why is it so hard to meet a decent girl

why is it so hard to meet a decent girl

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jbull1988

United States

#1 May 4, 2012
Why is it so hard to meet a nice decent respectable girl here in somerset. Where are some good places to meet girls at, not just some trashy girls that like to get 3 beer drunk and stuff like that? Im 24, have a job and am a good guy but just find it nearly impossible to meet a good girl, any suggestions
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Since: Mar 12

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#2 May 5, 2012
Stay out of the trashy spots and make sure you are a decent boy, and it will happen. Sounds like you have more going for you, than most.
jbull1988

United States

#3 May 5, 2012
Thats the problem theres not many "non trashy" spots to go around here to meet someone. Sullys is decent but way too often theres too many people in there being loud and out of control that it just turns everyone off to the possibility of meeting someone
Katniss

Murray, KY

#4 May 5, 2012
jbull1988 wrote:
Why is it so hard to meet a nice decent respectable girl here in somerset. Where are some good places to meet girls at, not just some trashy girls that like to get 3 beer drunk and stuff like that? Im 24, have a job and am a good guy but just find it nearly impossible to meet a good girl, any suggestions
Go to church. Maybe do some volunteer work at the hospital, nursing home, food bank or someplace. Hang out at the public library. Join a gym Join a civic group. And be patient!!!
Island Girl

Elizabethtown, KY

#5 May 5, 2012
Don't be afraid to approach a girl at a store. Strike up a conversation. Pay attention. I've met guys at grocery stores believe it or not.
Do the things you enjoy & maybe you'll meet someone who likes to do the things you like to do.
Women do still like for the guy to make the first move, or show an interest. The girls you want to meet want the same thing you want. Just open up & be yourself. Always be yourself & polite. And one poster was right, you can meet girls at the library. Go in pick a book you like, sit down at a big table & see who comes around. A conversation can be started on what type of books you enjoy reading. Smart people read. Trashy people typically do not!
Remember too that "opposites" attract & can compliment each other nicely. You shouldn't like "all" the same things, that's too boring. Keep an open mind. Just be friendly, hold doors open for people, etc.
DJCulture

Pikeville, KY

#6 May 5, 2012
My experience has been that the so-called "decent" girls are not very hot.
Hot Rod

United States

#7 May 5, 2012
Let me tell you The Best Kept Secret In The World. Pay Attention Here...

Every Girl Is Hot. Decent Girls Are Particularly Hot. She Just Needs A Real Man to Turn Her On.

The problem is most guys are not very skilled at turning girls on. They are, in fact, pretty poor at it. Naturally, you'll disagree with me. So let the girls and women on here respond to my comment.

And Somerset and Pulaski County is full of great girls just waiting for the right guy.

I'm not especially rich, good looking, smart or cool. And I've had a great time with Pulaski County and Somerset girls. So get out there and get busy.
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#10 May 6, 2012
Practice makes perfect was what I was told when I was young, so I went out with 'em all. All of the fellers that had the nice cars/trucks, extra money, in style clothes that fit, and lived in nice homes, got the pick of the litter. But, ALL THE REST WERE MINE!! First, You gotta respect yourself before you will respect others. And soon, when you ain't expecting it, BAM, it'll happen. Then when you get old and grey, just maybe you can look back through life and say,...Life has been great, no regrets,...or not!
ummm

London, KY

#11 May 6, 2012
The female body is simply disgusting.
DJCulture

Pikeville, KY

#12 May 6, 2012
OP, in all seriousness (my earlier comment was meant for laughs), I feel your pain. I'm 30 years old and grew up in Somerset. I've lived in three other nearby cities and had better luck with women in all of them. I don't think there is one single reason why the dating scene in Somerset sucks. It is probably due to a variety of factors. There really aren't any good places to meet women, are there? You might luck out at Sully's or one of the places in Burnside. I'm sorry but church has never seemed like a viable option. Too many people trying to be on their best behavior and not act like their true selves. The hottest girls in Somerset will pay you attention if you have looks, money, or athletic ability. I wish I had a clear-cut answer to your problems.

“E HERE MAI FAKA 'OUTOU”

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Since: Apr 12

Kanakaville, Wai'anae

#13 May 6, 2012
Cause they're almost Extinct..

