heart broken

New Albany, IN

#1 Jul 16, 2013
So me and my gf split for a few months well while we were seperated she started hanging around her ex, the one before me. We have been together way longer then they ever were so this was a surprise not to mention how bad this guy treated my gf while they were together. Well as time goes by my ex and I seem to settle are differences i am happy but questions her relationship with guy while we were sepperated seem to come up, she told me nothing happened and they were just friends. Well after about a month of beimg back together she confesses to having sex with this guy. Im devestated not only did i not uave sex with anyone else me and this othee do not get along at all and also this other guy didnt take it well hergoing back to me so alot of shit was started. What do I do? Any advise out there. I know I love her, but at the same time fell betrayed. Is this anyway to get past it quicker or just let time mend the break.
ouch

United States

#2 Jul 16, 2013
heart broken wrote:
So me and my gf split for a few months well while we were seperated she started hanging around her ex, the one before me. We have been together way longer then they ever were so this was a surprise not to mention how bad this guy treated my gf while they were together. Well as time goes by my ex and I seem to settle are differences i am happy but questions her relationship with guy while we were sepperated seem to come up, she told me nothing happened and they were just friends. Well after about a month of beimg back together she confesses to having sex with this guy. Im devestated not only did i not uave sex with anyone else me and this othee do not get along at all and also this other guy didnt take it well hergoing back to me so alot of shit was started. What do I do? Any advise out there. I know I love her, but at the same time fell betrayed. Is this anyway to get past it quicker or just let time mend the break.
If you were broke up what's it matter.
Your togther no so work it out
hurt

Newburgh, IN

#3 Jul 16, 2013
It is hurtful to find out your signifigant other slept with someone else when you were split up. Especially when they weren't honest about it from the beginning. It is hard to get past pain to work on a relationship. Even harder when you think they may still be in contact with one another....texts or calls. I understand completely. Understand that it is up to her to make it right.....put the extra effort to make things right with you. If you want to be with her then you will not try to make her feel guilty about it if she is remorseful. Good luck to you.
valkye

Union, KY

#4 Jul 16, 2013
Run while you can
stay away

Owensboro, KY

#5 Jul 16, 2013
You were broke up so u can't b mad but sounds like she not over ex. I wouldnt get back in that situation.

“ROCK ON ROCKERS!!”

Since: Mar 11

Rockin' USA ;)

#8 Jul 16, 2013
NowNow wrote:
I think if you believe in God and you believe in love; pray about it!!! If you really love this person and you know without a doubt that they love you then it is worth working it out, but at the same time if she really truly loved you then I do not think that she would have had sex with someone else no matter who it was there is no excuse if you love one person and give that love to another person then the connection is lost and the only way to get it back is leave it to God; if it is meant to be then it will be!!! Believe me, I have been going through some rough times with the person I love cheating with someone else and even having children with this person, but I believe the love is real and that this person is sorry and I know beyond a doubt how much I love this person so I just take it one day at a time and let it be!!! If the relationship is meant to be no one or nothing will come between the two of you!! I know from experience and I'm still learning!! God Bless you and hope it works out for you!! ONE DAY AT A TIME!!
DUDE...If ya AIN'T together...Then the One YOU Love from a distance... CAN and WILL date, etc. With Anyone she wants... MAN UP or STFU!!!!
heather

Bloomington, IN

#10 Jul 18, 2013
Colorado Chick wrote:
<quoted text> DUDE...If ya AIN'T together...Then the One YOU Love from a distance... CAN and WILL date, etc. With Anyone she wants... MAN UP or STFU!!!!
I live in Colorado now

“ROCK ON ROCKERS!!”

Since: Mar 11

Rockin' USA ;)

#11 Jul 18, 2013
heather wrote:
<quoted text>I live in Colorado now
. GOOD FOR YOU... I DON',T...

It's my STAGE NAME!!!
Harry nutz

Evansville, IN

#12 Jul 19, 2013
Sounds to me one way or another she was gonna go back to him cause if she was really over him she wouldn't had in the first place and the whole saying "just friends" is a nice way of saying yeah we had sex but he's not changed so ill go back to the slightly better situation just saying but she sounds selfish manipulative and I'd get the heck out!
Lies destroy trust

Benton, KY

#13 Jul 19, 2013
heart broken wrote:
So me and my gf split for a few months well while we were seperated she started hanging around her ex, the one before me. We have been together way longer then they ever were so this was a surprise not to mention how bad this guy treated my gf while they were together. Well as time goes by my ex and I seem to settle are differences i am happy but questions her relationship with guy while we were sepperated seem to come up, she told me nothing happened and they were just friends. Well after about a month of beimg back together she confesses to having sex with this guy. Im devestated not only did i not uave sex with anyone else me and this othee do not get along at all and also this other guy didnt take it well hergoing back to me so alot of shit was started. What do I do? Any advise out there. I know I love her, but at the same time fell betrayed. Is this anyway to get past it quicker or just let time mend the break.
Not what you are wanting to hear but it sounds to me like there's a real strong reason to be suspicious that even more deception went on you don't know about yet.
It could be that the real reason behind the initial split up between you and her was that she and her ex were already sneaking around seeing each other and maybe even already getting it on in bed.
The cold hard unbiased fact of the matter and most important thing is really not so much that she had sex with someone else while you and her were separated for several months by what sounds like mutual agreement but more importantly the fact that according to your story she lied about it.

Lying by either party in any kind of relationship be it between friends or a committed romantic relationship is about the single most destructive thing you can do to undermine and ultimately destroy it. For a long time in the future way back in your mind there will always be the nagging doubt "could she (or he) be lying AGAIN"?

It's your life so stay with her if you want just don't go crying the blues and having yourself a personal pity party when/if the next time it happens.

Fool me once,... shame on you!
Fool me twice,... shame on me!!!
facts

Owensboro, KY

#14 Jul 19, 2013
Dump her now! May be hard now but it will save you alot of pain and hurt. Keep her and you will only have problems to look forward to. Unfortunately the majority of women are stupid when they select their boyfriend, husband. Do Not Trust her anymore. So move on big boy.

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