raising another mans child

raising another mans child

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wondering

Corbin, KY

#1 Sep 2, 2008
I am wondering how many men are raising another mans child.The reason could be-1- You have never done a dna test.2-you are afraid to find out.3- you know you can't father a child so you are selfish and not willing for the child to know their real parent.What are your reasons.No names PLEASE.Just the facts.
unknown

Lexington, KY

#2 Sep 2, 2008
who fn cares as long as the child has loving parents. What, you think you fathered a child but the baby's momma tells you it's not yours? Is that why your asking?
sucks

Somerset, KY

#3 Sep 2, 2008
How about the baby momma won't let me see the kid. Then she talks bad about me to the kid to get the kid to not want to come to my house. Or lets the child pick if it wants to come and see daddy or not. Telling it well if you dont go we will go do something else (that is fun of course) It sucks for a dad when the mother thinks the child is hers to control. But most of all it sucks for the child that its mother is such a bi^&h!!!
unknown

Lexington, KY

#4 Sep 2, 2008
sucks wrote:
How about the baby momma won't let me see the kid. Then she talks bad about me to the kid to get the kid to not want to come to my house. Or lets the child pick if it wants to come and see daddy or not. Telling it well if you dont go we will go do something else (that is fun of course) It sucks for a dad when the mother thinks the child is hers to control. But most of all it sucks for the child that its mother is such a bi^&h!!!
What did you do to piss the mother off so bad, and if it's that bad and you truelly want to see this child take her ass to court.
baby daddy

Corbin, KY

#5 Sep 2, 2008
i don know if dis babe be mine but i lov it any howl.da babe moma want lat dna tast be doone.
unknown

Lexington, KY

#6 Sep 2, 2008
if the relationship ended before the birth or it was a one night stand and the woman is not getting any support then it is the woman's right to allow who they want in thier childs life wheather it's the father by blood or someone else.
It is solely the womans choice when an abortion is done, why should raising the baby alone be any different as long as no financial help is recieved.
stumped

Huntsville, TN

#7 Sep 2, 2008
Stepfathers disciplining another man's children...

help me...
hmmm

Hazard, KY

#8 Sep 2, 2008
If you want to know for sure, get test done.

Just don't ever raise a child to believe someone is its father when they aren't. It will cause more damage in the long run.

I have a several friends raised by their stepdads or other father figures that turned out great.

I just hate watching people claim other people's children.
sux

Stanton, KY

#9 Sep 2, 2008
some women would actually like the idea of having a nice guy around to help raise a child, weather your together or not.

Since: Aug 08

Columbus, OH

#10 Sep 2, 2008
my ex husband raised my daughter with me for 7 years because her father didnt want anything to do with her! i never expected him to! he knew when we got together & was more than happy to help me! so there are more situations than what your giving! i told her when she got old enough to comprehend the difference between a father & a daddy!
slim

Brownsville, TN

#11 Sep 2, 2008
when a man raises a child, it is his child. a parent is someone who loves you, is there for you and raises you.. so that would make them your parent and you their child. anyone can have a kid. it takes a real man to raise one.
they think wrong

AOL

#12 Sep 3, 2008
unknown wrote:
if the relationship ended before the birth or it was a one night stand and the woman is not getting any support then it is the woman's right to allow who they want in thier childs life wheather it's the father by blood or someone else.
It is solely the womans choice when an abortion is done, why should raising the baby alone be any different as long as no financial help is recieved.
financial help or not the dad still has a right to see his child and every child deserves to know their father even if raised by another man. i'm not condoning not paying child support by no means however it's often misunderstood they think they have to "pay" to see their child when in fact they are paying to "provide" for their child.
Just Saying

AOL

#13 Sep 3, 2008
Im not saying that this is the same as any situation on thread,this is simply my situation. I never denied my ex any visitations even though he never ever paid any child support, I supported us on my own before I remarried. I would never let anyone bash her father in front of her. When I remarried she was 3, I never told her what to call her step father. But as she grew a little older, she realized herslef which one she wanted to claim as her Dad on her own. Her step father has been a great influence on her life and and the most wonderful Dad I could have ever found to help me in raising her. She learned on her own what her father was and was not. And when she grew up and became engaged, she did invite her father to her wedding but she asked her Dad to walk her down the aisle. Although my ex now regrets some of his actions when she was younger, he understands he can't blame anyone but himself for the way she feels today.
unknown