“Game Over”

Since: Oct 10

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#14 May 6, 2012
jbull1988 wrote:
Why is it so hard to meet a nice decent respectable girl here in somerset. Where are some good places to meet girls at, not just some trashy girls that like to get 3 beer drunk and stuff like that? Im 24, have a job and am a good guy but just find it nearly impossible to meet a good girl, any suggestions
You should try going gay. That's how I found a nice girl. Oh wait.....

Nevermind.
VERY TRUE SAYS

Toms River, NJ

#17 Oct 20, 2012
not too many women these days are not looking to date guys anymore, and there are many of us men looking for a woman today.
true

Alto, GA

#18 Oct 21, 2012
VERY TRUE SAYS wrote:
not too many women these days are not looking to date guys anymore, and there are many of us men looking for a woman today.
You do have a good point, it isn't about Women looking for marriage, kids and the house with the picket fence. Women are more in control of their own lifestyles, education, careers and find they like the independence so much so that most don't want children as well. Once a young lady has made it to 25 and has dedicated the time to making a future as one, they tend to find that the independent single woman is comfortable. As well more women today has seen the good and bad in marriages of their parents and relatives, which tends to have a lasting impression on what they don't want in their life. Once past high school and seeing how all the boys acted in school as well, girls who are maturing in their life realize they can do better then high school infactuations. Independence has changed the roles that once was the idea that women have to have a male companion and that men are the bread winners, it isn't that way in society today.

“Irish Eyes, T'salagi Temper”

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#19 Oct 22, 2012
VERY TRUE SAYS wrote:
not too many women these days are not looking to date guys anymore, and there are many of us men looking for a woman today.
Many of us women are done trying to please everyone and are content being single.

Booming Thunder
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Since: Oct 12

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#20 Oct 22, 2012
Phoenix Rising_76 wrote:
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Many of us women are done trying to please everyone and are content being single.
Well said...congrats!
VERY TRUE SAYS

Toms River, NJ

#22 Oct 24, 2012
true wrote:
<quoted text> You do have a good point, it isn't about Women looking for marriage, kids and the house with the picket fence. Women are more in control of their own lifestyles, education, careers and find they like the independence so much so that most don't want children as well. Once a young lady has made it to 25 and has dedicated the time to making a future as one, they tend to find that the independent single woman is comfortable. As well more women today has seen the good and bad in marriages of their parents and relatives, which tends to have a lasting impression on what they don't want in their life. Once past high school and seeing how all the boys acted in school as well, girls who are maturing in their life realize they can do better then high school infactuations. Independence has changed the roles that once was the idea that women have to have a male companion and that men are the bread winners, it isn't that way in society today.
very true, and years ago women were a lot easier to meet than now. today they are very nasty to talk too, and such a very bad attitude problem that they have now. many of them think that they are all that, and can't accept a man for himself. they want the rich man today. i was married at one time, but she cheated on me. now looking for a woman that is honest and doesn't cheat, is very hard for me. where i am, there are many LESBIANS down here adding to the problem.

Since: Jan 13

United States

#25 Jan 23, 2013
Quit being scared to go up and talk to something that you want. That simple the worst could happen is she says no. I think maybe you have self esteem issues. The truth might set you free work on confidence your the man right?
Clear Thinker 2oo

Harrison, AR

#26 Jan 23, 2013
jbull1988 wrote:
Why is it so hard to meet a nice decent respectable girl here in somerset. Where are some good places to meet girls at, not just some trashy girls that like to get 3 beer drunk and stuff like that? Im 24, have a job and am a good guy but just find it nearly impossible to meet a good girl, any suggestions


Defining a 'decent' girl is the hard part, and you need to determine what's your goal. Let's say your plan is the norm, you want to date a few years, get married and enjoy a long honeymoon, raise a family, retire then enjoy your final years in comfort. This girl would need to be family oriented, mature, patient, and willing to put her families needs ahead of her own. This also would of necessity apply to yourself.

I can guarantee you won't find this girl in a 'meeting place'. As katniss said looking for someone who volunteers her time to help others is an excellent start. When you consider about 99% of the girls out there are not even close to what you're looking for I do NOT recommend approaching a girl till you've had time to figure out who she is. Those kind of odds are guaranteed to result in repeated failures.

Since: Jan 13

United States

#27 Jan 23, 2013
But in order to succeed you must experience things like failure. It's part of life you think of the successful people out there they just started succeeding and that was it nope wrong not everyone. Maturity has a lot to do with it. Don't waste your time waiting around that won't accomplish anything. Other dudes like to see you just wait around and have nobody. They don't want to see u with any fine looking woman.

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