White men! Date a woman with bi-racia...
plain wrong

Chicago, IL

#22 Jul 17, 2011
Shouldve know better now live with concentences.No decent man would
KillTheCuckolds

Dunedin, FL

#23 Oct 2, 2011
LadyDtoosweet wrote:
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WOW .. some very ignorant racist responses. I should have known most of the responses would come from the guys that are insecure and fear the old tale of the black man. And usually, those are the ones with the smallest d*cks that believe that stuff-- so go on with your "little" racist ignorant selves! I will find a man that loves me and my kids no matter what color he is and he will be man enough and secure in himself to not think twice about the color of my kids.
I feel bad for you, you're a single white woman with 3 black kids. I'd have to say your chances of finding a worthwhile white man with a decent job and no bad habits are slim to none. I'm gonna lay it down for you, you're no catch, even if you were smoking hot, the long term prospects of a relationship with a woman with 3 black kids are really undesirable. Sorry to burst your bubble. You can't spend your youth having fun and being careless and not expect it to come back and bite you in the ass.
FuckPoliticalCor rectness

Dunedin, FL

#24 Oct 2, 2011
David wrote:
Ok here is the bottom line, and it's very simple. "White man's world" where he has all these issues is nothing more than a continuation of the rediculous shame he feels when other white people judge him for not staying "white".
That's what this stuff always comes down to. White peer pressure. It's just like regular peer pressure except it has that extra sense of being regarded as "unworthy" by other whites. And he values his worth in comparison to what white society and other whites think of him.
That is a form of low self esteem, which is why I always say that white prejudice is always ALWAYS a cover for white low self esteem. Whether it be by feeling insecure compared to a black man, or insecure about what other white people will think.
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Or maybe it's just not wanting 3 little brats that don't look anything like him?

Since: May 11

Location hidden

#25 Oct 2, 2011
So why do all the white people come on this topic to talk shít such an insecure race sad
countrygrl

Lynchburg, VA

#26 Oct 27, 2011
To be honest, hun.. yes. It's hurtful; but it is true. I know this white girl who slept with a lot of black men and she got pregnant and he did not want her. Now she is trying to go with white guys cause she basically "ran out" with the black guys in the area. No white guys will want her. If you meet a racist SOB like some of them her; they are going to call your kids racist names and say racist things (like they are here). I am a black female. Would it be easier? Yep. And to be honest, you should of thought about it anyways. You made a comment that you did not want to be black nor talk black, so that made me think that you are actually a racist yourself and that was the first black man you slept with and he "blew" your mind; now that you and him are no longer together you thought it was going to be easy. Hahahaha!!! It is so funny when white people are victims of their own racism. I love it!!!
jon

United States

#27 Oct 31, 2011
The truth is no white man will ever be with a white women that has children by black man, and no black man will be with a women that has children with another man period, so you better get used to it.
Jen

United States

#28 Nov 7, 2011
My best advice for you is to be upfront about your children. You will meet someone who isn't bothered by the skin color of your children. Don't wait until you've been on several dates to drop the bomb, let them know first thing. If a man is really bothered by it, then he's not worth your time anyways. There are decent, secure men out there, I guess none of them are on this site though... Lol. Just be patient, when Mr. Right comes along, your children won't be an issue. Who wants an undercover redneck anyways??
Shelly

Kankakee, IL

#29 Nov 10, 2011
I have found a wonderful white man who loves my biracial little princesses. They are out there. We are getting married next year and he treats them like his own to everyone!
Shelly

Kankakee, IL

#30 Nov 10, 2011
Also, my kids know they are mixed and understand how they are. We are open about everything. I explain to them how white women tan to have their color and black people bleach their skin to have their color and that they are perfect! At first he was a bit nervous of what his parents would think but, his parents have taken my kids as their own grandchildren. It makes me nervous more than them because Im protective of my children and want to make sure they won't be hurt by someone judging them on something as stupid as their skin color!
ThomasA

