Bullying law gives parents a weapon

Bullying law gives parents a weapon

There are 6 comments on the Berkshire Eagle story from Jun 4, 2010, titled Bullying law gives parents a weapon. In it, Berkshire Eagle reports that:

A May 25 letter to the editor by Kim Graham argues the new 258E Harassment Prevention Order law should not be used to remedy bullying issues at school.

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Andrew

Pittsfield, MA

#1 Jun 5, 2010
This weapn is like a loaded gun; if not used carefully and thoughtfully, and in the right circumstances, it could do much more harm than good. While I don't condone bullying, I also don't condone placing the blame for suicides at the bullies' feet, at least not ONLY theirs. If a child has the support of a loving family, a school system who is actually CONCERNED (i.e. NOT the system which so tragically let down Phoebe Prince), there will be much less need for parents to whip out the federal weapon. My concern is that this new law will result in an overflow of cases where parents immediately resort to this just because little Jimmy got pushed down at the playground, or Susie got laughed at in the hallway. Remember, parents, with love and support and a bit of intelligence, there will be only a rare actual NEED for this "weapon".
Kim

Cobleskill, NY

#2 Jun 5, 2010
Paul, I agree, sometimes it is impossible to have certain parents, teacher, after-school supervisors or anyone else responsible for children to hear, accept and respond to the fact that their favorite children are bullies.
I don't believe that schools should be raising our children, but they are responsible for our children for over 30 hours a week and school hours are the times that children are with peers the most. Therefore children do learn life lessons from the schools. Certain school, like certain parents are passive in their role as role-models for the children. When this is the case, bullies can make a name for themselves by being the voice most hear from.
When bullying becomes a problem, EVERY adult in the childrens lives are obligated to become involved, both to help the children who are being bullied and to stop the bully's behavior.
Mark

Albany, NY

#4 Jun 6, 2010
Andrew, the potential for the 258E order to be abused is minimized as the process of seeking the 258E order is a lot of work. Three documented qualifying incidients and then getting interviewed by the judge with quesitons like have you exhausted all other options, what has the school done, have you spoken to the parents, to the police. Once schools ramp up better bullying education and process for dealing with bullying, the 258E will be used rarely, IMHO.
Andrew

Pittsfield, MA

#5 Jun 6, 2010
Mark wrote:
Andrew, the potential for the 258E order to be abused is minimized as the process of seeking the 258E order is a lot of work. Three documented qualifying incidients and then getting interviewed by the judge with quesitons like have you exhausted all other options, what has the school done, have you spoken to the parents, to the police. Once schools ramp up better bullying education and process for dealing with bullying, the 258E will be used rarely, IMHO.
If this is true, it gives me hope! Thank you for the info!
Carla

Albany, NY

#6 Jun 8, 2010
Schools often ignore the bullying issue, or they are intimidated by the bully's parents, who deny, deny, deny. Schools often blame the victim or if the student who is bullied does stand up for him or herself, punish that student for fighting. It is often a no win situation for the many students who face bullying each day, because they do not fit it, act younger or older than their peers or come for a family who cannot afford to buy their child "in clothing."
Will this issue ever be solved, I don't know. I do know at at 73, I faced being bullied each day and it affected my academics and my self esteem while in school. It was not until years later, while in college and in my profession that I overcame what I went through in school.
lenox leech

Williamstown, MA

#7 Jun 10, 2010
kim grahmm who wrote the first article has quite some experience in being a bully. Ask her how she got her first home, she bullied her exhusband out of it. his families home and then left him homeless- shes not the class act she pretends to be.

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