how many parents out there have not been in a situation like this one. You all are saying you'd be the perfect parent in this situation, but until you are actually in that situation you do not know what you would really do. So grow up, stop leaving nasty comments to each other and take care of your own lives.
yeah

Amsterdam, NY

#69 Jul 13, 2009
Nope wrote:
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Thank you 'yeah' for your point of view. It's nice to see someone (of any age) take personal responsibility. But please let me comment on your flawed logic. I know three of the adults in question and have talked directly to one of them about the situation.
The problem:
'Four adults can't physically stop 60 teenagers from drinking.' Exactly! This party should have been kept small enough so that the chaperones COULD stop the teenagers from drinking! That IS their responsibility. Any guest not invited (w/ parental permission) should have been turned away. PERIOD!
'She did the right thing by confiscating car keys.' NOT! The responsible thing would have been to call the parents and/or police. They should have had contact information for every kid at the party. If they didn't, see above for what they should have done.
Like I said, it's nice that you're willing to take personal responsibility for this. But please don't confuse the adults INTENT with the reality of what happened. It could have been avoided AND it could have been a lot worse. Despite the problems this has caused for the adults they are all very fortunate we're talking about what MIGHT have happened. The police spend every day picking up the pieces from 'good' intentions gone bad.
Good luck in your future. Despite or maybe because of this mistake, you will be a better person. Be very grateful that you're attending classes instead of funerals. Trust me, I've been there. The funerals are the pits...
I completely agree with you. It should have been kept smaller if this was bound to happen, but unfortunately it wasn't. It continued to grow as the night went on. I KNOW that the law says call the police if you see underaged drinking, but in all honestly, I just can't imagine any parent wanting to let the law take control over their own parenting. It's just not something that you should WANT for your kids. And I'm not confusing things. I completely understand that their INTENT is not what occurred. It very well could have been a lot worse and thank god it wasn't. We all made a big mistake and we are taking responsibility for it now and paying the price. I can't even tell you how much we all regret this, do you think we just brushed it off our shoulders? Absolutely not. The majority of us are getting ready to leave for college in a month and we have this to deal with now. We are not stupid teens, we understand what we did and we're all royally pissed at ourselves! Trust me, these are all my friends. We are not proud of this. I just wish that people would be a little more understanding.
Elmer Fudd

Cambridge, MA

#70 Jul 13, 2009
The hosts weren't very bright to begin with.

You hire a DJ and you don't invite your neighbors? I would be surprised if they DIDN'T have a noise complaint.

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