what age is too young for getting engaged?

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ARB

San Jose, CA

#1 Oct 23, 2011
Im just curious it's more of a personal question than I statistical or bashing based question. Just curious as to what age people think is too young to be engaged. Serious answers would help. Thanks
the milk man

United States

#2 Oct 23, 2011
It all depends on the maturity level of the couple.
ARB

San Jose, CA

#3 Oct 23, 2011
Its almost a year, never have full blown arguments, get along perfectly, friends for a while before dating, has high morals and ethics and respectful, protective etc, never ever angry (literally never)
Seen It

Chicago, IL

#4 Oct 23, 2011
I would think that anything under 23 is too young. I'm not at all saying that a marriage at a younger age wont last, because many do. However, as you age and mature you get a better sense of self. Personally, I think that you should take the time to develop yourself before you get involved with someone who might love you for who you are at one stage in your life, but not be prepared for you to grow through other stages of your life.
Seen It

Chicago, IL

#5 Oct 23, 2011
ARB wrote:
Its almost a year, never have full blown arguments, get along perfectly, friends for a while before dating, has high morals and ethics and respectful, protective etc, never ever angry (literally never)
Sounds like a great relationship, and kudos on that. I am currently engaged to someone I've beed with for many years. For the first year, year and a half, we never fought, and we communicated very well. However, as the years went on he became jealous...even though he calls it "protective." He also would tell me that I've "changed" and I feel the same about him. I do still love him very much, but if I was any younger, I do not know if I would have the coping skills needed to make our relationship last.
ARB

San Jose, CA

#6 Oct 23, 2011
Seen It wrote:
I would think that anything under 23 is too young. I'm not at all saying that a marriage at a younger age wont last, because many do. However, as you age and mature you get a better sense of self. Personally, I think that you should take the time to develop yourself before you get involved with someone who might love you for who you are at one stage in your life, but not be prepared for you to grow through other stages of your life.
That makes perfect sense, I've been thinking to wait until after college and settled down and see how that works then decide
Are you kidding

United States

#7 Oct 24, 2011
ARB wrote:
Its almost a year, never have full blown arguments, get along perfectly, friends for a while before dating, has high morals and ethics and respectful, protective etc, never ever angry (literally never)
Just because you do not argue does not mean that it will work out. A mature relationship is being able to get through the rough times without hard feeling. I have seen couples that have been together forever and never fight, but when something big happened they were not able to get through it and ended up divorce. Every relationship can survive in good times. It is how you make it through the rough times that matter.
someone who knows

Highland, IL

#8 Oct 24, 2011
ARB wrote:
<quoted text>That makes perfect sense, I've been thinking to wait until after college and settled down and see how that works then decide
after college! People make major changes during. Live before committing so no regrets. I got engaged too young and regret it. We had the perfect relationship but we ruined it by rushing in. We now have a child and divorced because we weren't grown up enough to really know what's life about. We tried and lasted 8 yrs.
ARB

Folsom, CA

#9 Oct 24, 2011
Are you kidding wrote:
<quoted text>Just because you do not argue does not mean that it will work out. A mature relationship is being able to get through the rough times without hard feeling. I have seen couples that have been together forever and never fight, but when something big happened they were not able to get through it and ended up divorce. Every relationship can survive in good times. It is how you make it through the rough times that matter.
I never said that, don't assume I don't know. We've been through plenty but I didn't say that because what we have gone through is really nobody else's business.
ARB

Folsom, CA

#10 Oct 24, 2011
someone who knows wrote:
<quoted text>after college! People make major changes during. Live before committing so no regrets. I got engaged too young and regret it. We had the perfect relationship but we ruined it by rushing in. We now have a child and divorced because we weren't grown up enough to really know what's life about. We tried and lasted 8 yrs.
At least you got a beautiful baby out of it :)
someone who knows

Highland, IL

#11 Oct 24, 2011
True but not the outcome I wanted for my child.
ARB

Folsom, CA

#12 Oct 24, 2011
someone who knows wrote:
True but not the outcome I wanted for my child.
Understandable, my sister is in the same satiation. Not always how we want things to turn out but gotta be thankful for what you got our of it of you cant find any other good in it :)
None11

Edwardsville, IL

#13 Oct 24, 2011
ARB wrote:
Im just curious it's more of a personal question than I statistical or bashing based question. Just curious as to what age people think is too young to be engaged. Serious answers would help. Thanks
You should get engaged when you're ready for marriage and the responsibilities that go with it like kids and a house. If he's everything you want and fulfills everything you need only you can know if that makes him the right guy. Also fighting is important with figuring out how to talk to each other, especially with being married cause you're guaranteed to fight every once in a while!
ARB

Folsom, CA

#14 Oct 24, 2011
None11 wrote:
<quoted text>You should get engaged when you're ready for marriage and the responsibilities that go with it like kids and a house. If he's everything you want and fulfills everything you need only you can know if that makes him the right guy. Also fighting is important with figuring out how to talk to each other, especially with being married cause you're guaranteed to fight every once in a while!
Agreed, you are absolutely right, thanks
teen marriage here

Edwardsville, IL

#15 Oct 24, 2011
ARB wrote:
Im just curious it's more of a personal question than I statistical or bashing based question. Just curious as to what age people think is too young to be engaged. Serious answers would help. Thanks
Whenever you want
lonnie

United States

#16 Oct 24, 2011
when you can support yourselves on your own. seriously if you both live with mom and dad and go to highschool and work at mcdonalds you shouldn't be making huge life decisions like getting engaged.
ARB

Folsom, CA

#17 Oct 24, 2011
lonnie wrote:
when you can support yourselves on your own. seriously if you both live with mom and dad and go to highschool and work at mcdonalds you shouldn't be making huge life decisions like getting engaged.
Explain why not. Because plenty of high school relationships work. If they truly love each other then what wrong with that?
srb1313

Murray, KY

#18 Oct 25, 2011
I dont think you should take anybodies opinion but your own and how your partner feels
ughh

Highland, IL

#19 Oct 25, 2011
ARB wrote:
<quoted text>Explain why not. Because plenty of high school relationships work. If they truly love each other then what wrong with that?
get financially stable first. There are actually very few high school relationships that work anymore. Most parents that are together now since high school will advise to do things differently. Life changes too much and you don't want to be with someone purely because you rushed things and now rely on eachother for finances. I thank god I didn't marry my high school sweet heart and we were engaged. My husband and I met in college and what I thought was love in high school was not what live truly is. Go to college if you work through that then get married. Not before.
mmmya

Highland, IL

#20 Nov 1, 2011
If u haven't had a full on argument yet! No need to get married

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