Ashville, AL

#31 Nov 10, 2011
Shelly wrote:
Also, my kids know they are mixed and understand how they are. We are open about everything. I explain to them how white women tan to have their color and black people bleach their skin to have their color and that they are perfect! At first he was a bit nervous of what his parents would think but, his parents have taken my kids as their own grandchildren. It makes me nervous more than them because Im protective of my children and want to make sure they won't be hurt by someone judging them on something as stupid as their skin color!
I hope it works out, but down the road you still may have a problem with the kids trying to identify themselves by hanging with white kids or having a front yard full of friends from the 'hood on Saturday night.
Emile Zola

San Antonio, TX

#32 Nov 12, 2011
For Ladydtoosweet.
Let me give you my two cents. When I was in the service, I saw white girls, also in the service, that went out with black guys, but, at least in what I saw, they, the girls went out with blacks because white guys wouldn't asked them out, ergo, they took whatever was left. I also witnessed that one of those black guys going out with a white chic was dropped like a hot potato after a white guy asked her to go out with him. It's hard to know how beautiful or not you are, there are too many ugly girls that think they are Ms Universe, but the truth is in the pudding. Now, if you were in Brazil or Latin America, with a few exceptions of course, the mixed marriages wouldn't be an issue, because, again, but in America, with its "Christianity" and bigotry at the same time, it's something else. The ones that pay later on life the broken dishes are the children. I have read many cases, specially in the deep South and the racist to the core states, where life for those children is hell, just like it's for gays and not so much for lesbians, ergo, people should be less selfish and think of their own. Just imagine how racist this "Christian and democratic" nation is: They have the gall to call Mexicans, native Americans that were here before their ancestors ever thought of coming here: Illegals or savages. The first ones for datring to come to the land of their ancestors, the latter for daring to defend their land, costumes from the invaders. Next time think more with what you have upstairs and less with what you have downstairs.
hmmm

Saratoga Springs, NY

#33 Nov 26, 2011
LadyDtoosweet wrote:
* PLEASE DO NOT TURN THIS INTO A RACIAL BLACK VS. WHITE THREAD!! That is not my intent and PLEASE save any racist remarks for someone else. i deal enough with that on a daily basis.*
Hello all, I am new to this board and thought I would start a thread of my own after reading various opinions on other websites after googling "will white guys date a woman with bi-racial kids". My brief background: I am white, 35 years old. Recently divorced (husband was black). Have 3 bi-racial (BEAUTIFUL) kids; ages 16, 12, and 8.
I had a friend I worked with several years back. He knew I had kids but didn’t know they were bi-racial. Well once I got divorced, our friendship quickly went to more and eventually we were very close and in love, practically engaged.
Well the more he came around the house and spent time with me AND my kids he started acting strange. One day he told me that most white guys have a huge problem dating white girls that have been with black guys, especially those women that have children with the black guy. He told me that in white guy world is considered "cleaning up a black guys mess".
I couldn’t quite come to terms with that because if my kids were white why wouldn’t he be "cleaning up a white guys mess" if they are indeed cleaning up someones mess? He told me it's an issue because white guys can't go in public with my kids and atleast pretend they are his kids because they clearly aren't.
Needless to say, this caused a lot of problems. Through all of this, he always worded it as " other white guys think this way ". He always made it clear HE doesn't feel that way, it's just the general consensus with white guys.
Well after a while it became clear he DID feel that way and I couldn't take it anymore and we eventually broke up. He has made a few attempts to come back into my life, but I just can't allow it because he didn't only hurt me with his actions, but he hurt my babies.
I do love him alot, and I have no doubt he loves me... but I just don't think he will ever be able to fully 100% accept my kids' skin color, which breaks my heart. He was generally very good with my kids. Never treated them unfairly and certainly never gave them any notion that he had a problem with their skin color. He tried to keep it to himself but after a while it got more difficult for him and became more obvious.
I really just want to get some opinions here of some real men and how they feel about dating a white woman with bi-racial kids? Just as an FYI, I am not one of those girls that thinks she is black and tries to be or talk black. I am the most valley white girl most will ever come across. Not to sound snotty, but just to weed it out, I am attractive and it's not one of those "big girl" things either. They are always shocked to learn my babies are bi-racial. So it's not an issue of I think or want to be black. I would just like to know if I am wasting my time in thinking my options are open when it comes to dating any race. Or am I safer to just realize my situation is what it is and don't even look a white mans way because he will turn away once he finds out I was married to a black guy and my kids are black?
Yes my mother is white and has never had a problem attracting white men and they never had a problem me and my sisters.
Emile Zola