Lexington, KY

#14 Sep 3, 2008
they think wrong wrote:
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financial help or not the dad still has a right to see his child and every child deserves to know their father even if raised by another man. i'm not condoning not paying child support by no means however it's often misunderstood they think they have to "pay" to see their child when in fact they are paying to "provide" for their child.
Your right your not "paying to see the child" but if your not paying to support the child what right do you have to expect to see the child, you don't, if you loved the child you would provide for it.
what about

Somerset, KY

#15 Sep 3, 2008
I am a divorced dad who has always paid my child support and seen my child at every visitation time. I want to be more involved more then just a weekend dad to my child. However the selfish, insecure, jealous mother will not let me. we do have joint custody but the papers say i get at least one weekday night and every other weekend. How do I make the mom grow up and understand that our child will benifit the most if we work together on the raising. She will not let me have any extra time. Actually the time I get is always such a headache. Such as I have to put up with her B.S to get to see my child.
idea

Big Creek, KY

#16 Sep 3, 2008
This is what i did. I coached my son in soccer, which i knew nothing about, baseball, and basketball, when he got old enough to play, which he was four years old, i had no desire too coach but it was a good way to get more time with my son and it worked, cause no good mother would not let their kids play sports, its alot of extra work but man is it worth it!!!I was determined to spend more time with my son, thats what it takes, i even switched jobs to be able to coach his little league team.
idea

Big Creek, KY

#17 Sep 3, 2008
stumped wrote:
Stepfathers disciplining another man's children...
help me...
I am a stepfather and i would in no way discipline another mans kid, i wouldn't dream of it. Its not our responsibility, if i have a problem i just talk to the mother.
Step daughter

Somerset, KY

#18 Sep 3, 2008
I was raised by my mom and step dad my real dad didnt want me and I am thankful everyday I had my stepdad he raised me from three and up and treated me like his own child my mom also raised his son and my brother did get visitations with his mom when dad passed away a few years ago I really thought my brother woould go back to Indiana where his mom lives and dads family is but he said my mom raised him and is his mom so he stayed here I think a child see's who loves thema nd is in there lifes the most. I am thankful for the man I call dad whether he donated the sperm or not
what about

Somerset, KY

#19 Sep 3, 2008
idea wrote:
This is what i did. I coached my son in soccer, which i knew nothing about, baseball, and basketball, when he got old enough to play, which he was four years old, i had no desire too coach but it was a good way to get more time with my son and it worked, cause no good mother would not let their kids play sports, its alot of extra work but man is it worth it!!!I was determined to spend more time with my son, thats what it takes, i even switched jobs to be able to coach his little league team.
That's a good idea if I can get the mother to agree with it. She is so selfish that she would rather our child sit and be bored and not get to do anything then to spend any extra time with me. She is so afraid that I may do something better then her. She acts like this is a competition. I hate it because our child is suffereing. I know what is going to happen. The child will become a out of control teenager doing anything to get attention and the mom will be saying i just dont know what happen.
Another problem I have is the mom is not even with our child she lets her sister raise her. The aunt lets her do what ever she wants. I just dont know what to do. I dont want to put our child through a custody fight but I cant sit back and watch the mom ruin our childs life because she is so self asorbed!!!!
court

Somerset, KY

#20 Sep 3, 2008
Hey what about take her ass back to court. you can get what is called "right to first refusal" that is where if the mother is going to leave the child for more then 4 hours such as all evening or overnights then she has to ask you to keep the child first before any one else. That way when she leaves your child all the time and wont let you see it then you can find her in contempt. After contempt then you can file to be primary care giver. And she will owe you child support. wonder how she will like those cookies.
Dont worry what goes aroung comes around I just feel sorry for your kid. Wish my ex would want to be involved for our child I would let him see him everyday.

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