San Antonio, TX

#34 Nov 27, 2011
hmmm wrote:
<quoted text> Yes my mother is white and has never had a problem attracting white men and they never had a problem me and my sisters.
A swallow, if true what you said, doesn't the summer make.
hmmm

Saratoga Springs, NY

#35 Nov 28, 2011
Emile Zola wrote:
<quoted text>A swallow, if true what you said, doesn't the summer make.
Please excuse my ignorance but I have no idea what you're saying . If you are asking if I'm telling the truth then YES absolutely I have no reason to lie to a complete stranger. My mother is white and my father is African American and Native American my two sisters and I are mixed. I also have a white brother who I grew up with as well and i'm here to set the record, and the ignorance straight. This woman should have no problem finding any race of men because of her mixed children. Because my mother sure didn't!! I also know a few white females with mixed kids and this isn't a problem or a concern
Emile Zola

San Antonio, TX

#36 Nov 30, 2011
hmmm wrote:
<quoted text> Please excuse my ignorance but I have no idea what you're saying . If you are asking if I'm telling the truth then YES absolutely I have no reason to lie to a complete stranger. My mother is white and my father is African American and Native American my two sisters and I are mixed. I also have a white brother who I grew up with as well and i'm here to set the record, and the ignorance straight. This woman should have no problem finding any race of men because of her mixed children. Because my mother sure didn't!! I also know a few white females with mixed kids and this isn't a problem or a concern
I guess you, obivously, didn't understand the meaning of a swallow doesn't the summer make. Let me translate that theory of relativity or better yet, let me say it with another axiom that I'm sure you heard before: The exception to the rule confirms the statement, but that doesn't imply that because it happened once, then it becomes the rule. That will never happened, even if you were married to Sitting Bull or Mugave.
hmmm

Saratoga Springs, NY

#37 Nov 30, 2011
Swallow doesn't the summer make? LMFAO!! I'm (18) NOT (50):D
It didn't even sound like a proper sentence to me. The lady asked a question so I answered it with my knowledge and experience unlike the majority of the posters on this thread.
I never once said this is an everyday thing. Did I? I would be lying and out of touch with reality if I did. Face it there's not a lot of men going around looking for women with kids regardless of his race but especially if he's white and the her kids are black. But it happens and I have witnessed it on MORE than ONE occasion.I wasn't replying to you in the first place so NEXT time you don't like a comment judge it and keep it moving.
Thanks and have a good night
Sasha

Morrison, TN

#39 Jul 30, 2012
Wow!!!!
Looking at some of the comments is just crazy. I have dated both black and white men. I have a child by the black man and my newly white boyfriend accepts him as his own. My son is of brown color and can pass for a bi- racial child. I still think that because he loves me for me, he has accepted my child. There are no issues between him and the baby's father. We all get along... Surprised? Its all I who you date and their mind set. Color is what it is a color and the sooner people realize it, the better off the world would be.
Artemis

Salt Lake City, UT

#40 Jul 31, 2012
Lolz. Once you go black, no one wants you back.
ThomasA

Birmingham, AL

#41 Jul 31, 2012
Sasha wrote:
Wow!!!!
Looking at some of the comments is just crazy. I have dated both black and white men. I have a child by the black man and my newly white boyfriend accepts him as his own. My son is of brown color and can pass for a bi- racial child. I still think that because he loves me for me, he has accepted my child. There are no issues between him and the baby's father. We all get along... Surprised? Its all I who you date and their mind set. Color is what it is a color and the sooner people realize it, the better off the world would be.
Greetings from TRAILER PARK,USA !!!See you at Walmart Saturday.
questions of culture

United States

#42 Feb 19, 2013
So far you have only said the father was black. Ok what attracted you to him? And if you find those quality in another man does his color matter? If your children's father was a driven, honest, responsible man, won't those same things attract you to a similar man no matter his color? If he was not these things is it right to expect any man of any color to take that responsibility?

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